So Shogo and I were in a beer garden today in Munich near the English Garden, and we sat and had a great conversation with a couple of German men and women we had just met. Beer gardens are so funny because it’s such a bright open space so everybody can see everybody else, everybody is kind of on display and can check each other out. As you know, I teach you guys to talk about what is going on in the moment, to observe the things that are going on around you and will never run out of things to talk about.

So the six of us, we all started talking about how in beer gardens there are so many people and everyone can check each other out. I introduced them to a new English term, “googley eyes,” and they couldn’t stop saying the word.

“So what are googley eyes?” they asked me. Googley eyes is not getting on Google.com and punching in a search for the best optometrist in Munich, real googley eyes is when somebody looks at you and they have that certain look. That look that makes you kind of gaga, that makes you weak in the knees. That look that sends the message that they just like they want to eat you for lunch (and they’re probably thinking that way too).

Googley Eyes

For men, when a woman shoots a set of googley eyes at us, all we think is, “Oh my God!” We immediately go right into our head, and then our thoughts shoot right to our groin. We read that sexuality, because real googley eyes is just pure sexual energy. It is uninhibited sexual energy, that look that drives us crazy. All of the sudden when you get shot that look, that person becomes the sexiest most erotic passionate person that you’ve seen in ages. Googley eyes, gotta love it.

I’ll tell you, used to be my favorite thing when I was single when I would meet somebody and get those googley eyes from her, because I would just googley eye her right back. I know all of you know Google as the search engine term, and it’s really time to set the search engine as yourself. Your own personal search engine is now going to find other people, because what do search engines do? They search for that perfect match right then and there for them to keep riding down the road and see what pops up.

So today’s message applies to my female readers just as much as to my male readers. The next time you see somebody and you really want to get their attention, what do you do? You shoot them the hottest set of googley eyes and you give them a look that they will never forget. You be completely uninhibited with your energy, make them feel you, you make them notice you, and you get them so intrigued that you make them want to get to know you more.

So that’s what the real “google” is all about. Well, I that was a pretty good analogy at least. What do you guys think about that? Googley eyes…

So when I want to instantly get into a good mood, I always remember I Dream of Jeannie. Why?

When I used to smoke pot in college, we used to play the game “If you could be any television character, who would you be?” I always wanted to be Major Anthony Nelson, six inches tall and able to go into a bottle and have sex all night long with my genie on her pillows. How great would it be to have miniature sex in a bottle?

So what I always do is to bring myself back to funny, amusing moments. Whenever I am not feeling good in life I do this.

Do you ever have trouble keeping your energy up and staying positive? I know that is something with which a lot of you guys struggle.

How do you feel great about yourself at all times, for example, if you are getting rejected over and over again when you approach women? You need to come up with your own Un Diva Havick Ya Ha Vivee moment.

My Un Diva Havick Ya Ha Vivee moment is I Dream Of Jeannie, and picturing how amazing it would be to get a massage from a six inch tall, hot and sexy Barbara Eden.

For any of you not old enough to remember that show, Google or look on YouTube for how hot Barbara Eden looked on I Dream Of Jeannie when she came out of that bottle.

So what is your Un Diva Havick Ya Ha Vivee moment?

You guys have labeled all these things in so many different and creative ways, from monkey chatter to approach anxiety. I mean, if you Google “fear,” it is amazing how many different versions of it will pop up in the search results.

What I am about to share with you in today’s podcast is going to blow you away. I know that every week I tell you that the podcast is the most powerful one ever, but that is because every week I come up with something more powerful than the week before.

In this podcast, I am going to tell you why there are only two emotions in this world: one is love and the other is fear. Hate is fear. Approach anxiety is fear.

Love and fear really are the only two emotions, and in this podcast I explain to you how to really embrace loving everything and fearing nothing. Click here to listen now:

Also, if you want to learn how to truly embrace love in your life and also how to truly erase fear, then you need to check out my Men’s “What’s Your Excuse?” and my Women’s “No Excuses” programs.

There’s one part of the show called “The Wheel Of Death,” in which two guys get into these two rotating gerbil wheel contraption and they run and jump around these wheels like it’s a carnival ride. They did all this with no fear.

It’s interesting that people can do things like this — death defying acts — with no fear. To some of you, saying hi to a member of the opposite sex is a death defying act.

Google Cirque du Soleil or do a search for it on YouTube, and watch some of the things they do and some of the ways they contort their bodies. Then I want you to think about all your fears about communicating with the opposite sex because, really, would you rather say hello to someone you’re attracted to or get caught in The Wheel Of Death?

For those of you who need some motivation today, here is The Wheel Of Death:

What I really want to talk about today, though, is all of the mumblers out there. Recently someone sent me a voicemail message. I had to listen to it four times just to figure out on what phone number to call them back, because the person who left the message was mumbling so badly.

If you’re going to leave a voicemail message, be concise, leave your number twice and speak clearly. Keep the message short. Don’t tell people how you won’t be available from 12:00 to 1:00 because you are going grocery shopping, or how you are taking a shower at 3:00 that afternoon.

For business, keep it short but friendly. Say something like, “Hi, it’s David, calling to talk to you about the work we discussed on Wednesday. Have a great day, and I’m looking forward to speaking with you soon.”

For personal, you can leave a message that is something like this: “Hi, it’s Joe. It was so great speaking with you the other day about Italian roast coffee. You know, I Googled that coffee that you liked, and I learned something really interesting about it. Call me and I’ll you something about it.”

It’s always good to bring someone back to the moment when you met them. Also, by doing this you show them you were listening and interested in what they were saying, which will intrigue them even more.

I tell guys all the time that when they meet a woman, they should learn at least three things about her and remember them. That way when you contact her later, you can bring her back to the moment you met.

This technique is important in business too. Let’s say you have been shopping for a new car. When you go to contact a salesperson with whom you spoke at the dealership, you can say “It was great talking to you about the new Audi A4 the other day.” It makes your communication instantly go more smoothly.

So many of you are voicemail mumblers. It’s time to stop being a voicemail mumbler, and to stop putting a strain on people’s eardrums!

For those of you who missed getting my football picks this week, I needed to take a break to attend to my fantasy teams. I am, however, going to give you my pick for tonight’s game.

For tonight, I like the Ravens over the Browns. Boy, that’s a tough one to pick. The Browns are about the worst team in football, and I think a team of teenage girls could probably beat them.

Anyway, enjoy the video and have a great day!

How do you feel when someone tells you anything? Are you always looking for that loophole? Are you always looking for the untruth in what they’re saying to you? Are you always looking for something that doesn’t feel right? Are you someone who just can’t put yourself out there?

It’s funny. So many people in this world — and I don’t respect any of them — try to teach people to meet the opposite sex by turning them into something (or someone) they’re not. What happens when you follow their advice is that when you meet someone, they aren’t really meeting you.

They’re actually meeting a version of you. It might be the superhero version of you, the fantasy version of you or some other version of you, but in any case it’s not you.

The truth is that if you don’t put yourself 100% out there in life — your convictions, your beliefs and everything about you — you’re not going to get the truth back. If you only put half of yourself out there, you’re going to attract people who only put half of themselves out there. In fact, if you only put half of yourself out there then you will attract the kind of person who will ‘Google’ someone before a date to see if what they’ve been told so far is the truth.

The other day I was interviewed for an article in Cosmopolitan magazine. The interviewer asked me if people should ‘Google’ their dates before going out with them in order to find things out about them. My answer was absolutely not!

One of the most destructive behaviors you can have is to make assumptions about someone before you even talk to them and get to know them as a person. Don’t ever assume someone is going to lie to you before you even get to know them.

There is a dating expert out there for whom I have zero respect (and whose name I won’t mention), who advises everyone to ‘Google’ every person with whom they go out on a date prior to the date. I believe that you should trust people, because if you don’t then you don’t trust yourself.

If you’re somebody who’s ‘Googling’ dates and expecting the worst from people because you don’t trust yourself, then it’s time to make a major change. You have to start putting yourself out there, and you must do it 100% every day. Put yourself out there 100% as to who you are, what you’re all about, your convictions and your beliefs.

You’ve got to stop holding back. So many of you don’t trust based on your past. Do you know where that gets you? You get exactly what you had in your past.

You get in life what you put out. If you don’t learn to trust the moment, then you will constantly be recreating past failures based on your mindset and how you react. You’ve got to learn that you only get who you are.

So for all of you who hate the term “trust me” and who are always looking for that “Aha! I knew you were lying” moment, the reason you feel this way is because you’re not honest with yourself. It’s time to get honest with yourself before you actually go and meet people. It’s time to figure out who you are and what you want, and it’s time to be proud of it.

Now, let me give you one word of caution. Even after you figure out who you are and what you want, you’re still going to screw up when you’re out there meeting people. You’re still going to do things that are going to irritate people. You’re still going to get hurt.

That, though, is what life is all about. Just when you think you got it right, you realize you need to figure it all out again. It never ends. Self-growth is a process that never ends until the day you die.