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Wednesday, April 22nd, 2009
Jason Voorhees is coming at you right now at summer camp holding a gigantic knife. Freddy Krueger is pulling you into the bed. Bruce, the mechanical shark from Jaws, is swimming right toward you at top speed.
The Bogeyman is actually in your closet. Remember when you were a little kid, and you were absolutely terrified to look under your bed because you thought the Bogeyman (or that evil clown from the movie Poltergeist) was hiding under it?
Remember all these terrifying moments as a child? You just couldn’t look inside that closet no matter what because you were truly afraid that the Bogeyman was hiding inside of it.
Do you know who the Bogeyman really is? Go to the mirror right now. Look in the mirror. Go ahead and take a good look in the mirror. YOU are the Bogeyman!
That’s right. You are the Bogeyman, because every fear that you have ever had in your entire life has been manifested in your own mind. Every fear. Every single one of them.
What is the Bogeyman in your head? Even more important, what is the biggest, scariest Bogeyman in your head?
You may have a fear of approaching the opposite sex. If you do, that is your Bogeyman.
You may have a fear of intimacy when you get close to somebody. If you do, then that is your Bogeyman.
You may have a fear of asking somebody out or calling them back. If you do, then that is your Bogeyman.
All of us need to learn how to eliminate the Bogeyman, because the Bogeyman is actually the scared little boy or girl that you really are.
Today’s podcast is not only going to blow you away, (and will make you think and laugh more than you have in a LONG time!) . . . but I have a very secret message that is at the very end of it. So be SURE you don’t miss it!!
Also, if you want to know how to get rid of that Bogeyman who lives in your head, check out my Men’s and Women’s No Excuses programs — In them, I take you through MY own journey and tell you how I got rid of my Bogeyman. I also show you step by step how to breakthrough and overcome every Bogeyman in your own head and get rid of them for good!
And for those of you who are a member of my private members site. Check out the video I posted today on the Bogeyman. This is a classic video!!
Tags: boogyman, confidence, fear, help, overcome fear, self help
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce, Goals & Aspirations | 121 Comments »
Thursday, April 2nd, 2009
Today I want to find out: what is the riskiest thing you’ve done this week?
Forget about it – this week is too easy. What is the riskiest thing you’ve done TODAY?
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Tags: confidence, daring, dating success, inner game, mt.everst, risk taking, superbowl
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 66 Comments »
Wednesday, March 25th, 2009
I just got off the phone with a client and I had to share this with all of you.
I could not wait till tomorrows blog……I think all of you will enjoy this!
There is no reason in life to take things personally.
If you truly respect yourself – if you really think that you’re a great person – then if someone else doesn’t like you, you won’t take it personally.
It just means that you might have some stuff to work on. You have some stuff to do.
Life is just like a mirror – we attract exactly who we are so we can learn the lessons we’re ready to learn.
So if you’re getting blown off on a regular basis and you’re feeling really bummed and obsessing over it, there is a lesson there that you haven’t yet embraced. You haven’t looked deep enough into it. (more…)
Tags: confidence, confident, eckhart tolle, ego, get laid, Goals & Aspirations, hook up, inner game, insecure, laid, oprah, power of now, self esteem
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 44 Comments »
Saturday, February 7th, 2009
Saturday and i thought this quick thought I had would be a great mindset for the weekend.
Enjoy your day!!!
We all want something. We want the end result.
You’re dating a woman, and you want to get her to fall in love with you. Or maybe you’re dating somebody, and you want him or her to move in with you. Or you see her two days a week, but you really want to see her four days a week.
So instead of being present and enjoying that moment, you’re thinking about what you want to get out of it. And you’re not really there.
My favorite times are with my girlfriend – and every single day with her is amazing because I’m always learning something new – but one of the best times we had together was in the beginning of our relationship when we stayed on the phone all night long. We’d get on the phone at 11 p.m. intending to talk for a few minutes, but we’d still be on the phone together five or six hours later.
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Tags: approach, approach anxiety, attraction, closing, confidence, double your dating, flirt, hot girl
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 12 Comments »
Friday, February 6th, 2009
So you’re in a conversation with some people, and the conversation is not going in your direction. Perhaps it’s about something that you don’t know much about, or something that you don’t understand – or it’s just about something that you’re not passionate about.
When you’re in this situation, you get frustrated. As the conversation progresses and gets more and more heated, you start to panic. You feel the need to somehow swing the conversation in your direction.
So you either change the topic – which is a mistake, because you just needlessly killed a great conversation – or you feel driven to say something totally stupid.
Here’s what I tell guys who find themselves in that situation: it’s a great time to shut up and learn.
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Tags: confidence, Dating Advice, Divorce, eckhart tolle, flirt, hot women, How To Be A Better Communicator, self help, the power of now
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 29 Comments »
Sunday, January 18th, 2009
With the NFL playoffs on today I felt that this would be a perfect story to share with you today.
I read this a few months ago and just reread it today.
Enjoy and before you read it one last thought.
Eagles and the steelers!
I want to tell you about the story of Brian Boyle.
Brian Boyle was a zombie. In 2004, a truck smashed into his jet black 1994 Chevy Camaro, a month after he graduated from high school. From the article: “the collision forced his heart to the right side of his chest, collapsed his lungs, and splintered his ribs, collarbone and pelvis.”
“He lost 60% of his blood and was given 36 blood transfusions. He lost over 100 lbs on his presumed deathbed and died eight times just on the operating table. Just over three years later he completed the 2007 Ford Ironman World Championship in Kona, Hawaii.”
What did he say about this? He “used all of the negative things that were thrown at [him] after the accident as ammunition for [his] arsenal. When [he] crossed the finish line, [he] wasn’t Brian the sick boy anymore. [He] wasn’t the skeleton in the wheelchair – [he] was Brian the Ironman.”
He woke up from a two-month coma, and then “embarked on three years of intensive rehab, which included relearning how to blink and walk. He had only six months to train specifically for the Ironman, but most of his preparation, he said, had taken place in the hospital.”
He says: “My mentality was similar whether I was undergoing endless physical therapy sessions after the coma or pushing my body to reach the finish line at Kona. If it was learning how to blink my eyelid again or pounding through one more mile during the run, it was about the small goals. Pain was now something that I could conquer.”
So what’s next for him?
He wants to go back and do another Ironman.
What’s next for you?
You have no physical handicaps. You have only mental handicaps. You are allowing a weak mind – and your fears and insecurities – to dominate your life. You’re not willing to communicate with people because you’re not willing to push yourself the extra distance.
Some of you can’t push yourself, and some of you just WON’T. You know who I’m talking about here!
But read this story of Brian Boyle. Brian Boyle died eight times. You just have trouble flirting with the opposite sex. Which do you think is more challenging? Whose life do you think is harder? Whose comeback is harder?
Push yourself to be the best that you can possibly be, and stop with the fear and excuses.
Your brain is powerful. Your mind is powerful. You really need to start looking at it as the powerful entity that it is. You can create anything you want.
. Read this again and learn about him, and then tell me if you don’t feel inspired to get out from behind the computer and start talking to people!
Tags: car accident, celebrity rehab, chevy Camaro, confidence, inner game, ironman, physical therapy, rehab, sticking point
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 43 Comments »
Thursday, October 23rd, 2008
In life, we tend to try to protect ourselves all of the time with our egos. We spend so much time worrying about everything – someone didn’t text me back quickly enough, someone didn’t email me back yet, someone hasn’t called me back!
And then you meet someone who turns you on more than anyone you’ve met in a long time and they don’t respond to an email right away.
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Tags: a new earth, confidence, connections, eckhart tolle, ego, egos, inner confidence, innger game, self esteem, self help, the power of now
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 19 Comments »
Friday, October 17th, 2008
Every time you go into an art museum you are learning more about the artwork.
The first time you go, you’re Mr. Curious, and you ask, “I’ve never seen this before, how does it make you feel?”
The second time you go back, you know a little bit about the artist and you can ask about that. The third time you go back, you say, “you know this artist has some other stuff on the third floor as well,” and you’ve become a relative expert. You have more to talk about and you are better able to continue the conversation.
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Tags: 38 laws of power, art show, art walk, artwork, comfortable, confidence, knowledge, knowledge is power, museum
Posted in Attract and Approach Women, Dating Etiquette, Divorce | 23 Comments »
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