None of us are perfect, and that is what makes life so interesting. It’s our imperfections — the way we conduct ourselves and who we are — that make life really interesting.

There is no perfect person in life. There is no perfection person for you in dating.

The person you end up with is not going to be perfect. They are going to have flaws. They are going to do things that irritate you. There are going to be things that you battle about together.

The best way to attract a great person, is to work on yourself first. Fall in love with yourself.

Accept who you are. Accept your flaws.

Accentuate the positive things in your life, and believe in abundance. If you truly believe there are a lot of great people to meet out there, then eventually you will meet that perfect person for you — that perfect person who is imperfect in every way.

It’s all about you first though. What have you done to work on yourself today? What have you done to embrace yourself?

Did you wake up this morning and think about negative things first? Life is about attitude and mindset. The more positive your attitude is, the more positive people you’re going to attract.

Being visual does not refer to what men find attractive, but rather how they become attracted to women. It means that you need to use your sexuality and your femininity to attract men.

A man will look at a woman many times — five, six, seven, ten, twelve times — and will not stop looking until a woman acknowledges him. A woman who knows and understands this, can easily get a man to approach by acknowledging him. It’s really very simple.

Say you see a man to whom you are attracted. You need to look directly at him and smile. If he notices you, then go back and smile at him again.

When you do this, the man will become very curious and wonder why you’re smiling at him over and over again. You need to encourage him to come over to you.

Understand that men are basically Scooby Doos on steroids. You’re the Scooby Snack, and you need to lay the crumbs down for men.

The crumbs are your smiles. The crumbs are a casual hello. Once a man spots a woman to whom he is attracted, you are able to go and lead him with your femininity and your smile to come over to you.

In order to really learn and understand this at a deeper level, though, you need to be observant about all your surroundings. You have to be able to look around at all your surroundings and know that men are looking at you all the time.

Most women are not observant. Most women walk into a place with their head in the clouds — on their BlackBerry or thinking about what’s on their “to do” list — and never notice men noticing them.

So one of the best things to do to learn how to be more observant is to go out in the field with a friend for a day. Have your friend be your “wing girl” for the day, with her job all day long being just to observe you and to notice all the men who are checking you out.

By doing that, and by having her point all these men out to you, you will see all the opportunities you are missing to meet men every single day. Most women have opportunities to meet men that present themselves all day long, but unfortunately they are almost never looking!

Women have been taught not to look. Men, on the other hand, are looking at women nonstop.

Men never stop looking for women. Men are always looking for women, talking about women and obsessing about women. That is how men are visual. So in order for you to become better at this, you need to learn to be more aware of your surroundings.

When I talk about using your femininity and your sexuality, I am not talking about being “slutty” or overtly coming on to men all day long. I am talking about sexuality and femininity that exudes from within.

For example, women who have a lot of masculine energy need to dress more sexy. Many women end up having very masculine energy about them due their careers. You need to feel sexy as a woman. You need to put yourself out there more. You need to really explore your feminine side.

Take a look at your body type. Take a look at the type of woman you are. Start looking through magazines that have women with similar body types to you in them. See how those women dress sexy. Go to a store and get a makeover. Find a way to express your sexuality and to feel sexy from within yourself.

Men are attracted to all body types and to all types of women. The key thing here, though, is that men are attracted to sexy women of all body types.

So women really need to explore that side of themselves more. Women need to learn to use their feminine energy and start flirting. The Scooby Doos out there will respond when you do.

The first thing (and one of the most important things) you need to do, is to evaluate your work environment. You need to be in a healthy work environment, one you love and one that has people in it with whom you enjoy spending time.

Of course there are going to be times at work you don’t enjoy. There’s going to be things you have to do that you don’t like. There are going to be people you need to interact with whom you don’t particularly like. In the grand scheme of things, though, you have to decide which compromises you’re willing to make with yourself.

You may be in a job that doesn’t stimulate you like it used to, but it pays you well enough to allow you to maintain the lifestyle you really enjoy. So you make an agreement with yourself that you’re going to stick with this job because it allows you to do the things you like to do outside of work.

If that job is something you just don’t like anymore then you could move to another company, except you’re afraid to move. If you can make a lateral move where you don’t lose money or seniority, then I suggest you spend some time and energy to do that. It will really improve your life overall.

Lifestyle is something a lot of people don’t fully understand. Lifestyle means doing the things that you love. If you do the things you love to do, you will always have something to talk about with people.

If you’re somebody who does not enjoy going to a bar, then you’re really not going to have things to talk about there. You’re just going to be standing there punching the time clock. You’re basically going to be walking in, handing your time card to the bartender to punch, spending a few hours there, paying your bill and then punching out before you leave. Sounds like fun, doesn’t it?

So, do things that you love. If you like exploring new neighborhoods, explore new neighborhoods. It doesn’t matter what it is, it’s only important that the “it” is something you love.

One of the reasons why creating a lifestyle like this is so important, is that creating a lifestyle makes you more open. You want to be open all the time.

Don’t go places and just “show up.” When you go to places, you want to show up and embrace everything.

You need to smile. You need to talk to people. You need to have random conversations with strangers all day long. That way, when you find someone to whom you are attracted you will have an open energy that will attract them (and get them to come over and approach you!).

The reason why a lot of women don’t get approached and a lot of men aren’t approachable, is because they’ve got a look on their face that says ‘don’t talk to me’ to people. People have that look on their face because they’re not really having fun.

They are not enjoying things. Everything you do, you should do with a child-like enthusiasm.

Go to the supermarket and act like you’ve never before been in there. Look through everything, have a good time and ask questions.

Ask questions of other people in the store. If you see someone getting a brand of yogurt you’ve never tried say, “I’m curious. I’ve never had that. Is it good?” Use those kind of approaches to talk to people everywhere.

Let’s say you’re in a brand new coffee shop and it’s your first time there. Don’t just order a cup of coffee. Ask the person standing in line next to you, “What do you recommend?” Even if you’re the only one in line, ask the guy behind the counter, “Hey, What’s good here?”

Get into a conversation, because people notice open energy. People notice people who are having fun. People notice people to whom other people are talking. It’s called attraction.

The law of attraction works. When you walk into a place and you start talking to a bunch of different people, other people will line up and want to talk to you.

I teach this at my Bootcamps all the time, and the guys see firsthand that it works every time. I remember one time at a Bootcamp we went into Neiman Marcus and started to talk to a woman.

All of a sudden, everyone was watching us and watching this interaction. Everyone was watching her smile. Everyone was watching us smile. When we went into another department, I had the guys do the exact same thing.

So when we came back through again for the second time, people literally started walking up to us and started conversations with us. One woman said, “Wow, you guys are so much fun!”

That is the kind of energy to which people are attracted. People are attracted to people having a good time. No one wants to hang out with a person who’s pouting, folding their arms and looking miserable.

So it’s about creating a lifestyle and being open. Do things that you love, and enjoy and embrace every moment.

By doing that, you will naturally start attracting people. You’ll be more open, so people will start talking to you. Being open will also get you to start talking to more people.

The key here is that when you are more open, people will notice you and will want to be around you. If they want to be around you, they’ll start talking to you.

So, why chase when you can attract?

The minute Sunday afternoon rolls around, they start thinking about work. They start worrying about the upcoming week. My Mom even used to lay out the clothes she was going to wear on Monday. People do all this, and in essence kill the rest of their Sunday.

What is really sad about this, is that people who have “Monday anxiety” are people who really only have a one day weekend. As far as I’m concerned, I couldn’t care less about Monday until it is Monday.

So today for those of you who suffer from “Monday anxiety,” just relax and enjoy your Sunday! I purposely posted this blog late today, because I know you “Monday anxiety” sufferers are already deep into your suffering and I was hoping that just maybe this might be your connection back to Sunday.

Today’s blog is directed to the women out there, but I know all you guys can relate to this situation as well.

You know, it is difficult for most guys to approach a group of women. Women are just brutal about going out in packs of three or four, and then just huddling together. It’s really intimidating for a lot of guys to approach the group to meet one of the women in the group in whom he’s interested.

There is something I see going on time and time again in these “packs” of women that I really wanted to address. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone out and seen a man approach one of these packs of women, and there will be one woman who sits there texting someone who is not even there but giving the absent party the blow by blow of what’s going on around her.

You can imagine the texts now. “Oh Mary, you should really come here. There are so many cute guys here.” I would want to ask our texter this: How would YOU know? You’re not even present!

When you’re out and with a group of people, don’t text another person who is not there. It’s hard enough for guys to approach you in the first place.

You don’t want to be that woman who is just texting away nonstop, because it means that you are not present in the moment. If you’re not present in the moment then you’re going to miss tons of opportunities to meet someone.

So from now on if you’re out with a group and feel compelled to have a text talk, then take yourself to the bathroom and do it when you’re alone. Don’t text people when you’re in a restaurant or bar when you’re out to meet people.

Don’t text people who aren’t there, because as you’re giving attention to someone who isn’t there you are also ignoring people who are there. In particular, you are ignoring any men with whom you could possibly be connecting at that moment.

So start opening up your energy. The truth is that if you are out in one of these “women packs,” you are going to have to if you want men to approach. Four women will be out together in a football-like huddle, and they will wonder why guys aren’t approaching them.

If you want men to approach you in this situation, your energy has to change. You have to smile.  You’ve got to face the room, and not have your back turned to the crowd of people around you. When you do that, you make it virtually impossible to approach you.

When you open your energy, face the crowd and smile, you make it possible for men to break into your pack. So the next time you’re out and one of your friends is texting, grab her phone and tell her to remain open and present. You will all have a much more enjoyable night!

This woman’s question was this: “David, How do I get a man to look? How can I get a man’s attention?”

In my Art of Attracting Men program, I go into great depth about men’s mindset, how they are wired and how they think. What I want to do in this blog, though, is give women some things they can do in almost any place they go to get a man to look.

Let’s start off with a place I know each and every one of you go at some time or other: the supermarket. A guy could be standing at the counter ordering a meatloaf sandwich. You can walk up to that guy and say “Hey, I was wondering. Are the sandwiches good here?”

Men are all about giving their opinion. They want to show off and be the expert. The way that men show off is by sharing their knowledge. Telling you all the facts and all about everything is what men love to do.

Even if a woman goes to a coffee shop where she’s ordered the same coffee drink a hundred times, she should still say to a guy there she wants to meet “Hey, I’m curious. Is the coffee good here?” Let the guy ramble and talk. Be interested. Smile.  Laugh at what he says.  Be open to everything that he’s saying.  

You help the man validate himself through this process, because you cared about his opinion. That is what gets a man’s attention. That’s what turns on a man. That’s what gets a man interested in a woman.  

If a woman is standing in a hotel lobby, she can say to a man “I’m curious, do you know which is the best restaurant in this hotel?” Once again, it’s getting a man’s opinion.

If a woman is standing by the subway tracks waiting for the train, she could say to a man “I was wondering. How long you have been waiting?”

In a automotive garage or auto store a woman can say to a man “I don’t know what kind of tires I need. Can you help me?”

When a woman is at a gas station, there are a couple of different things she can say. She can ask a man at the pump next to her “I’m curious. What octane gas should I get?” Or she can say something like “I’m curious. I’ve always wanted an Audi. Do you like yours?”

At the guy, a great way to talk to a man there is to ask him this: “I was wondering, can you help me with this machine? I’ve never used it before.”

As a woman, you’re actually being very helpful to men when you ask for their help because men always want to help. Woman who have more masculine energy always forget that men want to help women.  They’re automatic impulse is to say “I don’t need help. I can do everything myself.” You can, but it’s okay to let guys help you out too.

It gives them a purpose. By letting them have that, it helps them feel more masculine. When men feel more masculine, it encourages them to take the lead because you’ve tapped into their biological desire to provide. So don’t hesitate not only to ask for a man’s opinion, but also for his help.

The first choice was an island in the middle of the ocean so absolutely beautiful, enchanting, amazing and mysterious that everyone wants to come to it. The second choice was to be on a boat chasing the waves all day long, looking for the next wave and looking for the next big adventure that’s going to make you feel good. 

Let me tell you something.  Men who answered the second choice and saying they’d rather be on the boat, are men who are constantly chasing.  They’re always looking for something that doesn’t exist.  They tend to be looking for a fantasy.  The same is true for women.

If you’re always chasing the next best thing it means that you’re not present with what’s happening in the moment.  You’re not aware of what’s happening in the moment. 

You always think there’s going to be a bigger wave, a better wave, a more clear ocean, and a deeper ocean.  What happens is that instead of attracting people, you’re chasing them.  You’re one of those people who go around chasing people all day long.  You haven’t learned the art of attraction. 

You haven’t learned what attraction is really all about, so what you do is chase. You see somebody, you chase them, but then you don’t relate to them because you’re looking for the next “better” thing. 

When you’re an island, i.e., you’re secure, you’re sensual, you’re erotic in your passion and you’re mysterious, people are attracted to you.  When you walk around as an island that’s full of confidence and radiates great energy, then everybody wants to come and touch you. 

Everybody wants to sit under your tree.  Everybody wants to go hang out on your beach.  People want to party in your bars.  People want to hang out with you in every which way. 

The reason for this is that islands are more interesting and have different depths to them.  There’s the dry side of the island.  There’s the wet side of the island.  There’s a sunny side of the island.  There’s a cloudy side of the island.  An island has emotional depth.

On the other hand, all a boat knows how to do is to go fast or slow . . . and nothing in between. When a boat is just cruising, most people get bored and they want to go fast again.  Conversely, an island has so many different places to go and so many different things to see.

So you want to be a diverse island.  You want to learn how to attract.  Most of you don’t know how to attract.  Most people chase.

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Smiling is critical to being successful at meeting men, but the question is: When you are smiling, what does your body language say about you?

Are you smiling and running? (Are you doing the old “smile and run?”) Are you quickly smiling so that when men see you do it they are not quite sure if it’s a smile or not?  

Conversly, are you a woman who blows men away when she smiles because when you smile at a man you smile fully and look directly in his eyes?

I know when a woman stares right in my eyes and gives me a great smile – whether I’m attracted to her or not – that I ALWAYS give her a great smile back. I can’t help it. I’ll think “Wow, did you see that smile? There’s something amazing about it.”

There really is something amazing about a smile like that. It’s about an energy.  

So my question to all of you women who are telling me that you are out there smiling and saying hello to men without success is this: How are you actually doing it? Are you saying hello like you really care, or are you saying hello and running? Are you really smiling at somebody from your heart and not just out of fear?

What does your body language say about you? Are you open when you smile, or are your arms folded and you are mainly looking down at the ground?  It takes a lot more than to “just smile.” It takes actually being able to give that smile the right way.

I tell women to smile doing the exact same things I do when I smile. When I smile at someone, I look directly in their eyes and smile directly at them. My body language is not closed – my hands aren’t in my pockets and my arms are not folded.

When I say “Hello, how are you today?” I always sound like I’m talking to an old friend. It’s all about your voice tone. It’s all about the way you smile.  

If you nervously run up to a guy and say “Hello, how are you?” then he is going to wonder what’s wrong with you and why you are so nervous. If, however, you do it like you’re talking to an old friend then he’s going to respond much more positively to you.

So the next time you smile and say hello to a guy, do it like you’ve known him forever. Pretend that you’re actually going over to say hello to an old friend when you do it. The next time you smile at a guy, pretend like you are smiling at an old friend.

Here is a great exercise I tell many of my female clients to do to help with this. I tell them to put a picture of someone you love as the home screen on your phone. It could be a picture of your dog or your niece at her birthday party. Choose whatever makes you smile when you look at it.

Then the next time you feel intimidated when you see a man to whom you are attracted, all you have to do is look at the home screen on your phone and keep that smile you make looking at the picture when you smile at that guy. This is easy and won’t appear strange to the guy. It is so common for people to be constantly staring at their phones, that the guy will think you were looking at your phone because you just got an email or text message.

What you will really be doing is building up your smile confidence, so you are able to deliver that incredible, killer smile.  That kind of smile is believable and will make a guy want very badly to talk to you.

Trust me on this. When a woman comes over and smiles at me and she gives me that smile, all I can ever think about is that intoxicating smile and how badly I want to talk to her.

Today’s video will show you exactly how important body language is in being attractive:

What happens most of the time when women do this, however, is that men will stop chasing. The guys who don’t stop chasing are generally the guys who just want to sleep with these women so they can be the guy who wins the chase.

One of the biggest misconceptions women have about men, is that men like the chase and like women who play hard to get. The truth is, though, that the only guys who enjoy women who play hard to get are the guys who just want to “get” them so they can sleep with them.

Now when I talk about women playing at being emotionally unavailable, I am not suggesting that women ought to dump all their feelings on guys the second they meet (because this WILL cause men to run for the hills). So it’s actually true that men DO like the chase . . . but not in a way that women may understand.

The kind of chase we like is what I call “encouragement chase.” Let me give you an example of this when I go and meet a woman. Let’s say I’m dating a woman and I text her. When I do that, I want a text back from her within an hour or two, not two days later.

Two days later to me shows that she is playing games, and I am going to lose interest. It also shows that she is not worthy of me paying attention to her. That’s exactly what I’m thinking in that situation.  

For another example, let’s say I call a woman on the phone on Monday and leave her a message telling her I’ve got a great idea for something for us to do that weekend that I want to run by her, and she doesn’t return my call until Thursday. She’s basically telling me she’s not very interested.  Not only that, if when she calls back on Thursday she asks me what my weekend idea is, then it means that she is playing games. It also means that she is going to lose me.

If I’m going to go and invest my interest in a woman, I want her to reciprocate an equal interest in me. So taking my ‘great idea for the weekend’ phone call as an example, I want a woman who will call me back that night and say “Really? What is it?” Then I’m going to want to keep things moving along with her, because what I’m doing is laying out a game of cat and mouse — I want to see whether or not you’re going to take the bait, and whether you’re going to to run with it.

If you’re available to me when I ask you out, that’s wonderful.  Granted, if in the beginning you’re available to me 24/7 then I’m not going to be interested.

The encouragement chase I want is you being interested in what I’m presenting to you. If you are not expressing interest in what I’m presenting to you in an effort to make me chase you, I’m going to go and find somebody else every time.

So this whole concept of how guys feel about “the chase” is something that most women don’t understand. What you need to remember is very simple.

If a guy calls you, call him back. If a guy texts you, text him back. If a guy comes up with something interesting he wants to do with you, be excited about that.

With all of these, just think about the way that you feel when men do certain things. If a man makes you wait four days after a date to hear from him, you know he’s not interested in you (and that you are no longer interested in him).

Be a little more open to things and learn this little secret.  Remember, guys are just gigantic Scooby Doos (which I explain in complete detail in my programs). Give us the ball, we’ll chase after it.  Throw too far, we may not chase after it anymore.

To master the art of conversation, and particularly conversation with members of the opposite sex, there are a couple things you need to learn. I’ve talked a little about this in past blogs.

Women are really good storytellers. When they tell a story, they put tons of life into the story and are full of passion in how they deliver the story. When men tell stories, they just give the facts.

No matter how you tell a story, though, the real question is how to get the other person to open up to you on a deeper level. How do you encourage someone to feel safe opening up to you and to share their stories and their passions with you?

The topic of the story you tell doesn’t matter. It could be about the phenomenal time you had on your trip to Italy, or about your love of cars, or your love of flowers.

What you talk about in a story is not the important factor in whether you can get the person to whom you’re telling that story to open up to you. What is important is that when you are diving deep into the story you are telling someone, that you engage that person so that they want to really dive deep into a story of their own.

So after you tell someone something so passion-filled, you need to then look that person right in the eyes and invite them to reciprocate and share something equally passionate with you. So if you tell someone about your phenomenal trip to Italy, for example, what you would do when you’re finished is to look the person directly in the eyes and say “Tell me about your favorite place to go.”

Be sure to say whatever it is with enthusiasm, energy and confidence . . . but also say it with a child-like curiosity. It is that curiosity that will really intrigue the other person.

The reason that so many dates fail is because men and women sit there telling each other stories, but they don’t ever go deeper. So what happens is one person will tell a story, and then neither asks the other what they think or how they feel about the situation or topic of the story.

Knowing how to go deeper in your conversations with the opposite sex is the only way to move a relationship forward and take it to the next level. So next time you’re having a conversation with someone you interested in, engage them to see if this is a person with whom you really want to get deep.

Perhaps you two went out and you (or he) over-thought things after the date.

Perhaps the two of you never called each other thinking the other would make that first phone call.

Perhaps he called you, but due to an unbelievably hectic work week you don’t return his call and leave him a message until five days later. Then he didn’t call you back because he thought you weren’t interested.

Is there any guy whom you met in the last six months about whom you always think “I wish I could go out with this guy one more time?” What is stopping you from contacting this guy? Why aren’t you contacting him?

I think the fact that you are not contacting this guy is the biggest mistake. I also know why you aren’t doing it. You aren’t contacting this guy because your ego is getting in the way. You are thinking “Well I don’t really want to contact him, because if he was interested in me he would call me.”

Is that true? Maybe. Maybe not. I’m not a mindreader, and neither are you. Maybe he was interested in you. Maybe HIS ego isn’t letting him show you his interest. There is only one way to know the answer to that question.

The reason I am writing this blog right now is because a few months ago a woman contacted me after we had not seen each other or spoken for about six months. She texted me and said “Hey you. Am I still in your phone?” I answered “Absolutely!”

It turns out that when we were together before she had some things she needed to work on, which she told me about in an email. She and I got together a couple of months later, and we have been hanging out together non-stop ever since.

Sometimes in life we need to take inventory of where we’ve been in order to move forward. Keeping that in mind, think about how many men you’ve been interested in but have not pursued. Think too about men you’ve dated previously about whom you always wonder what would happen if you could get together with them one more time.

Once you identify these men, go ahead and lob in that email, lob in that text or lob in that phone call to them. You never know. He might have been thinking and wondering about you in the same way.

In life, somebody has to make the first move … and whoever makes the first move is the one who has complete control of her life. Do you want to keep waiting and wondering, or do you want to go and unlock the mystery which could lead you to a great romance and a great connection.

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Todays video is for all the women who want to learn about mens body language and what it means.