It’s funny how many guys will go around and spend their entire day talking to women that they’re not attracted to. They’ll talk to the 5s, 6s, and 7s – you all know how much I hate the number system, it’s retarded. In my book, it’s either a 1 or a 2: 1, you’re attracted to her, and 2, you’re not. There’s my system.

So you can walk around all day long talking to these women that you’re not attracted to. You can flirt, you can challenge them; you can do anything you want with them. And at the end of the day you say to yourself, well, it doesn’t count, because I wasn’t attracted to her.

In reality, let’s go inside the women’s mindset. The woman that you’re talking to isn’t thinking, all right, so this dude is talking to me because I’m a 6. This woman that you’re talking to thinks that she’s hot!

Think about the analogy here. If a woman has ever set you up with her friends, she’ll always tell you how hot her friends are. So you show up at this party she invites you to and you’re thinking, okay, where are all of her hot friends? But she’s been introducing you to people all night long.

Women don’t go around rating themselves – they’re not like guys. They aren’t these visual retards that walk around all day long grading. Women don’t grade guys on a number scale.

Another great social experiment I did one time at a seminar involved putting masks on ten women. I got a guy who was totally shy and uncomfortable talking to women to come up and talk to all of them.

He had no problem with it, because they had masks on. He flirted with them and he was funny and charming. But the minute that the woman that he liked best took off her mask and he saw she was hot, he became a babbling idiot. He spoke to her completely differently.

So today in the coffee shop, you basically did the same thing. You opened these two women beautifully about the iPod. But then you disqualified yourself immediately. When you saw she was cute, you made some comment like, “Well this just shows what a geek I am. I like to read The Economist on the iPod!”

You didn’t say that once yesterday at all, to any of the women you weren’t attracted to. Yesterday you felt cool and good about yourself. But today, because the woman you were talking to was pretty, you had to tell her you were a geek. For some reason or another, you felt like you had to talk to her differently.

But she responded really well when you opened her up. She responded really well to you and what you were saying. You opened her with authority. But the second that she responded, you got really nervous.

You thought to yourself, well, she’s pretty, she looks like a porcelain doll, and I need to talk to her differently.

But you don’t need to talk to them differently. These women are the exact same, and they need the exact same things.

You also played it safe with her. Yesterday you were listening, engaging and challenging people. The minute you saw this pretty girl, you stopped challenging.

Talk to all women in the exact same way!

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I recently had an opportunity to work with a woman who was having a long distance romance with someone she met on the Internet. What I like about the Internet as a way to meet people is that it’s convenient, easy, can be done in the comfort of your own home, and allows you to get a lot of information about someone to help you know if you want to try and meet them.

So as a whole, I think Internet dating is a fantastic way to go out and meet new and exciting people to date. Here is the problem, though, with Internet dating: some people are not who and what they claim to be.

This issue arises most often when you’re in a long-distance relationship with someone. Usually when you meet someone on the Internet who lives far away, you will first converse via email, then you’ll talk on the phone, and finally you’ll set up some type of rendezvous. While this rendezvous will occasionally take place in one of the two people’s home town, most often it will be set to occur in what I like to call “neutral territory.”

So if you are in this situation, whether it’s a long distance relationship or not, how do you know whether the person who you’ve been dating long distance is everything they say they are? How do you know they’re not married? How do you know they don’t have another family? Or, how do you know they don’t have another girlfriend or boyfriend (or two or three . . . )?

Here are 5 warning signs which likely mean that you are dating someone who is not exactly who or what they claim to be:

1. They Provide Limited Information. The first thing you want to do when you meet someone on the Internet, especially someone who is long distance, is get a complete picture of the other person. A lot of times when you meet people on the Internet, it’s very easy for them to pick and choose which things they want you to know. So, for example, they might only want to talk about certain topics (e.g., music, art and working out) while they are very reluctant to discuss other things. What else are they about? Are they just about those certain things or is there a lot more you don’t know about them? A lot of times if you connect with someone about one or two things, its really easy to overlook everything else. So ask yourself, do I really know this person? Is there more to them? Do I know anything about their family or friends? This is very important. Some of the people you meet online are very careful not to reveal any information about their friends. Or, if they do, they are very vague about who their friends are or what they do with their friends. If you are a woman and the man you’ve been talking to keeps telling you about his “friend” Monica with whom he goes out to the movies but about whom he is otherwise vague, you need to probe him about it. If the person is not giving you any details on the kind of activities they’re doing with their friends or one particular friend, you might want to start wondering if they are hiding something from you.

2. They Never Invite You Over. Another red flag that someone you’ve met on the Internet isn’t who or what they claim to be, is if they don’t invite you to their home after you’ve been dating for awhile. A lot of the people who have something to hide, even when they do invite you over, may insist that you always call to confirm before you come to their place. Why is it such a big deal? I understand in the beginning you want to be polite and respectful and not make impromptu appearances at someone’s front door, but if you’re really dating – even if it’s long distance – there is no reason you should not be able to just “stop by” and surprise them for a visit. Do they always get mad if you show up unexpected? While I wouldn’t say that you have to go to their place unexpected all the time, there is a balance where you should feel comfortable showing up at each other’s homes without worrying that doing so will make the other person angry.

3. They Don’t Give You Key Information. The next warning sign would be to look at another aspect of someone not giving you the complete picture of themselves. While it is normal in the beginning of a relationship not to discuss things like your finances with each other, it is a warning sign if you know nothing about how they handle their lifestyle. A lot of times I don’t know exactly what my personal friends do for a living, but I still always know how they conduct their lives, how they make their money and whether they are responsible with their money. Not every detail of course – just very broad strokes. If you’re dating a person and you’ve never heard anything about how they pay for things or how comfortable they are with their financial situation, that might be a warning sign. Why are they hiding something that is so simple? Having a common viewpoint about money is a key aspect to being happy with a partner.

4. You Haven’t Heard Of Or Met Any Of Their Friends. Another warning sign you might want to look at is if you haven’t met or heard of any of the other person’s friends. Even if you’ve heard general mention of friends, you should be concerned if you haven’t ever seen any of them (if you’re not in a long distance situation) or if the other person has kept their social circle completely vague. If so, then once again you need to ask yourself what they are not telling you. Are they only wanting you for one specific thing? Are they only wanting you to know one side of them because they’re afraid that if you find out something else about their life that you might be turned off by it or you might not want to have anything to do with them? So again pay attention to the relationships these people have and pay attention to the surroundings in which they live.

5. They Are Inconsistent. Even though you may be strongly enamored with this person, do you still notice inconsistencies in their behaviors or in their stories? A lot of times when we really like a person, we neglect to pay attention to the small details. We just see what we want to see, because we project on them our hopes and dreams about who they are. Sometimes when you’re in a new relationship, it’s easy to imagine the other person to be the perfect man or the perfect woman you want them to be. All fantasy aside, though, do you still see contradictions in the other person’s stories? Do you see contradictions in the things have or do in their lives? Do they tell you they want a certain goal, but all of their actions seem to be completely contradictory to that? This perhaps is another warning sign that they may be hiding something from you. It also may be a warning sign to that person’s real behavior patterns or personality. They may not have their life together as they’ve told you.

These are just some of the warning signs you may notice when you’re in a relationship with someone you met on the Internet. If you are in a long distance relationship with someone you met on the Internet, then you need to pay really close attention to these things.

If you don’t really pay attention to warning signs like these, especially when you’re pursuing a long distance relationship, you may end up spending your time in a fantasy-driven world that’s real only in your head.

There are a lot of people out there who are very lonely, There are also a lot of people out there who prey on people who are lonely. If your internal “radar” is telling you that something is a warning sign, don’t ignore it! It’s always better to err on the side of caution.

In order to become more observant, your mindset needs to be this: everything you see you need to look at with a child-like curiosity. Look at everything like you’ve never seen it before.

The way you need to live life is to walk through a neighborhood every single day like you’ve never been there before. Every day you walk through that neighborhood, notice new things. Notice new buildings. Notice the color of the sky. Notice the new trees in springtime. Notice the new buds coming up. Notice everything you can possibly notice.

What happens is that this is tuning you to your environment. You can even do this on your way to work. If you walk to work, you can do this then. You can notice the cars, notice the way people walk, notice the way people are dressed. What happens is that you start training your mind.

What comes next is going into stores: let’s say you go into a Starbucks and you see someone you are attracted to. Have that same child-like curiosity. There’s someone standing next to you that you’re attracted to and you want to talk to them. You can look at the big menu board up there, the caramel machi-frattos and all that other junk, and you stand there and it’s called ‘throwing words to the wind.’ You project your voice so that the other person can hear it.

You never want to speak low or softly; you want to project your voice. When you project your voice, you can basically look up, throw those words out, and say, “god I was wondering, what’s good here?”

Immediately the person standing next to you will answer – everybody likes to pretend that they know it all. So she’ll answer, and there’s a conversation starter for you.

Everywhere you go, you can use the “I am wondering” or “I’m curious” method of reading people.

Let’s say you’re at a gas station, and you’re pumping gas into your car. Someone is standing next to you, and they’ve got this great Audi. “I’m curious, do you like your car? I was thinking of maybe getting one of those one day.” Whether or not you just bought your car or you didn’t – it doesn’t matter, you can still say that.

So be curious about everything. If you go to the Apple store – which is a place that a lot of people go – you’re looking at the iPods. You pick up the 70 GB iPod and say, “god, I’m wondering: do you think anybody ever fills up this thing with music?” The person will answer, “well, yeah, I have all this music…”

The most important thing you need to do is to look at everything in the world just like a child. You have the wonderment of a child, and you look at the world as if it was the first time you’ve ever been there.

Right now I am going to give you a sneak peak into what I just emailed all my customers. I created a program just for them about how to meet women this summer.

It goes over mindset places and ways to make this summer the best summer of your life. It is a 90 minute audio that will change the way you meet women this summer.

Today we dig even deeper on how to communicate better with women without all the scientific pickup jargon.

I woke up this morning next to a beautiful woman and had these thoughts to share with you.

Think about this: there’s a woman that you’re friends with and she convinces you to go on a blind date. How many times has that happened?

Or, your woman friend is throwing a party, and she says that all of her good-looking friends are going to be there. You go to the party, and you look around, and you say to her, “well where are all of your good-looking friends?” and she says, “they’re all here!”

This biggest clue that men can take from this is that women basically think all of their friends are beautiful. That’s what they do: they look from the inside out – while men look from the outside in.

This is something that men don’t grasp. If you look at the way women think about their friends, you might not find them appealing, but women find them incredibly sexy and beautiful.

Basically, it’s the same exact thing when women look at a man. You can never compare yourself to other guys, because women will look at you from the inside out. They don’t know that they’re attracted to you until they meet you. That’s what is phenomenal.