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I’ve never before written in the blog about dreams and about what they mean. Really, though, dreams are just a manifestation of what is in your subconscious mind.

A lot of you have so many things you’re thinking about all day long, but about what do you dream? What are your dreams?

Do you ever listen to your dreams? Do you write down about what you dream?

Dreams are something that I believe can have some powerful messages. In my dream that other night, for instance, everybody hated me. No, it wasn’t a nightmare. The dream was really more about my dad.

In the dream, I was trying to reach him again and trying to get through to him. He passed away a long time ago, but yet in this dream I was trying to reconnect with him in some way.

It is so interesting that my dream was about having trouble reconnecting with people, because my life is about connecting people. In the dream, however, I was having a tough time with it.

That is something I wanted to share with you, but really not the main thing I wanted to talk about today. I want to talk about something a little different about dreams.

About what do you dream? Have you ever had dreams that really just disturb you? Do you ever have dreams that give you a message . . . maybe about things you (or at least your subconscious) know you should be doing in your life?

Let’s talk about dreams today…

I hear comments like this from women almost every day: “David, I saw this guy today and he was so cute. He smiled at me, and I would have loved to have smiled back at him or said hello, but I was all sweaty because I’d just left the gym.” Every part of that statement following the “but” is nothing more than an excuse.

In fact, if you put a blank after the “but” in that sentence then I could fill it in with at least one hundred different excuses just like the “but I was all sweaty” one above. I’ve heard them all, but here are some of the classic ones:

My hair was up in a ponytail.
I didn’t feel sexy that day.
I was having a fat day.
I was wearing an unflattering outfit.
I wasn’t wearing any makeup.
I had coffee breath.
I was chewing and had food in my mouth.
I was on my cell phone.
The list of excuses could go on and on and on . . .

Here is a concept that you must understand, though, and it’s something I’ve been telling women for years: If a man looks at you, then he is attracted to you as you are at that very moment. He doesn’t care (and likely doesn’t know) that you are sweaty, are not wearing makeup, are wearing an old t-shirt that is twelve sizes too big for you, or about anything else.

If a man looks at you when you’re not at your best (or even when you’re at your worst), then he is attracted to you right then and just as you are at that moment. Although he may be imagining (and fantasizing about) what you will look like at your best, he doesn’t really care because all he is thinking about is how he is attracted to you right now.

Think about it. Isn’t this what you really want? Don’t you want a guy who checks you out on a Friday night in Blockbuster when you are dressed in your old sweats, have your hair pulled back in a ponytail and are not wearing any makeup?

It’s what you always claim you want. It’s what women always tell me they want.

You don’t want to have to be made up and perfectly coiffed every minute of your life. You don’t want to have to be dolled up when you’re in the comfort of your own home. You want a guy who is attracted to the real core of who you are as a person.

When you think of it that way, why would you ever make another excuse for why you don’t smile or talk to a guy who is looking at you? You should never let the fact that you are not feeling your best be an excuse for not responding to a guy who is looking at you, because the fact is that they are nothing more than excuses.

So the next time a guy looks at you and you’re not feeling like you’re at your best, you need to remember that he doesn’t know that. The only thing he’s thinking is “Man, I think she’s hot!”

Go and talk to him right now, because there may not be another opportunity with that guy. Why would you waste the opportunity to find out what this guy is all about . . . especially when you already know he is attracted to you?

Life is about taking advantage of opportunities every single day. Stop making excuses, because all the “reasons” you have for not interacting with men are just your excuses.

So the next time you see a potential Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now) staring at you from across the room when you’re still wearing sweatpants from your trip to the gym, smile and talk to him because he couldn’t care less what you’re wearing! He’s attracted to you and, in fact, will likely be talking about you for the rest of the day telling his friends “Man, I saw this girl tonight in Whole Foods. She had on these sweatpants and she looked so cute!”

Stop judging yourself so much, and start accepting that when a man looks at you he finds you attractive exactly as you are at that moment. Stop over analyzing and start feeling beautiful because the guy checked you out.