First day that I worked with him I looked at him and I saw him walk around and he tells me god damn it, I really am so excited to be working with you because really all this information that you’ve given me today I’ll be able to use in seven months.

And I looked at him and I said seven months?! How did you come up with seven months from now? He said, “That’s when I’m going to be my ideal weight.” So I looked at him, I said “Have you ever been your ideal weight?” He goes never. I said that’s great. I said so in seven months you’re going to finally be your ideal weight: What’s going to happen between now and the next seven months? He says “I’m going to try every diet under the rainbow, one of them sure will be my ideal diet. I picked out seven and each of them is going to take one month to complete, so I’ll know at the end of the month which diet is working, and I’ll stay with it.”

I looked at him and I said you’re mad. I said that’s ridiculous. I said maybe you’re at your ideal weight right now. Maybe you’re supposed to be this way. And he looks at me and he goes “No, no, no I’ve got to be fit, I’ve got to be trim. I’ve got to meet women this way. Women don’t want my body like that.” I said really, there’s tons of women that look like you and tons of women that feel like you.

The Dating Diet

I asked him if he ever thought about going to a gym. He didn’t have time for the gym.

It’s funny how many people will go around and look for the ideal diet but never exercise. Exercise is your ideal diet. I can write up any diet right now for any of you, and I can come up with a wonderful diet that’s really healthy and as long as you work out — I guarantee if you did it every single day over seven months — you would lose weight.

But the problem is everybody’s looking for the miracle diet: The Hollywood diet, the Tampa diet, the New York diet, the dog diet, the cat diet, the “crush it” diet, the “stock market” diet. You know what the stock market diet is? Put your money all in one stock, and watch it go down. And from all the stress in your body you’ll lose all the weight. Here’s another diet, it’s called a baby diet. Put yourself in a room full of seven babies. You’ll never sleep, you’ll never want to eat, your nerves will constantly be frayed from all the crying and screaming, and you lose all the weight. These diets have never been done before, but they’re obviously as good as any other.

So I looked at him during our coaching session, and I said, “Take off your shirt.” So he took off his shirt, and he stood there, and he was trying to cover it all up! He started covering up what he thought was man boobs, and I looked at him, I told him he looked fine, he looked great. This is your body, love it, love it every single day, nurture it every single day, embrace it every day and get your butt to the gym.

“Turn around.” Made him turn around. Checked out his butt, I checked out his body, and I said these are the exercises you need to do: Swim 20 minutes a day, and cardio for 30 minutes a day. Let’s go around and pick out food. That’s what we did the first day: We went, and we picked out foods. Of course we picked out foods, and we were meeting other people and so forth, and what I finally taught him was in life, you might be seven months from having the perfect body, but that’s just your excuse. You meet people every single day. No one’s looking at you and wondering wow I’m going to be really attracted to this person seven months down the road.

I’m talking about nutrition. I’m talking about the way your body feels every single day.

How do you feel every single day? Are you tired? Are you alert? Do you feel sluggish? How is your stomach? Do you get ‘the runs’ often? Is your stomach irritated by certain foods? Do you belch too much?

I’m sorry. I know I’m being a little crude here, but there are a lot of people I know who have . . . let’s say, issues. They have stomach issues and health issues. They’re overweight.

I really and truly believe that your diet is everything. I eat a really careful and clean diet. There are certain foods that don’t agree with me, so I don’t eat them.

How many of you know the foods that disagree with you, but you continue to eat them anyway? How many of you eat certain things that put you into a ‘food coma’ immediately after you eat them?

You should never go into a food coma. If you are going into a food coma, then you are eating things that don’t agree with you. You are eating foods that are not right for you and your body type.

How many of you take vitamins and herbs, and believe you have a good regimen? You take greens in the morning. Let me tell you something.

I used to have a really bad stomach. When I was a kid, my nickname was BD (and you can figure out on your own what that stood for). I’d miss half a class sometimes because I was in the bathroom. I had a really irritable stomach.

I thought I would just have that problem my whole life. I had just accepted it as the way things are.

Then I remember going to a nutritionist when I lived in Colorado, and the first thing she said to me was that this wasn’t the way things had to be. She told me I didn’t have to live that way.

So I made changes in my diet. I eliminated dairy. I started drinking greens in the morning (by mixing greens power and water). It’s really good, and your body absorbs all the nutrients that it’s probably lacking.

Once I started to do that, I started feeling better. I started eliminating certain foods that didn’t work for me, and I started to feel even better. My energy lever got better; everything got better.

How many of you are suffering physically every single day? The reason why you’re suffering is probably because your diet sucks.

You need to start looking at your diet. Let me tell you something. We have one body and one body only. You can’t trade your body in for a new one, so you have to take care of your body like it’s a majestic temple.

You have to do things that are really good for it, because as you age things start breaking down. I know that because I am aging, and things do break down. You don’t heal as quickly, you can’t run as fast, and you’re not as strong as you once were.

If you keep yourself really clean inside and if you have a really good diet, though, you can keep your body stronger and feeling good a lot longer. Eat slowly and eat small portions.

How many of you eat really quickly? You can finish a meal in five minutes or less, and you’re proud of it. If that’s you, then you are eating too fast. Your body cannot possibly break down or digest anything that goes in you when you eat too fast.

How many of you get an unbelievable sugar craving right after you eat dinner or lunch where you need to eat something sweet? That’s not normal and it’s not good. It might mean that you’re a little yeasty and that is why your body is craving that.

One of the things I think everybody should invest in is their health.

I never eat fast food. If it was the last thing in the world to eat, I still wouldn’t eat it. I would go to bed hungry that night.

I chew my food really slowly so my digestion is good. I drink a lot of water.

How many of you spend the day drinking diet soda. Diet soda could be the worse thing for you. The caffeine is brutally bad in your body, and the chemicals that make up diet soda actually can make you fatter.

You want to drink nothing but water. I don’t drink soda and I don’t drink glasses of cow pus (or milk as most people refer to it). I do this because my body likes it and my body reacts favorably to it.

So it’s time that all of you start looking at your overall health instead of just medicating whenever you have a problem. We go to the doctor, and the doctor treats the symptom but not the cause.

It’s time you got some really good help with your diet, and really took a proactive step to making yourself healthy from the inside out. It’s time to start taking better care of your body.

So how does this relate to dating? Whenever I write about anything outside the world of dating, there are always people who get their panties in a knot and email me asking how that topic relates to dating. So for all of those people, here is the answer.

If you’re not healthy, you don’t have energy and you’re eating improperly, then guess what? You’re not going to feel your best and you’re not going to want to go out and meet people. You’re also not going to feel your best sexually because you’re not going to be that energetic. There, I related it to dating.

I’ve been working out my entire adult life, and I want to share a funny — but true — story with you about how I started working out. It’s going to sound goofy to a lot of you.

There was actually one movie that pushed me to want to start working out. It wasn’t Rocky. It wasn’t Dirty Dancing.

It was the movie Flashdance. Yes, I actually went to see the movie Flashdance when it came out.

I watched all the dancing scenes, noticed the way the bodies were totally toned and ripped, and it motivated me in a very bizarre way. Maybe it was all the booze I drank in college, but I remember arriving home after seeing that movie and suddenly started to pound the weights.

I haven’t stopped since. Give or take about five pounds, I’ve basically been the same weight my entire adult life.

I consistently work out. I do cardio four days a week. I lift weights three days a week.

I used to do yoga before I blew out my back. I have now found that being tighter actually keeps me together better.

A lot of people have trouble starting to work out. You gain five or ten (or twenty or thirty) pounds, and you look at yourself in the mirror not liking the way you look.

What a lot of people do in that situation is to head straight for the microwave and eat even more. Others will sit on the couch and say, “I’m going to start exercising next week.”

Here is the truth. If you don’t like the way you look and if you can’t embrace your own body, then nobody you date will either. That is why I call this “The Dating Diet,” because it is all about you feeling great about yourself and your body when you’re dating.

There’s nothing that turned me off more when I was dating, than when a woman insisted on making the room completely dark the first time she got naked with me. I would be looking forward to seeing her naked body, and all she wanted to do was leave the room completely dark because she felt insecure about her body.

How you feel about yourself is so important. So if you feel you’ve been slacking, you need to push yourself.

Start going to the gym, and do just 20 minutes of cardio in the beginning. Then the next week, move up to 25 minutes of cardio, and increase to 30 minutes of cardio the week after that.

Just get started. Whatever you choose to do, start slow and build up.

If you’re not feeling great about yourself and feel uncomfortable at the gym at first, then pick a time to go when there are fewer people there until you feel more comfortable.

Write down all of your excuses. “It’s too cold right now to go to the gym.” “I’m too comfortable on this sofa, and don’t want to miss my favorite shows.” “I didn’t get up early enough today.”

Write down your excuses, and realize that all of them are just that — excuses. You must be dedicated.

Now I’m going to ask you to do something that will really be a challenge for a lot of you, but I want to push you a little bit. Stop reading this blog, go to the bathroom, get undressed and look at yourself from all angles in the bathroom mirror.

What do you like about your body? What do you dislike about your body? What you change about your body? What do you need to accept about your body?

If there are parts of your body you don’t like that you can change through diet and exercise, it’s time to commit to work toward getting those body parts to look how you will love them. If there are other parts of your body that you don’t like that weights and cardio won’t change, then it’s really important to embrace and love who you are.

What you’re about to watch is a woman who’s very cute on her own, but goes through Photoshop and the end result you see is what turns men into crazed perfection seeking horn dogs and women into insecure fearful human beings.

Most Men believe that they should be dating the type of women that they see in this type of video. Even men in bad shape only see themselves dating the hot sexy toned women. Their version of perfection is based on the air brushed women they see on tv and in magazines.

And lets not mention a mans view about sex is based on crazy porno sex. Sex that really does not exist nor turn on the average woman.

Women, on the other hand, feel really pressured to look great, because they are always looking at themselves under a microscope.

Women are super critical of themselves more than any man could ever be.

Check this out it shows you the distortions of the way things are and the way people think things should be.

Women after the watching the video how do you feel about the way life and beauty is distorted?

If you want to get the ultimate version of yourself check out my women’s no excuses package.

People always want to look younger than they are. If you’re 45, you’re not going to look 32 again. You’re not. You either are going to look good for your age, or not good for your age.

Some people won’t accept their age. They’ll tell people, “I’m 45, but I look 35.” I’m 47 and I look 47. I just look really good for 47.

Do you know why? It’s because I take care of myself. I do something for myself every single day.

I exercise when I’m not in the mood.  I go to the gym when I’m not in the mood. I work out with weights at least two to three times a week. I do cardio four times a week. I do Pilates once a week.

I eat really, really well. If I have dessert, I enjoy the dessert. I make sure, though, that it isn’t part of my regular life.

I eat salads for lunch. I eat quinoa instead of rice. I eat brown rice instead of white rice.

I have a shake every morning that contains no dairy and no sugar, but has pure protein and good fats in it. I take herbs when I need to do a cleanse.

I take care of my skin. I get a facial once a month. I use moisturizer on my face so my skin doesn’t get dried out and wrinkled.

I go to the dentist three times a year and get my teeth cleaned.  I do things for myself in order to keep myself healthy, because you only have one of you.  

The body that you have is the body that you need to keep for the remainder of your life. So stop abusing it.

I don’t drink alcohol, because I don’t like the way it makes me feel and I don’t like what it does to my body. I drink lots of water.  

I also don’t complain. If I don’t feel good one day, I make sure I do things that day to make me feel better. I get a massage once a week.  

I do these things because I realize that my body is the only body I have.  I don’t skimp on things, and I don’t get cheap with my body.  

I go to the doctor when I need to go to the doctor.  I do this because I’ve learned in my life that it’s really important to take care of yourself.  My father died at 56, my grandfather died at 57.  

I don’t have nine or ten years left, I have as much time as I want left because I have a positive mindset.  If I wake up in the morning with a sore throat, I say to myself, “Man, I have a sore throat right now, but it will be gone by the end of the day.” I haven’t had a cold in so long, I can’t even remember the last time I had one. I wash my hands to try to keep cold away.

You have only one body. Take care of yourself!

Well, I certainly don’t need to lose any weight (cause if I do, I’ll disappear!). Supposedly, though, it is good for your organs. So a juice fast is what we’re doing.

Everytime I’m drinking this juice, though, I feel like I’m 80 years old and all of my food has been regurgitated into a bottle. When I drank my bottle this morning, I chewed it cause I miss eating food so much. Even Daphne’s doggie chicken sticks were looking pretty appetizing to me.

Anyway, it’s the second day of the juice cleanse. At dinner tonight, I might even drink an extra two ounces and break the rules. Enough about that though. Today we’re going to talk about What do you do to reward yourself? I know the cleanse may not sound like a reward but it makes me think about this today as I dream of food.

What guilty pleasure do you indulge every single day? Or what guilty pleasure do you indulge once a week to reward yourself for the hard work that you’ve done?

What do you do to pat yourself on the back? How do you treat yourself and make yourself feel special?

Some of us are really just waiting for other people to make us feel special. A friend of mine always wanted to go to Greece, and he never did. He was waiting for the right person to come along and go to Greece with him. Finally I looked at him and said, “Why don’t you go to Greece this summer alone? And then when you finally meet the right person, you can go back there together and share the Greece that you learned on your own.”

So what do you do every single day to make yourself feel special? And what do you have planned this year to reward yourself for your hard work?

Is there something that you’ve put off doing alone because you’re waiting for someone else to do it with? What things are you waiting for another person to do?

Let’s hear from you guys today!

Let me ask you all a question: how many years have you been telling yourself that? How many years have you told yourself that, and how many years have you actually dropped the weight?

And why are you waiting?

Why are you waiting to start an exercise routine that you could have done years ago? Why are you doing this? Why are you always waiting for things?

It’s funny. If you look at life, a lot of people who tend to want to lose weight are people who put off other things in their lives as well – they are procrastinators. These people are always thinking that they’re just waiting for a good time.

I coached a guy once who wanted to lose twenty pounds. He told me, “As soon as I lose this weight, I’m going to start talking to women.” So I let him buy into his excuse for a little while. He was on an exercise plan, and I said, “Why don’t we start the coaching when you’ve lost the weight?”

So he loses the weight, and a month later he comes to me with a new excuse. He said,
“Now that I’ve lost the weight, I’m going to start talking to women as soon as I buy a new wardrobe.”

Are you one of those people who just pile one excuse on top of another? As soon as you lose the weight, you’ll start meeting people. But then you lose the weight, and you decide that you have to buy a new wardrobe before you start meeting people. Once you buy the new wardrobe, you go ahead and pile another excuse on.

But in reality, if you want to lose weight, or start meeting people of the opposite sex, you have to start doing that today! You have to start taking action today.

Why are you waiting for everything? What are you waiting for? Do you want to be a waiter in life? That’s what I call you guys – you’re waiters. You’re always just waiting for the “perfect moment.”

There is never going to be the “perfect moment.” How many times have you seen a woman that you’re attracted to and you’ve waited for the “perfect moment” to approach her?

There she was, walking to the bathroom. You decided you were going to meet her by the bathroom and casually bump into her.

Guess what? You and ten other guys have been thinking about that same perfect moment. You and ten other guys waited for that perfect moment, and you all collided like a bunch of stooges at the bathroom door, looking like fools.

There is no perfect moment. Get out and start now!

You’re always going to be full of excuses. I have found that people who procrastinate now will always procrastinate – unless they step it up and start new things every day.

Do you want to lose weight? Get out there and start losing weight TODAY.

Change your diet. So many people want to lose weight, but they refuse to change their diet. Or they don’t exercise regularly.

Or maybe you’re into the fad diets – you’re on your tenth or eleventh fad diet, but you’ve never exercised. And you just can’t figure out why you’re not losing weight. But you’ve never done a combination of diet and exercise.

It’s about making those changes. So stop the excuses and procrastination!