A man-girl is a guy who works out all the time. Yes, I know you’re probably thinking, “But David, YOU work out a lot — and so do I. Are you saying you and I are man-girls?”

No, that’s not what I’m saying. So what does working out have to do with being a man-girl? Ahhhhh, listen up my fellow readers, and let’s go a little deeper into this.

A man-girl is a guy who doesn’t just go to the gym, but who is anal-retentive about it and freaks out whenever he doesn’t get to the gym. If he eats a muffin, or a scone or a piece of cake, he thinks to himself that he is getting a little puffy (or that he probably just put on an extra pound). He’s the guy at Thanksgiving who sits there during the meal and all he can think is, “I can’t wait to get to the gym in the morning.”

That is what a man-girl is. He is a guy who is so obsessed with his body, that if he puts on even a pound or two he feels like he needs to go on a diet right away.

He can’t see past those few pounds; they are all that is going through his mind. That is a man-girl.

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It’s crazy when I hear that. It’s crazy when I hear that from a woman too, actually, because life is too short.

So you pigged out for a couple days or a week. You didn’t go to the gym for a week. Who cares?

If you train your body correctly, then even if you put on two or three pounds in one week, muscle memory will kick in the second you return to the gym and start working out again. Your body will bounce back. It’s a known fact — it really is.

When you are a man who is a man-girl, it is a huge turnoff to women. I was talking to a client the other day who used to date a man-girl. She said that every time he started to talk like this, she used to think, “You’re kidding me, right?” She felt like she was dating a woman instead of a man.

So if you are a guy and you act like this, you need to stop being a man-girl and start being a real man. If you gain a few extra pounds, then go to the gym and do what real men do: cardio! Don’t be such a girl about it.

I love cramming all the guys into my car. Usually I have to drive around with Daphne or Sonja.

I also love when a guy at a Bootcamp comes up with a scenario he thinks is going to be a huge challenge for me. Nothing is a big challenge for me anymore, at least in the area of meeting women (and the emotions and concepts behind it).

It’s something that I’ve mastered, and it’s easy for me. I so enjoy now showing guys how it can be equally easy for them.

So it’s so great when I get challenged by one of the guys and am able to give them an easy solution. Then the biggest challenge is for that guy to actually go out and do what I say.

As you all know, being successful at meeting women is all about being in the moment, creating a moment and being real. So Adam, who came all the way from Australia to attend a Bootcamp here in L.A., had one of these “challenges” for me.

He said to me, “You know, I’m a workout guy. I go to the gym and I see women there, and it’s like they break my routine. It drives me bananas. There she is — on the treadmill, on the shoulder press. Here I am trying to make my body buff so all the women will think I’m a big guy and a stud.”

I told him I remembered that, because I was a big gym guy in my 20s too. I’d see that hottie and I just couldn’t concentrate any more. I’d be doing my sets, see her, and then I couldn’t concentrate at all because I’d be thinking to myself, “How can I continue to work out and get to know her?”

Well, once again, it’s all about the power of observation in this situation. How many times have you seen this woman before at the gym? What does she normally do for her workout? To whom have you seen her talking? Does she take any certain classes (like yoga)?

Ask yourself these questions. Once you know the answers, then you will have your approach.

Say you’ve seen that she uses the shoulder press every time she is at the gym, she likes to work her legs out hard, and you’ve seen her coming out of yoga class. Right there you have three different ways you can approach her.

You can walk over to her and say, “You know, I see you here all the time coming out of yoga class. How are the yoga classes here?” By saying this, you have opened up a line of communication.

You will then find out which nights she takes yoga, and then of course you will go and twist yourself into a pretzel on one of the nights she goes. You’ve already established a relationship – first contact.

Maybe you have noticed that she is aways hustling on the treadmill or the Stairmaster. So what do you do in that situation?

You get on the Stairmaster or treadmill next to her. She probably has her antisocial device (aka her iPod earphones) in her ears. So you point to them, and have her pull those out of her ears.

Then you look at her and say, “I’ll race you. Where do you want to go? You’ve already got a head start on me, so let me catch up.” Then you start running really fast to be a little comical. She will start cracking up, and you will start a conversation with her.

How do I know this? It’s funny, but I can hear you saying “Are you sure this is going to work?” I did this throughout my 20s, 30s and 40s.

Am I sure this is going to work? I am as sure as I know the sun will come out tomorrow (like Annie said in that play). I am as sure as I know I will have a morning hard-on. I am as sure as I know that I will be thirsty when I wake up. It will work.

Here is another thing you can do at the gym. Let’s say she is working out on the machines. You can look at her and say, “Man, you’re breaking a sweat. I don’t know if I can do that much weight.” You just be funny.

Then you ask if you can work in with her. When you get on the machine, you squeeze really hard pretending to be having a hard time with her weight and say, “One . . . that’s all I can do. You’re buff.” Have a good time with her and you will get her laughing and talking.

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David: Everything in life is about stating the obvious.

Once again, I believe that men tend to over think, and they are always trying to think for themselves – this is a continual theme that I want to go through. Men spend so much time trying to be so clever – trying to find the ultimate opener – and if you ask women what they really want, they want you to just walk over and talk to them based on the obvious method.

I think a lot of guys just refuse to talk about things that are obvious because they feel that it is not “special” enough. But the most obvious things are the things that women find special. If you walk over to a woman and remark about something obvious, this is something that she’s already thinking about and you’re not breaking her train of thought.

It’s a problem that most guys walk over to women with made-up routines or some clever opener that totally breaks her train of thought. If you break her train of thought, you’ve ruined that moment inside her head.

So, in the gym, if you’re stressed out because you’re thinking, oh god, what should I say, what should I say? It’s really easy! Don’t walk over there as Mr. Fix It – “hey, I can show you a better way to do that exercise,” because then you’ll come off as the gym asshole.

Instead, walk over and say, “hey, can I work in? You look like you might need a break right now.” Just do it with a smile. And then you can just start talking to her. You could ask, “hey, how long have you been working out here? I haven’t seen you before.” Just be open and friendly.

By just being open and friendly at the gym you can find out how long she’s worked out there, you can find out what days she comes to workout… do you see where I’m getting at with this?

So talk to her a minute, get to know her a bit, and then you use the power of the walk away. Now you’ve gathered information correctly. In your mind, you know what days she goes to work out. You know that you will see her again.

So just walk away, saying, “hey, have a great workout!” Then you become the guy that was confident enough not to hover; you weren’t looking to close her right away. You’re just building a relationship and allowing her to go back to her friends and say, “I was in the gym today and I met the nicest guy…”

Client: What if she’s not struggling at all? What if she’s having a great workout, and she has her iPod headphones on?

David: I would do it like this: I would make a motion with my hands for her to take her headphones off, and then say, “I’ve got to ask you something. You look like you’re having an amazing workout. What are you listening to?”

So she answers, “oh, I’m listening to the new Death Cab for Cutie album.” You respond, “oh my god, I love Death Cab. Which track are you on? Which song is motivating you?”

Client: And what if you haven’t heard of them?

David: Then you say, “oh man, I’ve never heard of them. What type of music do they play?” Have some enthusiasm.

And then make sure that you don’t become the lingering, annoying guy – so many men are. If you know she’s having a great workout, you can acknowledge that she’s having a great workout and you walk away, saying, “hey, thanks for the music tip and have a great workout.”

And then the next time you see her, you can say, “hey, Death Cab for Cutie girl, what’s going on?”