Yesterday we all went to Spitalfields Market, and everyone met so many cool women. For those of you who are in London, Spitalfields is a must. I ate so much great food again, I really stuffed myself. Then we sat to digest for a bit as I lead a really “heavy” discussion on dating!! Bo-bump-bump…pshhh!
You know that sound, that “bo-bump-bump” drum sound you hear at a bad comedy show? You know what “bo-bump-bump” is? That’s not just reserved for late-night talk shows, it’s also you when you become Punch-Line Guy.

Are you the guy that read somewhere on the Internet that women are really attracted to the funny guy? So now, in every conversation you have, you always want to make sure that you can show you’re funny, that you get the punch line out as quickly as possible? Basically you are punch line guy. You’re that guy who, within a minute of a conversation, whatever the topic, you have to end the conversation with this funny joke (well, at least that you think it’s funny).

Here’s the deal guys: That really takes both you and her out of a moment that could have been special. Punch-line guys tend to kill conversations because there’s not much to go on after you spew your cheesy punch-line. Especially if the punch line wasn’t that funny, maybe she’ll chuckle a little bit and then she’ll just realize the conversation is ending.
What most punch-line guys do is they just end the conversation with that mediocre punch line, they don’t keep it rolling. They take a perfectly good conversation and they feel like they have to spit the joke out somewhere to show her that they’re funny.

The reality is that you have plenty of chances to show her that you’re funny—at the right moments. But your problem is that you can’t risk waiting to be naturally funny, waiting to be funny at all the right moments. You have to do it now, you have to try to create the punch line moment because this is the ONLY moment to show her you’re worth getting to know.
I know what this is like because I used to be punch line guy. I was the class clown, I used to sit back and wait for my punch line in class. When I was first learning to talk to women, I’d always anticipate and wait for the punch line. I’d throw it out there and expect a big laugh but I never realized, when I was younger, that actually killed a lot of good conversations because I was killing the momentum.

All the punch line does is show that you’re not really listening and adding the conversation, it just shows that you want to be the center of attention, because that’s what punch line guy really is. He wants to be validated, he wants people to think he’s funny, and he wants to be the center of attention. So the next time you have your punch line guy moment, think to yourself, Is this really a proper moment for the punch line? Think about that. Will it keep the conversation flowing, or will it end the conversation like it has in the past?

Anyway, this woman comes out and starts talking to one of the guys who works there and says, “Everyone is sick. Everyone!” I am not sick. She was not sick. The guy to whom she said it wasn’t sick.

Nevertheless, according to her EVERYONE is sick. It just made me realize that so many people out there are over-exaggerators.

Ask someone how far away something is from home and they will tell you, “It’s a million miles away.” Really? A million miles? You’re going to drive a million miles?  Okay, sure.

Ask someone how good a restaurant is and they will say, “Everyone says it’s great.” Who is ‘everyone?’ Have you spoken to every single person?  

I also love when people tell you that everyone is sick — like the whole world is sick. Everyone on the planet is walking around sick.

These over-exaggerators are funny because they’ll over-exaggerate about everything. Everything.

How long does it take to get there?  According to the over-exaggerators, “Oh, at least ten hours.” Meanwhile, it only took two hours. They over-exaggerate about every little thing.  

Hearing so many people over-exaggerating made me feel compelled to write this blog. It’s not just that people over-exaggerate, it’s that these over-exaggerators come in all different shapes and sizes.  

An over-exaggerator goes out on a Friday night, and the next day you ask them, “How was your night?” The over-exaggerator will inevitably say, “Oh, everyone seemed to be having a bad time. Everyone thought it was a horrible party.”

Over-exaggerators somehow seem to know everyone’s opinion about everything and everyone’s state of being. Everyone is sick. Everyone had a terrible time.

So it was funny. Just as I was thinking about writing this blog, I sneezed (away from everybody of course). There was a woman about 25 feet behind me. She got immediately uptight and walked to the other end of the parking lot . . . because everyone is sick.

The bottom line is that it’s the over-exaggerators who are the people who usually get sick. They over-exaggerate themselves into sickness.

You think you have flaky people in Missouri, right? You have flaky people in Vegas? You have flaky people all over Southern California, right? And there are flaky people all over Jersey and New York, right? And in Arizona…

But here’s the thing about flaky people: they don’t exist. If someone flakes on you, it just means that they are not really that sure about you. They are just indecisive about if they are into you or not.

We all flake on people that we’re indecisive about. Do you know how many times I’ve been invited to a party or out to dinner with some people, and then at the last minute I realize that I really don’t want to go? And I bail out.

Does this make me a flaky person? No, it’s just because the people that were invited to the party just didn’t really intrigue me enough to want to go. It wasn’t worth my time to go.

Client: You said you were going to go in the first place?

David: Of course! We always accept those invitations before we think about it.

Client: Yeah, we all do that to a degree.

David: Right, and then later – at the last minute – we realize that the person that we’re going to go hang out with doesn’t really excite us, so why are we going to go give up one of our nights?

So when people bitch and complain about people being flaky in terms of dating and other things, I just tell them to let it go. You just didn’t excite them enough, and for once you’re on this end of the stick. More often you’re the one flaking on somebody.

If someone is truly excited about hanging out with you, they are not going to break the plans. If they do have to break the plans, they will say something to you like, “something at work just came up, can we do something tomorrow night?”

Khiem: And if you seem to be meeting constant flakes, well, then you just aren’t exciting or intriguing enough.