Let’s talk about something that I think is really important, and one of the most interesting topics in the world. This is something that everybody needs to listen to. Get the shit out of your ears and listen!
It’s funny how many guys will go around and spend their entire day talking to women that they’re not attracted to. They’ll talk to the 5s, 6s, and 7s – you all know how much I hate the number system, it’s retarded. In my book, it’s either a 1 or a 2: 1, you’re attracted to her, and 2, you’re not. There’s my system.
So you can walk around all day long talking to these women that you’re not attracted to. You can flirt, you can challenge them; you can do anything you want with them. And at the end of the day you say to yourself, well, it doesn’t count, because I wasn’t attracted to her.
In reality, let’s go inside the women’s mindset. The woman that you’re talking to isn’t thinking, all right, so this dude is talking to me because I’m a 6. This woman that you’re talking to thinks that she’s hot!
Think about the analogy here. If a woman has ever set you up with her friends, she’ll always tell you how hot her friends are. So you show up at this party she invites you to and you’re thinking, okay, where are all of her hot friends? But she’s been introducing you to people all night long.
Women don’t go around rating themselves – they’re not like guys. They aren’t these visual retards that walk around all day long grading. Women don’t grade guys on a number scale.
Another great social experiment I did one time at a seminar involved putting masks on ten women. I got a guy who was totally shy and uncomfortable talking to women to come up and talk to all of them.
He had no problem with it, because they had masks on. He flirted with them and he was funny and charming. But the minute that the woman that he liked best took off her mask and he saw she was hot, he became a babbling idiot. He spoke to her completely differently.
So today in the coffee shop, you basically did the same thing. You opened these two women beautifully about the iPod. But then you disqualified yourself immediately. When you saw she was cute, you made some comment like, “Well this just shows what a geek I am. I like to read The Economist on the iPod!”
You didn’t say that once yesterday at all, to any of the women you weren’t attracted to. Yesterday you felt cool and good about yourself. But today, because the woman you were talking to was pretty, you had to tell her you were a geek. For some reason or another, you felt like you had to talk to her differently.
But she responded really well when you opened her up. She responded really well to you and what you were saying. You opened her with authority. But the second that she responded, you got really nervous.
You thought to yourself, well, she’s pretty, she looks like a porcelain doll, and I need to talk to her differently.
But you don’t need to talk to them differently. These women are the exact same, and they need the exact same things.
You also played it safe with her. Yesterday you were listening, engaging and challenging people. The minute you saw this pretty girl, you stopped challenging.
Talk to all women in the exact same way!
By the way, if you want to learn the best ways to make your approaches and early connections with women be a complete SUCCESS, and if you want to learn the best ways to approach women with complete confidence (but without using any “lines” or routines), then you need to check out my “20 Ways To Meet Hotter Women” program.
That is, are you somebody who won’t talk to people to their face – so you talk shit about them behind their back?
There is nothing I disrespect more than back talking. I don’t respect someone who can’t look me in the eyes and talk to me directly – someone who badmouths me behind my back. I find that to be the most disgraceful way of addressing something.
I don’t honor people who talk behind other people’s backs. I don’t honor people who don’t look me in the eyes and tell me what is on their mind. I don’t respect somebody who can’t talk to me face-to-face.
If anyone has an issue with me, I want to hear about it. I want to discuss it, because that is what a real friend would do.
Do you know anyone who is a real back talker? Or are you somebody that has been a chicken in life and decided to talk behind people’s backs?
Really, I think that back talking shows something important about your personality. I think it shows something about your development and your confidence level. A genuinely confident person will talk to somebody about the things that bother him or her. They won’t talk shit about somebody.
Shit talkers and back talkers are people who are really insecure. These are people who don’t really know themselves.
Do you know of any back talkers in your life? Or have you been one at times?
We’ve all talked shit about people behind their backs before. We’ve all done it. But hopefully most of us have stopped doing it – it really is one of the ugliest traits anyone can have.
It’s interesting, because a lot of men – and I’m talking about MEN, I’m not talking about boys. As little boys, we used to look at girls and we used to rate them on a number system.
I remember being like 11 years old, and we’d look at women – well, at that time, girls – and go, “man, she’s cute, what would you rate her?” “Oh, she’s like a 6.8,” or “she’s like a 7.5.”
The problem is that any man over the age of, really, 22 should no longer be rating women on a number scale. The number system is just really ridiculous. Why are you rating a woman on a number? Really, it’s arbitrary anyway, because my 10 could be your 3. Your 3 could be my 7, your 6 could be my 6.18, and your 2.87 could be my 3.14 – wait, isn’t that Pi? (more…)
The bootcamp just ended and as always i am sad to see the guys go. Someone once asked me what type of guys take my bootcamps?
Do you know what my answer was.
Guys who become my future friends!!
So here’s to a great weekend that i just spent with my future friends.
Thanks to:
Justin
Pete
Re Pete
Pradeep
Sarish
Clive….wherever you vanished 2
Chris
Ameet
Contstantin
Hakan
Ashley
Rogerio
And a huge thanks to my new ace coach in London Adam C and my coach in training Markus from Austria for all the help and amazing job they did with the guys this weekend.
And of course the weekend would not have been a huge success without the insight from my friend Eddie and a cameo from one of my ex clients Chris who joined us for the Sunday night dinner!!
Looking forward to my next bootcamp in NYC and all the future friends that i will meet!
One other thing I love about London is that I get to watch the NFL games late at night!!!
Onto to today’s topic…something that we went over in detail this weekend.
What is it with every guy and the street approach? Why does every guy want to get every single woman that walks by?
Here is why: because these guys don’t have an abundance mentality to begin with. (more…)
If you’re a woman, how do you know when a man is attracted to you? Are you a woman who believes that if a man doesn’t approach you that he is not interested in you?
Do you know that a LOT of men have trouble approaching women? A lot of men suffer from a disease they call “approach anxiety” (although I call it “self-inflicted torture!”)
In my more than ten years of coaching men, virtually every one of them seek my help in learning to conquer approach anxiety. You should see what happens over and over again at the beginning of every one of my men’s bootcamps. (more…)
Hey hope everyone is having a great holiday weekend!!
I just got out of the water I spent the early part of the day surfing!!
Hawaii is amazing and I think I found a new sport!
Onto todays blog.
When you’re in the mall and you really want to start conversations, start them based on observations. Your observations are always a good way to start conversations. (more…)
I am off to NYC in 2 days for a bootcamp and I was thinking.
Life is all about choices.
How does this quote make you feel?
“A good opener is not based on what you are thinking, but rather on connecting with her inner reality. Opening her based on her thoughts, energy and emotions. Living that life is the only way to become powerful”
What about this one?
“Picking up women is an action. Attraction is a state of mind that defines who you are. It is a state of being. Which one would you prefer to be?”
I want to hear your thoughts on this today.
Todays video is all about how to attract women with the power of your own personality. It is all about how to stop the routines and start using the power of you!
