She read all the comments and wanted to clarify that money is not what keeps her turned on, its all about a man that knows how to take charge. Here is her email to all of you.

Enjoy todays guest blogger.

Dear David, 

I have to share with you, about the what happened  to my relationship with the Very handsome, Rich guy from Boca, that got all the responses to last weeks pod cast.  It’s all about building Sexual Tension before the date, and keeping it going during the date. You have to take control. Send sexy text messages before the date. Dress the part of the woman you are looking to attract . This is so important, i can not tell you. Fyi…  You do not need a lot of money to look sharp !!  .   Women have no idea, where you shopped for your jeans or shirts. It is looking presentable, dressing in style,  and smelling great.  :)  Being well groomed . All over if you know what i mean  .  You do not need a lot of money to take a woman out on a fun date. !!  In my mind, if he took me to the beach, and bought a bottle of wine, and cheese, ect.. on a blanket, that  would have  been  so much more of an aphrodisiac then being in this Trendy Boca Restaurant with the A/C not working , noisy , and exchanging resume’s. Him telling me, he was an investment banker for Lehman Bros. Is not getting me ” wet ” between my legs. It was intriguing for a few minutes .  Him creating a very magical moment, that not many men do. Like kissing me on the beach, or sharing fun stories,  asking me questions about myself, or listening to his I pod. He happens to have great taste in Music. It is called building moments…  together.  Which he could have saved, not that he needed to watch his wallet, a good $ 150.00 that night. He would have ended up with the same results, or maybe even better.!!!.  It would have turned me on  sexually , so much more. 

What Women Want From A Man

I write this to help out men, who truly misinterpreted my blog, into thinking if you are not Very Handsome, Very Rich, and Have a Huge C-ock , You are not able to get a beautiful woman.  A man with these qualities i have to say , he does have an advantage point in ” Getting ” a beautiful woman.  But, it was the way he presented himself before the date, and how he took complete ” Control ” of the date . That was the Biggest turn on to me !!  I was impressed with the way he was the MAN..  and with him taking that role. It made me feel like a Woman. When i start to feel like the woman, and i am exuding  feminine energy. It makes me feel very sensual, and sexual. I think about wanting to have sex with him .  What it would be like to kiss him, and how would it feel when he touches my body.  How would he feel laying on top of me.  I start to get excited about, how can i turn him on sexually.  What can i do different, to please him. 

What this man does not have is the qualities to ” Keep ”  a quality, beautiful woman. !!   I will share with you, the ending to my magical weekend, in Palm Beach,FL . ,  with the last night of sensual, hot sex.  He did send the next day, when i returned to NYC, a dozen Red Roses, with a card, ” thinking of you ” ..  

He did send me e mails, and he did make 1 phone call. Expressing what a great time he had with me. i will quote what he wrote 

” So Glad you love the roses, not nearly as beautiful as you !!! had an amazing time with you Sunday evening: cant wait to see you next time. I’ll call you to say hello later today or tomorrow. ( Friday the latest ) . Miss you sexy !!! . 

Well, He never called, and the following week, he came to NYC for Fashion Week. Did not even let me know he was in town. We were texting each other, and he said, he was walking out of his last Fashion Show !!!!   WTF ?  I was hurt, and will never feel the same about him. All his Great Looks, His Huge Cock , and and Bank Roll.   All vanished, as fast as it rolled in.  We texted back and forth, and he said he was sorry a few times. He said, quote ” He did not have the time for a date with me ” …  It is all about being Real, and Genuine, and what ever you write and feel, it’s about  being in your reality. This man was so detached from reality. Follow through is ” KEY ” . 

  I deserve and want  to have a man who is kind and sincere. Honest and someone who loves themselves.  When you love yourself. You feel great about yourself everyday. You come clean with yourself, and you do not treat others or act this way.  Self love on my part is , I WANT MORE. !!!  

Hope this is helpful, and It is Not all about being Rich, Handsome, and Hung. It might open a door, and he did get to play with me for a night. 

 However, he will never have staying power. I never responded to his last text.  I,  no longer  have any desire for him anymore.  

Denise. 

You’ve met somebody you’re really jazzed about. You’ve exchanged phone numbers. You notice the area code is different than yours, so you ask them with some hesitation, “Where do you live?” They immediately tell you, “Oh, I’m just in town for the weekend.” BUT–they visit often, and still they’d still like to get together the next time they’re in town.

So, now you call each other up on the phone, you have some good entertaining conversations, and….they’re coming to town in two weeks. You’re meshing, your’e building up a little friendship over the phone, you’re really enjoying it and now your mind kicks in AGAIN, and AGAIN you become another version of “future man”or- “future woman.”

Remember that blog about future man and future woman? Well, here we go again! You start obsessing and thinking: What do they want? What are they looking for? Do they want something deeper? Could this turn into the dreaded long distance relationship? Are they just looking for a fling? Do I need to clean my house up because they’re going to come over and we’re going to have crazy and wild sex all weekend? We are going out Friday night and he or she will be around the whole weekend…you start thinking again.

Just enjoy it. You have no idea what may happen. This person you’re talking to might travel into town every week or every month. Maybe it’s because in the back of their minds that’s where they want to eventually settle down, and meeting somebody to be with would make it much easier and safer for them to move. Maybe they are just looking for a fling, maybe they just enjoy being able to getting out of their town and into a new town, and just want to have fun. Maybe they don’t even know themselves!

The only way you’re actually going to find out for sure is if you go out with them, and while you’re out you talk to them, you’re interested in them, and you find out more about them. Obsessing about it and planning ahead of time NEVER WORKS!

This person could turn out to be a future relationship, or a future fling, or it could be a future nothing. But you just don’t know, and you won’t know, until you two connect when you’re out on that date. Unless you make a real connection by keeping your head in the present moment, you will never have a handle on the future of whatever it is that you’ve got going on or whatever it could become.

So, stop worrying and thinking about what the other person wants. Talking it out with someone else can be good to help you sort out what you want, but if you’re so curious about what they want, you have to ask them. Don’t be afraid, when you’ve got some private time say, “Hey, you live out of town, and I like what we’ve got going on here. What are you looking for, are looking for a relationship, are you just looking to have fun…where are you at right now in your life? I’m interested, let’s talk about this.”

What happened to honesty? Why are we so afraid of it?

Why do we love to sell portraits of ourselves over and over and over again?

The point of this whole message, the reason for it, is that it’s really not healthy to consistently torture ourselves with our own thoughts. If you’re interested and you’re genuinely curious about somebody, ask them, “What are you looking for?” They will tell you, you will find out a lot about this person, and it will lead to a whole kind of different conversation—an honest conversation, a real conversation. It will give you an opportunity to get to know them on a much deeper and authentic level.

That’s what I want to give you, that’s what this blog is all about, and I hope that you really embrace today’s message.

So with the weatherall toasty hot, it’s time for you to change your whole attitude on where to go and what to do on a date. Forget about the old standbys of dinner, drinks or a movie. They’re boring . . . and we also need to save those things for those cold winter months when we’re stuck with planning indoor-type dates.

It’s time to think summer dates, so let me get you started with some suggestions. These are not only going to be fun and different, but they will give both of you lots to talk about while you’re doing them. Here are 8 great summer date ideas to try:

1. Take A Cooking Class Together. Cooking is fun. Not only that, but doing things together – like chopping the vegetables or playing with the meat – can be a very sensual experience. This is a great way to share something with someone . . . whether your joint culinary effort results in something edible or not. Doing something fun like this on a date creates lasting memories, and this is definitely the kind of date you can joke about with each other for a long time.

2. Take A Trip To Target. Another date that I like I call “The Target Date.” What I like to do is ask a woman to go out for a drink, but then I tell her that I need to run an errand and pick something up at Target before we go. Most people enjoy going to Target – it’s a lot of fun to roam around there. When we get to Target, I’ll grab my basket and say “You know what? Let’s play a fun game. I feel really generous today, and I’m willing to buy you anything you want in the store that costs $1.29. But here’s the catch. It has to cost exactly $1.29. You can’t have three extra cents if it costs $1.32 and you can’t cheat yourself out of three cents by picking something that costs $1.26.” Then what you do is conduct your own scavenger hunt inside Target. You’ll see her looking around and start filling her basket with things that cost $1.29 while she debates which thing she wants. What happens here is you create a fun and very interactive date. Not only that, but you will create memories that will last a long time because it’s different.

3. Check Out Your Local Farmers Market. A date I love to do when when the weather starts getting warm is to ask a woman to go do some food sampling at a Farmers Market. You walk around together, check out all the different stands, and start sampling the food. You can sample some of the wine there together. Start sampling different kinds of vegetables. Sample the fruit and decide which one is each other’s favorite. It’s fun. It’s an active date. It’s also different and something you don’t do very often.

4. Cruise For Barbecues. Another fun date I like is to drive around your neighborhood on a Saturday afternoon or early evening, and start sniffing for barbecues. Your goal: to crash a barbecue. Find one where you see a bunch of cars parked near the house. Then you both walk around together to the backyard, and see which of you is exposed first as the “barbecue crasher.” It’s a lot of fun. On one date where I did this, we both made up stories about how we knew “the cousins.” We were both eventually found out, but the funny thing was that people really didn’t care. A lot of people at barbecues are strangers anyway that were invited by a guest. On another barbecue-crashing date, I actually didn’t get caught the entire night until the very end when the host thanked me for coming then looked at me and said “. . . but who are you??”

5. Have A Different Kind Of Picnic. Everybody does a picnic in the park. Here is a great twist on this old favorite. Tell your date that you are going to go have a picnic. When you get in the car, however, just take a quick ten minute drive around the block and park back at your place. Then go up on the roof. When they say “But I thought we were going to have a picnic,” you say “We are . . . we’re going to have a picnic on the roof.” Hopefully your house or your building has roof that’s high enough that you’ll have a great view of your city. Doing this will be different and unique. Instead of being in the middle of a park with kids running around and having to search the park for “that perfect spot,” do something close to home and head to the roof! This is a new way of rediscovering where you live and seeing things from a completely different perspective.

6. Relive Your Childhood. A really fun idea is to bring your date into a “kid moment.” Ask them “What is one of your favorite things you used to do when you were a kid?” If, for example, the person says they used to love to draw. Tell them “I don’t care how well you draw, I know you like to doodle so we’re going on a field trip.” There’s a lot of fun little stores nowadays (I think one of them is called “Color Me Mine”) where you can take your choice of pottery and paint it as many colors as you want. Then you can come back a week later after they’ve “cooked” it for you. Guess what? This ensures a second date because you both have to go back there to pick up your little art pieces. Then you can compare how your pieces turned out. How much fun would it be to share a kiddy moment with your potential significant other?

7. Be A Photographer. Try going on a date walking around your city like tourists – except don’t do the “tourist thing” and pretend you’re visiting. Instead, do it like you are a photographer and a model. One of you can be the photographer and the other can be the model. You can then switch roles, or even split the roles if you want. Have you each choose five spots you think would be fun to take a picture of the other. Then run all around the city just like a model and a photographer looking for the next best spot. You’ll be surprised at how fun it is. Not only do you get to explore new areas of the city, but it will really push you to be super spontaneous . . . and nothing is more fun than when you’re each trying to figure thing out, trying new things and trying to come up with things on the spot. The fact that nothing is planned is what makes a date like this exciting.

8. Arrange A Scavenger Hunt. This date brings in the spontaneity ingredient I talked about above. So, go out and explore your city except instead of taking pictures you make it a scavenger hunt. This is a great idea in particular if you are the man making the plans. It’s intriguing. First tell her to dress a certain way and to meet you at a certain place. For instance, you could call her or send her a text message saying “Hey, meet me at 3:30 pm at the park wearing sneakers.” Once she gets there, you can leave a little gift or note for her and then tell her where to go or what to do next. By the time she comes to see you, she’s going to be happy because you’ve led her to multiple experiences all in one date. This is a great way to use imagination and engage her desire to be playful with you. Trust me, she’ll love the fact that you’ve been so creative (because likely no one else has done that for her!).

The good thing about non-traditional dates like these is that it gives you the opportunity to engage your senses. It could be your sense of smell, your sense of hearing or your sense of taste. It’s bringing those into a date that makes a date fun and memorable.

Also, the more senses you can bring into your date is more opportunities where you can develop a connection with your date (whether emotionally, physically or sensually). To the guys, remember that by stimulating a woman’s senses you are also stimulating her mind. This will make a woman more attracted to you just by being around you.

These are all fantastic ideas for dates because, don’t forget, more than anything else a date is supposed to be fun! A date is not meant to consist of just sitting across from each other at a dinner table exchanging resumes, watching each other chew, and making decisions about each other.

Activity dates are always a lot more fun, a lot less pressure-filled and something that I always recommend. So try out these ideas, or get creative and think of some great creative dates to enjoy this summer!

Now I know I missed some good ones so please share some of your favorites!