Are you a dating “lister”?

Meaning, do you sit down and list all the things you desire in a person and then expect to put yourself out there and meet that very person?
Are you a person who has a checklist for things they’re looking for in a partner? Then at the end of each date, you go home and check off what that person did and didn’t do, or how they lived or didn’t live up to your expectations?

Dating and relationships are always a unique ride for each person. A lot of times you think you’ve found somebody great, they’re the perfect person, and then all of a sudden a few months into dating them you realize that they’re not for you.

How strict are you with your expectations of another person? And how many hoops do you need to make the person you’re dating go through in order to give them the gift of your love?
Check out today’s video and ask yourself if you are as stringent as this guy is in this video. If so, explain down below why you are.

What are your desires, your deal-breakers, and what can you tolerate? What are your negotiables and non-negotiables?

Let’s have a conversation today about how far you’re willing to negotiate when it comes down to things you desire in a relationship.
Let’s make this a great conversation!

Oh wait…wrong holiday.

This is it: Over the river and through the woods; To grandmother’s house we go!

Who wrote that annoying song anyway?

So today, one day before you are attacked by the parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, where they all are going to ask you this one big question:

Why are you still single? How come you didn’t bring anyone to Thanksgiving dinner?

So instead of the usual defensive mode you go into, I have a solution for you.

Today’s podcast will give you the exact reason why you are single this Thanksgiving.

Your answer to Granny, Mom and Dad, friends, and co workers, lies in today’s special holiday bonus one hour podcast.

It’s time to understand the importance of your journey. It’s time to embrace how how being single is the way to go.

And one last thing: Do not let Mom, Aunt Susie, or Grandma set you up on a date. They have no clue what you like in another person, and they did not listen to this podcast to understand why you are single and what you are looking for.

Let’s go back to the game and rewind just a little bit. The Jets found a way to beat Tim Tebow. I think they had eight three in outs on the Broncos. The Broncos couldn’t move. Tebow couldn’t run.

Tebow throws like a girl, I’ve never seen passes like that in the NFL. All his passes seemed to go absolutely nowhere but down to the ground or towards the stands.
But at the end of the game, the Jets became just like most guys are when it comes down to dating. They went into what is called the Prevent defense. And all the Prevent defense ever does in football is prevent you from winning.

I’ve seen it 1,000s of times. A team plays great defense for 55 minutes of the game, they give up no touchdowns at all. Then all of a sudden the quarterback, who’s been having a horrible game, will drive the team down the field and win the game. Because the defense that worked for 55 minutes is abandoned. Then the team is losing, and stays in Prevent defense mode, which of course, prevents them from winning.

I never understood why coaches do that, and I never understood why guys go into the Prevent defense when trying to go out and meet women.
Instead of trusting a new game plan, instead of going into attack mode, instead of going out and meeting women all day long, all guys seem to do (especially on a Friday or Saturday night) is go into Prevent defense mode. They think that just because they’re out on the playing field on a Friday night, that things are magically going to happen for them. That they will stumble across a win, stumble across a beautiful woman.

So what do they do? They wait, they kick back, stand around the room looking at everyone in Prevent defense mode. They wait for the right opportunity. They never go and approach. They’re playing it safe. Sure, they may be preventing themselves from getting rejected, but while they’re doing that, every other guy is swooping in ahead of them and talking to the women that they want to talk to.

The only way to meet the kind of women you want is to come up with a definitive game plan, a game plan that’s going to work, a game plan that’s aggressive and moves you forward. You’ve got to ditch the game plan you’ve had up until now, the game plan where you’re playing it safe.

Here’s the deal, guys. The year is almost over. You’re heading into the home stretch of the year, you’re heading into the final six weeks of the year. Do you have a definitive game plan? Or are you a guy who curls up and goes into Prevent mode? Are you a guy who lets everybody else run around you, advance down the field, walk away with the women that you want and then you’re left at the end of the day, basically being an arm chair quarterback, thinking to yourself, How could I have made this different? How could I have changed the outcome?
There’s no way to change that outcome unless you change the way you think. Unless you go at it aggressively and come up with a game plan that’s going to breathe success. By going out and talking to people openly and passionately all day long, you’re going to start leading people and you’re not going to let people walk all over you when the weekend hits and it comes down to Friday-Saturday night crunch time.

For those of you who are serious about meeting women this holiday time, if you’re sick of being single over the holidays, I’ve come up with a whole game plan for you to check out.
RIGHT NOW is by far the best time of the year to meet women. Why? Women are emotionally drained, emotionally looking to connect, looking to share the holidays with someone. It’s holiday time. They’re in holiday mode, shopping, out having fun and enjoying themselves.

They’re connecting with old friends. They’re available. They’re not going to make up the fake boyfriend. I explain to you why, I talk about all of this and much more in my gameplan on how to meet women for the holidays.

Not only that, they want to end the year with a bang. The question is, are you going to be the one banging them? Or are you going to be the one standing on the sidelines wondering, waiting, hoping, basically standing in the corner of the bar going into Prevent defense mode over and over again?
Click here to check it out. It’s a must if you want to get down with new women this time of the year.

I am getting really tired of all the negative thinking and venting that is going on here.

You think you have it rough?

Do you really think your that un-dateable and ugly?

Do you think your life is so hard that no one will love you or want to be with you?

Do you really think that nothing is ever going to change?

Well here is a reality check.

Watch this video and let me know how you feel now.

Its time the pity party comes to an end.

You know, I’ve gone into many people’s homes, and immediately I can figure out who they are and how they care about themselves. If I go into their bathroom and it’s absolutely disgusting, I think to myself, this person could care less about hygiene. They probably don’t brush their teeth and probably wear the same underwear three days in a row.

I go in their kitchen and I see nothing in the refrigerator, and I think to myself: they must really like to starve themselves. If I go into their bedroom and their bed is unmade, I think now that’s cool, they must think to themselves every morning, “Why the hell make a bed?” I’ve never understood that point, where you don’t make the bed because “you’re just getting in it to unmake it again anyway.” Right.

Dating And Clean Homes

You get the point. Your home says so many things about you, especially if you’re dating. Your furniture will say a lot about who you are. The way you decorate will say a lot about who you are. If you have pictures on the wall it will say a lot about who you are.

Look around your house as you read this blog, and if you’re reading this blog at work, look around your desk. Does the condition of your desk actually describe who you are as a person? Look around your house tonight when you go home, and take a look at it, and ask yourself, if I came into this home, would I feel homey? Does it give off the character — does it give off who I am? Is it warm? Is it fuzzy? Is it new? Is it modern? Is it hip? Is it cool?

So many people don’t spend enough time on their house. I think it’s time you really started figuring it out because when someone comes over to your house for the very first time, you want them to have a certain feeling about you. What’s that feeling that you get about your house when you go in there?

Ok…not the end of the world. Nor the end of the day.

But the end of the year.

So I took a long walk along the beach and thought about this:

How many of you had the year that you expected?

How many of you were able to create that incredible dating life this year that you know deep down inside that you could have?

And now how many of you are already thinking about next year and how next year will be different than this year?

All of you need to sit yourselves down in a room and listen to today’s podcast. I am about to share with you some hard facts and wake you up to what reality is really all about.

Well now your friend is about to marry a crazy one. What do you do?

Let’s add a little fun dimension to this. You’re at a party one night. You open the bathroom door and that crazy lunatic woman is making out with another guy only a few months before your friend is scheduled to marry her.

She looks at you and she smiles. Then she corners you and says, “Don’t say anything to him. That was just an ex, and I really needed to just get that out of my system before we got married.”

What do you say to your friend, knowing he is about to marry this crazy one? Is it your place to say anything to him? I think it is, and I’m going to share something with you from my own personal experience.

Back in 1987, my best friend Mark was about to marry a woman I didn’t particularly like. I’ve known Mark since I was seven years old. I didn’t particularly like her because I found her to be very controlling and a little uptight sexually. From what he described to me, she just seemed like she had an underlying plan and I didn’t trust her.

When I asked him how the sex was with her, he said it wasn’t that great but was nice enough. He told me he wasn’t even that attracted to her, but that he felt he should marry her because she was the nicest woman he’d ever met.

That’s the problem about being in your mid 20′s. We tend to go off and marry someone who’s just so nice to us, but yet we’re not really into them.

About a month before Mark’s wedding, I confronted him and I told him that I didn’t think he should marry that woman. I also told him all the reasons why I didn’t think he should marry her. I had it all written down on a piece of paper, so I wouldn’t forget anything.

Do you know what happened? He ended up marrying her anyway, and I wasn’t the best man at the wedding.

Guess what happened fourteen years later? You got it . . . He had to write a really big check when the two of them got divorced. He had to move out of the house he bought.

Being the controlling woman I knew she was, she of course started manipulating the kids and telling them what a horrible father they have. Now two years after the divorce — after all the messes and financial cleanup has been done — his own kids don’t talk to him.

A real and true friend will be honest regardless of what the outcome is going to be. Your friend will make whatever decision he is going to make no matter what. He may marry the crazy, manipulative woman or he may listen to you. He may actually open his eyes and realize you are only looking out for his best interest. Regardless of what decision he makes, a true friend will still tell him how he feels.

Welcome to a really hard time of adult adolescence called honesty with your friends. Don’t sugarcoat things any more.

They’re dating a nut or are about to marry a crazy woman, then you as their friend better try to shake them into reality. They may be dating that woman or marrying that woman based on their own insecurities or their own fear of not being able to meet someone else. They lack an abundance mentality when it comes down to meeting women.

So you need to wake them up — and wake them up fast — because that divorce is going to cost them a lot of money in the future.

What is “flaking?” An example of flaking is when you’re supposed to have plans with someone on a Friday night, and they flake on you at the last minute. Another example is when in your mind you’ve met somebody with whom you feel you have great chemistry, and they flake never to be heard from again.

What if I told you that there is no such thing as “flaking,” and that this misused terminology in dating is just an urban legend made up in your mind to make you feel better about someone who wasn’t interested?

Here’s the key: If someone supposedly flaked on you, it really means either that you did not intrigue them enough, or that the so-called connection or chemistry that you felt was a one-way street. Let’s go even deeper into this.

How about if I told you that the reason why there’s no such thing as flaking, is because you played it safe when you met somebody and they decided not to pursue it further because they have no idea who you are. Or, what if I told you that this so-called flaking is really due to the way you’re meeting people in the first place.

People who tend to bet blown off a lot are people who tend to chase the wrong people. For instance, I have a friend who’s in his mid-forties who constantly chases women in their twenties. These women supposedly always flake on him.

If you’re getting supposedly flaked on (and remember I said flaking is getting blown off), then let’s call it what it is. If you’re getting blown off regularly, then it’s because you’re chasing women and not intriguing them.

If you’re chasing someone, then you put yourself in a position of weakness. If you intrigue, engage and be upfront about everything with women, you will not get flaked on or blown off. Because that too is just a myth.

Let’s say when you meet someone you’re 110% upfront with them about everything, you’re powerful, you’re interesting, and you engage them, but you guys just don’t connect. If without playing any games like this you two just don’t connect, it means that you have no chemistry. What’s good about this, though, is that you at least found out immediately.

If I meet a woman and we don’t connect (either on my side or her side), I don’t lose any sleep over it and I don’t care. There’s plenty of other women to meet and to get to know.

If you, however, are the type of guy who’s constantly playing games and trying to sell yourself to women, then you are creating a lifestyle of being flaked on by women. Flaking is not even in my lifestyle or in my vocabulary.

The only flakes that I ever see either come from the sky in the winter, or come from the nasty man in front on me on the airplane as they fall from his head onto his shirt. It’s all about how you approach this.

Men who chase women get flaked on all the time. More specifically, men who chase women who are wrong for them get flaked on all the time.

Take a look at your life right now. If you’ve been flaked on recently and you use the term flaking, it’s time you looked in the mirror and realized that it’s something you’re doing not something they’re doing. Everybody who is going to date is going to meet people with whom they don’t have chemistry. It’s just a matter of how you go about doing it and thinking about it.

1. For Pete’s Sake!: Who’s this Pete . . . and how come everything’s always for his sake?

2. Heavens To Betsy!: Who’s this Betsy . . . and how come everything’s always heavens to her?

3. Betty Crocker: Who’s this Betty Crocker . . . and how come she gets to bake all the cakes?

4. Milton Bradley: Who’s this Milton Bradley . . . and how come he gets to play all the games?

5. Heavens To Mergatroy!: Who’s Mergatroy . . . and why is he the only one allowed in Heaven with Betsy?!

6. Let Me Be Frank: Why can’t you let me be David?

7. Holy Waddell Canal Batman!: What the f*%^ is a Waddell Canal?!

8. F*%^ Like Rabbits: Have any of you ever f*%^ed a rabbit to know what they f*%^ like? Am I missing some rabbit porn that other people have seen?

9. Hung Like A Horse: If you were really hung like a horse, you’d need a third leg in your jeans.

10. Bartles & James: Who are these Bartles and James guys, and why do they get to drink all the wine coolers? On the other hand, who cares because who wants to drink one of those anyway?

11. Scared Shitless or You Scared The Shit Out Of Me: Really? Can I check for skidmarks? Did you shit in your pants??

12. Are You Shitting Me?: Yeah . . . I woke up this morning and I shit my friend Fred out of my ass.

13. Born Again: Born . . . again? OK. What happened? Did you climb back in your mother’s womb and then were born again? Boy, that must have been painful for her!

14. For The Love Of Pete!: Man, that Pete is one special guy. Not only is everything for his sake, but also for his love!

15. Go To Hell In A Handbasket: That must be one uncomfortable ride . . . although the destination doesn’t sound so great either.

16. Great Scott!: Why can’t it be “Great Tim!” or “Great Bob!”?

17. Gung Ho: I’ve met people named Chin Ho and Mary Ho . . . and my sister’s a ho . . .

18. I Have A Bone To Pick With You: Fine. What about a rib? Why am I going to take a bone to pick you . . . is it a big bone, a small bone, a boner?

19. Laugh Your Ass Off: If you laugh your ass off, then what do you laugh with . . . your pubic bone?

20. Lip Service: Lip service is great . . . just don’t give my any of your lip. I don’t want someone else’s lip. What do I want someone else’s lip for?

21. Mums The Word: Is Grandmum mum too? How about Stepmum? Is she the word too??

22. Don’t Give A Rat’s Ass: Do you really want to touch a rat’s ass? In order to give it . . . you have to touch it.

23. It Is Better To Give Than To Receive: Aw c’mon now . . . we KNOW you like to receive!

24. Nothing To Sneeze At: If you learn how to sneeze on command, go for it.

25. Eager Beaver: I always wanted an eager beaver, ’cause I really like women who are really eager . . . especially with their beaver.

26. Another One Bites The Dust: Another what bites the dust?

27. Hold On A Sec: C’mon now, think about this. Someone tells you to ‘hold on a sec,’ and by the time they say it and push the button, it’s already been a sec and they didn’t come back!

28. You’re Full Of Shit!: Oh great. I just went to the bathroom and someone’s telling me I’m full of shit. How do they know I’m full of shit? Are they inside my colon? Do they know something I don’t know?

29. F*%^in’ A!: How about f*%^in’ B . . . or C . . . or D . . . or E? How did “A” become so f*%^n?!

30. The Whole Nine Yards: What are you . . . a measuring stick? Were you a referee one time in the NFL? Obviously you didn’t do your job very well, since it’s supposed to be the whole TEN yards.

31. Until The Cows Come Home: They never come home . . . and don’t you have to find a rancher to get them to come home?

32. Tastes Like Chicken: If it tastes like chicken, then what does chicken taste like . . . frog?

33. Under The Weather: This never made sense to me. Where exactly under the weather are you? So if you’re under the weather and it’s 75 and sunny, what are you . . . 74?

34. Feel Like Hell: Have you been there?

35. Turn The Other Cheek: Great, so now I get to see both sides of your ass.

36. Tit For Tat: I’d gladly take a tit for a lot of things . . . but I’ve never had a tat to exchange for a tit.

37. Pulling My Chain: What if I’m not wearing my chain that day? What are you going to pull then?

38. Well I’ll Be A Monkey’s Uncle: If you’re a monkey’s uncle, then that means that your sister or brother has a monkey for a kid.

39. Rub Me The Wrong Way: If you rub me the wrong way, I’m going to show you the right way really fast.

40. Pooh-Pooh Something: What does this mean? Are you going to rub your own shit on something? That’s actually really disgusting!

41. Dagnabbit!: Where does this come from? Who is Dag . . . and why does he always get the nabbit?

42. Take The Cake: If you take it, then there’s none left for anybody else.

43. Done Like Dinner: Are breakfast and lunch raw?

44. As Far As You Can Throw Him: As far as you can throw him? When’s the last time you picked someone up and threw them? Do you have a weight limit? Since when did you become bionic?

45. Cheez Whiz: What’s that . . . a cheese taking a piss?

46. That’s What They Say: Who the hell are they . . . and why are they always recommending the same restaurants?

47. Houston We Have A Problem!: You don’t live in Houston and you’re not up in Apollo 13 so really, what IS your problem?

48. Hold The Phone: But I’m on my headset!

49. I Don’t Know Him From Adam: Does she even know an Adam?

50. Cool your Jets: What am I . . . an airplane?

51. Get My Drift?: What? Did I become a storm front all of a sudden?

So which ones did I miss. Feel free to add as many as you can.

Its time some of you listened and got out of your heads.

No more typing.

Its time to listen and learn.