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That’s fine. Go ahead and make the jokes right now:

David is talking about Whole Foods? Here we go again.  

Mr. Whole Foods: you must own stock in Whole Foods!  

Yeah, I know what you all say.  I see the funny things online.  I read some of the comments.  They’re saying that I only shop at Whole Foods.

Well all right, listen up: who cares if it’s Whole Foods.  It could be Ralph, Safeway, A&P, Piggly Wiggly, Winn-Dixie—doesn’t matter.  Could be any one of those.  Who cares?

Call it a supermarket.

Anyway, my client and I were walking around.  This woman was walking towards us and he looked at her.  And she looked at us.

He looked at me and he said, “We should just turn around and talk to her right now.”

I said, “No. We’re going to look all creepy-stalker-esque—you don’t do that.  We need to walk-around and circle back.”

Either you talk to her right at that moment—as I talk about in my program Undercover Approaches—or you do The Circle-Back.

(And you need to click that link and learn about the program if you really want to get good at this. Here’s my extreme honest little pitch: buy it.  You’ll understand what I’m talking about better and you’ll become better.)

So anyway, I looked at him and said, “We’ll go down the aisle, then the aisle next to it.  We will bump into her again.”

So we walked around, circled back through a couple aisles, and—imagine that—there she was.

“Bingo,” I said.

“Hello,” he said.

We smiled, we talked, and she was at ease.

Here’s the deal: if a woman looks at you and you don’t say anything immediately, but then turn around instantly and follow her down the aisle to go talk to her, you’re going to creep her out.  She’s not going to want to talk to you.  She’s going to run away.

If you smile, look at her, and then walk away, and then basically do the circle back and talk to her a few minutes later, it’s going to be natural, easy, calm, and she’s going to be open to a conversation.

A lot of you guys do the creeper-follow, and that’s why she doesn’t want to talk to you.

Learn the art of the Circle-Back, and you’ll be far better at meeting women that you don’t approach immediately.

Have a good, honest, fun night.

You don’t want all of them–just the really hot one right?

Sure, but if you don’t know how to engage the group as a whole, you’re dead in the water.

Watch this undercover video as I breakdown an approach:

Pretty simple right?

What are some great ways that you’ve engaged the friend of someone you really liked?

Have you ever been the friend?

Let me know in the comments below.

A lot of you are probably in front of your computer or on your phone right now, texting, e-mailing, you’re at different stages of planning out what you’re going to be doing tonight. You’ve waited all week for Friday night. This is going to be the night that you’re going to go out and meet a cool new woman. If all goes right, everything is going to change by the weekend, you’ll have one or two or even three prospective new dates, and your lifestyle is going to be different. You’re finally going to approach the woman you’re most attracted to.

Then what happens? As the night progresses, all those fears and excuses start creeping in. You get paralyzed. You stand around the bar. You do nothing.

Some of you may not even be reading this blog until late night Friday night, and you’ll say to yourself, “David, you just described my night. I was all jazzed. I was all excited. You’re right, slowly but surely, all my fears and excuses crept in and the next thing I knew, I was home again. I was staring at the ceiling, reviewing the night, and I finally came up with something really great to say to the woman I was attracted to, but it’s too late now.”

Here’s what I want all of you who read this blog early today to do. For those of you who are reading it late, do this exercise tomorrow night.

I want you to go out. I don’t want you to talk to a single person tonight. Not one person. I want you to observe, and I want you to watch, and I want you to understand the dynamic of what makes one guy fearless and successful with women, and another guy who goes home and masturbates, dreaming of the woman he wishes he could be with. I want you to watch the guys that are successful with women.

It doesn’t matter what they say, because I’m about to launch a brand new program that’s going to give you everything you need to say in these situations. I want you to take a look at their body language. I want you to take a look at what real attraction is. I want you to look at these guys and I want you to basically see how much fun they’re having. How engaging they are, how they use their hand motions, how they smile, how they walk with confidence. I want you to notice everything about them.

Now what I want you to do is I want you to look at yourself. No, don’t look directly at yourself in the mirror, but look at a guy just like you. I want you to find the guy who’s in the corner with his hands in his pockets, a clueless or frustrated look on his face, the kind of guy you can feel is really thinking with all the monkey chatter going on in his head.

I want you to look at that guy, and I want you to ask yourself this question: if you were a woman, who would you rather talk to? The guy who’s going around talking to everybody and generally just having a great time, or the guy who’s paralyzed in the corner waiting for the woman to go to the bathroom so he can chase her down and find the right moment to talk to her? The guy with that nervous energy who kinda scares people a little?

How do you feel? What type of emotion do you feel when you look at the guys who are having fun versus the guys who are not having fun? This is a great exercise that I have every single client do, any guy who’s ever been successful with women going out and meeting them on a Friday or Saturday night. Every guy goes through this exercise, because you have got to learn how to enjoy yourself before you can start meeting people. If you approach with nervous energy, nothing will happen, but if you approach with a smile while having a good time, the words don’t make a difference.

Note To All Men: If you are already subscribed to my email list you are well aware that next week I’m releasing a new product that is going to empower you to get over the BIGGEST issue you guys have when it comes to meeting women… approach anxiety. I hear it time and time again, and it was confirmed by thousands of survey responses taken by my email subscribers that have been pouring in the past couple of weeks.

I put together a video to help you learn how to kill approach anxiety to become natural with women, simply by using the power of observation!“

But now – according to the world of pickup people all over this world
- a night game is something entirely different.

As the lights dim, the crowd smells like a bad bar—people protruding
vomit from both ends. A woman stumbles her way in, and four guys
quickly look, and think to themselves: “Aah! Night game! Perfect
target: A woman drunk, stumbling. I’ll be able to use some of my Bob
Seger ‘Night Moves’ on her.”

Night moves are even different than day game. Night game is for the
real pro: The guy that really knows how to pick up a really drunk
woman; the guy that really knows how to make a really drunk woman feel
good; the guy who knows how to approach in the wee hours of the
morning. It’s called night game.

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It’s so funny—the terminology that guys use for meeting women. There’s
day game, which of course is easy to figure out. It’s getting women
during the day. But how come no one’s ever come up with the term
day-night doubleheader? You know, in baseball, you play one game in
the afternoon, one game at night—it becomes a day-night doubleheader.
So what about the guy that goes out late in the afternoon and then
tries to meet women at night? Is it a day-game night-game
doubleheader? Wouldn’t that be considered a day-night double header?

What about the guy that only preys on drunken women that reek of
vomit? Would he be an opportunist? Would he be just a drunk prowler?
Drunk prowler: There’s a new terminology. There’s so much terminology
out there—it’s hilarious.

Can you imagine if women talked like this? Can you imagine if they
decided to go out and say “Hey Mary, this is Amy. Let’s go out and
have some night game tonight. Let’s go out and find some men tonight,
maybe a three set, maybe a four set. Maybe we’ll get a couple of
drunken guys, and we’ll go home, and we’ll get an instant drunken date
with them.” Can you imagine if women spoke that way? Can you imagine
if women actually said “Hey man, this is Amy again, let’s go out and
meet some guys during the day. Want to practice our day game moves
right now?” It’s hilarious. And men have to use terminology.

But with women, it’s all about serendipitous moments—real moments that
can happen either during the daytime or the nighttime. Night game and
day game are one.

Come on guys. Let’s talk as men. You know I’ve written about the
ratings scale—she’s a seven, she’s an eight, she’s a nine. You know
how much I hate that. Either it’s a one or a two. One you like her, or
two you don’t. There you go. Another friend of mine says it’s either
yes or no. Yes you’re attractive, or no you’re not.

Can you imagine if women actually graded men? “Mary, why are you going
out with him? He’s only like a 7.2! He really needs to lose a little
bit of weight so he can fit into his bathing suit better.” Guys are so
messed up.

I can tell you one thing.

Insomnia is brutal! Anyway here are my quick thoughts for today.

So you went out on a Saturday and you talked to 47 women, and you didn’t connect with any of them.

You did everything right.

You commented based on a real observation, you responded to what she said in the moment, you spoke what was on your mind, but yet,it just didn’t click.

You didn’t click with any of them.

You know why? It’s because you haven’t met anybody who appreciates you yet, so who gives a shit? Who cares?

You’ve got to appreciate you. No one’s going to appreciate you unless you appreciate yourself first.

Look at all the people you do business with, all the people you interact with professionally. Do they do business with you, do they think you’re cool as hell? It’s because they see you as you really are.

When we look at ourselves, we all see our neurotic sides.

Every time someone asks me this, all I can picture is this giant chicken wing dripping with buffalo sauce running around next to them. I picture them constantly having to clean off their shoes from all the buffalo sauce that is dripping off their wing.

So is it better to run with a wing or to run by yourself? The answer is that it is always better to run by yourself.

If you’re by yourself, then it’s like you are the complete master of every conversation. If you run with a wing, then all of a sudden you are opening up your conversations to someone else.

That someone else will jump in your conversations and might even end up dominating the conversation. Even worse, they might end up turning off the very person you are trying to intrigue because they aren’t listening.

If you are having a great conversation with a woman, your wing might end up feeling neglected and want to leave. I’ve seen women wings do that all the time. A woman will having a great time talking to a guy in a bar, and the woman wing will get annoyed and start tugging on the woman telling her that they need to go somewhere else.

Meet Women With Wings

I’ve seen so many wing scenarios go badly. So it’s much better to go alone.

Going alone also forces you to learn to speak with people when you are alone. You don’t want to just stand in the corner by yourself. Going it alone forces you to go out there and communicate with people.

So going alone is something all of you need to do. It’s something I personally really enjoy. My best conversations always happen when I go out alone.

Everyone is trying to figure out what the best course of action is tonight!

It is Friday night, you have been waiting all week for this night. The anticipation, the debates on what place is going to have the best selection of people to meet.

It all sounds so good on paper.

But really what is the reality?

The reality is some of you will have fun.

Some of you will chase the night looking for fun.

Some of you will stay home to avoid the night.

And some of you will just wonder, is there any alternative things to do.

The same old same old gets so stale.

You all know the definition of insanity.

Doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.

So what do all the insane do instead?

Today’s video will explore some alternate ways to have an amazing Friday night and weekend.

And one last thing.

When I was meeting the most women I never stepped foot into a bar.

If you really want to go deeper and find out about some of my favorite places to meet women check this out.

How many of you walk around every day with the “don’t want to lose” attitude? I’m going to tell you the real truth about this attitude and what it’s doing to your dating life.

Do you know what the “don’t want to lose” attitude is? Usually it means that you are totally caught up in the outcome with everything you do.

So when you go and approach and talk to someone, you don’t approach them as yourself. You approach them as the “I don’t want to lose” person, and the “I want this person to like me” person.

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To begin with, you don’t have this person. They are a total stranger. So how do you even have this attitude in the first place?

Do you know what happens to a sports team that has a “don’t want to lose” attitude? They usually end up 4-12 at the end of the season. They play all of their games tight because they’re not relaxed and laid back, and they are really just a mess when it comes down to executing anything.

Do you think Aaron Rodgers had that attitude last Sunday?

So what you need to do is to go into every approach and every meeting with an attitude that you are going to have fun. You need to not care so much about the outcome, because the outcome is rarely what you expect it to be. Start having carefree moments in life, and lose the “don’t want to lose” attitude!

She says, “Remember back when you were in high school how everyone used to think that if you drove a red car you would get more speeding tickets?” We all used to believe that too.

Really, though? Think about that. On a road with a speed limit of 40 mph there is a silver car going 75 mph and a red car going 65. A cop is going to pull over the red car? Come on now.

I love these urban legends. Urban legends are just so much fun. They are a blast to go through.

How about this urban legend. Santa Claus!

How old were you when you found out that your parents were the fat jolly guy in a red suit?

How about this for a great opener this week.

Walk up to someone who is looking and admiring something and say.

“Too Bad you don’t believe in Santa”

Smile and let the conversation flow.

Its a great topic this week.

I bet you ask 20 people when they stopped believing in Santa and get into 20 fun conversations.

Now get out of the house and start collecting data!!

I want hear all about when people stopped believing in Santa!!