Let’s go back to the game and rewind just a little bit. The Jets found a way to beat Tim Tebow. I think they had eight three in outs on the Broncos. The Broncos couldn’t move. Tebow couldn’t run.

Tebow throws like a girl, I’ve never seen passes like that in the NFL. All his passes seemed to go absolutely nowhere but down to the ground or towards the stands.
But at the end of the game, the Jets became just like most guys are when it comes down to dating. They went into what is called the Prevent defense. And all the Prevent defense ever does in football is prevent you from winning.

I’ve seen it 1,000s of times. A team plays great defense for 55 minutes of the game, they give up no touchdowns at all. Then all of a sudden the quarterback, who’s been having a horrible game, will drive the team down the field and win the game. Because the defense that worked for 55 minutes is abandoned. Then the team is losing, and stays in Prevent defense mode, which of course, prevents them from winning.

I never understood why coaches do that, and I never understood why guys go into the Prevent defense when trying to go out and meet women.
Instead of trusting a new game plan, instead of going into attack mode, instead of going out and meeting women all day long, all guys seem to do (especially on a Friday or Saturday night) is go into Prevent defense mode. They think that just because they’re out on the playing field on a Friday night, that things are magically going to happen for them. That they will stumble across a win, stumble across a beautiful woman.

So what do they do? They wait, they kick back, stand around the room looking at everyone in Prevent defense mode. They wait for the right opportunity. They never go and approach. They’re playing it safe. Sure, they may be preventing themselves from getting rejected, but while they’re doing that, every other guy is swooping in ahead of them and talking to the women that they want to talk to.

The only way to meet the kind of women you want is to come up with a definitive game plan, a game plan that’s going to work, a game plan that’s aggressive and moves you forward. You’ve got to ditch the game plan you’ve had up until now, the game plan where you’re playing it safe.

Here’s the deal, guys. The year is almost over. You’re heading into the home stretch of the year, you’re heading into the final six weeks of the year. Do you have a definitive game plan? Or are you a guy who curls up and goes into Prevent mode? Are you a guy who lets everybody else run around you, advance down the field, walk away with the women that you want and then you’re left at the end of the day, basically being an arm chair quarterback, thinking to yourself, How could I have made this different? How could I have changed the outcome?
There’s no way to change that outcome unless you change the way you think. Unless you go at it aggressively and come up with a game plan that’s going to breathe success. By going out and talking to people openly and passionately all day long, you’re going to start leading people and you’re not going to let people walk all over you when the weekend hits and it comes down to Friday-Saturday night crunch time.

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Not only that, they want to end the year with a bang. The question is, are you going to be the one banging them? Or are you going to be the one standing on the sidelines wondering, waiting, hoping, basically standing in the corner of the bar going into Prevent defense mode over and over again?
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My last few posts have had nothing to do with going out at night, and I promise we’ll get back on track with some nuggets for you to try out over the weekend soon:)

But for now I really want to share with you guys an incredible speech that was televised over the weekend.

Now anybody who knows me knows that I don’t talk sports. I can’t. I haven’t really known anything about sports since I was in 8th grade. I catch a baseball like a little girl, I can’t dribble to save the life of me, and my spiral even on a Nerf football looks like I may as well be flinging CD cases in the air, so pretty early in life what I did was I pretty much entirely gave up sports and anything sports-related.

But last Saturday, former Denver Broncos tight end Shannon Sharpe was inducted into the NFL Hall of Fame and gave one of the best and most heartfelt speeches I’ve ever heard.

Listen to the energy in his voice. Listen to the passion. Here’s a guy who truly, truly owns his words. You know how we always tell you guys that that when you’re out meeting women, or you’re out on a date, it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it? Well this is how you do it.

No teleprompter. All heart.

Was his grammar 100% correct? No. Did the words come out of his mouth exactly the same way he planned them ahead of time? No. But he delivered his message with absolute conviction all the same. You look at his eyes and hear the enthusiasm in his voice, and you can’t help but listen. You can’t help but be drawn in and feel the moment.

We talk a lot on the blog about what it means to be a good communicator to the opposite sex and to express yourself. We talk about what it means to open up and be vulnerable, to speak from the heart and command attention when you speak.

There’s a lot I learned from this speech, and it’s not just about being a powerful communicator.

There’s always a lot to learn, and there’s a lot to be thankful for. Here’s a woman who sacrificed to raise three children and nine grandchildren, for 66 years never once slept under a roof that didn’t leak, and remained strong enough through it all to be the inspiring force behind two of the greatest athletes in NFL history who otherwise would never have stood a fighting chance.

That’s something I’m going to remember once my excuses come creeping in. I don’t have excuses when it comes to women or my dating life, and that’s why I’m coaching you guys, but I’m certainly not perfect and I make plenty of excuses for myself in other areas of my life. And the next time I do, I’m going to push myself against those excuses because I’m going to remember Shannon Sharpe and how he pushed himself against all odds based on a promise he made to his grandmother.

So the next time you tell yourself how bad you have it because you’re too short, or you’re too fat, or too bald, or you’re not interesting enough, or your face is too acne-scarred to attracted a beautiful woman or a wonderful man, I would like you to remember Shannon Sharpe and the passion that his grandmother instilled in him to push himself forward. I want us to embrace how lucky some of us are to be sitting here in front of our computers, fortunate enough to bitch and complain about our looks or our lack of a girlfriend, or whatever.

Next time you’re out talking to people and working on your conversational skills, appreciate the fact that that you don’t have to sacrifice your entire life for the sake of 12 children, and that you have the luxury to take this time and opportunity to work on yourself.

I want you to delight in every conversation and every connection you have this week with the people around you, I want you to live in the moment, and really embrace the fact that you are able to take THIS time right now in your life to make yourself a better, more authentic, and more powerful person.

This week I predict the Texans will win over the Bills. The Bears will beat the Browns. The Lions will win over the Rams. The Jets will defeat the Dolphins. The Chargers will win over the Raiders. The Cardinals will beat the Panthers.

The Saint and the Colts will remain unbeaten, but the Broncos will fall to the Ravens. As for the two “big games” today, I am predicting the Giants will win over the Eagles and Favre will gome home crying in defeat.

Have a great Sunday, and let’s get to today’s blog!

At a recent Bootcamp, I had a conversation with the guys about what I call window shopping your life. I had a conversation about challenging yourself. (This, by the way, is a great example of what we work on during my Bootcamp weekends!)

Most of us window shop in our own lives. Many of us have had tragedies in our lives. As humans, it’s natural to want to change our lives after we survive a catastrophe, but it’s also human that we rarely stick with that plan to change.

We always sweep things under the rug. We all do this. It’s just the way things work. We get shocked into doing something or making a change, but we can’t help continuing to window shop.

So what do I mean when I say that we window shop our lives? It means that we fail to take action and really lead the kind of life we map out for ourselves. We go back to not being fully alive, and just wishing and wanting for the life we want to live.

The term window shopping is a good description, because it is as if we have a glass barrier between our life and the life we want. We can see it, but there is something in our way from actually living it.

A lot of people see this barrier as something that keeps them from having the life they want. In reality, though, we are capable of having that life right now if we take the steps to get it.

Why do we think we can’t have this life? We buy into false limitations. We don’t want to face that we need to take more action.

I often call people who just wait for things to happen in life “waiters.” They want things to change, and they keep hoping things will change on their own without them having to take any action on their part.

Once you begin to stop window shopping and to stop waiting, you will see how much time you’ve been wasting kicking back that you could have been spending living the life you want.

Life is too short, and you only get one! If you don’t take the opportunities now, when are you going to take them? So stop window shopping. Stop waiting. Take action today and start to really live the life you want.

My football record stands on its own at 12-1. 12-1 is pretty good I think. The Titans are my only blemish. So, with that, I am going to go out on a limb and tell you which teams I’m picking this week

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The Giants are going to dominate over the high school quarterback led Oakland Raiders. The Vikings will be victorious over the Rams and its equally inept quarterback. Really, the Rams aren’t rams at all; they’re more like goats.

The Ravens will beat the Bengals. I’m not buying all the hype about the Bengals yet.

Here’s another tough pick. The Eagles will beat the Buccaneers. Let me tell you, Jon Gruden is laughing every single day. They fired him? Are you kidding me?

Braylon Edwards will catch a pass and lead the Jets to a victory over the finless Dolphins. The Patriots will win big.

Denver is going down this week. Is that not the worst 4-0 team you’ve ever seen?

Dante Culpepper will wish he was still on the bench after the Steelers destroy him on Sunday. As for the Buffalo vs Cleveland game, really who cares? It’s not even worth predicting.

As for Dallas, Tony Romo better start learning that finding the end zone is not as easy as finding one of his celebrity girlfriends. Maybe he should go back and run one of his family’s rib businesses. Tony Romo notwithstanding, Dallas will squeak a win out this week.

What is it about ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends? They seem to somehow know the exact wrong time to text you.

Here you are, about to have sex with your partner, and all of a sudden there it is. You hear that certain beep telling you that you have just received a text message.

You think to yourself, “Oh man, who is texting me? It’s really late. Who is texting me?” You get nervous about those 1:00 a.m. texts that come in.

It’s nerve-racking, because the only one who should be texting you at 1:00 a.m. is the person with whom you are laying in bed at that very moment. So you keep wondering who texted, until you can’t stand it anymore and you instinctively check your phone like Pavlov’s Dog.

At first you are relieved and you think, “Whew! Thank God it’s not me.” Then all of a sudden you notice that it is your partner’s phone that is blinking. You both have the same “beep” for incoming text messages, and the beep that you heard is theirs (not yours).

Now you think to yourself, “Oh man, I know EXACTLY who just texted them. It’s the ex.”

So here you are laying in bed, either just about to have sex or just having had great sex, and you have to have “the ex talk.” You may have already had the ex talk before several times. When that ex intrudes into your personal space at 1:00 a.m., however, that ex talk goes into a whole other dimension.

You will lay there wondering what your partner is thinking and feeling. You will want to know what the emotions are that they are experiencing, and how they are feeling at that moment about their ex.

Ex’s are a very powerful influence in a relationship. Even though you are with somebody new and you are sharing amazing feelings together, you will still wonder what your partner is thinking and feeling about their ex when a text comes in like that.

You tell yourself that you are not going to let your paranoid mind take over. After all, it is you who is laying next to then (and not the ex). You are the one with whom they are now hanging out and sharing feelings.

Regardless, you have that ex talk right there and then at 1:00 a.m. You are wondering about it, and your partner really needs to let out whatever is on their mind about it.

You need to be 100% okay with whatever they say, because the topic needs to come up and your partner needs to get out what is on their mind. Eventually, your partner is going to need to confront the ex issue, because at some point the ex needs to stop holding on to whatever part of that old relationship to which they are clinging.

The key is that your partner needs to feel that there is an open space where they can talk to you no matter what is going on and no matter what they have to say. They need to feel like they can talk to you anytime and about anything, because building a relationship is all about open lines of communication. That is the only way that two people are going to get close.

I am always fine with the ex talk because I like clean slates. Both people need to have clean slates when you’re in a relationship, and sometimes you need to clean those slates together to get there.

You’ve got to deal with things. Relationships are all about supporting one another.