I seems like it has gotten even more annoying. I think it used to be just two beeps, and that was it. Now it seems to go on beeping forever. Well at least if you have an iPhone or a BlackBerry you can hit ‘ignore’ and not hear the beeping go off.

Life, though, is a lot like call waiting. There is always an option.

Here you are starting to talk to some woman (or man) in a store or at a bar, and there is one person after another coming in and out of left field interrupting. Those people and their interruptions are what I call “human call waiting.” We’ll shorten that to “HCW” for the rest of the blog.

Those people and their interruption are HCW because the person you’re talking to will always feel the need to talk to the HCW whenever they interrupt. The HCW brings their energy in the middle of a great conversation you were having.

So what do you do when a HCW comes over when you are having a conversation? Well it depends whether you are the person that the HCW is coming over to see.

If you are the person that the HCW is coming to see, then you need to tell the HCW “Listen, I’ll talk to you in a few minutes. I’m just in the middle of this great conversation with Mary right now. I really want to talk to you, but I want to finish my conversation with Mary first and give her my undivided attention.”

You need to ignore when other people come crashing into your conversation. You need to do it the way I’ve described, because that shows respect to the person with whom you were having the original conversation.

Think about it. Here is someone who is enjoying a conversation with you and is interested in you (or becoming interested in you). You don’t want to get distracted by HCW. HCW is a distraction you need to ignore.

It is no different than if you are on the phone having a great conversation with someone. HCW is a distraction you need to ignore. Ignore it and continue to give that person on the phone your undivided attention.

It shows interest. It shows attraction. It also shows manners.

You have manners. It’s really important to always give someone your undivided attention.

Life is full of all kinds of HCW. There is always some kind of HCW out there trying to distract you. If you allow HCW to distract you, you are going to miss a lot of great moments in life.

The taxes that are due. Your father with whom you aren’t getting along. The bad fight you had the night before with your roommate. Your boss being mean to you. All of your personal crap.

We all have personal crap, but you need to leave all of that behind when you are out and about each day. The reason is that although everyone has personal crap going on in their life, you don’t want to be exuding that bad energy when you walk around trying to meet people.

You don’t want to say to someone in response to them asking how you are doing, “Crappy. My boss yelled at me today” or “I’m a doctor and I had the worst patient today in my office. I’m miserable. Do you mind if I vent and tell you all about my personal crap?”

When you go out, picture yourself on a giant stage. On that stage are four people you’ve wanted to meet your entire life, and now is the moment you and they are going to get together.

So you want to leave a positive impression of you. You can do that by being positive when you talk to them, of you can talk about your personal crap until you turn them all off.

As a matter of fact, I’ve had some heavy-duty personal crap I’ve been going through in my own life which I could have been venting about to all of you for weeks now. I could have been telling you how annoyed I am about certain things, and how I have to deal with all of it.

Do you guys really want to hear about that? If all I did in the blog every day was talk about my own personal crap, you would get tired of it pretty fast. You want to hear about the great things.

So does everyone else. So leave you personal crap behind.

You know once someone asks you that question, that they are inevitably going to next ask you what went wrong in those relationships and why you are no longer with those people. When you’re first dating, people love to try and get a bigger picture of you.

They want to form an opinion of you. They like you, but they’re not totally sure about you, so they want to get some more information. They was to get the facts, so they ask you about your past relationships.

One word of advice to everybody who has to answer that question. You can talk about your past relationships all you want, but you had better talk about them in a positive light.

Never say that someone cheated on you. Never play the role of the victim. Always say something like, “I’ve had a few long-term relationships. They’ve all been wonderful. I’ve learned things about myself, and I have to tell you that I really respect the people I’ve dated.”

When you take the high road like that, the detective on the other side of the dinner table isn’t going to pick up anything negative about you. If it looks like you haven’t yet processed your past relationships, they will think you aren’t ready for another relationship.

So the next time someone asks you to tell them about your past relationships, you had better be ready to be 100% positive when you answer the question. If you are, then that person will think that you are someone with whom they could potentially have a relationship. They won’t be worried that if they date you and later breakup, that you will go around trashing them to others.

You think, “Oh my God. What an awful thing!”

Or is it?

How you handle somebody’s past will determine whether or not you will be able to have a relationship with that person.

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How many men and women really hear that? I don’t know who Minka Kelly is, nor do I care. I don’t care if Derek Jeter is screwing her. What she said in that quote, however, really resonates and rings true.

Why do we have such trouble being honest with our lovers, ourselves and people with whom we are in a relationship? If you’re brutally honest with someone, you might actually get what you want.

So many of us use manipulation games. So many of us beat around the bush. So many of us are passive aggressive when it comes down to discussing things with each other.

I’m all about brutal honesty. I want to hear from all of you today and know what you think about this.

The last time you were brutally honest, what happened? Are you 100% brutally honest in all ways in your love life? If you aren’t, why aren’t you?

Do you know what my standard answer is to that? Here is what I say.

“Why don’t we get to know each other a little better before we dive into the past. I’ve learned a lot from my past. I’ve embraced my path and I profit from my past. I have no problem sharing with you everything about my past, but right now. I’m just enjoying the present moment with you, and I really want to get to know you without looking and judging each other on what went right or wrong in past relationships. To be honest with you, this is a brand new relationship between you and I. There will be plenty of times to dive into that. Yes, I’ve had relationships. Yes somebody has cheated on me in the past. I’ll tell you all about it down the road. I lost my virginity at 18, so that was a little late but it’s cool. I’ll tell you about that too, if you want. I’ve learned from my mistakes and I take full responsibility for everything. I’m friends with a few of my ex’s because I think they are great people. Some of them I don’t talk to because we just really didn’t get along at the end, and we never could get that friendship back again. If you want more details down the road, I’ll share it with you. Right now, though, I’m enjoying getting to know you without diving into our dating history.”

Too many people make too much about each other’s dating history, and they neglect to ask themselves the most important question: Do I really like this person right now? Are you enjoying each other? Those are the questions that you should be asking yourself.

The questions you should be asking each other at that point are also ones not related to past relationships. You should ask them about what they want and where they see themselves four or five years down the road. You should be asking them about their passions.

Life is about being in the moment, staying in the present and moving forward. As they say, “Yesterday’s history. Tomorrow’s a mystery. It’s all about what you do in the moment.” So think about that the next time you want to interrogate someone about their past.

Her: “Really? What were you thinking about?”

You: “Last night. The Conversation that we had was really incredible.”

Her: “I was thinking the same thing. What was your favorite part?”

And there you have it. You have started a very intriguing text conversation in the middle of the day.

There is, however, a problem with texting. People misuse it as a substitute for conversation.

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So the guy who fixes the heat came by the other day and finally looked at the thermostat. He said that the problem is that the thermostat is not communicating with the heat, i.e., that there is a communication breakdown between the two.

It’s interesting. If you really look at the way life is, it is a series of communication breakdowns.

Here you are just standing there wanting to approach a woman. Even though you do everything right — you observe, and you walk over and say something great — she may not respond to you the way that you imagine.

She doesn’t respond the way you want her to respond, so there then is a communication breakdown and you don’t know what to do next. Your brain is like a computer, and it starts firing off all sorts of things, but really it’s just a communication breakdown.

Communication breakdowns happen between people and things every single day. It could happen during the first approach, it could happen between two people in a relationship, and it could even happen with the water heater not communicating with the thermostat.

When it comes to communicating with people, though, you need to listen in order to avoid communication breakdowns. You need to listen to everything going on around you.

If it’s your first approach, you need to listen to every verbal clue that’s around you. You need to be observant, open, and talk to her based on something that’s going on around you. Then you need to listen very carefully to what she says so that you can react.

If you are not truly listening, there will be a communication breakdown and you won’t know what to say. It also means that you are approaching that woman just hoping that some words will come out of your mouth to say to her.

When you do this, you are no different than the thermostat that is not communicating with the radiant heat. You’re no different than when you’re on a Mac and that wheel of death spins because the Mac is not communicating with whatever program it’s trying to open.

The key to avoiding communication breakdowns in life is to listen — every time you talk to someone. I don’t care if it’s on your first approach or if you’re in a relationship.

Here’s a great exercise for all you to do. Take a look at somebody with whom you are in conflict. It can be anyone from a relationship partner to a co-worker to a family member.

The next time you speak with that person on the phone, record the conversation and listen to it after the call is finished. Then you need to learn what your part is in the communication breakdown that is taking place between you.

You can also do this with emails between you. Read an email exchange in which there is conflict between you and someone else and find where the communication breakdown occurred.

Who is to blame? It’s always right back at you.

This is going to really help you communicate better all the way from the first approach to long-term relationships. Life is just a series of communications, and without listening you are going to have a constant series of communication breakdowns.

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Understanding how your actions affect others could be life’s biggest challenge. I know I’ve written about this before (and probably a lot) in the blog, but I think this is something we all need to learn.

In a relationship, if someone comes to you about your behavior, you need to look deep into why they came to you in the first place. Relationships are about compromising, really understanding each other and how we make each other feel. There is no perfect relationship out there.

I know the majority of my readers are single. For those of you who are single, if you are searching for a perfect relationship, let me tell you something. You will be searching forever. There is no perfect relationship because we are imperfect people.

If you believe that you are perfect, then you have a lot of growing up to do. If you believe everything you do is okay, then you also have a lot of growing up to do.

Actions that effect people you love and make them feel a certain way are ones at which you need to look. You need to look deep into whether you believe those actions are harmless, and you need to listen to people you respect and love.

Are you like some couples who battle more than others? Why is that?

It could be because certain people bring out the battler in you. The reason why they do is because there is a lesson you need to learn.

So instead of getting angry at the other person and defending yourself, start to look at your piece and part you played in causing the battle.

Once again, dropping your ego is good not only for your personal growth, but because doing that can help love grow even deeper. Being able to drop the ego is a huge challenge.

If you are able to look at how your actions affect others every day, though, you will find that your love for yourself will grow even more. The more you love yourself, the more someone else can love you.

This is a great lesson for all of you who are single. I know a lot of you who are single and reading this are thinking that this blog doesn’t pertain to you. The truth is that it very much pertains to you.

It pertains to you in so many ways, because you still interact with people — friends, business associates and dates — every day. There are things that you do every single day about which you can look deep inside yourself and from which you can grow. Life’s biggest lessons happen when you drop the ego.

This is something we often go through at the Bootcamps. A lot of guys will say to me, “David, how do you remain so razor sharp? How do you focus? I can’t focus when I go and talk to a woman. My mind is all over the place.”

Guys will also say to me, “You always tell us to go out there and talk to people all day long, but I lose focus. I can only do it for ten minutes before I lose focus.” Here are some of my best tips to address these questions.

If you can only do it for ten minutes, then do the best job you possibly can doing it for those ten minutes. Always give people your best when you’re with them.

Let’s say that your goals are to meet women and to become a better communicator. Then what you should do is focus on one thing at a time each day. Get good at one thing at a time.

Let’s say your goal is to work on your social skills, and you wonder how to keep your energy up all day long. Here is another thing I tell guys all the time.

When I am driving in the car, I relax, listen to some music and have a good time. So then when I go to the market or the coffee house or a party, I’m ready. I’m amped up because I realize that life is a gift.

You never have a second chance to make a first impression, so why not get your energy up when you’re in public? When you’re in private, you can relax — take a cat nap or do some deep-breathing exercises. That way, when you are around people you can be razor sharp and your energy will be fantastic.