As usual the year is moving along at a rapid pace.

One month from today is my birthday, so this will be your only reminder to make sure that you spoil me on my birthday!

I have a question for all of you today.

How fun are you?

Are you able to get out of your head and just let go, without thinking of how others perceive you?

I show you how on today’s podcast, listen now below!

Click Here To Download Today’s Podcast!

As well as a podcast today, I want to share this video with you.

When I was in London last month we did a get out of your head exercise during the bootcamp.

Check out how we go out of our heads and became the life of the party in London.

And for those of you who are thinking of a bootcamp.

I only have 3 left this year, so check out the schedule below and if your interested shoot me an email so we can go over all the details.

Bootcamp Schedule

June 10th – 12th
The Only 2011 New York City Bootcamp for Men
1 slots left!

July 15th – 17th
Toronto Bootcamp for Men with myself and Marni from Wing Girls.
5 slots left!

October 28th – 30th
London Bootcamp for Men
5 slots left!

When you’re hanging out with friends on a Sunday, do you have a good time?

Do you go to places you enjoy? Or do you go to places you hate, just because you think you might meet somebody – for example, standing in a bar, bored out of your mind, hands in your pockets playing pocket pool?

Remember pocket pool? It was something that all young boys used to play all the time during the age when the random boner would pop up out of nowhere.

I remember that random boner stage so well – I remember Lisa Rutman in my 9th grade Spanish class, and how I got a D one semester because I sat next to Lisa Rutman and just stared at those perky breasts the entire semester.

Breasts were quite a fascination to me for quite sometime during my teenage years. I remember one time Mr. McBride called me up and said, “Davíd,” (because we were in Spanish), and he told me to go up to the board and write down an answer from last night’s homework.

I had done my homework the night before (one of the rare occasions) but because of the perky breasts and the random boner phase I was in, I was not eager to go up to the front of the classroom right then. He looked at me and said, “Davíd, you never want to come up to the board, but this time you have to!”

So I had this huge erection that I had no idea what the hell to do with, but luckily I had learned the ‘upward tuck’ move at a very young age. So I quickly put my hand in my pocket and I took my boner and tucked it up near my belt loop area – the upward tuck.

The problem with the upward tuck is that the boner always starts to do the sideways dance and then you’re in trouble. You look like you have a young bulge in your pants.

Luckily that day I was able to keep my boner in the upward tuck while I was up at the board by focusing on my stimulus (Lisa Rutman’s breasts.) I limped back to my seat and back into my fantasy world.

But this blog is not about 14-year-old’s spontaneous erections. Thank god we no longer have those! Can you imagine sitting in your office cubicle?

Back to the blog: do you have fun in your life? Do you do things that are fun? At the end of the week, do you judge the week based on the amount of phone numbers you got or the number of women you met? Or do you judge it on the amount of great times you had?

We were just walking down Main Street in Santa Monica – something I’ve done thousands of times. I really enjoy it; I like the shops, I like the people that run the shops.

I hate the drivers around here though. Here is an open note to anyone who drives 31 miles per hour in the left hand lane: if people are honking at you all the time, it’s about you! It’s not about them! You didn’t just happen to drive near all of the assholes on the road, YOU are the asshole! So wake up, use your rearview mirror and check out how many angry drivers are behind you!

So now that we’ve discussed spontaneous erections and bad drivers let’s get back to the matter at hand. So we were on Main Street and just enjoying ourselves. We walked into this one furniture store that I’ve been into before, and I always seem to take bootcamp guys into – there are a couple of really cute girls that work there!

I went in there, and I looked at a couch, and I said, “that looks really comfortable, do you mind if I sit down and take a nap?” She replied, “sure! No problem,” and then she said, “you’ve been in here before, what’s your name?” I told her my name, and she told me hers (which of course I’ve already forgotten, which is very typical of me) and then we started talking.

Soon another salesgirl and the other guys sat down and then we had a group of people sitting down and talking on the couches while other customers came in that they ignored!

Bottom line: do you have fun? If you have fun, people are going to be attracted to you and your energy.

People aren’t going to be attracted to you because you drive 31 in the left lane when the speed limit is 50, and they are definitely not going to be attracted to you if walk around with a random boner in the upward tuck position, but they will be attracted to you if you’re having fun!

Todays video goes even deeper into how to create this powerful attraction.

Guy: “Are you having a good day?”
You: “Yes.”
Guy: “What are you having for lunch?”
You: “A sandwich.”
Guy: “Do you like sandwiches?”
You: “Yes.”

This was probably about as painful to read as it would be for the poor guy trying to get this conversation going. The point I’m trying to illustrate with this hypothetical is this: You need to stop giving one word answers.

It’s funny, because I get complaints about this from guys all the time. I hear over and over again about how they will finally approach a woman who has been looking at them for the last two hours, then when they try to initiate a conversation with her she will keep just giving these one word answers.

You can’t create a conversation with someone who only responds with one word answers. It’s impossible, because you are providing no information from which someone can work off of to keep a conversation going.

If you answer a man’s question with a one word answer, then at a minimum also respond with a follow-up question. If I ask you if you are enjoying your day and you answer “yes,” then at least add on something like “How about you?” or “Are you enjoying your day?”

See how simple that is to do?

If a guy in a coffee house asks you if that is your favorite coffee house, instead of responding with just “no”as your answer, try following that up with something like “I like the one on 5th and Main a lot better because it has my favorite kind of coffee.”

By giving one word answers, you’re not giving any conversation back to a guy. You’re not giving any bits of information from which the guy can work to build a conversation with you.

Whether you give one word answers because you’re nervous around a guy or for some other reason, the fact is that if do that then he is going to walk away . . . and he will do so seeing you as the “one word answer” kind of girl. If you are a “one word answer” kind of girl, you need to start giving guys who approach you and try to start a conversation a little more information to help him communicate with you better.

I have found that a lot of women are “one word answer” women and will do this. Even if they are attracted to and interested in a guy, they will still give only the one word answers when he tries to initiate a conversation with her.

What is unbelievable is that after the guy will walk away from her, this same woman will go back to her friends perplexed about why the guy walked away and say “I don’t know what happened. I tried to talk to him but he wouldn’t talk.” The truth, of course, is that it was she who wouldn’t talk.

So the next time you catch yourself giving one word answers when you’re talking to a guy, try to add a question or a statement on to your answer. If you and I were talking, you could do it in this way:

David: “So are you the type of woman who gives one word answers?”
You: “Yes. I’d really like to stop doing that right now though.”

See that can lead to a conversation, because I’d then look at you and be able to get a real conversation going:

David: “Really? Why do you want to stop giving one word answers?”
You: “Because, David, I want to meet some great men and I’m sick of losing the opportunity to meet great men because I always only give one word answers.”
David: “Well, what type of men do you like?”

The conversation would keep building from there. You can see how by getting rid of the one word answers that a conversation was able to be developed.

So, now, it’s time for you to get rid of the use of one word answers in your conversations with men for good. Go out there and practice and pretty soon it’ll be easy for you to do it every day.