You take a deep breath. You sigh, say, “Well . . . maybe not tonight, I’m comfortable right now. I’m cozy in my house.” So you get undressed slowly. Maybe wash up a bit, run a bubble bath. You slip into your pajamas, maybe slip on your little shorts and a comfy oversized t-shirt.

Now you’re starting to get in the mood a bit. You put on some soft music, dim the lights down, and you say to yourself, “Hmm . . . maybe I’ll get my toys out tonight and have a little fun. I’ll go out next week to meet someone special, but for tonight it’ll just be me and my electronic toys to keep me satisfied.”

So there you are, another night, home alone with your electronic toys.

But as you’re home alone stimulating yourself with your toys, you start to think how you’re almost addicted to the whole thing. It’s just easier than the effort you have to put in to go out and get some real human contact. “This is ridiculous,” you say to yourself. “I really need to stop relying on these toys to satisfy my needs. I should really force myself to go out, meet new people, find someone who I connect with, and then I wouldn’t be so electronic-toy-dependent.”

So you stare at the toy you’ve got in your hand and think to yourself how you can stop using this thing. It’s always so fun with it. It allows you to dream and to fantasize in any which way you want. So how do you break up with it?

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You need to say to your toy, “How do I stop you from sucking me into your world? Damn you, electronic toy! You’re killing my social life, and it’s time for me to cut you off! I don’t care if I can play golf as Tiger Woods, and I don’t care if I can be Michael Vick in Madden NFL. You’re killing my chances and meeting people. Damn you, X-Box, stop sucking me into this electronic world!”

If you’re one of those guys that gets stuck in electronic gamer-land and you’re frustrated about your social life, it’s time your really started limiting your electronic toy time and went out to meet some new people. There is no X-Box game that teaches you how to meet women. There’s no X-Box game where you can go and practice your conversation skills with women. Really the only thing your X-Box does is ruin your chances at becoming a social person, you’re allowing yourself to rely on your electronic crutch so much that you don’t even care about the real world out there that’s so much more fun to play in.

So the next time you get the urge to mentally masturbate inside your X-Box, I suggest you go out and start talking to people instead. Every time you’re about to reach for the electronic toy, head out instead and break that X-Box habit.

You stand there and spend your entire night just lurking. You don’t really talk to anybody. You never look like you are having much fun.

Maybe a woman will come into the area where you’re standing every so often. You will start a conversation with her that lasts for about fifteen seconds. You smile while you’re having that conversation, but yet she leaves. Every time this happens you wonder, “Why is she leaving?”

She leaves because you are the lurker! You are the guy who is lurking around, not looking confident, and not looking like you are having fun.

Does that describe you? Are you that person? Are you that lurker?

If you are, then you need to really start working on yourself. Here’s why . . . and here’s exactly how you come off to women when you are a lurker.

When you go out to a bar and lurk, the longer you do it the more it repels people. Women notice guys who are standing there doing absolutely nothing but looking around and lurking.

The lurker is usually the guy who is always looking around. He never really looks at his friends. He may technically be talking to his friends, but his eyes are always wandering and looking elsewhere. His head looks a little like Linda Blair in The Exorcist — it’s always spinning around wondering where the women are.

It’s almost as if he is thinking, “Where is the girl? Where is the girl? Where am I going to find her?” The problem is that when you are the lurker, there is no way in the world you are going to have the guts to go and talk to her — even if you do find her.

You have to start figuring out who you are when you go out at night. One of the best exercises you can do is to go out to the bar and identify yourself through observing other people.

Are you the lurker? Are you ‘entrance man?’ Whom in the bar are you like?

When you find that person you are like, take some time and watch ‘yourself.’ See how you act. See how you come off to people. See how people respond to you.

If you are not successful in a bar, then you probably are a lurker. So go ahead and watch ‘yourself’ as the lurker — watch a fellow lurker so you understand why you are not having much success.

Connecting with women is very simple. Make an observation, react, talk about the observation further. Speak with clarity, conviction and confidence. It is no different in a bar than anywhere else.

I don’t write about bars that often, but in reality they are a blast. They are a blast when you understand the dynamics of human communication. If you are a lurker, though, you don’t get it yet.

So look in the mirror. If you are a lurker, admit it and go seek medical help. Okay, you probably don’t need medical help — but you do need to seek my help!

Where should we meet for Happy Hour.

Where can we get cheap drinks and even cheaper food as well as an abundance of hot women to flirt with while we pound back the drinks and get all drunk.

Something about this really does not sound fun when you see it in print!

Nothing turns a woman off more than a bunch of testosterone-laden men cruising the bars like a pack of hungry, drunk wolves searching for their next kill on a Friday or Saturday night. Does this behavior sound appealing to you?

How would you like to be a woman and feel this energy directed towards you week in and week out?

Yet I’m sure this is what you probably do with your buddies on a Friday or Saturday night. Most men and women go out in packs.

Women go out in the “bitch cliques,” and you know exactly what I mean here. There’s basically one bitch in the clique who’s the downer for the whole group, but yet women invite her along out of guilt.

See, women are emotional creatures, and they feel they need to invite “Poor Mary the Downer” along. Men go out in packs which, if you ask any woman on a street corner today if she finds drunk men with a pack mentality interesting, she’ll tell you that it is one of her biggest turn-offs. Is this fun?

If you want to seriously meet quality women, then you’re not going to meet them hanging with your drunk wolf-like friends. Women notice when you stare at them like a piece of meat.

The other night I was out with a client, and these two women walked into the lounge and immediately every horny, drunken man in the place stared at them like they were fresh roadkill. By the time they made it to the bar, they had three groups of men lay cheesy pick up lines on them.

So what did these women do after they got their drinks? They ran to a corner and turned their backs on the entire place.

So how do you meet women like this? You do it by running alone and meeting them in times they’re most vulnerable.

When are they vulnerable? All day Saturday after they’ve been attacked by the drunken, testosterone-laden wolves on a Friday night.

They are well aware that they haven’t met somebody. They’re also well aware that they haven’t had sex in awhile, or that it’s been awhile since their last relationship.

And in their minds, they want to meet that strong, confident man in a random location. So they don’t have to go out and be attacked by the wolf pack mentality.

So the next time you see a woman on a Saturday morning at a coffee shop, play the odds. The odds are she had a crappy night the night before.

So walk over and ask her how her day was. Be blunt. Get to the point. Talk to her. She’s going to be so open to your approach because of the wolf pack the night before.

It’s all about understanding how a woman thinks. Whenever I work with a client, I always tell my client that every woman that’s out on a Friday night are ours to meet all day Saturday. From the malls to the coffee shops, you get them one-on-one.

The odds are in your favor. Play the odds.

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So right after I had this dream, I got my ass to a spin class (because through watching Lost I see that you can end up living in your dreams). After traveling to the land of the heavy, I know I prefer to stay thin so I took a spin class with my girlfriend.

My question is this: Who invented this thing? You’ve got this crazy person on a microphone barking out orders to you and giving you pretend scenery to look at while you’re pedaling on a stationary bike. I mean, really, this is supposed to be exciting?

By the way, do you know that you are every character in your dreams? That, however, is a conversation for another day . . . because today we’re going to talk about how to really have fun tonight if you are heading to a bar and its May 1st is anyone else wondering how that happened so fast!

One of the best social experiments I’ve ever conducted was at a bar one night with a friend. We were in this really packed bar, and everyone was there on the hunt – the guys were there eyeing the girls in their packs – you know those packs, right? Where they are protecting each other from those annoying guys?

So we just stood right in the middle of the bar. We were just talking about our relationships, our friends – it was just a really passionate conversation. We were animated; there were hand motions and eye contact between the two of us.

And women were coming over to us all night long, asking, “What are you guys talking about?” “My friends and I were just wondering what you might be talking about so intensely?” “Can we join in on the conversation?”

They were coming over and throwing themselves on us all night long. Why? Because we were not chasing them. We were not crawling our way into bars or conversations. We went out and we were into the conversation with each other.

Most guys don’t understand that women are attracted to what they know. And what do women do when they go out on a Friday night with their friends? They’re into each other’s conversations.

Women recognize their own habits, and they are into their own habits. Think about what we attract in relationships – we attract who we are, not what we want.

The biggest fallacy in the world is thinking we can attract what we want. But in reality, what we are attracting is like looking into a mirror.

Think about how frustrated you get when you fight with your lover. It’s so frustrating because you are fighting with yourself. That’s what makes it so hard.

If you can take a step back and realize that you’re fighting with yourself, you start to understand that person better. You’re not jumping into it.

Have an amazing Friday and check out this video on how obvious meeting women can really be. Plus for all my loyal women readers give this a look as well, it will really help you meet men.

Don’t watch the movie; just listen to the movie and watch them.

When the leading character screws up – because that’s what we do, we don’t say what we should have, and we screw up. It’s the Hugh Grant moment where he realizes, why didn’t I tell her that I loved her at that moment? He’s just sitting there with his friends at a pub, and he realizes it.

And then he sees her out, and he still can’t tell her. When he finally goes and does it, watch the women’s reaction. Forget about watching the actors on screen; watch the reactions of the women in front of you.

Watch the way they sink down into their seats and almost sigh. Why do they do this?

Because all they want is for somebody to do that to them.

Every time I’ve ever been with a woman, I’ve had to claim her. Women will make it difficult, and they will test you. They will test you to make sure that you can be 100% vulnerable with them.

She tells you that she broke up with her boyfriend of two years and she called you. Now she’s sitting in front of you, looking into your eyes and telling you how hot everything is. You have to grab her right then and say, “ I have been thinking about you for the last year,” and just spit it out.

Many guys will try to avoid sounding needy. That doesn’t sound needy – it’s the truth! Speak the truth. You can stand behind the truth, and you’ll never have to backtrack.

You should never have to regret not doing something: I should have done this or I should have done that. That shoulda-woulda-coulda game will kill you. You want to eliminate the shoulda-woulda-couldas from your life entirely.

Don’t think, I should have done this, I could have done that. Some guys at the end of a bootcamp tell me, “I should have done this a year ago!” No, you weren’t ready. There’s that old saying, “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” You just weren’t ready, and that’s okay.

I probably should have bought a house in 2002 when they were dirt-cheap. I had the money to pay the mortgage and loans were certainly easier to get. But I just wasn’t educated enough and I didn’t do it. Now I’m paying double for it.

You pay for your lessons a few years down the road. It might be in lost time, but it doesn’t matter. You did it when you did it. Don’t worry about the time that you didn’t do it – just do it now! There is never going to be “perfect” timing for anything.

I had one guy tell me he was going to wait for a while to do a bootcamp. What are you waiting for? Just do it! Make the decision and do it. Do it, own it, and be okay with it.

It’s all about being vulnerable. You don’t think I’m vulnerable? I have 210 videos on YouTube, and the shit that people write under those videos…

It’s at the point now that sometimes when I do a video that will be posted on YouTube, I will even look at the camera and say to them, “alright you people who think that this is funny or those of you who don’t understand try to open your mind!”

I put myself out there every single day. I write, I post videos – and these videos are often shot in my house, sometimes I’m even stuttering.

In response to a video I posted called “How to Appear Confident When Meeting Women,” some guy today wrote, “David, you’re so wrong. How to APPEAR confident? You have to BE confident to meet women!”

No, if you have no confidence, you have to fake that confidence first. He missed the point of the entire video, and he was giving me a lecture.

I love people who don’t want to post their profile on match.com: “oh my god, what if someone sees me?” Great, then they can walk up to you and ask you, “aren’t you on match.com?” and you can have an opening conversation!

You want to expose yourself. If you’re not 100% vulnerable in life, the day you die you’ll have a flashback and realize, holy shit, what have I missed?

When you die, you don’t want to feel like you’ve missed anything. You want to celebrate your life and everything you’ve done. Death is a celebration of your life and the things you’ve accomplished. When people say that a person died too early, that just means that the person didn’t do enough stuff.

We all die. Death and taxes, right? We can manipulate and cheat the tax system throughout our adult lives – the system is set up for entrepreneurs! We have so many write-offs that the rest of you don’t have, but we still do have to pay something.

Death is really the only thing that you can’t cheat – but life is what most people cheat.

So if you don’t go to sleep with a smile on your face every night, you’re doing something wrong. I don’t know about you guys, but when I go to sleep, I can’t wait for the morning. I hate mornings, but I can’t ever wait for it.

Some nights I don’t want to go to bed. If it’s two o’clock in the morning, I ask myself why I have to go to bed – I just want to keep living!

Of course, you need to recharge your batteries at night, but I can recharge during the day. You see me check out for five minutes every now and then, I take little catnaps in my head. I go into my own little world for a bit and rest. I don’t hear anything or see anything when I’m in me-world. It’s great.

But sometimes when you go to bed, you think, oh man, what am I missing?

It’s a good thing that there is not much going on in the world between about 3:00 am and 9:00 am. I go to bed at about two and I wake up at nine.

Every night when you go to bed, you want to think, what were my wins today? What did I do? How did I live my life to the fullest?

This ride is amazing. When you really embrace it, it’s the most amazing thing.

Life is the best gift you can give anybody. When my birthday comes, people always ask what they can get me, and I say, “nothing.” I don’t ever want to get gifts from anyone. (It’s July 1st, in case anyone wants to get me a… just kidding!)

I don’t ever want a material gift, because the best gift is just spending time with people. I usually like to spend the day by myself on my birthday. I like to walk the beach with my dog, hang out and don’t do shit.

Anyway, you want to celebrate life every day, and you don’t want to cheat life. Don’t ever cheat yourself. If you cheat yourself, you’re missing out on so many opportunities.

When I was in London doing a bootcamp, I was supposed to go up to the country to spend a few days with friends, but plans changed at the last minute!

So I was like, bummer, man, I’m stuck in London for three days! Oh, that sucks. Too bad for me. There’s so much to do there, and there are so many people to have fun with. I had to find another hotel room, but oh, that was certainly tough to do in a city!

My whole plans changed at the last minute, and I was digging it. I just thought, oh great – three more days to explore London? That’s awesome!

London is kind of like a second home for me now; I’ve spent two weeks there this year, and I’ve been coming twice a year. I’m learning the city and I’m so comfortable there now. Nothing is new anymore, but it is still all there for me.

Todays video is all about body language and not being so stiff when talking to women.

Enjoy your Saturday!!