When you’re dating somebody, what are the boundaries? Are there certain relationship boundaries which, if crossed, cause irreparable damage and the ultimate end of most relationships? While I am not usually a fan of hard and fast “rules” for relationships, there are certain dating behaviors which will almost without exception will end a relationship.

What all of these behaviors have in common is that they are violations of another person’s trust. Once one person in a relationship no longer trusts their partner, the relationship will almost certainly end. So to help you ensure that this doesn’t happen in your relationship, here are 6 relationship-ending dating behaviors that should always be avoided: Keep in mind that I am not mentioning the most obvious one which is cheating.

1. Everyone Is Entitled To Their Privacy. What constitutes a violation of someone’s privacy? When, if ever, are you justified in violating your partner’s privacy? If you have an “intuition” about something, does that give you the right to start reading through your partner’s email? To start listening to their voicemail messages? To hack into their other Internet accounts? The answer to all of these is no! To violate someone’s privacy is to violate their trust. You should NEVER dig through someone’s personal emails, or listen to someone’s voicemail messages. By listening to your partner’s voicemail messages or reading their emails, you are violating not only their trust, but also the trust your partner has with anyone who left those voicemail messages and emails.

2. There’s No Such Thing As “A Lie For The Greater Good.” Of course lying is never good in a relationship, although we’ve probably all been guilty of doing it. Certain kinds of lies, though, are far more damaging to a relationship than others. Some people will lie to their partner in certain situations in an effort to avoid hurting them or to avoid having to have a conversation that will be hurtful to them. So although we lie believing we are doing so to “protect” our partner, when that lie is exposed (which it almost always inevitably is) we end up digging a deeper hole for ourselves. When you do get caught in this situation, not only do you end up hurting your partner anyway, but you also end up hurting yourself even more. In life, what you fear will actually manifest – but it will manifest even more severely than you feared. So whatever you were trying to protect your partner from by lying to them will seem worse because of your lie than it would ever have had been if you just were open and honest about it from the get-go. On top of that, you have violated your partner’s trust by lying to them. These kind of lies are almost always relationship-enders.

3. You Are Not James Bond, So Never Spy On Your Partner You are not a spy, so you should never be spying on your partner. You should never snoop in your partner’s private things. That means that you must never look through your partner’s drawers, their wallet, their filing cabinet, or their private records (like their bank or credit card statements). Further, there is nothing that justifies snooping. No matter what you have a “hunch” about, snooping through your partner’s things is never the way to confirm or deny your hunch. It is an absolute violation of your partner’s trust. Your partner’s private business and personal records should be kept private unless they give you permission to look at them. Spying on your partner behind their back James Bond style is one of the most deliberate and blatant violations of your partner’s trust, and will achieve nothing except to have your partner never trust you to be alone near their things ever again.

4. Beware Of Designating Yourself “Magnum P.I.” Another wrong way some people try to verify suspected bad behavior by their partner is to take on the role of private investigator by attempting to “catch their partner in the act” of doing something. Whether this takes the form of searching for your partner’s car by driving by their house, work or gym, or it takes the form of following your partner in your car, this is something you should never do. Even if you believe you have a true “hunch” or “intuition” that your partner is doing something wrong or is hiding something from you, designating yourself as your own private investigator is not only the wrong way to address that, but also frankly smacks of stalker-like behavior. If your partner finds out you’ve been “tailing them” in your car, they will no longer trust you and will likely end your relationship right there and then.

5. Don’t Send Others To Do Your Dirty Work. Don’t ever send a friend or anyone else to gather information for you about your partner or to spy on your partner for you. That means, don’t send a friend to go hang out where you know or suspect your partner will be. Don’t have your friend try to eavesdrop on your partner’s conversations in places they go. Don’t ask your friends to use their cell phone to snap covert pictures of your partner. All of these not only violate your partner’s trust, but also reveal your total lack of trust in your partner. This behavior, if discovered by your partner, will most certainly result in them ending your relationship.

6. Avoid Paranoid And Obsessive Behavior. One of the biggest ways to reveal that you don’t trust your partner at all, is to manifest that distrust with paranoid and obsessive behavior. While calling your partner regularly is quite normal, calling them incessantly to “check up on them” comes off as paranoid and obsessive, and will virtually always drive your partner away. If for example your partner leaves their phone somewhere, and by the time they realize they left it and pick it up two hours later you have called them 50 times, you are not only coming off as being paranoid and obsessive, but you are clearly communicating to your partner that you don’t trust them at all. If you panic every time ten minutes go by without a reply from your partner to a phone call or an email, it sends the exact same message to them. This behavior will not only drive your partner away from you, but the fact that you clearly don’t trust them at all will most likely lead your partner to end your relationship.

So even if you have some type of “intuition” that your partner is doing something wrong, it is better to confront them openly about it and “slug it out” with them than to violate their privacy and their trust by searching for answers behind their back. Even if your partner doesn’t respond to your attempts to talk about it the first, second or third time, chances are that you will get to talk about it – and the outcome of confronting your suspicions openly with your partner will always be better than if your partner discovers you have engaged in any of the behaviors I talk about here.

Finding a great person with whom you want to be in a relationship can be really hard. Once we find somebody, though, we need to understand that our partner’s privacy and trust are boundary lines which must not be breached. Violations of trust like the ones discussed here are some of the quickest ways to kill any relationship.

No matter how much emotion and love exist in a relationship, a relationship cannot survive without trust. Think long and hard before you engage in any of these behaviors. Violating someone’s trust will never take a relationship to a better place. In fact, by doing so you may very well be single-handedly orchestrating the end of what could have been a fantastic relationship.

What is is about men screaming at women to get their attention? Has this ever worked? Do guys actually think women will respond to this . . . or at least women who they would WANT to respond would respond to this? Are these guys as drunk and stupid as they appear to be?

For more about this ridiculous approach, check out today’s video at the end of the blog that I just posted on YouTube. Also, for those of you who want to really learn the right way to approach women, then you’ll really appreciate today’s blog . . .

You know, a lot of you think you know me and a lot of you want to know more about my personal journey to become who I am today. You want to know about fear and how I overcame it.

You read the blogs, you read my newsletters, you watch my videos, and you think you know who I am. In reality, though, you only know what I’m telling you.

In life, you only know what people are telling you. You only know what people are sharing with you. You only know whatever story they’re telling you.

What is your story? People always hide behind stories. Our stories are things we create in our minds and what we share with others.

Every story that I have been sharing with you is my story. You have filled in the blanks. You have decided that I must be a certain way based on the facts I have provided you.

That’s what we do in life. It’s so interesting.

People ask me all the time, “David, Why did you get involved in this business?” Do you know why I got involved in this business? It was because everything I teach is something I once needed to work on myself.

A few months ago I read some of my old journals to my girlfriend. Some of them were over ten years old, and others were over twenty years old. What I found out by reliving my past in those journals is that my own personal experience and personal journey is no different than yours.

I wanted to go out and find love just like many of you. In some of the journals, all I talked about was finding love, believing in love, wanting love . . . and asking why I couldn’t seem to find it.

In one journal I talked about a woman I was with at the time whom I ended up marrying. After I married her, I realized she was not the one for me and I was so frustrated by that. At that moment in my life, I wasn’t sure I would ever find love.

I even become very soured on the idea of love for a while. In one journal entry, I mentioned thinking a friend of mine who was going to propose to his girlfriend was crazy to want to get married.

I was new in the business at that time and, although I was teaching guys how to meet women every day, I was soured on the idea of romance.

I had to work on myself from the inside, just like all of you are doing. So I understand the journey so many of you are on right now.

The reason that I never wanted to teach “pickup” was because I always wanted to be authentic. I want all of you to be authentic.

The only way to find love and a great relationship is to be authentic. The only way to be authentic is to keep working on yourself.

I also learned from my journals that I really struggled for a time with the old “monkey chatter” issue that I talk to all of you about all the time. In some of those old journals I had entries all about what I wished I could say, what I wanted to say, and what I didn’t say to so many different people. My head was so full of monkey chatter, it was ridiculous.

I spent a long time working on myself and getting rid of all that monkey chatter in my head just like you are working on doing. The reason I now have such an amazing relationship is that I can actually tell my girlfriend how I feel.

It is really hard for me still at times to completely share how I feel, but if you are going to be authentic in life (and in dating) then you have got to communicate how you feel without worrying what the response will be. If someone truly loves you, they will process whatever you say to them and give you an honest, real and authentic answer.

The power of self-love and working through all your issues will really allow you to attract the person you want. As I’ve said so many times before (but it’s so true), you attract what you are in life. After doing all this work on myself, I attracted the woman who surpassed all my dreams.

Let’s talk a little about relationships today…

Anyone who has read me knows that there is something I say over and over again (because it is so important!): To be able to truly love yourself and to truly be able to love someone else, you must drop the ego. This is absolutely essential to finding an amazing relationship, but it’s equally critical to maintaining and continually improving a relationship once you’re already in it.

Nothing will kill a relationship (even the best of relationships) more quickly than ego. Here are 6 ways your ego can kill your relationship, and how to avoid having your ego ruin your relationship.

1.Resist The Temptation To Defend Yourself: Think about the number of times you’ve fought with a significant other, and whenever things get a little heated you start to defend yourself. All you hear is you being attacked, and you immediately go into “defending yourself” mode. Do you know that when you defend yourself in a fight, what’s really happening is your ego is defending itself.

It also means that you’ve stopped listening to the other person.  If someone tells you that they don’t like the way you’ve been acting lately, why not hear them out instead of defending yourself? It will almost always create a MUCH better outcome. 

2.To Love Yourself And Someone Else Completely You Must Separate The Ego: In order to truly love someone, you must separate your ego from yourself. This is also true if you want to be able to totally love yourself. Now, I know that in a perfect world, we would never be ego-driven. This is not a perfect world of course, so let’s get real. We are all ego-driven to some extent or another, so let’s acknowledge it and embrace that we need to separate the ego to cultivate and maintain a truly amazing relationship with someone.  

3.Your Ego Can Ruin Any Conversation: The truth is that no matter how much you prepare, plan and hope for a good conversation with your significant other, your ego is the one thing that will consistently ruin any conversation you’re about to have if you let it. 

Let’s say your significant other is frustrated with you in one way or another and really needs to express something about that to you. How do you respond? If you let your ego get involved and you defend yourself, it means that you’re not listening to them.

In order to really listen to somebody, it’s uncomfortable.  Sometimes your significant other has things that are really bothering them about which they want to talk to you, but which you would rather not hear. To maintain a great relationship, however, you can’t let your ego keep you from really listening.

This is a topic that we will go much deeper into another day.

But think about these 3 topics and ask yourself are you guilty of this?

So the next time you see your ego getting involved in your relationship, get rid of it! If you find yourself defending yourself or not allowing you to really listen, then you need to take a step back. Listen carefully to what’s really being said, and use it to create the most amazing relationship.

I bowled a 205!

I know what you’re thinking right now. I have a herniated disc. Is that what it takes to bowl a 205 — to herniate your disc and be put on steroids?

Before you think I spent last night at a bowling alley drinking beer and hanging out in a room full of guys wearing wifebeaters, let me set you straight. I was bowling on a Nintendo Wii.

It was the first time I’d used it. My girlfriend got it for me for Christmas, and it took me six months to get it set up.

According to her, I apparently said sometime I didn’t want that present (although I don’t remember ever saying that). So with my birthday coming up in a few weeks, I figured I’d better get the Christmas present set up before the birthday presents arrived.

Last night my girlfriend thought I didn’t want my birthday surprise, because when we had been walking by a jewelry store I said I didn’t want a money clip we saw in the window. I had the wrong surprise, though, and so now I am walking around all day saying “I want the money clip! I want the money clip!”

Also, before I forget, I need to thank Todd from the blog for the iPhone. Todd and I made a trade. Todd is giving me his old iPhone and I hooked him up with some great stuff.

I still, however, need one more iPhone . . . because it wouldn’t be fair if Daphne didn’t have one too. So I need one. I am willing to do potentially a lot to get it, except switch to AT&T. I really don’t need any rollover minutes; I prefer to roll over in bed.

So here’s the deal. If you have an old iPhone, let’s make a deal! I will be posting the fact that I need an iPhone on the blog until I get one. Need a date? Let’s make a deal. Maybe I’ll let you borrow Daphne for a month to serve as your constant prop and girl-attracting conversation starter. You never know . . . let’s make a deal!

Today’s blog stemmed from something I was thinking about as I was on the beach the morning with Daphne. I got up at 7:45 am this morning because one of Sonja’s instructors at her studio didn’t show up and she had to go fill in and teach the class.

So I got up this Saturday June morning with a Boom Boom in my eye (oops, that’s The Sopranos). As I stood on the beach with summer just about here, I decided to talk about something that is really going to make you think.

It’s going to be short and to the point. I’m going to get you to think about whether you suffer from weekend expectations . . . and, specifically, summer weekend expectations.

Now that it’s summer, are you putting all your eggs in one beach basket? Do you have summer weekend expectations?

Summer is about 90 days long. Are you one of those people who worked really hard to take off a few pounds so that you would look good for the summer? Did you do that because you thought that summer was the season you’d be able to meet someone?

Do you think that every summer occasion is a potential watershed moment in your dating life? Every barbecue, beach party and picnic is potentially THE one you are going to have that life-transforming moment? Do you make summer vacation plans with the same thoughts in your head?

The truth is that summer does not change your mindset. You were brainwashed as a kid. Summer would start, signaling the end of multiplication tables and the beginning of playing kick the can until 9:00 every night. Some of us spoiled kids got to go to summer camp and play with other spoiled kids all day and all night.

Really, though, summer is not like when we were kids. It’s no longer about the expectation of our first kiss and playing day and night, because as kids we didn’t have all the adult fears and excuses.

I’m not trying to poo-poo your summer. I’m trying to give you a little reality here.

Just because it’s summer doesn’t mean your belief system has changed. It’s not like the thermometer automatically warms up your mindset or your attitude. You still have your same shit. It doesn’t just “go away” with the changing of the seasons.

So if you think that summer is going to magically change how you look at things and how things are done, then you need to look at the inside instead of the outside. The beliefs you hold are all on the inside, and they come with you to every barbecue, beach party and picnic.
 
Personally I miss summer as a kid. I had my first girlfriend in the summer. She was one of my first crushes. She had the coolest name too: Summer. I dated Summer in the summer. I called her “my Double Summer.”

Back to the present and it’s “June Gloom” time of the year here in Los Angeles. I live on a beach and can’t swim in the ocean because it’s polluted.

Do you know what though? It’s always summer in my mind, and I’m always enjoying my life. I don’t need a five day forecast or to be invited to the coolest barbecue, because the party is always going on in my mind and life is always amazing.

Have a great June Saturday!

Oh, and one more thing. The new iPhones come out any day now. So remember to get in touch with me if you want to part with your old one!

I had a very eye-opening weekend, and I will be sharing all my thoughts on that (as well as on a number of other things) tonight when I will be interviewed LIVE on my friend’s MatchMatrix Internet radio show.

If you want to hear my views on relationships, and how to super-connect with the opposite sex, then this is one hour that you do NOT want to miss!

If you want to tune in, it is taking place TONIGHT — Monday, June 8, 2009 at 6pm PST, 7pm MST, 8pm CST, 9pm EST.

Click on this link to listen:

http://www.loaradionetwork.com/frank-seifert-and-larry-michel.html

So onto today’s blog, where I am going to give you hopefully a new perspective on the idea of finding love and relationships.

I don’t know about you guys, but I’m getting tired of hearing all the ‘gloom and doom’ about the economy and the state of things in general. There is one thing, however, that is priceless that you can get for free — it’s love.

The one thing in life that is 100% totally free is love. Love doesn’t cost any money. 

Of course, you do have to be willing to “pay” in some senses to find love. The only way to find love is to open yourself up, become vulnerable about who you are, and accept yourself and your quirks.

The truth is, though, that nothing else in life is free except love. With the exception of certain disgusting Los Angeles men or certain other types of very wealthy men who try to do it, you can’t buy love.  You can’t buy someone’s heart, because you can only buy possessions.

So instead of complaining during these tough economic times, you should be focusing on the one thing in life that is free: love. Love for yourself and for other people never costs a penny. With love, it doesn’t matter if you’ve had to take a pay cut at work. You can still always afford it.

You can always consistently be loving yourself and trying to let love in from others. If you aren’t doing this, then you’re missing everything. If you’re sitting home every night with a ‘doom and gloom’ mindset thinking how bad your life is right now, then what kind of people are you going to attract?

So start thinking about a change of perspective. Think about what kind of person you want to be attracting right now. Why not decide you are going to concentrate on finding love with yourself (because if you don’t love yourself you will never have anybody else love you) and love with someone else. Start challenging yourself to find love.

Let’s face it, it’s never good to hear any form of the words “We need to breakup.” If you are hearing those words, though, then you need to know two things. First, you need to know that this happens every day to people (and not just you). Second, and more importantly, you need to know that you can and will feel better.

So let’s talk about what you can do to not just temporarily feel better, but to really get over a breakup. Here are 6 steps to get you totally over a breakup.

1.Ditch The “Poor Me” Syndrome: The first thing you need to do is to stop thinking about all the things you could have done to prevent the breakup. Don’t think about that one time you didn’t call, or about whatever you’re thinking about in this mental mind game through which will be tempted to put yourself.

Instead, really think about why the relationship didn’t work out. There is no one particular event from the past that if you changed it would change the breakup outcome. Breakups are the result of a series of events. So dig deep and think about what this relationship was really about, so that you can embrace the lessons it has for you. Don’t beat yourself up about it.

2.Avoid The Alcohol: Right after a breakup, it may make you feel better to go out drinking with your friends and ‘trash talk’ your ex. The next morning, however, you are going to actually feel even worse. Your friends have great intentions. It would be better for you, however, to go out with your friends and do something fun that doesn’t involve alcohol. Spend the time with your friends really talking about how you feel and having your friends listen.

3.Go Ahead And Grieve: It’s perfectly alright to grieve after a breakup. It’s actually healthy to cry and to grieve when a relationship ends. So don’t be hard on yourself if you want to spend a week crying your eyes out and being really sad. It’s really is quite healthy to get all of that out of your system. The people who suppress all their feelings about a breakup and never allow themselves to grieve are the ones who will never learn the lessons they need to learn from the experience.

4.Put It Down On Paper: Do some journaling and write down all the things you’re thinking and feeling about the breakup. After you’ve shared your feelings with yourself for a few days, you’ll start to notice that you are feeling better. You will be better able to discover the deeper issues that caused the relationship to end. You will also learn what lessons there were for you in that relationship, and become much more clear on what you really want and need in a relationship. So start journaling and start being really honest with yourself.

5.Don’t Give In To “The Replacement Theory”: There are many people who mistakenly believe that the best way to get over someone is by finding someone else to replace them. I call this “The Replacement Theory” of dealing with a breakup. Unfortunately, this strategy will not help you really get over a breakup, and may actually cause you more pain in the future.

Do not start dating someone new too soon after a breakup. Do not start looking for the next relationship before you’ve taken the time to get over the one that just ended. The people who start dating too fast after a breakup usually end up repeating the same failed relationships over and over again. This actually leads me right into my last step.

6.It’s All About You: After a breakup, spend at least thirty days just doing things that you love. Connect with friends. Take long walks. Go and work out at the gym. Do whatever it is that you really enjoy. Do things that are good for you. This time should be spent getting yourself healthy and embracing yourself.

Breakups are hard, but it’s in the aftermath of a breakup that our greatest lessons are learned. If we can learn the real issues that caused the breakup, then we won’t repeat the same failed relationship again. So stop blaming yourself and start looking deep inside yourself. When you do that, you will not just “deal” with a breakup. You will truly get over it.

Even if it’s just 10 minutes driving alone in the car, 20 minutes downstairs meditating, or spending an afternoon just puttering around the house in separate rooms – it doesn’t matter. You still need to get your alone time. Are you in relationship in which you both are always on top of each other? And do you feel like you never get that time to just recharge your batteries?

A lot of people fail to realize that alone time is healthy. Sure, it feels great to be next to your lover at all times. But if you’re with the right person in the right relationship, you could be sitting on the couch, watching a movie or holding hands where you’re both in your own little world, yet you are still connected to each other.

You could recharge your batteries in this way. Or you could be lying in bed next to your lover, reading a book and really getting into what you’re reading. You might be sitting right next to your lover, but you can still have your alone time.

Alone time is great. Going out with your friends is healthy.

How many of you are in relationships – or have been in relationships in the past – where you get shit from your lover whenever you go out with your friends? Does your boyfriend or girlfriend get jealous and pissed whenever you leave them? That’s not healthy.

If you’re in a relationship and your partner is doing that to you, you need to know that you’re in a very unhealthy relationship. Having friends and family and separate lives is what makes the relationship healthy.

Being two unique individuals who get together and combine their lives – yet still have their own separate lives – is the way to go. You should never have to constantly answer to somebody because you went out with your friends.

A friend of mine once wrote to me and said, “David, I just don’t understand. Every time I go out with my friend Bill, my girlfriend gets all pissed off because she doesn’t like him. This is starting to ruin my friendship with Bill and we’ve been friends for 30 years!” She has no right to do that!

Another friend of mine got married to a woman who did not like his mother. Through the course of their marriage, my friend’s relationship with his mother eroded and they lost contact for ten years. My friend’s mother was deprived of meeting her grandchildren.

The minute they got divorced, my friend went and reconnected with his mother. Unfortunately, the kids had been poisoned against their grandmother and didn’t want to meet her.

This is not what life is about! You have to accept who your lover is – their friends, family, and every aspect of their life. If you can’t, then you’re not in a real, healthy relationship!

Now I know some of you are going to rebut today and write to me, “Well I don’t like that he goes out with Dave all of the time because they’re always getting drunk and looking at women.”

That STILL is an immature relationship. But even if he’s getting drunk with his friend Dave and they’re looking at women, he’s still not going home with any of these women.

Men will always look at women. Who cares? It’s time to get secure with yourself and have a real honest and open relationship – this is something I talk about in a lot of my new relationship products.

How do you have an open relationship? I’m not talking about a 70s swinger-type relationship; I’m talking about being open and honest about who you are and being an accepting person.

Isn’t that who you fell in love with – that unique and interesting individual who came into your life? Not a clone, or someone you tried to transform into your ideal mate?

I could not wait till tomorrows blog……I think all of you will enjoy this!

There is no reason in life to take things personally.

If you truly respect yourself – if you really think that you’re a great person – then if someone else doesn’t like you, you won’t take it personally.

It just means that you might have some stuff to work on. You have some stuff to do.

Life is just like a mirror – we attract exactly who we are so we can learn the lessons we’re ready to learn.

So if you’re getting blown off on a regular basis and you’re feeling really bummed and obsessing over it, there is a lesson there that you haven’t yet embraced. You haven’t looked deep enough into it.

You have to look at yourself and think, why am I getting blown off? What am I doing to cause this pattern in my life? Something that you are doing is perpetuating that pattern.

Don’t take the rejection personally, just realize that there is something in your life that you have not done, there is something you need to do to work on yourself first.

You haven’t learned all of the lessons from the relationships you’ve had in the past. Every relationship in your life gives you a lesson that you need to learn from and embrace.

Since I posted this second blog today, I am putting up my podcast and announcement again on here so you don’t miss them! Here they are…

In today’s podcast, I am going to issue a challenge you like none other . . . and you will look at yourself in a way you never have before. I also reveal a SPECIAL OFFER in this podcast, so be sure to check it out!

Click the play button below to listen now:

Now for some great news and a big announcement…

==>Big Announcement<==

As some of you already know, my membership maxed out and has been full since soon after it launched. In fact, we had to put everyone who wasn't able to get a slot on a waiting list.

Well, due to me hiring an additional coach I am now able to accept an additional 125 Members on the membership site! (Because of all the individual coaching and personalized attention that members receive on the site, I strictly limit the number of members in proportion to the number of coaches)

If you want one of those slots, click here:

Once those 125 slots have been snatched up, the site will once again close and I will once again have to put everyone else on a waiting list. So if you want one of these slots, I wouldn’t wait too long to click on the link!

So if you’re getting blown off and thinking to yourself, god, why does everybody hate me, there is something that you are missing; you need to go deeper into it. Look deeper into why you are getting blown off and then work on that part of you.

It could be that you’re too needy on the first date. Maybe people are blowing you off because they see the desperation in you.

It could be that you haven’t gotten laid in a while, and you come in with way too much sexual energy that is overwhelming. Instead of letting the sexual tension build, the woman literally feels your dick growing under the dinner table – and it doesn’t turn her on!

There are a lot of things that you have to start looking at within yourself. Many times people don’t want to look within themselves, but remember that you are the cause and effect of everything you do.

You have to look deeper into it.

Have you guys ever dated someone who is so perfect that everyone who meets them thinks they are the most amazing person in the world? They are warm. They are attractive. They are as nice as can be. They remember your birthday in the most special ways. They call at all the right times. They are totally charming. The sex is even really good.

I mean, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this person. Nothing! They are everything you think you want . . . except you just don’t feel the “it factor.” The “it factor” is that feeling in your heart that you get when you know you are with the right person.

A lot of us will meet these “perfect” people and, because they are such a great person, we will give them an opportunity for a period of time to see if it can work. Some of us will actually give these people an opportunity for a long period of time.

My friend only gave her four months, but I know people (myself included) who have given someone years because you believe they believe you would be a fool to let such a perfect person go. You think to yourself “Is there something wrong with me? I mean, I am staring at perfection and I must be crazy that I can’t seem to feel what I want to feel with this person!”

It is called chemistry. I call it the “it factor.” No matter what you call it, we are all looking for it.

You don’t need to compromise in life. If you don’t have the “it factor” with the person you’re with then you need to ask yourself this question: Why are we wasting each other’s time?

There is no reason NOT to have the “it factor” in your relationship, because it does exist. I have it right now, and it is the most amazing feeling I have ever had.

The “it factor” for me with the person I’m dating means so much more than just being in love with her. I respect her. I honor her. I am more attracted to her than I have ever been to anybody else. She is my best friend and she is everything I always wanted.

I have the “it factor.” Each of you deserve to have the “it factor,” and none of you need to compromise.

On top all this great information I have recorded a Podcast where I talk more in depth about the “it factor” and reveal how you can get attract the “it factor” into your life (and why you should never settle for anything less!). To listen, simply click the play button below:

I have a new product coming out that teaches how to meet the kind of person that makes you feel everything you want to feel with someone, and then how to cultivate the kind of relationship to allow you to really experience that “it factor” at the most amazing level with someone.

It is the first of my brand new relationship management products which I am going to be releasing. It is not yet available for purchase, but I am going to let a few people have a sneak peek. In fact, only 40 people can purchase this product now (and will get a very special deal). . . cause ALL of us deserve the “it factor!” UPDATE: SOLD OUT!!

Let’s talk about building a relationship. It’s really interesting. So many people don’t understand how to build a relationship.

Of course people always come to me seeking advice on how to meet someone, but the question is what do you do once you do meet someone? Whether you’ve just met someone you really like or whether you’re already in the process of dating, how do you build a relationship up so that it’s strong enough to really work out and last?

The most important thing to do to achieve this is to make sure you have open lines of communication. If you are dating someone now, then ask yourself this: Do you do recaps with each other? Something I find really important to building a relationship is as much as possible to recap everything that’s happening between the two of you.

Talk about things. Talk things through.

You know, it’s interesting, because I was dating a woman one time who was definitely a little more conservative than I was sexually. So in order to really to get her to open up sexually with me, we created open lines of communication about sex and really talked about it. You know what happened? She not only opened up sexually with me, she opened up amazingly.

Another time I was dating someone who was really uncomfortable communicating about almost everything. She really was not comfortable communicating about things, especially feelings and emotions. So what I had to do was to make a very safe haven for her to talk about things and to share things with me. Once I did that, she did open up and shared amazing parts of herself with me.

So if something is bugging you, don’t be afraid to talk about it with the new person you’re dating. Opening up the lines of communication like this is the only way you can get in touch with each other, and really start to learn about each other.

Don’t be afraid to say things that are on your mind, because they’re going to find out sooner or later anyway . . . plus, it’s better to find out as much about someone as soon as possible. Think about the alternative. Otherwise six months could go by before something is out in the open, which is six more months that you both have invested your hearts into the relationship and each other.

My suggestion, then, is to go and really open up a distinct line of communication with the person you’re dating. Be open. This will not only make it more likely that you will be able to build a strong relationship, but it will enable you to create a deeper connection and unique bond with each other.

So communication is really, really important to building a strong relationship. It’s very important to have open lines of communication at all times, because when you do you are able to establish a relationship that keeps getting better and is better than any relationship you’ve had in the past.