Years ago, I was vacationing in Boulder, Colorado. One day, after a two-hour massage, I went to Whole Foods for some dinner. As I was walking out, I passed by a gorgeous woman and we had one of those moments. (You know those moments that happen when a woman stares at you and you stare at her at the same time and an extreme sexual chemistry builds up that you can feel? It was one of those…)

Here’s the situation, and this applies equally to men and women today:
You’ve met somebody you’re really jazzed about. You’ve exchanged phone numbers. You notice the area code is different than yours, so you ask them with some hesitation, “Where do you live?” They immediately tell you, “Oh, I’m just in town for the weekend.” BUT–they visit often, and still they’d still like to get together the next time they’re in town.

There is a word of which a lot of people are afraid: Honesty. Being honest, to me, is one of the greatest feelings in the entire world. I always tell people that whenever you lie, you have to remember that lie. A lie has so many levels to it, and you have to remember them all when you say a lie — where you were, to whom you said that lie, the name of the person you were supposedly with or to whom you were talking.

I was reading Men’s Health Magazine, and was a woman named Minka Kelly (Derek Jeter’s girlfriend) who was quoted as saying, “I think brutal honesty is extremely important. I wold rather be an honest friend than a phony lover.” How many men and women really hear that? I don’t know who Minka Kelly is, nor do I care. I don’t care if Derek Jeter is screwing her. What she said in that quote, however, really resonates and rings true.

There is something I want to share with all of you today that’s really important. It’s called the truth. I don’t think I ever really covered this before in a blog, however, it is something I think we all need to realize. Have you ever been in a relationship, and you just knew something you were doing – whether on a conscious or subconscious level – was not the right thing but you did it anyway? I am not talking about…

I was thinking about something today which prompted me to write this blog. Let me ask you a question: How important in your life is being 100% honest? Now take this one step deeper and ask yourself this question: How honest are you with yourself?

Are you a back talker?

That is, are you somebody who won’t talk to people to their face – so you talk shit about them behind their back?

You guys are going to start seeing some things change around here on the site. First of all, we’ll have a new website soon, which will be really cool, and secondly, we’re going to have some new products.

Besides how to meet the girl or the guy, we’re going to add some great products about how to have a great relationship.

It happened. You have found that relationship you always hoped you would find. You have found a person with whom you share not only an intense chemistry, but also a truly deep heart and soul connection. You have created an amazing relationship place with this person. You are genuinely and totally happy.

Just when you think nothing can disrupt that amazing relationship place, it happens. Your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend (we’ll just collectively refer to them as the “ex”) starts contacting you. They start calling you, sending you text messages and leaving you voicemail messages. They want you to give your relationship with them another try.