I recently sat down with one of my clients. Here is the actual transcript. Enjoy and have a great Friday!!

Markus: One thing we were talking about yesterday is the scarcity mentality: thinking all the time that you’re missing something. You walk in the city and see a square full of people, and many times you think, oh, I have to be there too. Because everyone is doing it, and if I’m not there, I will definitely miss something.

But on the other hand, maybe it’s just better to go home then, because you had a good evening anyway. You can go to bed early, and get up on Sunday and have another great day.

But this scarcity thing plays into many different parts of life. For example, you have a girlfriend, and you constantly try to call her and please her, and you run after her, because you think that if you don’t do it, she will be offended. You will miss something, she will miss something, and you will not have the opportunity to be with her again.

Or the opportunity to find another person – it’s always this thinking that I will miss something. If I don’t do that now, I will never have the opportunity to do that again. So the question is, how do we overcome that?

David: It’s funny, we were walking through that square, and we had a great day in Amsterdam, where we walked around and we talked to a lot of different people. We made some better connections than others, and some were quick little conversations. Some where longer conversations, like the two women on the bikes, who even invited us for a drink.

That scarcity mentality is very funny because then we were walking through that square at 11:30 at night, and we were tired after a long day, and it does kind of suck you in. You think, this could be the one night that the magic could happen. Standing in this square until 4:00 in the morning – this could be the night of all nights, where a different result will occur that has never happened before.

This could be the party of the year that I missed – there is that whole mentality that people have when they get invited to a big summer party, and they gear up for it all summer long. All week before they think about it, and you know what? There are three other parties that day!

Then they have this painful process of trying to figure out which party is the best one to go to, and then all of a sudden, they go to the WRONG one. Their friend calls them the next day and says, “oh man, you should have gone to Joe’s summer barbeque – it was amazing! All the hottest women were there…”

And you think to yourself, oh man; I can’t believe that I missed it. How could I have missed that party? I can’t believe I made the wrong decision, I can’t believe I did this!

But this is what you need to believe: deal with it! One night is not going to change your life. If you miss a party, so what? That is scarcity mentality.

There’s not going to be another party? And who says that you’re going to get the same results that your friend had at that party? And who says that you were going to meet the woman of your dreams at that party? Most of the time you don’t! It’s the hype – it sucks you in.

You have to do things that you enjoy every single day, so that way, at the end of the day you go to bed, and you don’t feel like you’ve missed anything. You feel like you’ve accomplished everything that you had wanted to accomplish. That gets rid of the scarcity mentality.

Secondly, just deal with it! You can’t be everywhere at every moment, you can’t chase the night, and you can’t chase your life. So you make a decision, and you deal with it. And you know what? If you miss something like a party, so what? There are more!

If it comes down to women, and you feel like you’re chasing your woman at all times – having to answer her every single phone call, every email – you feel like you’ve just been whipped. You feel like you can’t have any personal time? That’s another example of the scarcity mentality. It’s because you don’t believe that you deserve the woman in the first place.

So what you need to do is believe in yourself and believe in the relationship. Believe in the women that you’re cultivating. But it all comes down to believing in yourself.

Life is abundant – it’s only your mind that makes it scarce.

Right now I am going to give you a sneak peak into what I just emailed all my customers. I created a program just for them about how to meet women this summer.

It goes over mindset places and ways to make this summer the best summer of your life. It is a 90 minute audio that will change the way you meet women this summer.

Today we dig even deeper on how to communicate better with women without all the scientific pickup jargon.

Yesterday we talked about a few quotes. Some of you embraced them, some of you fought them. Life is all about embracing new concepts and thinking outside the box.

Today lets talk about being Rich….lets make a lot of money….or maybe there is a whole new way of being rich besides trading oil.

People spend their entire lives chasing things. Men spend their lives chasing women. Women might chase love. Men might chase money.

And then we finally get these things – some of us get that love, and some of us get the money – we think that we’re really rich. This society is based on the idea that if you’re a millionaire you are rich.

But I’m going to give you a whole different version of what I consider being rich. I’m rich. I’m rich in every aspect of my life. Financially, I’m fine. Emotionally, I kick ass. I have friends I love; I have friends all over the world. My soul is enriched every single day by the things that I do – because I only do things that I love. I’ve got the most fantastic dog in the world. I have people that I work with that are fantastic and amazing. I get on an airplane and I get to travel to places, I get to do things, and I get to experience things.

I lead a rich lifestyle, because everything that I do makes me feel rich – rich as a person. But the greatest thing about being rich is that you absolutely love yourself. You love everything about yourself. I’m not talking egotistically – I’m not talking about walking around with a big ego saying, “I’m the greatest person in the entire world” – not that at all.

What I’m saying in this situation is that you are content with who you are – you’ve accepted all the things about you – you believe in yourself, and in your little nuances. Maybe the fact is that you have skinny legs, or maybe your ass never looks perfect in a pair of jeans – whatever it might be. You’ve embraced all of your insecurities.

You can look at yourself in the mirror everyday and say that life is an amazing gift. Every second of every single day I’m going to spend living my life, experiencing my life and being an active participant in my life – that is the definition of being rich.

There are people who will always have more money than you, and there will be people who will always have more things than you. But the fact is that spoiling yourself in little ways is what’s important.

For instance, going out and buying yourself something you really like – if you can afford it, embrace it and do it. Going out there and having dinner with a friend you haven’t seen in a long time, sharing your heart and sharing your soul – that’s a rich experience.

Everybody should lead a rich lifestyle. It doesn’t take money. Once again, we always want other things. People always think, I’m going to be happy as soon as I get better skills and connect with the opposite sex. I’m going to be happy if I can fall in love.

Or there are a lot of women on the internet that are 39 years old and they think, well I’m not going to be happy until I have a family. You know what? You’re not happy right now! So you’re going to attract all the wrong people and you’re not going to live a very rich lifestyle.

I want to add that also for a lot of people, the idea of being rich is to accumulate things. That’s how they believe they will reach that acceptance of themselves, that contentment.

But to me, and what I always say is that you become happier and more comfortable with yourself by learning to let go of everything you thought you needed.

Eventually, what you learn is that you need to let go of everything – your fears, your desires, and everything else so you can find the true essence of yourself. Once you do, that’s when you define yourself and find out who you truly are.

Once you get there, it’s just easier. When you believe yourself, you realize that you are perfect as you are. You’re not the BEST – there’s a big difference in believing that you’re perfect the way you are and disillusioning yourself into believing that you’re better than everybody else. You’re not the best. But you are perfect as you were created. You’re perfect as you are.

Everything you need to succeed and be happy in life is already in you. You just have to rediscover it, because something clouded that part of you before. Whether it’s your experiences, positive or negative – it doesn’t matter. But it’s really about rediscovering what you already had.

Most people don’t see that – they keep on adding things to their lives and that creates more junk to remove later. That’s why a lot of people can’t be content. Instead of removing all the junk, they keep on adding junk to their life, which makes it more confusing and more difficult for them to define themselves and realize who they truly are.

Todays video is all about how you are going to spend your money. On booze repelling women or on improving yourself.

Life is all about choices.

How does this quote make you feel?

“A good opener is not based on what you are thinking, but rather on connecting with her inner reality. Opening her based on her thoughts, energy and emotions. Living that life is the only way to become powerful”

What about this one?

“Picking up women is an action. Attraction is a state of mind that defines who you are. It is a state of being. Which one would you prefer to be?”

I want to hear your thoughts on this today.

Todays video is all about how to attract women with the power of your own personality. It is all about how to stop the routines and start using the power of you!

Enjoy and have a great Wednesday.

In order to become more observant, your mindset needs to be this: everything you see you need to look at with a child-like curiosity. Look at everything like you’ve never seen it before.

The way you need to live life is to walk through a neighborhood every single day like you’ve never been there before. Every day you walk through that neighborhood, notice new things. Notice new buildings. Notice the color of the sky. Notice the new trees in springtime. Notice the new buds coming up. Notice everything you can possibly notice.

What happens is that this is tuning you to your environment. You can even do this on your way to work. If you walk to work, you can do this then. You can notice the cars, notice the way people walk, notice the way people are dressed. What happens is that you start training your mind.

What comes next is going into stores: let’s say you go into a Starbucks and you see someone you are attracted to. Have that same child-like curiosity. There’s someone standing next to you that you’re attracted to and you want to talk to them. You can look at the big menu board up there, the caramel machi-frattos and all that other junk, and you stand there and it’s called ‘throwing words to the wind.’ You project your voice so that the other person can hear it.

You never want to speak low or softly; you want to project your voice. When you project your voice, you can basically look up, throw those words out, and say, “god I was wondering, what’s good here?”

Immediately the person standing next to you will answer – everybody likes to pretend that they know it all. So she’ll answer, and there’s a conversation starter for you.

Everywhere you go, you can use the “I am wondering” or “I’m curious” method of reading people.

Let’s say you’re at a gas station, and you’re pumping gas into your car. Someone is standing next to you, and they’ve got this great Audi. “I’m curious, do you like your car? I was thinking of maybe getting one of those one day.” Whether or not you just bought your car or you didn’t – it doesn’t matter, you can still say that.

So be curious about everything. If you go to the Apple store – which is a place that a lot of people go – you’re looking at the iPods. You pick up the 70 GB iPod and say, “god, I’m wondering: do you think anybody ever fills up this thing with music?” The person will answer, “well, yeah, I have all this music…”

The most important thing you need to do is to look at everything in the world just like a child. You have the wonderment of a child, and you look at the world as if it was the first time you’ve ever been there.

Right now I am going to give you a sneak peak into what I just emailed all my customers. I created a program just for them about how to meet women this summer.

It goes over mindset places and ways to make this summer the best summer of your life. It is a 90 minute audio that will change the way you meet women this summer.

Today we dig even deeper on how to communicate better with women without all the scientific pickup jargon.

Every single day, what you need to do is set a goal. You need to go out there and have at least ten conversations a day.

By having ten conversations a day, you create positive energy around you. I don’t care if you go out and talk to ten men, ten women, ten kids – what happens is that every time you stop and have a conversation, you smile, you look in someone’s eyes and you engage them, you are learning how to be a more confident person the whole time.

Not only that, but other people are looking at you. When other people are looking at you, they want to go and talk to you too – they’re wondering what you are all about. You’re creating intrigue around you, you’re creating a positive vibe around you, and you’re creating something that most people don’t create: interest.

Most guys walk around, and all they do is chase. They walk through the entire day just trying to find the one woman that they’re attracted to that they can talk to.

The problem with that is that when you find her, you haven’t talked to anybody else, so you haven’t had any other conversations, so you walk over all uptight.

Once again, go out there and talk to everybody all day long, and you’ll build your social confidence up all day.

That’s what real confidence is about – being able to carry on a conversation with everyone. The point is that you want to become a good conversationalist. Becoming a good conversationalist means that you can talk to everybody in every situation.

Todays podcast is all about playing the percentages. Life is all about numbers……and until you are willing to fail you will never meet anyone.

This podcast is for men and women.