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Saturday, September 12th, 2009
I used to be you. I used to be “that guy.”
I used to be the guy who would go out and get validated by sleeping with women. I used to be the guy who would go out with a bunch of guys every Friday night to cruise bars, try to meet hot women, and try to get as many women’s phone numbers as possible.
I used to be that guy trying to do all that stuff — going from bar to bar and place to place — looking for the best night I could possibly have. I used to be that guy who would actually go home with girls to whom I wasn’t even all that attracted. I mean, they might be okay or kind of a cool girl . . . but they weren’t who I wanted.
The women I really wanted always had left the bar two hours before, but my ego needed validation so I’d be with women I didn’t really want just to be “that guy” who could get women to all my friends. I had to prove to them that I was the guy who could pick up women.
My ego needed that validation. I used to be that guy. I remember being that guy in my 20s.
I recently had a great coaching session with a guy in his 20s, and we were talking about this very subject. As we were talking and reminiscing, I found myself being amazed thinking about how many women I would have actually connected with if I knew then what I know now.
I would have connected with women on much deeper levels and would have had much better connections with them. I would have met women I wanted to meet, instead of allowing my ego to dictate with which women I’d have sex or ask out on a date.
Back then it didn’t matter to me about the kind of connections I was having as long as my ego was getting validated. As long as I got validated by women, I was able to connect and hook up with women.
A lot of guys are like that. I used to be like that. I used to be that guy. That’s why I totally understand what all you guys are going through and what you really want.
You don’t need to have constant validation, because truly connecting with women is one of the most unbelievable and amazing things you can do. A lot of guys don’t understand that until they get older.
What is so great about coaching you guys and really getting inside your mindset is that I understand where you want to be. I’m so jealous and wish I could be in this mindset I’m teaching you when I was younger, although it’s so great to be able to help you and see all of you get there now.
I used to be you. Now I can help you become the most powerful version of you.
Tags: attract hot women, attract women, better sex, Dating Advice, dating advice for men, dating tips, dating tips for men, david wygant, ego, hot women, how to meet women, meeting women in bars, one night stand, PickUp, pua, Sex, validation
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Mindset, Night Game, Understanding Male Psychology & Mindset | 12 Comments »
Tuesday, August 11th, 2009
Today is going to be a blog about the male “commodities brokers” in the dating world.
What’s up with all these men who keep getting busted because they can’t keep their dick away from the yum-yum? It’s amazing.
Look at all the high-powered men from Eliot Spitzer to Bill Clinton, and even back as far as Ted Kennedy and Chappaquiddick. Really, what’s up with men and their endless pursuit of the blow job or the new indecent woman?
The downfall of a man is always when their hand gets caught in the yum-yum cookie jar. Just look at Eliot Spitzer. He went from being New York’s Governor to being a scumbag who will always be remembered as the guy who was a customer in a busted prostitution ring.
I mean, men need to understand something: You are special and there are PLENTY of women to meet. With the right amount of confidence, you can go out and get any woman you want . . . and you can find some really cool ones too.
The problem with a lot of these high-powered men is that they’re addicted to the rush. They’re addicted to business. They’re addicted to lifestyle. They’re addicted to money. Women are just another commodity to them, so they use women and don’t respect women.
So a lot of these guys have a lover whom they use. It’s no different from anyone else on their payroll. What these men do is use women for their own sexual favors.
The problem in this scenario is often times the women are using them too. This is where it starts to get ugly, because there’s nothing worse than having a worthless whore. So all these men who go out there in the pursuit of having their dick sucked basically have their careers thrown away as well.
Throughout history, the downfall of some very powerful men has been their choice in women. They had a wife and kids, got bored, sought a lover . . . and found someone who actually could play the “commodities” game smarter than they could.
Living in Los Angeles has allowed me to see all sorts of women. Look at the recent TV shows, “The Millionaire Matchmaker.” Good show . . . and a lot of fun to watch.
If you saw and remember the last episode, the guys were feasting over the women who were just hot instead of picking the really amazing women. Look at the women these guys chose. One of them was, according to tmz.com, an ex nude model, and the other one was actually an escort that you can get for $300 an hour. The rest of the women in the room were intelligent and interesting, but maybe not as hot as these other two.
No matter what, men will always go for eye candy. Similarly, these powerful men (male “commodities brokers”) think that because they’ve made money, that they have a right to and deserve the hottest piece of ass . . . exactly like they think they have a right to and deserve the hottest car, best plasma TV and the coolest phone. It’s no different to them.
Tags: bill clinton, broker, commodities, dick, dominance, dominant, high power, high value, hot women, presence, real estate, Women
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 5 Comments »
Sunday, July 26th, 2009
Recently on my blog, a reader posted a comment about one of my articles in which he questioned that I or anyone else could help him to be able to meet someone. He said he has tried “everything” to meet someone. He’s tried pick-up lines and routines. He’s tried what some term “natural game.” He said nothing he’s tried has worked.
Then he started listing some of the reasons why things aren’t working for him in his dating life. What every one of his “reasons” had in common, were that they were all excuses.
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Tags: Divorce, excuses, hot women, overcome fear, perfect match, perfect mate
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 16 Comments »
Monday, February 16th, 2009
I just got off the phone with a client and I wanted to share the conversation we had with all of you.
David: So what you’re worried about is not the opener, right? You’ve opened a woman up, but you’re worried about creating that attraction throughout the conversation, right?
Client: Yeah, that, and having something to say immediately after opening her, especially if she’s not giving me a lot to go off of.
David: Okay. So she’s not giving you a lot to go off of. A lot of women do this. But if you’ve opened her in the right way – based on an observation, based on what she was already thinking – you’re getting some type of answer back from her.
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Tags: Conversation, create attraction, hot women, love advice, opener
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 42 Comments »
Friday, February 6th, 2009
So you’re in a conversation with some people, and the conversation is not going in your direction. Perhaps it’s about something that you don’t know much about, or something that you don’t understand – or it’s just about something that you’re not passionate about.
When you’re in this situation, you get frustrated. As the conversation progresses and gets more and more heated, you start to panic. You feel the need to somehow swing the conversation in your direction.
So you either change the topic – which is a mistake, because you just needlessly killed a great conversation – or you feel driven to say something totally stupid.
Here’s what I tell guys who find themselves in that situation: it’s a great time to shut up and learn.
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Tags: confidence, Dating Advice, Divorce, eckhart tolle, flirt, hot women, How To Be A Better Communicator, self help, the power of now
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 29 Comments »
Wednesday, January 28th, 2009
Just a quick blog today. Some thing that all of you should be doing everyday….wait it is something you all day everyday!!
What is something that we are doing all of the time in life? We’re running errands.
We’re always running errands. We’re getting our car washed, we’re getting gas, we’re going to the supermarket to buy groceries, we’re going to the art store to have a picture framed, we’re on our way to the dry cleaners. Whatever it is…we are always running errands.
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Tags: Add new tag, Dating Advice, flirt with women, hot women, Mystery Method, paris hilton, routine
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 18 Comments »
Monday, January 26th, 2009
So you’re at a party and you lock into “the woman.” You’ve figured out which woman is the one that you really want to get to know.
You guys converse for a few minutes, and then she walks away. And after this, you stop enjoying yourself because all you’re thinking about is “Where is she right now? Is she coming back?”
With all of these thoughts running through your head, you can’t really concentrate on the conversations you’re having with other people. This is where you make the biggest mistake.
You have to understand that the dynamic presence – the power of who you are as a person – will intrigue her. Did you intrigue her enough? If you intrigued her enough, you can just walk away.
A confident man will walk away knowing that the woman will come back. An unconfident man will follow her around and turn her off. The more you follow her around, the more she’ll start to think, “Why is this guy being so needy and following me around?”
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Tags: Add new tag, approach, approach anxiety, dating advice for men, dynamic, flirt with women, hot women, How To Be A Better Communicator, intrigue, love, maxim, pua
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Divorce | 67 Comments »
Thursday, January 15th, 2009
So there you are at the deli counter getting a ham sandwich, when that person you’re attracted to comes and stands next to you at the counter to order a turkey sandwich. You’ve seen them over and over again at the store, and you finally have the guts to turn and smile at them . . . and they do NOTHING in return. They just look at you almost like you’re not even there. They almost look right through you like you don’t exist.
So you grab your ham sandwich and run out of there as quickly as you possibly can, saying to yourself “I will NEVER do that again. This doesn’t work. The next time I go back there I am just not going to smile anymore.” Is this the best way to deal with rejection? How do you personally deal with rejection? More importantly, are you someone who believes that if you become “good” at dating that you will no longer get rejected?
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Tags: Divorce, expectations, hot women, life, Rejection, sales
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 30 Comments »
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