Come on guys! According to this woman, they are on to you. She basically told me that every guy who has ever used this excuse has not only cum too fast the first time, but has also cum too fast on the tenth, twentieth and one hundreth time as well.

There are just some men who have no control, and they choose to have sex this way. Why? The men who have sex this way are self-centered, and sex is solely about them getting off.

When I was eighteen, I had a lot of “Oops! I didn’t mean to cum” moments. Instead of being content with the “oops moments,” I learned how to become an amazing lover. Well, at least, that is what I’ve been told.

It was important to me to become a great lover, and it was important to me to be able to satisfy a woman. I never wanted to be called “Mr. One Pump.”

Bad Sex

Now, granted, there are times when I’ve cum faster than others. Perhaps I was nervous the first time, or whatever the reason may be. As a general rule of thumb, though, I want to make sure the woman I am with is in complete ecstasy before I get there, because that it was really turns me on.

Going by what most women tell me, however, there seems to be a boy band out there and the group’s name is “The One Pumps.” These merry men tend to be men who really don’t care if a woman is satisfied or not. It’s all about them ejaculating as quickly as possible.

Now there are guys who actually suffer from a disease called premature ejaculation. So before all of you get your panties in a knot, I will excuse those of you who suffer from this ailment.

As for the rest of you who are members of the group called “The One Pumps,” you have no excuses. There is a reason why when you’re in a relationship that you have to beg for sex. What woman wants a man who basically slides home, dusts off his pants, and then heads toward the dugout while high-fiveing his buddies . . . all in the span of about thirteen seconds.

Let me also tell you a little thing about sex. Powerful men who can satisfy a woman always get the best blow jobs, because women LOVE to please a powerful man who pleases them. If you are a member of the band called “The One Pumps,” she’s really had enough of you.

So if this is who you are in bed, isn’t it time you understood the art of totally turning a woman on so that you in turn will get some of the most amazing head you’ve ever gotten and will have her begging you for a lot more pumping? I go over all of this in detail in Part VII of my Men’s Audio Mastery Series, and tell you how to be an amazing lover who will leave her begging for sex every time.

So c’mon ladies . . . Let’s teach the men a lesson here. Let’s talk about some of your one pump experiences.

We’re not talking about how you put gas in your car at the pump . . . we’re talking about the ‘oops man’ with his favorite line “Oops! This has never happened to me before!” Guys, they’re not buying it, so you better buy something. You better find a way to become a better lover.

What if they decide to crawl over on my side of the plane? Now the great thing about Business class on American Airlines is that you have the built in divider, but when I fly coach its so easy to roll over and and snuggle with the stranger next to you.

Let me ask you a question. When you have sex with someone, does there need to be home field advantage?

Can you be the away team or do you need to be the home team? Do you absolutely need to wrestle in the sheets on your own turf?

There have been times in my life when I preferred to be the visiting team, so that when it was over I could hop on the bus and leave. Nothing is worse after having sex with someone than having to spend the night with them when you don’t want to. So in those situations, being the visiting team is great!

You leave and you can go out for a drink after the game on your way home. That is one benefit of being the visiting team. Another benefit is that you can soil someone else’s sheets, so that when your maid comes she won’t have a heart attack.

Home Bed Advantage

There are some problems though with being the visiting team. There have been times when I have been the visiting team when the woman didn’t mind having sex with her cat on the bed. It kind of freaked me out a little bit.

There I was slowly working my way down her body . . . only to be brushed up against by a purring pussy cat. I said “Can we do something about this cat?” She said “Ignore him.” It’s hard to get excited though when puss in boots is staring directly at my groin.

Another time when I was the visiting team, the woman had one of those yippee dogs. Now, this next part I am not making up. When she started climaxing, rover started howling. I wasn’t quite sure what the connection was . . . and I didn’t really want to hang around and find out.

There are other problems with being the visiting team. They may not have anything good to eat in the fridge. They may get up at 6:00 in the morning when you are used to getting up at 9:00.

I generally prefer to be the home team. I have a dog. She doesn’t howl when someone orgasms and she does not get up on the bed for a three way unless invited. She does, however, need to be walked.

Not only that, but being the home team certainly has advantages. You can brush your teeth with your own toothbrush instead of using your finger. The musical choices will always be your own. There is something I just don’t find attractive about a woman who plays Guns ‘N Roses to get off.

Being the home team also gives you some other benefits. It’s your own bed, so you know the exact spot you can lay in to fall asleep. Also, if you can’t sleep with this stranger in your bed, there is always the Internet to cruise in the middle of the night or a good book to read. Have you ever had insomnia being the visiting team and you had to read Cosmopolitan and Glamour all night?

Another benefit about being the home team is that you can actually create the mood. If you are not into incense burning or sage leaves being waved all around the house, you can do what I do and just light some nice candles and play some music.

Being the home team gives you the advantage of creating any mood you want. Plus, all your supplies are nearby.

The only problem about being the home team is if you do not want the other person to stay after the main event, and you look like an asshole kicking them out. So, as they say in sports, you have to suck it up for the good of the team.

So what do you prefer? Do you prefer to be the home team, the visiting team, or are you like the Super Bowl and you prefer to play on neutral ground like a hotel?

Oh, and it’s different if you are in a relationship. Once you give a drawer to someone, and tell them that your field is their field and your stadium is their stadium, it’s a whole different thing.

So for the occasional fling or booty call, do you prefer to be the home team or the visiting team and why?

Today, I take a trip down memory lane for you guys and tell you exactly how I lost my virginity.

 ”Nervous” is not a strong enough word for the feelings I had swirling around inside of me over that brief (but seemingly very long) two-day period in my life.

How David Wygant Virginty

What? you may be asking.  How does it take someone two days to lose their virginity?  Did it take me 2 days of begging, pleading, and convincing some poor teenage girl to give in to me?  Or was it due to my complete lack of sexual skill at the time that made the whole ordeal last 2 days?

Listen to todays podcast, and you will realize that stressing out so much about sex is completely not worth it.

If you want to gain the knowledge from my 30+ years of sexual experiences to make sure you aren’t making the same mistakes all guys make in bed and ensure you aren’t nicknamed “the 1 pump chump”, click here…

Why is the wet spot on the bed always in the spot that you cuddle on? Somebody is going to be spooned directly into that wet spot. It happens. The question is, if you’re the man, do you man up and say, “You know what, honey, with all my body hair, I’ll sleep in the wet spot all night long. No problem.”

Or, do you slowly push her directly into the wet spot so you don’t have to deal with the dampness all night long? You can try to use towels to cover up the wet spot, but that never seems to work. For some reason or another, the towel always starts to itch. I never understood why, but it always does. Most of us don’t have gigantic beds, so somebody WILL be touching that wet spot. The question is, who deserves it?

Here’s my wet spot rule: If you didn’t get her off a couple of times, meaning, he didn’t go down on her, didn’t give her a big orgasm, didn’t get her to come during sex, then the man deserves to lay in the wet spot. You don’t deserve to be sitting on the dry side. You didn’t work hard enough.

But if she was lazy in sex, didn’t do anything but lay there, no foreplay at all, and he just did all the work and banged her left and right, she had a great time, he went down on her but she didn’t go down on him, then what? Damn right – he should spoon her and pull her directly into that spot and you let her little soft smooth body get cold all night long. That’s my rule.

The one who does more in bed for the other person deserves the wet spot pass. The one who was lazy that night? That’s right, you get to find out how long it takes until that wet spot dries.

I think guys look at sex as if they were at the Kentucky Derby. The woman gets naked. She’s standing there in front of the gates, ready to go. The guy’s all geared up in the pen ready to go. Have you ever seen a race horse, when he’s all penned up and he’s about to go? All of a sudden, the gun shoots off and you hear dun-dun-dun-dun-dun, aaaaand it’s off they go.

Sex Is Like A Horse Race

Or you’re at the Indianapolis Motor Speedway and you hear, “Gentlemen, start your engines!” And all you hear is the sound off all that horsepower rearing to go.

It seems like guys are always in a race—not with each other—but with the woman they’re with. The minute they see a naked woman, it’s almost like they hear this: “Gentlemen, start your erections!” Literally the second a guy gets hard, all he wants to do is be let out of the gate, start up his erection, and run for the finish like Seabiscuit.

And what’s the result? Three minutes of lightning-quick humping and a cloud of sperm. Men need to understand that women love the art of seduction. We go through this at our seminar.

She loves it slow. She loves it when a man takes his time and isn’t in a hurry to get to the finish line. She loves a man who is in control of himself and knows that they will get there soon enough.

What she positively doesn’t love is a guy who meets her, talks to her for 15 seconds, looks at her with a face full of anxiety and goes, “Give me your number, we should get together! Do you want to go out with me? Do you want to do something sometime?” Meanwhile, so far you’ve talked to her about nothing but the weather. Yeah, that’s exactly who she wants to hang with: a guy who she can talk about the weather with. What a great date that is going to be for her. You can talk about cold fronts, humidity, so many exciting things you have in common.

Men always want to rush the process; they want to rush the process from the second they first approach to the second they have sex. They just really want to make it happen. Women look at sex like a marathon. It’s a slow, steady journey, you have to pace yourself, and you have to finish strong. Start thinking about the art of seduction. Start seducing women properly, in a way that’s enjoyable for both sexes. Start making sex last, and they’ll come back for an encore.

I have one final Art Of Communication and Seduction seminar left this year. Check out the details here.

Well, ok, he didn’t really say that. But in my version he did.

So you meet a new woman, and she’s so full of sexual energy. She’s usually anywhere from 28 to 33. No offense to anybody older or anybody younger, but what happens is that a lot of women, right around the age f 30, start coming into their own sexuality. They start letting go of their inhibitions, realizing that sexually they have the freedom to do whatever they want. They start really enjoying sex more than ever before. The guilt is gone. It’s over. None of the Catholic guilt that they used to have from their family. None of the fear of friends calling her a whore or being labeled a slut by her peers.

All of a sudden, it seems like women kick into sexual overdrive. Right around 28 to 33, after which they just become these incredible, open, sexual beings.

The question to all you guys is: Can you handle a woman when she’s in that phase of her life? Or do you judge her? If you’re sitting across from a woman at a table, let’s say she’s 29 years old, and she says to you on a date, “I’ve slept with 18 guys.”

Are going to look at her and judge her? Are you going to look at her and shoot your nose up? What if she slept with more men than you’ve slept with women? What if you wish you’d slept with that many women? Are you going to be intimidated? What if you’ve slept with more? Are you still going to judge her? What if she tells you she’s slept with like 10 guys this month? Are you going to think she’s a slut? That she’s dirty?

Sexual Truth

I can feel all you — all of you — getting ready to type something in the comments section right now. I know Bob, you’re really ready to write something right now. I can feel it.

I know all of you are thinking right now of something to write. You’re probably judging. Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “I’m a great guy, I would never judge!”

But here’s the deal: who can tell you if or why she’s on a sexual escapade right now, or a sexual rampage? Don’t judge her. Embrace it. Have fun with the situation, and have fun with her. Stop with the double standard in life. There really is no double standard except inside your own mind. We all have different experiences in life, and we all set different standards for ourselves.

Stop judging women for expressing their sexuality and start embracing them and enjoying the gift they’re about to give you. As David Wygant said to Bob, “You can’t handle the blow job!” I’m sure Bob right now is laughing and saying to himself, “Hey, I’ve made the blog! My name is Bob.”

But in relationships, the sex can get monotonous. Daily life gets in the way and everything else just kind of fades into the background. Do you ever get to a point in a relationship where you just feel like you’re stuck? You’re not hearing each other. You’re not connecting each other emotionally. You always know what you need when you hit that point in relationships.

What you need to do is get away from everything. Kids. Work. Bills. Day care. Diaper care. Whatever it is. Even if you have no family, you just need to get away from work, from your friends, texting, iPhones, all the distractions in life. You need to go on a fuckation.

That’s right: a fuckation. What’s a fuckation, you ask? It’s where you do nothing for 48 hours but fuck each other. You book a nice hotel online, and you get out of town for the weekend. Actually, you can do this anywhere. You don’t even need to get on an airplane or even leave town, really. You can just do this on the other side of town. You drive a half hour away. You pick a point. Say, “Honey, we’re going to drive for 30 minutes and once that 30 minutes is up we’re going to exit the first right and we’re going to find a hotel. We’re going to check in, and we’re going to do nothing but stay in bed, fuck, order room service, and have fun.

It’s called a fuckation because sometimes you just need to leave everything else behind and reconnect on the most basic level. Sometimes you need to stop all of life’s activities and really take the time to do nothing but enjoy one another without distractions.

So here’s what you need besides a hotel and a vehicle to get yourselves there: you need to bring some body lotions, some massage oils, some candles to set the mood. Lingerie too, even though it’s all about staying naked for 48 hours. No clothing allowed. The only thing you’re packing in your overnight bag is a toothbrush and clothing that you can return in. Actually, screw that. Don’t even pack that. Just return in the same clothes you wore on the way there.

The only things you pack in your overnight bag are fuckation toys. Adult toys. Bring a vibrator along, handcuffs, whatever floats your boat. Try out something new you’ve never tried before. Scented oils, bubble bath soaps, foot lotions for foot massages. Maybe a book you can read to each other while taking a bath. Maybe some Netflix DVDs to watch while you’re resting between marathon lovemaking sessions.

Hot Vacation Sex

Order as much room service as you want. Really spoil yourselves. But if you order food, make sure you include food that you can eat off each other. Order strawberries. Order chocolate syrup. Maybe bring a few bottles of wine or champagne. Maybe some liquor if you guys like doing shots—but if you do shots, make sure they are body shots off of each other. Try some tequila body shots, they’re great fun. You put a lime in your partner’s mouth and sprinkle a little bit of salt on your favorite part of their body. Lick the salt off their body, take the shot, and then suck the lime right out of their mouth.

Be creative on your fuckation. It’s all about letting loose and having sex. It’s all about reconnecting, having a blast with each other, and realizing that you don’t need anything else except for each other to keep you happy and satisfied. So let your imagination run wild. And no phones! Granted, for those of you who have kids you need to check up on, you can do that. But that’s it, and you can do so only after a nice, long love session.

If you’re stressed out, your relationship isn’t going that great and you’re losing touch with each other, you need to take a break and get away. So suggest to your partner that you need to take a fuckation. Tell them what the ground rules are. Make each lovemaking session last. Better yet, think of it as one long 48-hour love session. Take the time to massage one another from head to toe. Massage each other’s toes and fingers; take the time to get to know each other’s bodies all over again. When you slow things down and dedicate the time to one another, you’re going to discover each other in brand new ways. By the time you get home—in the same clothes you came in—sex is going to be far more interesting and a lot more fun, because you will have learned so many different things about each other sexually and some new exciting ways to turn each other on.

So what am I talking about here? What is the power of the penis?

I have a question for all the guys reading this — and I want you to be 100% honest with yourself as you answer it. How many of you guys get rock hard the second you start making out with a girl? How many of you get rock hard the minute you see a woman naked?

How many of you get hard at the drop of a hat? You might thing that is the power of the penis, i.e., the power to get hard right away. In reality, I don’t think it is.

I think the fact that a lot of guys get hard right away makes women lazy. It really does, because women get used to that and used to the fact that they don’t have to do much of anything.

A woman doesn’t really have to worry about foreplay, because technically you are ramped, amped, and ready. So now you’re spending the majority of time getting her ramped up, and you are remaining hard the entire time because you lack the power of the penis.

I have talked to a lot of women, and I’ve found that they have no issues with men being able to get hard. They even admit that this makes them a bit lazy.

The Power Of The Penis

So you need to learn how to turn the tables. Just as a woman makes you work — and a woman does make you work building up her level of passion — it is perfectly okay to make the woman do a little work as well. Women require slow foreplay and building up their desire before you even go for the clit.

It’s called the power of the clit. If you go directly for the clit, a woman doesn’t like it because she’s not ready yet for that.

It’s funny when the roles are reversed, and the man possesses what I consider to be the power of the penis. Having the power of the penis means that your penis doesn’t stand at attention for just any little boob or kiss.

You are going to have to work him. You are going to have to earn it.

Make a woman earn your erection. Make her work for it just like you work to get her turned on and wet.

Make her kiss your neck. Make her kiss your body. Make her tease you. Make her earn your erection.

It is going to make her a far better lover. It’s also going to turn her on more in the long run than having you just stand there erect 24/7 like an American Flag.

So make her earn it. Learn to have the power of the penis.

Learn to control your erection. Learn to give her centimeter by centimeter, millimeter by millimeter, and inch by inch.

Make her earn your penis and work hard at it, because a lot of women are very lazy and they don’t want to work. By doing that you are going to have longer, more erotic and more enjoyable sex.

Granted, quickies are fine. Even for a quickie, though, make her earn it just a little bit.

Make her tell you how badly she wants you instead of just being erect and ready 24/7. That is understanding the power of the penis.

Maybe there isn’t a great sexual connection. Maybe you have an amazing sexual connection, but the emotional connection is lacking.

Maybe it’s one of those relationships of convenience. You know, one in which you spend weekends together but you don’t see each other during the week. Maybe it’s a long distance relationship, and you like that because it gives you time to work on the replacement theory.

The replacement theory does not work. I hope by now you have figured out what the replacement theory is. If not, let me define it for you.

The replacement theory is when you’re involved in a relationship and you’re looking for another one, but you don’t want to leave your current relationship while you’re looking. You want to be sure you will find someone better before you leave the person you’re currently dating.

Looking For Rebound Guy

This never works. Your energy is all wrong when you do that.

First of all, it’s not fair to the person with whom you’re currently in a relationship. To be blunt, it’s actually pretty sleazy because you’re not being honest with that person. You’re looking someone in the eyes and saying “I love you” to that person you are with on the weekends, while you are going out during the week looking for someone to replace them.

So the replacement theory doesn’t work because you’re creating an energy that’s bad both in your relationship and when you’re out looking for another one. You’re actually very desperate such that whenever you meet somebody new you think to yourself, “God I really hope that this person is somebody that could be my next girlfriend (or next boyfriend). I really hope it works out with this person.”

When you have this mindset and this kind of energy, you actually forecast the whole relationship at the time you meet someone and first exchange phone numbers. There’s thus a very desperate energy about people who are in the replacement theory mode because they is an air of neediness around them.

When you are in the replacement theory mode, you’re so afraid to be alone that you feel a need to constantly be with someone. So you climb from one person to the next, and you end up meeting the same person over and over again. Sting had it perfectly right when he wrote that song about if you love someone then set them free.

So if you have used the replacement theory, then you need to be honest with yourself and you need to be honest with the woman (or man) you’re with. You need to realize that the replacement theory does not work, and let that person go.

Go out and embrace who you are. Learn about yourself all over again. Be single. Be open. Learn things that you never before learned.

Most importantly, develop an abundance mindset. People who practice the replacement theory do not have an abundance mindset at all. All you think about over and over again is the lack of things.

If you actually had an abundance mindset, you would never practice the replacement theory in your life. You’d realize that there are plenty of amazing people in the world to be with and date.

It’s the same with jobs. How many of you want a new job, and yet you keep a job you hate until you find that new job? Then when you find a new job this way, the new job is only a little bit better than the old job. Why? It’s because you are living the replacement theory in your work.

Now I know right now that a lot of you are saying, “David, that doesn’t make sense. I need to pay my bills, so I have to do it that way.” You do have to pay your bills, but here is what you need to realize. You can keep your old job while you look for a new one, but realize that the longer you keep the old job the longer your search for a great new job will be.

We can talk more about jobs another day. For now, I want to leave you with a question: How many of you use the replacement theory in your dating life?

I had an amazing time in NYC teaching a great group of men my new seminar format. It was one of my most favorite weekends that I have ever had with a group of guys.

I feel like I just hung out with 14 new friends and I cant wait to see them all again!

I have the same seminar coming up in LA at the end of March so email me if you want to learn more.

One final thing to share.

The NYC to LA flight is always full of great people watching.

I sat across from Christina Ricci and her dog Karen and Kevin Bacon was 4 rows in front of me in First Class. The JFK to LAX American Airlines flight is always full of celebs going home from NYC.

Yesterday we had a great debate on about sex.

For those of you who missed it check the blog out.

Today lets dig deeper.

Have you ever just had sex with a man and thought, “Now that I’ve had sex with this random guy (since it’s been six months since my last sexual encounter!), is he going to think I’m a slut?”

The answer? Not if you phrase it correctly.

I’m the first to admit that there’s a double standard out there. I personally commend women who are sexually free and open. I don’t judge women who are sexually free and open. I also don’t really care about with how many men a woman has slept.

There are men, however, who judge women for being sexually free. So, how does a woman know if she’s slept with someone like me, or with a judgmental non-evolved man?

When you have sex with a man for the very first time on, let’s say, the very first date, men are so ego-driven that they want to believe that there was something special about them that made you lose all control and decide to jump into bed with them quickly. They want to believe that they have some magical sexual power over you.

They want to believe this regardless of whether you slept with four other guys before them that week. They don’t know!

So what do you tell a man you’ve just slept with so that he won’t judge you? It’s really simple!

Just tell him, “I can’t believe I did this, but I haven’t had sex in so long that I couldn’t resist it.” A man’s ego so wants to believe that.

I’m all about telling the truth, but some men can’t handle the truth. It’s like when Jack Nicholson told Tom Cruise in A Few Good Men, “You can’t handle the truth!” Unfortunately, ladies, some men just can’t handle the truth.

If he’s a one-night stand or he turns into a booty call, massage his ego and you will massage all the right parts. He will think he’s some incredible lover.

I’m all about women using men for sexual pleasure. Men have been using women like this for years.

Welcome to the new sexual revolution: women rule!

One word of advice to the men: When a woman decides to have sex with you on the first date, stop judging and worrying about what she’s done in the past. Just embrace the gift of another person.

It’s time to learn how men really think so that you can stop wasting your time with men who are just not what you want. Get a complete behind-the-scenes tour of a man’s mind by investing in my Women’s Mastery Series program.

And yes if you want to know Christina Ricci is very nice and I am sure all the women want to know.
Kevin Bacon still looks great.