Halloween is the night that singles go out to talk to and meet characters who are like people they really want to meet. It’s also the night they go out as the character they’ve always wanted to become.

It’s really funny about Halloween. People get dressed up as what I like to call their “alter ego.”

Women will dress up in lingerie because they want to go out and have sex that night. Men will dress up as a super hero because they want to be a stud around women.

What’s up with the men who dress up as women? Does that mean they need to be women? Who knows.

Halloween is all about having a good time. Most of you, however, are guilty of one thing on Halloween night. You are guilty of chasing the night.

Chasing the night is looking for that one perfect party, and trying in that one night to make up for all those other nights that didn’t work out so well. It’s looking for that Halloween party that is going to deliver the most amazing people, so you can meet the most amazing person of the opposite sex.

In reality, though, Halloween is just one night. That’s it.

Today’s podcast is going to explore how to make the most of Halloween. I’m also going to share some costume ideas with you that will absolutely blow you away. These costumes are going to enable you not only to meet people, but will do something else that is amazing as well. You’ll have to listen to the podcast to find out the whole story.

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Also, if you want to learn how to stop chasing the night, and how to make wherever you are the place everyone wants to be and you the person everyone wants to meet, then be sure to check out my Men’s Mastery Series and my Women’s Mastery Series programs.

So because our flight time was getting close, we of course had to be pulled from the line to go through security (along with some others whose flights were also coming up soon). We were on the 11:45 flight.

Of course one woman whose flight was at 11:34, barreled past me breaking Sonja and I up. This other woman says, “Wait! I’m on the 11:24 flight!” and wanted to go ahead of the 11:34 woman, but the 11:34 woman wouldn’t let her go ahead even though the other woman’s flight was before hers.

Did you ever meet someone you just want to kick and shake? That woman was radiating negative energy. I’m sure her purse was filled with Tums, Mylanta, pain medication . . . and maybe some Xanax. She might have even been an emergency Valium woman like my mother.

So I made the flight here to New Orleans, and now I have a job for all of you this weekend. You’re probably thinking, “Wait, I read yesterday’s blog about the job you gave us to reconnect with old friends. You have TWO jobs for us this weekend?” For any of you who need a refresher on yesterday’s blog, CLICK HERE.

For those of you who are regular readers, you know I have limited experience with children. I’ve even called them “little aliens” from time to time, even though they’re really just little people.

I learned some things watching little Ashlyn here. It’s amazing how uninhibited a 2½ year old’s body language and emotions are. You know exactly when a kid wants to talk to you, play with you, communicate something to you . . . and you know when they think you’re a creep.

They are either naturally approachable or naturally unapproachable — like pitbulls. They are based on natural body language intuition, and are without fears and doubts.

So your job, Ethan Hunt . . . oh, wait this isn’t Mission: Impossible . . . is to go find some little kids this weekend and watch them. Go to a Chuck E. Cheese or a park and just enjoy yourself. Don’t go dressed in trenchcoat looking like a creep, and just enjoy the day.

I want you to go back to your more innocent days when you were more open about meeting people. The way to do that is to be open about body language, dynamics and from where the smile comes.

For those of you who think you’re above this, you don’t get the point of this. For those of you who think this is silly, you can be like Kristen’s cats and just hide in your room. People can be so much like cats — you take a cat out of it’s environment to a new place, and it freaks out for weeks and hides in corners in a room.

What would you rather be like? Think about it. Would you rather look at the world and the beauty that it is? Or, would you rather be like Kristen’s cats, Captain Jack and Hercules, scared of the living room? Would you rather be screaming with enjoyment, or screaming with fear?

Here’s a quote I just heard that fits perfectly into today’s blog and is a good ending to it: “You know if you hide from your fears, they don’t go away.  They get bigger and they get worse.  The only way to get rid of them is to face them.” 

Have an amazing Saturday!

Smiling is critical to being successful at meeting men, but the question is: When you are smiling, what does your body language say about you?

Are you smiling and running? (Are you doing the old “smile and run?”) Are you quickly smiling so that when men see you do it they are not quite sure if it’s a smile or not?  

Conversly, are you a woman who blows men away when she smiles because when you smile at a man you smile fully and look directly in his eyes?

I know when a woman stares right in my eyes and gives me a great smile – whether I’m attracted to her or not – that I ALWAYS give her a great smile back. I can’t help it. I’ll think “Wow, did you see that smile? There’s something amazing about it.”

There really is something amazing about a smile like that. It’s about an energy.  

So my question to all of you women who are telling me that you are out there smiling and saying hello to men without success is this: How are you actually doing it? Are you saying hello like you really care, or are you saying hello and running? Are you really smiling at somebody from your heart and not just out of fear?

What does your body language say about you? Are you open when you smile, or are your arms folded and you are mainly looking down at the ground?  It takes a lot more than to “just smile.” It takes actually being able to give that smile the right way.

I tell women to smile doing the exact same things I do when I smile. When I smile at someone, I look directly in their eyes and smile directly at them. My body language is not closed – my hands aren’t in my pockets and my arms are not folded.

When I say “Hello, how are you today?” I always sound like I’m talking to an old friend. It’s all about your voice tone. It’s all about the way you smile.  

If you nervously run up to a guy and say “Hello, how are you?” then he is going to wonder what’s wrong with you and why you are so nervous. If, however, you do it like you’re talking to an old friend then he’s going to respond much more positively to you.

So the next time you smile and say hello to a guy, do it like you’ve known him forever. Pretend that you’re actually going over to say hello to an old friend when you do it. The next time you smile at a guy, pretend like you are smiling at an old friend.

Here is a great exercise I tell many of my female clients to do to help with this. I tell them to put a picture of someone you love as the home screen on your phone. It could be a picture of your dog or your niece at her birthday party. Choose whatever makes you smile when you look at it.

Then the next time you feel intimidated when you see a man to whom you are attracted, all you have to do is look at the home screen on your phone and keep that smile you make looking at the picture when you smile at that guy. This is easy and won’t appear strange to the guy. It is so common for people to be constantly staring at their phones, that the guy will think you were looking at your phone because you just got an email or text message.

What you will really be doing is building up your smile confidence, so you are able to deliver that incredible, killer smile.  That kind of smile is believable and will make a guy want very badly to talk to you.

Trust me on this. When a woman comes over and smiles at me and she gives me that smile, all I can ever think about is that intoxicating smile and how badly I want to talk to her.

Today’s video will show you exactly how important body language is in being attractive:

You know what my answer was to this? So what!! Men are not wired like women. We don’t think about every little, tiny thing.

If our ass itches, we itch it. If you we have to blow our nose, we blow it.

We don’t wonder why our ass itches. If a woman’s ass itches, she wonders “Why does my ass itch? Did I do something to make my ass itch? Did I eat something that made my ass itch?”

Women have to find out why for everything they do. “Why does this guy like me? What does this mean?” It doesn’t mean anything!!

You have to think like a man! If you like a man, stare at him. Speak man! Be obvious.

We need you to be obvious. If you’re obvious, we’ll walk over like a puppy dog.

We don’t want to sit there and think all night long and wonder what you’re casual glance means. We want you to smile at us, talk to us.

We’re not thinking if you look at us that you’re easy. All we’re thinking is that you’re looking at us. We almost want to high-five you!

So women – if you want to meet men, get your head out of your ass! Start staring and be obvious!! You’ll have more men coming over than you’ll ever want to date.

If you want to be coy, you won’t get the boy. If you’re tired of going home alone every night, nothing is going to change until you change your energy.

If you want to meet men, what I suggest is start thinking like a man! Start listening to the advice that I give to men. Start listening to some of my podcasts. Listen to how I teach men to overcome their fears, and you’ll learn so much about overcoming your fears.

Last question: When’s the last time you saw a man you’re attracted to, you took a risk, smiled at him, and made him come over with the powers of your sexuality? If it’s been longer than a week, then you’re not doing it right.

It’s time to stop listening to your mother’s crappy advice, and the even crappier advice of some of those horrific books. If a man doesn’t come over and talk to you, it’s because you did not know how to bring the man over. Start taking responsibility for your own dating life, and you’ll start improving it immediately.

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