We all have a friend like that. We all have those types of friends that are constantly bitching and complaining about their life bitching and complaining about their situation, but they never really listen to you.

The question I always ask everybody is why do we remain friends with that person? Because those types of people come to you for advice but never listen to it anyways. They solicit your advice non-stop and yet they talk about the same thing over and over again. Maybe it’s a relationship, maybe it’s work, whatever it might be, and you tell them the same things over and over again.

I’ve got a friend who constantly tells me that he’s in bad shape. He’s been doing it for 20 years. I constantly tell him the same thing — you need to start working out, you’ll feel better about yourself. He says I know, I know, I know. The next time I see him he says the same thing, but yet he never takes the advice.

What Is A Bitch

The problem in life is a lot of people look for advice, they seek advice, they love it. They’re all about seeking advice, seeking help, but what happens is they never act upon it. They’re talkers not doers, they just want to vent, but yet they never want the solution.

Do any of you know people like this, and what do you say to those friends? Do you keep offering the same advice over and over again? Or do you tell them, I’ve been giving you the same advice for 20 years, you never listen? How much can we put up with in life? I want you guys to think about that one today.

How many of you find yourself typing away on the Internet, or playing on Facebook chatting up old friends that you haven’t seen in 25 years, at 11:00 each night? How many of you come home from work, watch television, get on the Internet, and then do nothing but sleep when you crawl into bed next to your lover?

Before the Internet existed, we needed to get creative to have intimacy. We actually lit candles. We actually had long conversations. We actually talked on the phone.

The Internet sucks us in now. It’s like a void. Before you know it, you have seven different windows open simultaneously with different things to which you need to respond. You might even be reading this blog instead of being in bed with the one you love.

In fourteen years of being a dating and relationship coach, I’ve found that most people retreat to the Internet because they don’t know how to retreat and connect with their lover anymore. The Internet really is one of the biggest intimacy killers.

I was recently traveling abroad with my wife, and I brought my laptop along (which I almost never do). I found myself feeling like I needed to keep in touch with people business-wise. I even found myself actually reading articles or reading the ESPN website instead of walking on the beach and connecting with my wife.

The Internet really sucks you in. It’s an addiction. It’s an addiction that could be as bad as drinking and drugs.

So many of us spend so much time on the Internet instead of spending time connecting with other people. Instead of going out and meeting actual human beings with whom we can develop a relationship, we spend time chatting online with people we barely know.

So, here’s a suggestion for everyone . . .

Bookmark a few of your favorite sites. When you get home, relax a little bit and spend some time on the Internet reading things.

Then when you have dinner with your significant other, sit there and just talk. Relax and enjoy each other’s company.

When it comes down to intimacy, if the only intimacy you are having right now is with your fingers typing on a keyboard, I strongly suggest that you start realizing how the Internet is killing any intimacy in your life. Realize how it’s killing your connection with your lover and with your friends.

So here we are sitting in the same waiting room. We kind of looked at each other, but gave each other the ‘don’t really remember you’ type of look.

You know that look. It’s the one you give when you know someone but you really don’t want to talk to them. You’re really not friends with them anymore, you haven’t seen them in so long and you were only acquaintances when you did know them.

In this situation when confronted with this person, the two people usually do one of a few things. You can look away after you make eye contact, as if to say “Oops, our eyes didn’t meet so it’s okay not to say hello.”

I love that feeling when all of a sudden you look directly at somebody that you know, but you don’t want to talk to them so both of you look at each other then look off into the distance. It’s almost like you’re looking for a boat on the horizon. You’re looking for that ship that’s coming in, or you look down on the ground (or on a shelf if you’re in a market) and you reach for something you don’t even want just to carry out the rest of the charade. You don’t care what you grab as long as you don’t have to talk to this person to whom you don’t want to talk.

It’s funny how we do that. We just want to stay alert. We’ll just look directly at them — not five feet away from them — and we won’t say a single word.

Let me tell all of you something. This is not a good thing to do.

Here’s the way I look at life. Life is a series of networks. Life is a series of contacts. You never know who that person may become at this point in your life, to whom they might be able to introduce you, or what kind of advice they might give you that you need.

I truly believe that when you’re in a place and you run into somebody like this, that there is a reason why you’re running into them. So instead of looking away or looking at them without saying something, re-engage them.

Say something like, “Hey, I haven’t seen you in years! What’s going on with you?” It’s a lot healthier and a lot smarter (especially if you’re single). You never know to whom this person might introduce you.

Even if you’re not single, you don’t know business-wise to whom this person might introduce you or whether this person may be someone you need (business-wise or personally) in your life right now.

So never do the ‘look away’ and never do the ‘look at each other like you don’t know each other’ things. They are counter productive and I was guilty of it today. Learn from my experience. I’ll see you guys tomorrow.

If you’re somebody who sits by your computer answering every email as soon as it comes in and you think you’re being proficient by doing so, you’re wrong. You’re actually not being proficient, because what is really happening is that you are allowing yourself to be at the beck and call of all the noise coming into your inbox.

Every single time you hear a beep signaling a new message has arrived in your inbox, do you know what that is? It’s an intrusion.

It’s basically somebody saying, “Answer me right now!” It’s almost like a two year-old throwing a temper tantrum in a supermarket. If you give into that temper tantrum, you made the biggest mistake in the entire world.

You don’t give the little tyrant a Popsicle, when it’s not time for a Popsicle. You reward the Popsicle when it is time for the Popsicle. Answering that email is basically rewarding somebody for intruding on your life.

If you’re in the middle of doing something and you get an email, it’s called noise. So when you’re going out and meeting people, your friends being with you out there are also noise.

All of a sudden you go and see a woman you’re attracted to and you want to talk to her. If you engage in conversation with your friend about it, your friend is going to be noise. “Ah, man, you can’t approach her right now. It doesn’t look like she wants to talk.” Noise. Negativity and noise.

You’re most efficient when you are by yourself. So when you decide to go out and practice meeting people to work on your social life, it should be like going on a date with yourself.

The most important thing to do is to be by yourself, go out there, and not have anybody judge you. Friends are noise, just like that annoying text or email that comes in.

Why do we have to answer our texts and our emails right away? We don’t.

We also don’t need to drag somebody along when we’re going out trying to meet somebody. So when you guys go out and meet people, do it alone.

Great weekend here with 7 guys for the LA bootcamp!!!

How was everyone’s weekend?

Today I was thinking.

Do you enjoy the people who you hang out with?

Do you have a good time with your friends?

Or are you just hanging out with them because they are the people that go to the right places on Friday night? Or are they people that make it easier to meet women?

Life is about attraction. It’s about attracting people into your life in every way.

So really: who are your closest friends? Are they people that you really love? Are they people who you really enjoy being around? And are they people who you have a really great time with?

Or are you just hanging out with people that only serve your needs? Because if you hang out with them, you can get invited to the right parties?

If you’ve listened to my products, read the blog regularly, or met me in person, you understand that I’m not about chasing; I’m about attracting. If you’re with people who don’t make you feel good or aren’t fun to be with – the woman or man who you’re hoping to attract will look at you and wonder about your own character.

Are you someone who doesn’t drink, but you go out a lot with a friend who can’t handle his alcohol? Do you end up spending the entire night taking care of him? Do you know that people look at you and wonder why you’re hanging out with that person?

They don’t see you taking care of that person – they don’t see the nurturing side of you. They’re just wondering about your character – why you’re with that obnoxious person.

I remember Rey was out one time with a friend of his who thought it was funny if he peed outside waiting in line at a club. I remember Rey telling me this story. Everyone looked at HIM, not at his ass of a friend. They were wondering about Rey’s character: why would he go out with somebody who would pee outside in public?

I’m not making this stuff up. You’re perceived through your friends. When women meet you, they are looking at your friends. When men meet you, they are thinking, “Hmm, let me find out something about her (or his) character.” That’s how people judge and evaluate you.

So really, who are your friends? And do they truly represent who you are as a person?

Not only that, but Verizon has the WORST rates when you travel internationally. When I’m traveling abroad, the last thing I want to do is roam on some ridiculous network when T-Mobile is worldwide.

But this blog is not about cell phone service – if it were, I would talk about the new, cool, exciting phones that have just come out and why I don’t have an iPhone. Do you know why I don’t use the iPhone? Because I can use my BlackBerry Pearl and type on it with one hand – I get 400 emails a day – and I can whip right through them.

If I had the iPhone, I’d have to dance around with my pointer finger and try to find everything. I like the fact that it has really fun little graphics, but I sit in front of my 24” Mac all day – I don’t need to be on the internet while I’m driving!

Then again, sitting in LA traffic is so bad, I could probably use the time to be on the internet, but I’d rather be cursing at the people in front and to the sides of me who are staring and almost running into me.

But this blog is neither about bad driving or the power of your cell phone network – or, as they say globally, your mobile.

This blog is about the power of your personal network.

Stop for a second and think about your network: who do you know? If an emergency came up, who do you know? Are there doctors in your network? Do you have doctors as friends that you can call up and get their medical opinion – without having to wait for an appointment?

Do you have a veterinarian friend that you can call up when there is something wrong with your dog? Someone you can trust? Someone who won’t charge you $80 a visit to find out that it was nothing but common diarrhea?

What about clothing and fashion? Do you know people that work in the stores you shop in? Do you know people that call you when something good comes in that would be perfect for you?

Do get deals? When you go out at night, do you get a free drink or appetizer because you are just a great person that connects with people? Do you know people in all different places?

How about when you go buy a car? Instead of getting red-penned to death by the salesclerk – going back and forth bargaining – can you walk into a car dealership and get a low, rock bottom price just because you know people there and you’re respected?

How big is your network?

What about when you go to the airport – they only have one seat left in first class and you’re out of certificates – but because you got friendly with the person behind the counter, they slide you into the seat with no questions asked (and no extra charges?)

What about when you check into a hotel that you’ve been to before? Do they remember you and upgrade you to a suite just because you remembered to ask about their dog or their cousin that was about to get married?

How big is your network? All of the time that you spend chasing the opposite sex – are you attracting people into the power of your network? Are you expanding your social circles?

Are you becoming a more powerful person, or are you just walking around trying to validate yourself by meeting people of the opposite sex?

My network is huge. I just had a question about this cyst that Daphne has, called three people up in a span of five minutes and got an answer – through my network.

Next time you have something going on, who are you going to call?

Instead of chasing the opposite sex, learn to attract the opposite sex and attract a more powerful network by being a more powerful person!

Todays video is all about how to overcome approach anxiety forever!!

Its Saturday time to become a tourist in your own town.