Do you know what would be cool, fun and different? What if there was a day where everyone was open and honest with each other?

So instead of playing games — wondering if someone likes you, being in the friend zone or wondering what to say to someone to ask them out — why not for one day be open and honest with our crushes. Why not walk up to the person we’re most attracted to and just be honest?

Say you’re driving down the street and you see a beautiful woman (or man) at a bus stop. You think to yourself, “She is so beautiful!” You roll down your window, look and her and say, “You know, I just wanted to tell you that you are really beautiful.” Just say it. Give her the compliment.

This is something that was written about in the book Seven Spiritual Laws Of Success. In that book it says that every day you should be paying people random compliments, and giving them without anticipating or expecting an outcome.

The problem is that so many people are so outcome-derived. They don’t want to just pay a compliment. They expect something in return.

What’s too bad is that those people don’t understand how the world works. If you’re open and honest and pay people genuine and heartfelt compliments, then guess what happens? You’re actually going to get an outcome better than you imagined.

You might spark an attraction, because you are going to ignite an emotion in people by the way you are talking to them. People are very able to distinguish between people who are genuine and those who aren’t genuine. People who are so outcome driven — always wanting to know what to say next and always anticipating instead of really listening and being honest and real — don’t get the outcome they are trying so hard to get.

So I challenge all of you today to go out there and pay a real, heartfelt compliment to the first person about whom you notice something amazing. Don’t do it to get any outcome. Just do it. Then watch how people feel and react to you. You’re going to learn something amazing from just this one little exercise.

That by itself, though, is not enough for you to actually become successful. You need to be persistent and you need to believe in yourself.

Look at the most successful professional sports teams, and you will see that each one has these two qualities. Take last year’s New York Jets as a great example. 52 players who all believed in their coach, believed in their team and believed in themselves, and they achieved so much more than anyone thought they ever could.

Mark Sanchez was a nervous rookie, but he is going to be a great quarterback because of the experience he gained playing in the playoffs during his first year. There were probably 25 quarterbacks who were better players than Mark Sanchez at the time he was playing in the playoffs, but there he was as one of only four quarterbacks playing in those playoffs.

It’s about being prepared and sticking with your plan. It’s called persistence. It’s called believing in yourself and the people with whom you surround yourself.

What do you want out of life? Write it down. Learn the skills to get it. Then be persistent and believe.

I recently had someone who came in from Australia to work with me, and of course the conversation was all about how to meet women at the beach (since it’s the middle of summer there). Then there are other guys who will be traveling to Mexico, Florida or the Caribbean for vacation or spring break. All of these guys will be wondering how to meet people on the beach.

The beach is a blast. To me, it has all the best props you could possibly have.

One of the things we used to do in the Bootcamps is to go to the beach and build sand castles. I’d put the guys right near the water just like when you were a kid, and had them build sand castles.

Then when a woman would come over in our direction, I would turn to her and say “You know, we could use a woman’s finishing touch. We need a little help on the interior right now. I just don’t really know where to put the furniture.” We would just have fun and get the women to laugh.

Then I might say, “Come in here. Let me show you the master suite.” This is so they will actually bend down and look at the sand castle.

Most women will then say something like this: “Oh my God, that’s a beautiful master suite. I would put put this shell in the middle here, and put that pebble over there…I would also want to go with a different color palette – too much gray.” There are so many ways to have fun with this.

Another thing you can do to meet people at the beach is to say to someone standing near the water’s edge, “I’ll race you in.” Many women will respond and say something like, “No, it’s too cold.”

At that point, you want to challenge her. Say something like, “Are you a chicken? You’re afraid to go in the water? You are standing here in the hot sun, but you won’t go in the water? Come on, let’s go.” You make it a game. You have fun.

Another thing I always used to do to meet people at the beach is to bring a Frisbee and a ball. When a woman would walk towards me, I’d throw the ball in the air, look at them and say “Catch!”

She’ll catch the ball and then throw it back to you. Then you can say, “Why do you throw like a girl? Didn’t your father ever teach you not to throw like a girl? Come on, you can throw better than that!” Once again, challenge her and have fun.

That’s what it is all about when you’re at the beach. People go to the beach to have a good time, to relax and to swim.

So these are all great ways you can engage people in conversation and activities at the beach. If they’re having fun with you, the conversation immediately becomes a lot easier.

As some of you know, this was going to be my last year personally coaching Bootcamps. I have an amazing team of coaches who would have carried on for me brilliantly, and they will continue to do an amazing job coaching for me.

As for my decision to stop coaching Bootcamps myself at the end of this year, though, and as the NFL field judges say, upon further review I have changed my mind. No, not about how fantastic my coaches are, but about coaching the Bootcamps myself after the end of 2009.

It’s what I love to do. Not only that, I personally believe my Bootcamps are superior to all the garbage ones that are out there being taught by pretend wannabe experts.

So no retirement from coaching Bootcamps for me. The Bootcamps will move forward with me (and my team of coaches) coaching them in 2010, 2011, 2012 and beyond. It’s going to take a serious ACL injury to get me out of the Bootcamp coaching game.

For those of you who thought I was walking away from everything, I have just one question for you. Are you crazy? I’m not going anywhere (except maybe on a few trips next year).

There are, however, some great new things I’ll be coming out with next year and in the near future. We’re already kicking off some great new ideas.

Adam (my head instructor in London) and I have come up with an amazing seminar that will be taking place in London in a few weeks which is FREE. Click here to check it out.

For the women, we’re doing a killer seminar in Los Angeles this Sunday (November 8th). Click here to learn more about it.

For anyone who don’t know my team, I’ve hand-selected and personally trained every person who works with me. Not only have I personally trained them, but they all stand alone as amazing coaches. Your experience with any one of them would be just as satisfying as your experience would be with me.

My team and I plan on doing a lot of new programs next year. One of them is going to be an incredible inner mindset seminar. Details, of course, to follow next year…

We will also be launching a new live at home coaching program. That’s right — one of us will be spending two to seven nights on your sofa in the near future!

I’ve been doing this for 14 years. Brett Favre has been playing for 18 years. As long as he keeps throwing touchdown passes, I’m going to keep changing and affecting the lives of people who attend our workshops, seminars and Bootcamps.

Of course we’ll be coming out with a slew of new products, because as the dating world changes we are always ready to show you how to change with it!

So, mandatory retirement used to be at age 65. I plan on teaching a bunch of shuffle boarders in Florida the art of meeting hot sexy 80 year olds when I’m 80.

I will have the first and only geriatric pickup bootcamp in the history of the world.
I can see it now — my pants hiked up high to my chest leading around a bunch of guys who are all on arthritis medication who want to chase after some hot, sexy, experienced older women.

Thirty years from now, everyone who attends my geriatric Bootcamp will get a week’s worth of Cialis and Celebrex. Not only that, most of the people in my Bootcamp will have enlarged prostates, so I’ll have to give out something for that too. I can already see my Bootcamps in thirty years being sponsored by the pharmaceutical companies.

In the meantime, I’m young and healthy and ready to walk the next group of guys around at the the next Bootcamp. So this is the big announcement!

For those of you who were thinking to yourself, “Where’s my dating tip of the day?”, don’t worry. Here are a few tips for you. . .

1. PUT THE TIP IN FIRST: You don’t ever want to go in backwards.

2. USE THE DAVID WYGANT/BRETT FAVRE APPROACH: For those of you who may not be having sex today (and, hence, can’t make use of tip #1), you may need an approach tip of the day. So here it is: Say to the first person you see, “Did you hear that David Wygant just pulled a Brett Favre?” You want to talk about a great opening line! You meet the right woman, and she won’t know who David Wygant OR Brett Favre are.

3. 55 DAYS TO GO: For those of you who want a date tip, here it is. It’s November 5, 2009. There are approximately 55 days left in the year and before you will hopefully be staring at someone you’re about to kiss when the clock counts down 5-4-3-2-1 to midnight on New Year’s Eve. So the time to take real action on changing your dating life is now.

For those of you who want to see a very teary-eyed video, then check out the video I recorded yesterday. It will make you feel very warm and fuzzy…

Also, for any of you who are not yet on my subscriber list, I suggest you get on there quickly, because otherwise you’re missing a lot of special offers, private seminars, and FREE videos and podcasts that I give out just to my subscribers. You can sign up now in the box in the upper right hand corner of the page.

Wherever you go, you need to always talk to people – everywhere. You need to stop chasing women and start attracting people into your life.

You have to start being memorable. Memorable people get somewhere in life. If you’re not memorable, you won’t get anywhere in life.

So how do you become memorable?

Very easily. Everywhere you go, you need to walk in there and make people feel great. If you go to a sunglass store, and you’ve bought sunglasses there before, walk in and say, “hey, how are you today?” Talk to the person who is selling you the sunglasses. Get to know them a little bit. So then the next time you walk in there, they know you, they remember you, and they greet you like an old friend.

You want to have a circle of friends. What will happen if you start networking through your life is that people will start remembering you and doing favors for you. It could be something as simple as just getting an extra slice of cheese on your sandwich, or getting a free soda at the deli.

But the bottom line is that most people don’t engage others in conversation. If you are able to engage people in conversation, you will become memorable. People will remember you.

Life is so much about nonverbal communication. For instance, you go into a store and there is a beautiful woman standing there, and you walk in with some approach anxiety – you don’t know what to say to her. But if the two clerks in the store know who you are, they will walk over and say, “hey, how are you today?” and you can tell them you’re doing great.

The next key thing is to remember things about these people. If you have a bad memory, then start taking notes. Buy a Blackberry or an iPhone, and start taking notes about all of the people that you meet.

That way, when you go into a store you will remember things about the people there. So here you are standing in the same store, about to order a sandwich, and you’re having approach anxiety with the woman standing there because you don’t know what to say – yet you remember the guy behind the counter just had a baby.

You look at the guy behind the counter and say, “hey, how’s the little kid treating you? Are you getting enough sleep?” He answers, “oh man, thanks for asking. I haven’t been able to sleep in so long…”

All of a sudden, the woman standing there will notice what is going on – she’ll notice the energy that is being created. You’ve created positive energy, and she’s noticed. So she will start looking at you in an entirely different light. She will see how the guy behind the counter is looking at you favorably.

This is what life is all about – so much nonverbal communication. So you need to become memorable wherever you go.

Today I have 2 podcasts for you that will make your Sunday more fun. The first one is how to give your man a great erotic massage. Men you need to listen to this one…..something to keep in mind the next time you have a woman over.

The second one is all about how to stop trying to be so perfect and just have fun in life!!

Happy Friday!!

Are you going to chase the night tonight or attract the night?

This blog is part of a live coaching from a recent trip to London with a client. Hopefully these exchanges with my client will give you an idea of my coaching style. Consider it a sneak peek into what I do when I am coaching clients and leading bootcamps!

David: Men will spend half of their adult lives ‘ctn’ – they spend half of their lives chasing the night. If you think about it, guys go out on a Friday night, and there’s always one or two guys that want to have fun and talk to their friends. The other ones will be looking around the room, they’ll have one drink and get impatient because there are no women there – even though they haven’t really met women very often anyway – and they have to run to the next place. They spend the whole night trying to figure out what the best place is.

But the best place – which is so ironic – is where you are in the first place. If you spend the time laughing and having fun with your friends, you’ll start attracting people. Women will wonder why you’re having such a good time and you’re not being like the typical male chasing the night.

There’s another scary term – on Saturday nights, there are guys that are ‘ctw’ – chasing the week. They don’t have any skills to go out and meet people during the day, and they haven’t gotten that concept yet, and they realize that if they don’t make something happen on Saturday night, that they have to wait all the way until next Thursday or Friday night for something to work.

So then Saturday night has an even more desperate energy, because men are walking around chasing the week. You can see the desperation in their eyes, you can watch it. You know you’ve done it, and you’ve seen guys that have done it even more. There are packs of guys that are walking around your neighborhood, in the bars, looking around like this – they can’t even concentrate at all.

It’s the guys that are twisting their heads around in every direction. Think about it – when a guy is doing that, it’s not attractive to a woman! A woman is looking at that guy and thinking, holy shit, what is wrong with him? The guys stare like this, and they don’t say anything, they start drinking a little bit – to get their liquid courage on in order to chase the week.

The pressure is building because they know that they screwed up chasing the night the night before, and then usually when they get home after chasing the night or the week, it’s like they have to come down from it. And then you realize that the woman that you saw at the beginning of the night was the one you probably should have talked to in the first place, and then you think well, what could I have said? It’s usually something that comes to you from a simple observation. It comes to you four hours later because you’re no longer in this unbelievable mode of chasing.

It’s a very funny thing. One great exercise to do (and I do this all of the time) is to go out on a Friday night and look at the guys chasing the night, and then look at the women reacting to those guys – just be an observer. When those guys finally go up and approach a woman, watch how quickly she rejects them. She’s noticed him from all different angles – she’s noticed the way that he was looking, she noticed that he didn’t walk over right away.

There’s a reason why women go out in packs: they’re protecting themselves from these ‘ctn’ guys. If they went out alone and they had the guys chasing the night or the week all over them, forget about it! This poor woman would be bombarded with annoying guys all night long. So that’s where the chilling out comes from.

Robert: It kind of reminds me as well of stock trading. It’s like you’re chasing the price as opposed as waiting patiently for it to go, which I know will happen eventually, but you chase the price. And I’ve lost a ton of money doing that!

I admit it, I’ve done it a few times, and I know what I’ve done wrong. It was against the rules; I know that you’re not supposed to chase the price. You just shouldn’t do it. But you’re thinking, oh, but this time, and it never works.

David: And the stock market is all psychology. It’s all human emotions and psychology. So you’re looking at a candle chart, and you see your entry point. You don’t get in because you don’t believe it, even though the formula tells you to get in. Everyone else is watching the same formula, and you still don’t get in. It goes up a little bit, and you still don’t believe it, it goes up a little bit more and you start thinking, holy shit, if I would have just trusted the formula, I would have already made $.20 on it!

So what do you do next? You think it’s going to go down, but it goes up a little bit more, and then what do you do? You, and the other people who were chasing the price, go in. At that point, the stock goes up a nickel and you say to yourself, oh, it went up! Then you see the candle and you’ve got that candle that doesn’t know what direction it’s going to go next. That’s you!

You’re in there, and then what do you see next? Things sink! Because everybody who got in 30 cents ago when they were trusting the whole process bailed out, and then you’re stuck, chasing the price once again. That’s how you lose money. You think, well, it’s going to go up again – but you already missed the boat.

I did the same thing when I was trading. I wouldn’t trust it, and then I would get in too late, and then I’d be there during the downward slope. It’s a great analogy.

Robert: Yeah, I’ve done it. Just this year, I’ve done very small trades as an exercise. I was just trying to be very observant. And it went in my direction. It was really about discipline. But as soon as I put in some big money – I kept thinking, it’s not going to work, and I’d get out, and it was very premeditated.

And then when I did something that was “against the rules,” I would think, oh, I don’t know what I’m doing, and that would work. I learned I needed to be observant, and be patient.

David: Well, think about this: the thing about stock that really goes against all of the rules is that this stock is really a beautiful woman. The little stocks you mastered – these are women that you’re not attracted to. And the bigger stocks are beautiful women and you treat that big stock differently. Really, you needed to treat them the same way, because the same rules apply every time. It doesn’t fluctuate, and it doesn’t change. That’s a great analogy, and a great lesson.

Robert: It is. No matter what you say to yourself, the rules are the same.

David: Life doesn’t change. The formula in life is the same for everything we do, except for our social life and the stock market, where we’ve done other things.

Todays video will teach you how to lay off the CTN…chasing the night mentality and be more of a natural with women.

This is part 4.

This blog is part of a live coaching from London with a client. Hopefully these exchanges with my client will give you an idea of my coaching style. Consider it a sneak peek into what I do when I am coaching clients and leading bootcamps!

Robert: How do you energize yourself?

David: You can do it. Take breaks. How do you have charisma? You have charisma because you don’t need it for long stretches of time. Think about this: the biggest excuse that people always tell me is, “but David, I don’t have your charisma!” Yes you do! I don’t have my charisma!

If you see me when I’m walking around, sometimes walking in the street, I’m just zoning out! I’m not thinking about meeting women on the street – that’s a low-probability meeting. What are you going to do, say hello? – which I do, that takes no energy. If they have a nice dog, I’ll pet the dog – it doesn’t take much energy to do that. I’m saving my energy for when I’m on stage.

So when I go into Whole Foods, or I go into a restaurant, or a retail store, I’ve been saving my energy for that moment. When I walk in, I turn on my charisma. I walk in and I realize, I’m going to be in this store for five minutes or less, and I have one chance to make a first impression.

So I’m going to walk into that store and I’m going to own it. I’m not going to do anything but own it. I’m going to find something on the wall – for instance in that clothing store today, they had an amazing piece of art on the wall – and what did I do? I went with the first thing that came to my mind, and I didn’t hesitate in the way that I talked. So I said, “oh my god, that artwork is so cool. What do you see in that picture?” and the conversation rolled from there.

The reason why not only women but men also respond to me is the way I do it. When we went into Paul Smith, there were no women in there, but somehow or another, that woman salesgirl found her way into that room. It was pretty funny – we walked in, we said hello to her when we walked in, and we owned that store. We were friendly and full of energy.

We migrated upstairs, and we talked to the other dude who was shopping (which most guys won’t do), we talked to the salesperson, we tried on a couple of hats, and had some fun with the guy. He had a really cool tattoo, and I asked him about it. I was interested; I was like a little kid. I was very curious about that tattoo, so I asked him about it.

And what happened then? People were laughing in that room, and all of a sudden the female salesgirl came rolling out of nowhere and asked, “oh, do you want me to help you?” The energy attracts.

And then when we left Paul Smith after like eight minutes – we tried on some hats. I tried on some hats that didn’t look good on me – you have to be goofy. You have to have that self-deprecating humor. You have to be able to be goofy and have some fun. So we tried on those hats, and then when we left, we got quiet. We got some water, and recharged our batteries, and talked a little bit. We walked around, and we really didn’t do much, just relaxed and chatted a bit like friends, and then we got here, and the minute we walked into Whole Foods, I got back in and put my game face back on.

So you’re only doing it in short bursts. You have to look at life as a giant stage. Everywhere you go, you have to romance everyone you meet. By romancing them, people just seem to flock over to you like magic, they all want it because nobody else does it! It’s something called the slight edge: being just slightly more engaging than everybody else.

You don’t need to be over the top, you just need to be slightly more engaging. Nobody is looking for the comedian – they’re looking for the next interesting person. That’s what being different is all about, and that’s what having that natural charisma is all about. That natural charisma is pretty amazing.

Robert: It is. It certainly is.

Todays video is all about how to create a great first date.

Have you ever met the man of your dreams . . . or maybe he’s the man of your nightmares? You know this guy. You’re on a date with him. He starts talking about himself. Then he starts bragging . . .

He starts bragging about the stuff he has. At first he might bring up the kind of car he drives. Then he may tell you about the house (or houses) he owns. He has even produced a movie. You sit there listening and nodding your head, while he hasn’t listened to anything you have to say.

Then, all of a sudden, he goes into another mode. He shifts from bragging mode into what I call “deeper bragging” mode. Deeper bragging involves talking about some of the super-great things a man has or has done. Perhaps he has a horse who won the Kentucky Derby four year ago. What a stud he is!

What a man in deeper bragging mode will brag about may vary, but as he continues to talk each thing he says escalates into deeper and deeper bragging. Mr. Deeper Bragging never listens, often because the woman that he’s talking to is young enough to be his daughter.

That woman doesn’t usually care if Mr. Deeper Bragging listens because he is just a meal ticket to her. The thing about meal tickets, though, is that they are often accompanied by wonderful repetitive cycles of deeper bragging.

With every sentence, the deeper bragging escalates in his efforts to impress this young woman. Really though, how hard is it when you’re a 50 year-old man to impress a 20 year-old girl? It’s not really too hard.

Mr. Deeper Bragging doesn’t get it though, because do you know what happens him at the end of the night? Mr. Deeper Bragging ends up all alone in his big house with his bottle of KY Jelly going from deeper jerking off to watching deeper porn on his 68-inch plasma television set.

Mr. Deeper Bragging has no clue that the key to meeting women is not just bragging. You have to lose the deeper bragging and learn deeper listening skills.

Todays podcast is all about taking action in your life.

Are you a talker or are a doer?

Which one are you and how to take control and become a doer!!!