It’s funny how many guys will go around and spend their entire day talking to women that they’re not attracted to. They’ll talk to the 5s, 6s, and 7s – you all know how much I hate the number system, it’s retarded. In my book, it’s either a 1 or a 2: 1, you’re attracted to her, and 2, you’re not. There’s my system.

So you can walk around all day long talking to these women that you’re not attracted to. You can flirt, you can challenge them; you can do anything you want with them. And at the end of the day you say to yourself, well, it doesn’t count, because I wasn’t attracted to her.

In reality, let’s go inside the women’s mindset. The woman that you’re talking to isn’t thinking, all right, so this dude is talking to me because I’m a 6. This woman that you’re talking to thinks that she’s hot!

Think about the analogy here. If a woman has ever set you up with her friends, she’ll always tell you how hot her friends are. So you show up at this party she invites you to and you’re thinking, okay, where are all of her hot friends? But she’s been introducing you to people all night long.

Women don’t go around rating themselves – they’re not like guys. They aren’t these visual retards that walk around all day long grading. Women don’t grade guys on a number scale.

Another great social experiment I did one time at a seminar involved putting masks on ten women. I got a guy who was totally shy and uncomfortable talking to women to come up and talk to all of them.

He had no problem with it, because they had masks on. He flirted with them and he was funny and charming. But the minute that the woman that he liked best took off her mask and he saw she was hot, he became a babbling idiot. He spoke to her completely differently.

So today in the coffee shop, you basically did the same thing. You opened these two women beautifully about the iPod. But then you disqualified yourself immediately. When you saw she was cute, you made some comment like, “Well this just shows what a geek I am. I like to read The Economist on the iPod!”

You didn’t say that once yesterday at all, to any of the women you weren’t attracted to. Yesterday you felt cool and good about yourself. But today, because the woman you were talking to was pretty, you had to tell her you were a geek. For some reason or another, you felt like you had to talk to her differently.

But she responded really well when you opened her up. She responded really well to you and what you were saying. You opened her with authority. But the second that she responded, you got really nervous.

You thought to yourself, well, she’s pretty, she looks like a porcelain doll, and I need to talk to her differently.

But you don’t need to talk to them differently. These women are the exact same, and they need the exact same things.

You also played it safe with her. Yesterday you were listening, engaging and challenging people. The minute you saw this pretty girl, you stopped challenging.

Talk to all women in the exact same way!

By the way, if you want to learn the best ways to make your approaches and early connections with women be a complete SUCCESS, and if you want to learn the best ways to approach women with complete confidence (but without using any “lines” or routines), then you need to check out my “20 Ways To Meet Hotter Women” program.

She said, “alright, you have my attention. Tell me a little bit more.” I said, “well first, what type of guy are you attracted to?” She said, “well, I’m attracted to a guy that is alert,” which I thought was very funny, and I asked her to describe “alert” a little bit more. I knew what she was getting at – she wants a guy that listens.

So then she described her perfect guy: a guy that listens, a guy that is connected to who he is, a guy that is confident, a guy that actually follows through, and the list went on.

I looked at her and asked her, “what type of guy do you think I teach?” She didn’t really know about me, she had just heard about what I do. She answered, “well, don’t you teach guys how to pick up?” I said, “the only thing they will pick up is takeout food for you!”

I continued, “I don’t teach pick up. I teach men how to be everything you just listed, plus plenty more. I teach men how to connect with women on so many different levels – from the second that they meet you. I teach guys the inner workings of your mind, which means that when one of my men approach you, they approach you based on emotions that you are already feeling.

If one of my men approaches you in a supermarket or a coffee shop, he’s looking at your face. He’s looking at your body language. He’s figuring out what type of day you had and he will start the conversation based on something you’re already thinking about.

These are guys that are very connected to who they are. These are guys that are very passionate about themselves, and these are men who are looking to connect with you on a higher level.”

So she looked at me and said, “wow, that’s amazing. I can’t believe that there is a guy out there that teaches men how to really connect with women!” I responded, “yeah, I’m not about pick up. If they want to learn how to pick up, they can go to one of those pick up companies and learn lines.”

I continued, “I’ll never teach men a line. But I will teach a man that the second he approaches you is the start of your relationship. I understand that you want to tell the story ‘how David and I met.’ You want to say, ‘you wouldn’t believe it: six months ago, he worked directly over me at Whole Foods and we had a fight over the last peach. So we had the produce guy cut it in half, and we split it. And ever since then, we’ve been sharing everything!’

I know what you’re about! You’re about living in a romantic comedy. And all of the men that I coach are players in your romantic comedy. They are guys that you not only want to date; but they are guys that you can bring home to Mom. They are guys that have a life. They aren’t needy and they aren’t clingy. They are real men. And real men is what you are attracted to.”

So you know what? Here is a message to all of the women out there: you know you’ve met a David Wygant man when he walks over and you feel like he totally understands what you are going through.

You know you’ve met one of those sleazy pick up company men when he walks over and says, “excuse me. Could I ask your opinion on something? Who cheats more, men or women?” You know you’ve met a sleazy pick up guy because he’s staring at your breasts and not into your eyes.

There is a big difference between what I teach and what those other dime-a-dozen companies out there are teaching.

If you want to meet a David Wygant man – or if you want to BE one – email me.

If you want to be a pick up artist, email me too, and I’ll tell you exactly which company to go to!

Fridays video is a great exercise that will teach any man how to be a natural.

And all the women need to watch this one as well.

It will teach you a thing or 2.

Have a great Friday!

How was everyones weekend?

I had the opportunity to work with a great guy from Scottsdale. I am off to NYC on Friday for a bootcamp as well as some one on one coaching.

I think todays post will really hit home for a lot of men and women especially after the weekend.

Which number is greater: your age, or the amount of women or men that you’ve met in a bar?

Think about this for a second. Think about the number of great women or men that you’ve actually met in a bar – or a nightclub, or a restaurant. Write it down.

Now take a look at your age – which number is higher? Usually your age is higher than the number of great men or women you’ve met in a bar.

It’s funny – I was with a client the other day, and we were talking, and he kept saying to me over and over again, “man, I just hate going to bars. I can’t stand going to bars. I really want to go just do something else.”

And I said to him, “how many women over the last year do you think you’ve actually met in a bar?” He looked at me, and said, “I’ve met one.” I said, “so do you average one per year?” and he said, “yeah, probably one per year.”

He’s 40 years old, and I asked him how many years he’s been going to bars. He said probably since he was 18, and I said, “so basically in 22 years you’ve met 22 women, and you’re 40 years old?” I don’t like that ratio. I think that number is pretty ridiculous.

Think about it – how many people have you actually met in a bar? If that number is greater than your age, then you should continue to go to bars. But if that number is less than your age, then I think you need to reconsider what you are doing on Friday and Saturday nights.

As we get older, our age will always increase. But to balance the scales of life, if the number of the women that you’ve met in a bar is not greater than your age, then you are just wasting time and wasting years.