I mean, we dress up for Halloween. So why not dress up for Christmas? People will walk around wearing mistletoe on their head, but it dries up and will get pretty gross. I think we can come up with some better options for Christmas dress up choices this year.

How about dressing up as Frosty The Snowman with a carrot dick? Or how about Frosty The Snowwoman? Nothing would be sexier than touching those icy snow boobs or cuddling up with a slushy thing in your bed. Can you imagine going on a date with Frosty to a coffeehouse? Well at least with the constant melting, you know you would always have something to drink.

How about being Rudolph with his red nose? Hey Rudolph, won’t you drive MY sleigh tonight? I think if you would choose to be Rudolph, then you are a very passive person because he got yelled at by almost everyone. Can you imagine that red nose glowing in a restaurant? There could also be lots of benefits to that glowing nose though. You just never know when you need a red light in the dark.

What about being The Grinch? Whoops … a lot of you already are if your angry emails are any indication. So all you’ll need is a bit of green face paint and some antlers to put on your dog’s head.

How about good old Charlie Brown? You could walk around with a sad little Christmas tree asking people to help you decorate it. You would always have a dirty kid with you to help, along with a kid following you around constantly playing the piano.

What about being Bumble the snow-beast from Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer? He seemed grumpy like a lot of you until his sore tooth came out. Then he was a honey.

You could always be that little dentist kid, Hermey, who didn’t want to make toys and just wanted to be a dentist. You could walk around with a wooden toy all day long extracting teeth from grumpy people (or snow-beasts). You could walk around asking people who seem grumpy if they need a tooth extracted.

Then instead of being a snowman who sings about silver and gold, you could be the guy who sings about women and booze. That way you could walk around being a happy drunk the entire holiday season.

Now there are some Christmas television characters we will not mention, like those from A Very Brady Christmas. I don’t think there’s any reason to be ANY of those characters.

So who do you want to be this Christmas? I’m sure there’s some characters I’ve forgot here, but really this is the time of year to cheer up. This is the best time of the year to meet people. You can find a lot of parties … or you can be one of these characters and start your own.

In my ten years of coaching men – and living in both Los Angeles and New York – I’ve met a lot of “generous” people. I put that in quotations because these are really people who just thought that they were being generous.

I’ve met a lot of men that have bought women things; they’ve taken them on trips and bought them homes. I always disagreed with what they did, because it was clear to me that they weren’t being generous with their heart – they were being generous with their money so they could get laid.

These guys were basically being generous only because they wanted something in return. They weren’t just giving a woman a new car, buying her dinner, or taking her on vacation with no expectations – purely out of the love that they have for themselves as a person.

They did it because they wanted that woman to want them – to desire them. They were buying love, and they weren’t being authentically generous with their hearts.

Generously giving a gift to somebody means that you expect nothing in return. By doing this, you are essentially communicating with the universe, and by expecting nothing, you’ll get back everything.

Every single time you give somebody money or a gift and you expect nothing back from them, it’s crazy how that money or energy you just gave will appear back in your life almost like magic.

It’s not really magic – it’s just the way that things work!

So when you give somebody something, are you really being generous? Or are you offering something with expectations attached?

Every time you give your lover a gift, are you doing it to get something from them? Or are you doing it only because you love them?

Are you a man that has given gifts to women in the past? Perhaps you’ve bought a woman a car, or paid her rent before. Were you doing it out of the generosity of your heart, or were you doing it because you expected something in return? Like sex, or an emotional connection?

In life, when you are truly generous, you will never expect anything back, and you will end up getting everything you ever wanted.

I want you all to ponder that for a little while.

I’ve seen complete and utter generosity from people, and there is a huge difference. That difference is what makes your life either spectacular or a life that is based on your needs.

Wouldn’t you rather live a life that is based on the power of giving and receiving?