Whatever ends up going through your head this weekend, one of the biggest stumbling blocks when you’re out with a new person you barely know is running out of things to talk about. Even worse if you’re the type of person who runs out of things to talk about so consistently on your past dates that you already fear it’s going to happen on your next date! Now hold on…
You all know this person. You’re at a party or you’re just hanging out with a group of people, and there’s always that one person who waves a big red flag in the middle of a great conversation and causes the conversation to go in an entirely different direction.
This person is what I call “the conversation killer.” The conversation killer can’t just kick back
You never, ever want to be a “background guy.” Do you ever walk into a store or into a party, and your friend is always the lead guy?
I met with Coach Jacob on the phone the other day. Jacob is one of my lead coaches and an unbelievable Bootcamp instructor. He’s a little version of me . . . literally. I’m 6’2″ and he’s 5’7″. He’s almost like my adopted son. He’s an amazing, loving and honest person, but like any child he can also drive me crazy. One way that Jacob drives me crazy is that he…
In order to really be able to connect with people, you need to improve your memory. So many times when you’re in a conversation with someone, you fade out and go into “Me World.” Slipping off into “Me World” during a conversation could happen out of fear or out of disinterest, or it could happen simply because you fail to remain present. At the moment you feel yourself starting to go in that direction, you need to dial yourself back become totally present in that conversation (whether you’re talking or just listening).
Anyway, there was something interesting I was thinking about the other day. I was thinking about how all of us have three hands. We have two hands with which we are born, and a third hand called a cell phone that we purchase from T-Mobile, Sprint, AT&T or Verizon. Sometimes that third hand really ruins…
Last night my girlfriend and I were out to dinner enjoying a great meal of sushi and Sake. As we’re sitting there having a conversation, the topic of single mothers and deadbeat dads comes up (because I was sharing a story about some people I know). That reminded me of a woman I dated about fourteen years ago named Denise.
A quick blog about what you can do this weekend. And if you do not have a museum head to an art store or art gallery and you can do the same exact thing.
A good salesperson knows how to bond with people based on making the other person feel good. A bad salesperson will get on the phone and just start selling immediately, saying “Hey, this is Joe from the Rubber Band Company, I know you need some new rubber bands…” Right? They’ll go right into their rehearsed sales pitch.
I just got off the phone with a client and I wanted to share the conversation we had with all of you
David: So what you’re worried about is not the opener, right? You’ve opened a woman up, but you’re worried about creating that attraction throughout the conversation, right?
Client: Yeah, that, and having something to say immediately after opening her, especially if she’s not giving me a lot to go off of.
