If you expect nothing from people, then you will accept every gift that they give you – the gift of themselves, and the gift of sharing with you.

Life is just a series of continual conversations. Whenever you meet somebody you connect with and find interesting, you want to continue that conversation with them, right?

So what do you do? You ask them out as a conversation continuance: “oh my god, it was so great to talk to you about your dog and this trip you just got back from. Hey, I want give you a call and learn more – give me your number.”

It’s just a continual theme. That theme is connecting – and you can maintain that continual connection that you have together in that moment of time.

Many guys will go into salesman-mode when they see a woman that they are attracted to; they will just try to sell themselves. “Buy me, please!” They continue to talk AT them rather than with them.

But you all know what a real connection feels like. If you’re talking to a woman and you’re both with groups of people and her eyes can’t stop looking at you – that’s a connection. If she’s directing all of her energy towards you, you know what that feels like.

So if you’re just going out there to practice conversation and listening skills, just talk to people all day long – that’s important to do. But if you’re looking for a real connection, you want to weed through as quickly as possible.

These are the two steps: the first is to go out and talk to people and build your conversation skills, the second is to look for that connection.

Todays video is all about how to create a more powerful version of you!!

Here is what is amazing: when you go out there all day long and start looking at your neighborhood, observing and talking to people, you’ll start to enjoy your life just a little bit more.

Maybe you walk into a museum, or a clothing store, or a furniture store – whatever it may be – what you need to do is gather information. You’re learning about things that you’ve never learned about before. Learning new things makes you memorable to other people.

Today, in LA, we went into this great furniture store and we saw this cool Arne Jacobsen Egg chair. You’ve seen that chair a few times and you’ve been interested in it. And three months down the road – and this will happen, because that’s how life works – you will go to a party and the host will have that chair.

Everybody is going to look around and say, “wow, that chair is really cool,” and then you’ll be able to say, “yeah, it’s a very famous mid-century designer” because of what you learned today.

All of a sudden, the conversation starts to go to YOU. You become the guy that is the expert. You are able to contribute to the conversation, and you will become the leader of that discussion.

All of the information that you pick up every day is information you can use anytime.

Todays video is part two of a live street meeting with a few dutch women in Amsterdam.

Remember when you were a little kid and you learned in school about the “5 W’s?” You know what I’m talking about: who, what, when, where, why and how. How did “how” ever become a “W” anyway? Maybe we’ll explore that in another blog . . .

I believe that one of the best lessons we ever learn as a kid in school is the power of who, what, when, where, why and how. They are powerful because when you are able to grasp the importance of who, what, when, where, why and how, you can create an amazing conversation with ANYONE in any situation.

It is all about becoming curious. My whole life I’ve been questioning everything.

Being confident in your ability to engage in conversation with anyone not only is a great general skill to have, but it has a huge impact on the success of your dating life. Do you you think you would get more dates if you felt comfortable to start a conversation with anyone, especially with those members of the opposite sex you really want to meet but usually feel too nervous to approach?

Think about how using the “5 W’s” can help you easily meet people in the places you go every day and how that could immediately result in you getting more dates. Let’s say you are in a coffee shop and you see a woman you find attractive. Note that this applies to either gender, but since I’m writing this I’ll use the male’s perspective for this example.

So let’s say I see a woman I’m attracted to in a coffee shop and I hear her say “Gosh, I really need a mochachino today.” Notice how you can utilize all of the five “W’s” and create a great conversation:

David: “Why do you need a mochachino today?”
Woman: “It just reminds me of this trip I took.”
David: “Really, when did you go on that trip?”
Woman: “Years ago I went on a trip with a really good friend of mine and we had an awesome time.”
David: “Where did you go?”
Woman: “We took a summer road trip up the coast.”
David: “That sounds really fun! How long have you two been friends?”
Woman: “She and I have been friends since grade school.”
David: “When is the last time you talked to her? What did you guys used to like to do together?”
Woman: “I haven’t talked to her in a couple years since she started having kids. We used to take a trip together every year to a different place.”

You can see that I actually easily used each of the who, what, when, where, why and how elements in that conversation. Notice how easy it is to create a conversation just by realizing and using the power of who, what, when, where, why and how.

Have you ever been nervous about engaging in conversation with someone, and questions keep running through your mind like “What can I talk about with them?” or “How will I think of the right thing to say?” The power of who, what, when, where, why and how eliminates all of these questions and gives you the ability to confidently engage in conversation with anyone, because you always have an endless supply of conversation topics ready and available.

You should be cognizant of the “5 W’s” every time you are talking to someone. You will never be nervous about what to say again!

The “5 W’s” are an integral part of most conversations whether you realize it or not. Think about every conversation you’ve ever had. I’ll bet they are all a series of who, what, when, where, why and how questions.

Life really hasn’t changed much since we were kids. One of the main things that has changed is our ability to rationalize. We rationalize our fears and decide we are “unable” to talk to certain people. The truth is you are able to talk to anyone in any situation.

So the next time you’re standing there looking at a total stranger you’d like approach, just think who, what, when, where, why and how and start talking. You never know where that next conversation might lead.
In order to learn and master the art of conversation you will need to watch this video. Together with this blog you will explode your interactions and meet some amazing women.

Ladies….watch this as well….it will work for you too!!

Hey hope everyone is having a great holiday weekend!!

I just got out of the water I spent the early part of the day surfing!!

Hawaii is amazing and I think I found a new sport!
Onto todays blog.
When you’re in the mall and you really want to start conversations, start them based on observations. Your observations are always a good way to start conversations.

You can start by saying, “hey, look, I need some help with the furniture,” and then observe. A client and I recently went into a Pottery Barn and did this. We listened to how she talked – in this case, the woman was Russian – so I threw in, “what part of Russia are you from?” to get her to start talking about herself.

The key is to observe, to then start the conversation, and then to listen intently. Whenever you listen, you get to pick up on all of the things that you want to be able to talk about next. Instead of thinking about what you NEED to talk about, you’ll actually be able to flow with the conversation by just listening to them.

The other person is giving you all the information you need to carry on a deep conversation with them. The more you listen to them, the deeper you can go.

When she mentions that she is from Moldavia, you can say, “Moldavia, I’ve never been there. What is Moldavia known for?” What happens is that you are creating an emotion in them, and by doing that; they are going to start to have some type of connection.

By asking her about things that she actually likes, enjoys, and is a part of, you will make her think about her home. When she thinks about her home, she’s going to want to talk to you more about that and she’s going to look at you as an emotional response. She’s going to bond with you, and think, oh my god, this guy is really interested in me – most guys aren’t really interested in ME, they’re interested in the physical aspects.

You can see when she starts talking a little bit about her language, and she gets red in the face. And then it’s like, well how much money do you have? I’ve got this magic pill – at that point, you have her. It’s done. That’s all you need to think about.

Today our video is all about getting wet with women in the rain.

Have you ever wondered what to say to a woman in the rain to get her intrigued and willing to get even more wet with you.