David: So what you’re worried about is not the opener, right? You’ve opened a woman up, but you’re worried about creating that attraction throughout the conversation, right?

Client: Yeah, that, and having something to say immediately after opening her, especially if she’s not giving me a lot to go off of.

David: Okay. So she’s not giving you a lot to go off of. A lot of women do this. But if you’ve opened her in the right way – based on an observation, based on what she was already thinking – you’re getting some type of answer back from her.

So let’s say you walk over to a group of women sitting there at a table. You say, “Hey, that food looks really good! What is that exactly?” One of them might respond, “It’s the special.” You say, “What is the special?” Then she tells you about it.

You can go back to her table 20 minutes later and say, “Oh man, I ordered that special, and it’s just not as good as you said it was!” You can return and follow the conversation. You don’t have to worry about coming up with something new every time.

You can give her 15 to 30 good seconds to think about it, and then remember what she said and come back to her about it. Come back at her with the things that you talked about with her previously.

Carry the conversation. Pay attention to what is going on. That is really the only way to do that. Otherwise, you don’t keep the conversation flowing or moving.

So really gather that information. Pretend that you’re an investigator. You’re like a CSI – it’s a crime scene. You’re this great investigator, and you’re trying to figure out exactly what this person is all about.

What are you learning about this person from the very first time? What did you learn?

And then when you go back to talk to them again, start the conversation based on what you’ve already learned. You’re just uncovering a mystery – she’s a mystery.

If you pay attention to what she is saying the first time you talk to her, then you will have plenty of things to talk about the next time you approach her.

Let’s say you’re talking to a girl in a coffee shop and she says, “You know, I love Italian coffee. It’s my favorite thing ever!” So then five minutes later you can talk to her again while she’s sipping her coffee and ask her, “So how did you end up falling in love with Italian coffee? Have you been to Italy?”

She might respond, “Oh my god, I went to Italy, it’s my favorite!” You ask, “what’s so great about Italy?” and then she’ll tell you. She’ll tell you how much she loves Rome – the history, the culture, blah blah blah… so the next time you talk to her you can say, “Man, you have to tell me more about Rome. I’ve never been there, but I’ve heard that the Coliseum is phenomenal. What was your favorite thing?”

So do you see how that happens? You’re moving that conversation forward. You’re remembering things that she talked about previously and then moving the conversation forward. You’re taking that conversation somewhere and turning it into something instead of this blasé chat that you have to start fresh every time.

It’s about paying attention to the details and being a really good investigator. The more you investigate, the easier it will be.

Client: And how do you avoid being one of those fucking guys who are hammering a girl with endless questions?

David: The most important difference is that you’re actually listening to her answers and sharing yourself with her at the same time.

When she tells you how much she loves Italy, you’re saying, “Oh my god, I love Italy too! I went to Italy one summer a few years ago and the food was amazing! What was your favorite thing that you ate there?” She answers, “Oh, I had the best pizza at this restaurant in Positano.”

You respond, “Oh my god, I was never in Positano, but I had this great pizza in….” and you share a story with her. You go into storytelling mode and share with her your experience there. This is how you avoid being Larry King and peppering her with questions.

You’re becoming an investigator, but you’re also sharing your own stories and bonding with her through it.

So that is how you do it. It’s a conversation. Think about having a conversation with your friends. If you speak to women as you speak to your friends, you’ll be fine.

All we’re really doing is trying to escalate attraction with everyone we connect with. The real reason we befriend somebody is because we connect with them and we show interest in each other’s lives.

So you’re really letting your true personality come out in this way.

What the hell is wrong with people?

People on an airplane act like total animals. They read a magazine and then throw it on the ground. They drink a bottle of water and then throw that on the ground too.

What do they think? The flight attendants are just maids in the sky? That they are going to just clean up after them entirely?

People act like total pigs when they get on airplane. They bring on the most disgusting food, like McDonalds. McDonalds is the WORST thing in the world you could bring into an enclosed space. They never think about other people.

Not only that, but when people stand in line for the bathroom, they literally fart in your face. You’ll be sitting there and smell this horrific stink, and then the person will look at you like, ha! Yeah, so I did just fart in your face! No big deal.

Here is another thing I’ve noticed about people’s disgusting public habits: why are public restrooms always so wet? There is always urine on the toilets in public restrooms. You literally have to clean the seat before you even consider sitting down to use the toilet.

It’s the most ridiculous thing in the entire world. Do they pee on the seat in their house? Is there urine all over the seat in their house?

Why do people throw paper towels all over public restrooms? Why are people so disgusting in public? I’ve never really understood that.

So what makes all this applicable to the dating world? Nothing really! But sometimes I like to talk about things other than creating attraction and dropping your ego and great sex.

When it comes down to it, you might end up dating one of these animals. This animal might come into your house and pee all over your toilet seat!

So get some manners! It is disgusting. People are just gross, and getting more mindless by the second.

Maybe you think it’s funny not to flush and leave a present for someone in a public restroom. But I really don’t find it that interesting to look down and see your present!

When I was little I used to tell my mom when someone left shit in the toilet of the public restrooms. In response, she taught me to never look down. Now when I go to a public restroom, I never want to look down!

What is up with people and their ridiculous animalistic behavior?

So what makes someone attractive to the opposite sex? What makes someone attractive in general? Anyone who is familiar with my work knows that one of the core principles I teach is that you need to put out good energy in order to attract people.

People are attracted to those who are positive, who smile, who are open and who are enjoying their life. People who walk around angry, unhappy and with closed body language will not attract anyone. These are not new concepts to anyone who reads this blog.

Here’s what is so interesting though. Even people who understand this concept tend to make a mistake in how they try to apply this.

The number one mistake that men and women make when they go out and try to meet someone of the opposite sex is that they go out to try and meet people of the opposite sex. That is, they go out with laser focus trying to locate and talk to people they are attracted to while ignoring everyone else.

If you understand what creates attraction, though, you know that it is created not just by how you interact with someone you want to attract but also by how you interact in general with the world around you.

Similarly, you attract members of the opposite sex not only by how you interact with them individually, but by how they see you interact with others. In fact, although it may initially seem counterintuitive some of you, you will actually begin to attract more members of the opposite sex the minute you stop focusing on trying to attract certain people and you start focusing on how to just become attractive in general.

To become really successful at meeting and connecting with members of the opposite sex, you need to really get this concept. The next question is, of course, HOW do you do this?

Instead of giving you the answer to this question in this blog, as a special treat for everyone I decided to answer it LIVE. I have just posted a special FREE BONUS Podcast for all of you where I talk about how you can create INSTANT ATTRACTION every day and everywhere you go.

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It is the new form of foreplay that will drive her wild. The random text message in the middle of the day to perk her sexual desire. The fun banter back and forth that will make her rip her clothes off when she sees you.

So for those of you who have never sexted before, let me enlighten you on this great skill. Sexting is the exchange of hot text messages between you and your partner (or future partner).

So what are the rules of Sexting?

Just like good foreplay you need to be able to slowly seduce the other person. No quickies in sexting.

You dont sext them with this: “I want to do you now:)”

No. The whole point is to get them so hot that they can’t stand it anymore and they have to see you that night.

There is a skill to Sexting. Once mastered, you will be able to Sext the woman you desire.

All women love to be seduced, and this is part of the new way to seduce women. They love a dirty text exchange when done right and with mystery and intrigue.

It’s all about building them up slowly and letting them Sext you back with fun texts that will get you all hot as well. They want to know that what they are sending you is driving you crazy!

So how do you do this?

You will need to read tomorrow’s blog and I will show you actual Sext exchange that will teach you the art of Sexting!

Have Fun Always.