The other night I was kind of just sitting around, and I started reminiscing a little bit. Then I started thinking to myself, “God, it’s amazing.” I read all your posts on the blog and on YouTube. I see all of you struggling so much either trying to meet someone, to work on aspects of your relationship or to work on aspects of yourself. What I realized was that I think a lot of you are missing the point.

Here’s the story I want to share with you. When I was nineteen years old, I was really skinny. I know I’m not exactly the bulkiest guy in the world right now. At nineteen, though, I was really thin. I was a ‘tall drink of water’ — tall, lean and thin.

Then I saw the movie Flashdance. As most of you know, Flashdance was a hot, sexy dance movie. After seeing it I thought to myself, “I really want to be in that type of shape where I can just rock it at all times.”

The minute the movie ended, I went into the basement of the house I was renting in college and I started working out. I haven’t stopped since that day.

I have been working out since I was nineteen, and I’m now 47 years old. I’ve been working out consistently for 28 years.  

When I was in my 20s, I was a big guy. I was bulky, big around the neck, and had big arms and shoulders. Now, at 47 years old, I’m more lean again.

The one thing that will never change about me is being in shape. I will always be in shape.

Why? Because I work at it every day. Every single day I do something.

last night a took a long walk on the beach after we had dinner. The day before that I did weights.  Tomorrow I’m probably going to go for a bike ride.  The day after that I’m probably going to go do some more weights, maybe do a little bit of stretching and Pilates.  

No matter what it is, every day I’m doing something. It might be for half an hour, 45 minutes or an hour. It doesn’t matter. The reason why I do it every day is because I believe there is no reason for me not to look good, and not to feel good about who I am and what I’m all about.

Why should I look flabby? Why should my woman look at me and think to herself, “God he looked so much better six months ago. Why doesn’t he look that good now?”

That’s the message I want to get through to all of you. The message is that if you want to achieve goals, you’ve got to painfully do something every day.  

Do I enjoy working out?  Some days I hate it.  Do I enjoy taking a long walk? Sometimes I love it, but other times I just don’t want to do it.  

I do it not only to look good, but also because it makes me feel good. I like to feel tight. I like to feel ripped. I like to feel my body.

I don’t like to feel flabby in any way. I wouldn’t want to see myself with a big belly.

Is this all ego? There’s probably a little bit of ego involved, but a big part of it is the way it makes me feel. I feel great.  

All of you need to realize that in order for you to get good at something, you’ve got to do the work. You’ve got to drag your ass out there every single day. You’ve got to drag yourself out there even on days you don’t want to drag yourself out there.

You have no choice but to drag yourself out there and get things done.  If you want to become good at something, then you’ve got to do it every single day (including on days you don’t want to do it).

So even when it’s cold or raining, you’ve got to get to the gym or get out there and meet people or do whatever it is that you have set as a goal for yourself. If you want to become a good conversationalist, for example, you’ve got to talk to everybody . . . and you’ve got to do it every day.

So many of you will get so frustrated — so painfully frustrated — while you’re working on a goal. It will drive you up the wall. It will drive you crazy. You’ll get so frustrated, it’s ridiculous.

You’ve got to work through those frustrations.  I was so proud when I had that realization the other day that for the last 27 years I’ve worked through my frustrations and therefore can look in the mirror today knowing I’m in as good shape now as i was in at age nineteen.

Do you know how that makes me feel? I’ve got a herniated disc. You would never know it by looking at me . . . ever. I move well. I’m strong. That makes me feel great!

I’ve got a blown shoulder.  I can move through that pain, and I’m strong as can be.  

How about getting blown off by a woman once in a while. That is a frustration that I know many of you face. All of you can blow right through all that stuff. I know you can. I know every one of you can.

You’ve just got to persevere. You’ve just got to drag yourself out there every day and work on the things you need to work on. You can do it. I know you can do it.

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