Eagles and the Chargers in the Super Bowl.

Client: So are you opposed to the idea of the first contact being through texting?

David: Yeah.

Client: Sometimes I feel like on the phone I can’t ever get my rap together. And nowadays, no one ever answers their phone!

Khiem: David’s a bit different from me. I don’t mind a quick text once in a while. I don’t mind the first contact to be via text but there needs to be a phone call very quickly after that.

David: I do like texting. Khiem, you just like to talk on the phone longer than I do. The other day Khiem got on the phone at 5:30 and rumor has it he wasn’t off of it until 11:30 or 12:00! When he wants to have a phone conversation, you might as well make plans for yourself for lunch, dinner, and a snack! It will be a while!

Khiem: With the girl that I’m seeing, I made a rule that I wasn’t going to talk to her every day. So then every time we talk, she wants more. I try to give her enough to last her a couple of days. I don’t want to talk to her every day!

Client: When you’re seeing somebody, how much do you think that they want to hear from you?

Khiem: I set a rule about what I want. Do you remember how I said earlier that you should make sure that you tell people how much you expect from them? Let them know what you want so that they know what to expect from you.

I tell women up front that I like my independence and that calling every day is too much for me. I tell her that I want her to grow and have her own life. I don’t like clingy girls, and I tell women that straight up. If you like clingy girls, that’s cool, but that’s not who I am, and I won’t do it.

And because I’ve laid that out to her, she accepts it. You have to tell them up front. For me, we can talk every two or three days – no more than that.

Client: But when you do talk to her, you have meaningful conversations, right?

Khiem: Oh yeah, it’s always meaningful, and many times it’s arousing as well. Not every phone call would include dirty talk, but many of them do.

Client: Do you think that there are special considerations when you are dating younger women?

David: How young are they? (laughter)

Client: Not like students, I’d say around 30. That’s the absolute youngest I would ever go.

Khiem: You have to understand their world.

David: Yeah.

Khiem: Try to understand their world, because each woman at different ages has different expectations in life. Based on their expectations and lifestyle, you can work from that angle.

You don’t want to try to accommodate yourself entirely to her. But if you’re dating a woman who is a lawyer or does something corporate, then you know that she has a busy schedule. You know that you have to set up a date at least three or four days in advance – if not a week.

But if you know that she’s more active and spontaneous, you can call her more often and be more spur-of-the-moment with your dates. That’s how you tailor your communication style to the woman that you are interested in.

At a younger age, she has a higher level of distractions. Women in their twenties have a high level of distractions, particularly around 23, 24, 25.

Client: 23 is like insane.

David: At 23, it’s like a Labrador Retriever on the beach! “Should I play? Should I sniff ass? Should I go? Should I get the ball? Oh my god, nobody wants to play with me? I’m going to go lie down and look sad for 20 minutes.”

Khiem: Yeah, at 28 you start to get settled. 28-year-olds still haven’t fully matured yet, but around that age they start to settle down. But again, what is she doing? What kind of life does she live? Is she working? Is she still in party-mode?

You can meet women in their thirties that are still in party-mode.

David: Oh yeah!

Khiem: But you can also meet 24-year-olds who are out of that, done with partying and looking for something more.

David: Let’s take it a bit deeper. I speak to all women in the same way, because I know that I attract a certain type of woman. I’m very careful about who I attract into my life. I like a certain type of woman.

Sometimes someone might slip through the cracks – because the sex is great or whatever. There are certain women you’ll put up with more shit from because you’re just in the mood for that type of sexual relationship or something.

But most of the time, if you like a certain type of woman, you’re used to dealing with that type of woman. Maybe you don’t like the hard, ball-busting, lawyer type of woman, so you avoid them. Maybe you prefer the creative types – or whatever it might be. You’re used to that type of woman, and that’s what you attract.

But I always tell a guy that if you’re looking for a woman a lot younger than you, you’re going to encounter a whole other language.

Client 1: I feel like on some of these online dating sites, the girls my age are always looking for men aged 28 to 45. What does that mean?

Client 2: What’s wrong with that? What site is that again? (laughter)

Client 1: But what does that really mean? Does that mean that they just want someone that is mature and confident?

Khiem: Probably. Usually what they mean by older is not so much age, but someone who is comfortable with themself.

A lot of younger girls who are looking for older men are tired of the guys their age who have no clue. They are looking for a guy who is really secure in his own identity. He might be established as well, but that’s usually coming from the maturity of being secure in yourself. Generally that’s what they mean when they are looking for older guys.

Client 1: Okay, I just didn’t know if I should take it at literal value, like, okay they are just looking for someone that is older.

David: It means that they are pretty much open. They are looking for somebody who knows himself. They are tired of meeting man-boys. They’ve dated them. They are sick and tired of guys that are indecisive.

But they don’t really realize that the older guys are often just as indecisive! We have more life experience to share with them, which they like, but age doesn’t necessarily mean you’re secure with yourself.

Sure, dinner and a movie are great – if you want to sit there in silence and stare at a screen for two hours. You drop them off at the end of the night and you haven’t learned a thing about them the entire evening!

How about going to a movie and bringing a picnic into the movie? Having a picnic during a movie is always fun. You can hide it in your manbag! You can whip out this great little sushi meal as you watch The Return of Godzilla! You could even make the food fit the theme of the movie.

How about watching the sunset? Most people think, let’s go to the beach and watch the sunset. It’s like kissing on New Year’s Eve – how cliché. I read something recently in a magazine that I thought was a cool idea: why don’t you paint the sunset?

Go to the store and get two paint kits and actually paint the sunset. Whether you are a professional artist or a stick-figure artist (like me) you will really be able to interact with the person you are painting with. You could ask them, “so what made you put the sun to the right?” “Why does your stick figure look so much different than mine?

What about a Sunday drive? Instead of just cruising to the beach or a lake, why don’t you go to open houses? I’ve talked a lot about this in some of my products. Take a look at some of the houses in both the good and the bad neighborhoods. Get an idea of what each of you like in a house.

This will bring up a lot of interesting conversations between the two of you as well. Even if a house that you look at isn’t really that great, you can talk about it and it will give you an idea of the depth of her character

And when you go and visit the McMansions you can take a look at it, have some fun and really pretend that you’re interested in buying the house. It can be a really fun day.

Here’s something I’ve read about but I’ve never really done it: shooting clay birds. I don’t know, I’ve never really seen a clay bird. I have a bird in my office two days a week, but I’ve never shot clay birds in my life. Apparently it’s quite fun and a good idea for a date. Go figure that one out.

So there are some new date ideas for you.

Todays video is all about how to meet women on a Saturday.

This is one place that you would have never thought of!!!

Something that is really fun, and makes a great date, is cooking for each other.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a good cook or a bad cook – I’ll tell you, I’ll go to Whole Foods and buy containers of food, and worst-case scenario, I’ll put the food in a pot, and stir it around a little bit, and the house will smell like I made it!

Just be sure to throw the containers out way before she comes and you’re fine! There are a lot of things of Whole Foods that I go get – besides flirting at Whole Foods, there are other things to do – like eat!

You could pretend that you’re a sushi chef, and buy a box of sushi from Whole Foods, put the roll back together again, and make it look like you cut it up for her! There are a lot of things you can do.

I remember this one time I told this woman I was going to cook her dinner, and I went to Whole Foods – I think it was maybe our third date. I’m sure you’re thinking right now, oh, stereotypical third date, trying to sleep with her – but actually I slept with her on the first date!

So this was a third date, and I wanted to make her dinner because the first date was sex, the second date was sex, and I thought it would be fun to have dinner and just get to know each other a little bit more. We had some really good chemistry, but I wanted to have some fun with dinner.

So I went to Whole Foods, and bought some Chicken Chili Verde, and cooked her a Mexican meal! The Chicken Chili Verde is actually really good there, so I just got some brown rice, and the Chicken Chili Verde, and I actually cut the tomatoes up myself and added some guacamole. We talked, and she had some wine, and the music was great, the candles were lit – and cooking for each other made it a hot night.

But you don’t have to know how to cook – you can fake it! I was stirring the Chili Verde in the pot, and having a good time, and she kept coming over and I fed her with the spoon – she kept saying, “god, you make this so good!” And I put on the show – I added a pinch of rock salt, and threw some pepper in there and a little bit of chili powder. You won’t ruin it just by adding a little bit – and it’s the effect.

So don’t be afraid of it. If you know how to cook – cook a meal! Try to cook a meal, learn to cook a meal. I’m just lazy – I don’t really want to cook a meal.

But I do make a mean salad – I love shredding some chicken, putting it in a salad, chopping up the vegetables – that’s a lot of fun. You can shred the chicken using your hands, you can feed each other with your hands, and you can chop the vegetables together. You can wash the vegetables together, and both of your hands can be underneath the water, touching. There’s that little touch you’ll have throughout the entire dinnertime.

And always have strawberries. Strawberries are great for later on. They are an amazing thirst-quencher – you know, when you get that incredible dry mouth from having sex? Or you’re even just fooling around, and you get excited, and your mouth gets dry and you need a little bit of moisture – feed each other strawberries. It’s hot, they taste great, and it’s fun.

All berries are good: blueberries, blackberries, raspberries are all good. Mangoes are great. Mangoes are a lot of fun. Cut up the mango and feed each other mangoes.

Have fun with food. It’s a great date!

Todays video is all about setting goals.

Its a new month and if you want to meet more women this month than ever before you will need to set goals.

But more importantly, you will need to learn how to follow through!!

My mens mastery series goes over all of this and much more. Click here.