Well, if he’s into the woman he’s with, what he’s really thinking is, “When can we do this again? Man, that was great! I’d love to do this again, it’ll be even better next time!” They’re actually looking forward to it.
I know when I have great sex, I’ll lay next to my woman and I’ll think to myself, “Man, I really want to do this again.” Or, “I wish I had lasted just a little bit longer because it felt so good and I wanted to keep going.”

When I was younger, I used to always think about whether or not she had an orgasm: “Hmm, I think she did, but I’m not quite sure… I can ask her. But wait, if I ask her, I’m going to sound really wimpy like I don’t know what I’m doing… argh.” A lot of men will think, “Did she come? Did she enjoy it? Was I good enough for her? Was I better than her previous lovers? Did she have as much fun as I did?”
Sex really is a blast. In years and years of having sex, I’ve learned one thing: Communication is the key. It’s okay to ask her, “How was that for you?” But not like an interrogation, like a scientist taking notes. The best way to ask her is to say, “Babe, I really enjoyed that. How was it for you? Is there anything you want to do differently next time? I really wanted to last longer because it felt so good.”

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Men’s minds travel in many different directions after sex. Granted, there’s the one-night stand where the man wants to do the Coyote Ugly, where he wants chew off his arm so he can leave without waking her up, where he basically just wished she’d turn into a remote control, where he hopes and prays that she doesn’t want to spend the night. Sure, there are those moments. And in those moments, and if both of you understand that you’re having a one-night-stand, the best thing to do is look at each other after sex and just say, “All right, let’s be honest. There was a lot of passion, a lot of heat, but we don’t really know each other. Is this a one-night-stand we’re having?”

You can laugh. Talk about it. Most of all, be honest, be receptive, and tell each other where you’re at right now. Don’t promise the phone number when you know you’re never going to call her. Be a man about it.
Women: as men, our minds go so many different directions when it comes down to sex. The bottom line is that if we’re into you, we want to know if you enjoyed it as much as we did. We want to know if there’s anything else we can do to make the next experience with you even hotter and more erotic.

That by itself, though, is not enough for you to actually become successful. You need to be persistent and you need to believe in yourself.

Look at the most successful professional sports teams, and you will see that each one has these two qualities. Take last year’s New York Jets as a great example. 52 players who all believed in their coach, believed in their team and believed in themselves, and they achieved so much more than anyone thought they ever could.

Mark Sanchez was a nervous rookie, but he is going to be a great quarterback because of the experience he gained playing in the playoffs during his first year. There were probably 25 quarterbacks who were better players than Mark Sanchez at the time he was playing in the playoffs, but there he was as one of only four quarterbacks playing in those playoffs.

It’s about being prepared and sticking with your plan. It’s called persistence. It’s called believing in yourself and the people with whom you surround yourself.

What do you want out of life? Write it down. Learn the skills to get it. Then be persistent and believe.

I mean, you guys are always wanting to see long, in-field videos where we’re going out, flirting with women and breaking it down. Videos where I go through the “what to do” versus the “what not to do” in different situations. That’s the kind of stuff I put up for the members on my Community site.

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The YouTube videos are — I hate to say it — short, sweet and to the point. The guys on my Community Site, though, seem to be learning a lot more. I mean, I put 20 minute videos on my Community Site and two minute videos on YouTube (because that’s the attention span of the average YouTube viewer).

No offense, guys. I actually absolutely love when I get complaints that a YouTube video I put up is too long. So after getting a certain number of these complaints, I started saving all the long, really good ones for my Members (and leaving all the short ones for the rest of you).

There are LIMITED slots available right now on the Community Site. As you may know, Members on the site get a lot of personal attention from my coaches and I, and so I can only have so many guys in the Community at a time. If you want to grab one of these few open slots, CLICK HERE now. If when you get to the page, it says that the slots have been filled, sign up to be on the VIP Waiting List, and you will get “first dibs” when any new slots open up.

I recently had someone who came in from Australia to work with me, and of course the conversation was all about how to meet women at the beach (since it’s the middle of summer there). Then there are other guys who will be traveling to Mexico, Florida or the Caribbean for vacation or spring break. All of these guys will be wondering how to meet people on the beach.

The beach is a blast. To me, it has all the best props you could possibly have.

One of the things we used to do in the Bootcamps is to go to the beach and build sand castles. I’d put the guys right near the water just like when you were a kid, and had them build sand castles.

Then when a woman would come over in our direction, I would turn to her and say “You know, we could use a woman’s finishing touch. We need a little help on the interior right now. I just don’t really know where to put the furniture.” We would just have fun and get the women to laugh.

Then I might say, “Come in here. Let me show you the master suite.” This is so they will actually bend down and look at the sand castle.

Most women will then say something like this: “Oh my God, that’s a beautiful master suite. I would put put this shell in the middle here, and put that pebble over there…I would also want to go with a different color palette – too much gray.” There are so many ways to have fun with this.

Another thing you can do to meet people at the beach is to say to someone standing near the water’s edge, “I’ll race you in.” Many women will respond and say something like, “No, it’s too cold.”

At that point, you want to challenge her. Say something like, “Are you a chicken? You’re afraid to go in the water? You are standing here in the hot sun, but you won’t go in the water? Come on, let’s go.” You make it a game. You have fun.

Another thing I always used to do to meet people at the beach is to bring a Frisbee and a ball. When a woman would walk towards me, I’d throw the ball in the air, look at them and say “Catch!”

She’ll catch the ball and then throw it back to you. Then you can say, “Why do you throw like a girl? Didn’t your father ever teach you not to throw like a girl? Come on, you can throw better than that!” Once again, challenge her and have fun.

That’s what it is all about when you’re at the beach. People go to the beach to have a good time, to relax and to swim.

So these are all great ways you can engage people in conversation and activities at the beach. If they’re having fun with you, the conversation immediately becomes a lot easier.

As some of you know, this was going to be my last year personally coaching Bootcamps. I have an amazing team of coaches who would have carried on for me brilliantly, and they will continue to do an amazing job coaching for me.

As for my decision to stop coaching Bootcamps myself at the end of this year, though, and as the NFL field judges say, upon further review I have changed my mind. No, not about how fantastic my coaches are, but about coaching the Bootcamps myself after the end of 2009.

It’s what I love to do. Not only that, I personally believe my Bootcamps are superior to all the garbage ones that are out there being taught by pretend wannabe experts.

So no retirement from coaching Bootcamps for me. The Bootcamps will move forward with me (and my team of coaches) coaching them in 2010, 2011, 2012 and beyond. It’s going to take a serious ACL injury to get me out of the Bootcamp coaching game.

For those of you who thought I was walking away from everything, I have just one question for you. Are you crazy? I’m not going anywhere (except maybe on a few trips next year).

There are, however, some great new things I’ll be coming out with next year and in the near future. We’re already kicking off some great new ideas.

Adam (my head instructor in London) and I have come up with an amazing seminar that will be taking place in London in a few weeks which is FREE. Click here to check it out.

For the women, we’re doing a killer seminar in Los Angeles this Sunday (November 8th). Click here to learn more about it.

For anyone who don’t know my team, I’ve hand-selected and personally trained every person who works with me. Not only have I personally trained them, but they all stand alone as amazing coaches. Your experience with any one of them would be just as satisfying as your experience would be with me.

My team and I plan on doing a lot of new programs next year. One of them is going to be an incredible inner mindset seminar. Details, of course, to follow next year…

We will also be launching a new live at home coaching program. That’s right — one of us will be spending two to seven nights on your sofa in the near future!

I’ve been doing this for 14 years. Brett Favre has been playing for 18 years. As long as he keeps throwing touchdown passes, I’m going to keep changing and affecting the lives of people who attend our workshops, seminars and Bootcamps.

Of course we’ll be coming out with a slew of new products, because as the dating world changes we are always ready to show you how to change with it!

So, mandatory retirement used to be at age 65. I plan on teaching a bunch of shuffle boarders in Florida the art of meeting hot sexy 80 year olds when I’m 80.

I will have the first and only geriatric pickup bootcamp in the history of the world.
I can see it now — my pants hiked up high to my chest leading around a bunch of guys who are all on arthritis medication who want to chase after some hot, sexy, experienced older women.

Thirty years from now, everyone who attends my geriatric Bootcamp will get a week’s worth of Cialis and Celebrex. Not only that, most of the people in my Bootcamp will have enlarged prostates, so I’ll have to give out something for that too. I can already see my Bootcamps in thirty years being sponsored by the pharmaceutical companies.

In the meantime, I’m young and healthy and ready to walk the next group of guys around at the the next Bootcamp. So this is the big announcement!

For those of you who were thinking to yourself, “Where’s my dating tip of the day?”, don’t worry. Here are a few tips for you. . .

1. PUT THE TIP IN FIRST: You don’t ever want to go in backwards.

2. USE THE DAVID WYGANT/BRETT FAVRE APPROACH: For those of you who may not be having sex today (and, hence, can’t make use of tip #1), you may need an approach tip of the day. So here it is: Say to the first person you see, “Did you hear that David Wygant just pulled a Brett Favre?” You want to talk about a great opening line! You meet the right woman, and she won’t know who David Wygant OR Brett Favre are.

3. 55 DAYS TO GO: For those of you who want a date tip, here it is. It’s November 5, 2009. There are approximately 55 days left in the year and before you will hopefully be staring at someone you’re about to kiss when the clock counts down 5-4-3-2-1 to midnight on New Year’s Eve. So the time to take real action on changing your dating life is now.

For those of you who want to see a very teary-eyed video, then check out the video I recorded yesterday. It will make you feel very warm and fuzzy…

Also, for any of you who are not yet on my subscriber list, I suggest you get on there quickly, because otherwise you’re missing a lot of special offers, private seminars, and FREE videos and podcasts that I give out just to my subscribers. You can sign up now in the box in the upper right hand corner of the page.

So to help make everything crystal clear, here are 10 truths behind my HUGE announcement:

1.I will be coaching Bootcamps through December 31, 2009. After that, my coaches will run my Bootcamps starting January 1, 2010.

2.My coaches are fantastic! My Bootcamps will still be the best in the world, and I will be overseeing all of them.

3.Some of you thought the website and the blog were going somewhere. Not true! Just because I won’t be coaching Bootcamps in 2010 doesn’t mean I still won’t be sitting here all day long creating great blogs, product and content for you.

4.I’m not retiring and moving to Florida to play shuffleboard and lawn bowling all day long. I am just going to be concentrating on getting my message to the masses. By not working weekends in 2010, I will be able to work on exciting new ideas that I haven’t had time to develop including three new products that have never been released in the marketplace (which I’ll more about with you later in 2009).

5.For those of you who thought I was announcing that I was getting married, let me be clear that I am not getting married. If and when I do, and as with all things in my personal life, you will be the last to know . That’s why it’s called a personal life.

6.For those of you who think Daphne will also not be coaching Bootcamps in 2010, you’re wrong. Coach Khiem and Coach Kimberly can’t do Bootcamps without her. Daphne won’t be retiring until 2012, and she still has three years remaining on a very lucrative contract. That is, unless the coaching union finds out she is taking anabolic steroids . . . although I don’t think the coaching union has yet ruled that steroid use is illegal at Bootcamps. Plus if you’ve ever seen Daphne’s activity level, the only substance that could even possibly be running through her veins is Valium.

7.I still love what I do every single day. I enjoy every single Bootcamp I coach. When I told you in the video yesterday that slots for my remaining Bootcamps would be very limited, I meant it. Some of you have emailed me asking if it is really true that the spots are going to be limited. The answer is yes – it’s 100% true. I want each and every one of my final Bootcamps to be a once in a lifetime experience for each person who takes one. So if you want to see exactly how many slots are available, next week I will be posting my final Bootcamp schedule through June 2009.

8.Even though I will not be coaching Bootcamps beginning in 2010, I will still be available to do phone and email coaching. I am not disappearing off the face of the planet, that it unless I move to New Mexico and my body gets abducted by aliens.

9.There will be a very special coaching week this summer during which eight lucky people will have a chance to live in a house and be coached by me for a week. If this is something in which you would be interested, I’d suggest you get on my newsletter list ASAP.

10.Starting in 2010, weekends are made for Michelob (and for those of you who know me, the taste of beer repulses me). So I want all of you to come up with a slogan for me . . . come up with what I should do with my weekends beginning in 2010. Keep in mind that my drug-induced days are long past, I’m not a big drinker and Daphne is lazy.

I truly appreciate all of the comments I’ve been getting – it’s great to be missed before you even gone. I feel like Brett Favre. Wouldn’t it be great if a tv station interviewed me when I’m in my Bootcamp uniform of jeans and a t-shirt and I was covered with mud because we’d just come from hiking . . . then three months later we found out that Daphne traded me to the New York Jets? Now THAT truly would make me cry!

So for those of you who have been confused about my announcement yesterday, look at today’s video.

After eleven years of coaching, I’ve made a very BIG decision: This is going to be the LAST year I will be coaching Bootcamps and my last year doing one-on-one coaching in person.

This doesn’t mean that I will not have Bootcamps after this year. It means that after this year my Bootcamps will be coached entirely by my team of coaches. It means is that 2009 will the last year I am going to personally coach any Bootcamp.

My life has changed a lot over the last eleven years. I am now in a relationship, and there’s something about going out meeting women every weekend that just doesn’t resonate with me anymore. This is, therefore, going to be my last year personally coaching Bootcamps.

Now don’t get me wrong . . . I’m not getting married and moving to Canada for some free healthcare or anything. It’s just that my goal now is to reach as many people as possible, which I feel I can best do through the Internet, via phone/email coaching and through my Community Site.

I’m going to post my entire year’s schedule on the website. Be aware, though, that I am keeping all of my remaining Bootcamps very small and intimate, so slots will be very limited.

Once these slots are sold out, that’s it. I won’t be adding any additional Bootcamps or slots to the schedule.

So if you want to learn from me in person and have me personally teach you the skills I teach, then I’d contact me at david@davidwygant.com as soon as possible and secure a spot for yourself in one of these Bootcamps.

If you want to learn more about why i made this tough decision take a look at this very personal message from me.