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Today I thought we could have some fun and help out all of our readers that are still in college.

Check out today’s video, not only will it help people hook up in school but you can use the same mindset at a movie or a play.

And I am sure the comments are going to get crazy again today.

So bring em on!

Thanks everyone for all the great posts.

They usually do a very mediocre job at what they already are doing for work. They tend to get fired quite often, and they also tend to blame other people for their own misery. They will always tell you that they hate their current job and that it’s just temporary. Yet you have known this person for 10 years and they are constantly telling you that everything is temporary.

Deep down, they are really a Wannabe. In Los Angeles and New York City, where Shogo and I live, there are a ton of wannabe actors, wannabe producers, wannabe television artists…Hell, there are even wannabe wannabes.

Here’s how I feel about wannabes. I am really glad that you want to be something, I really am all about that and I support those who have high aspirations. But if you want to be something, you have to do the hard work. The problem is most wannabes are dreamers. They love talking about their dreams, and usually what they do is support themselves with talk from other wannabes.

Dating A Dreamer

They will sit around together on a Friday night and go, “You are the best actress in the whole wide world!” Then the other wannabe will say, “No, other wannabe friend, YOU are the best actress in the whole wide world!” They will basically mentally masturbate each other all night long making each other feel good.

Wannabes tend to get fired from jobs often because wannabes tell you that their current job is only temporary. Beware of the wannabe actress who is also the waiter. Here are some of the worst waiters you have ever encountered in your entire life.

I am all about dreaming big, I am all about creating a great life. Hell, I wanted to be a dating expert, and look what happened. But it’s because I am all about action. If you are a wannabe, you need to look and see how long you have wanted to be what you’re aspiring for, and check if you have even gotten anywhere even close.

You are only what you are right now, so put in the hard work to be the absolute best that you are.

You watch this guy. You see him looking around ogling women. He checks them out, but is never talking to any of them. As the night goes on, it seems like his face gets longer and longer. You think to yourself, “Man, I never want to be that guy.”

I mean, here you are in your 20′s or your early 30′s. You’re in what I call the “adult adolescence” period of your life. That is the point in your life where you are learning about yourself and when you have infinite opportunities. Every night you have an option to meet any woman you want. Every day in the business world, you are learning so many new things about who you are and what you are all about.

So as you’re thinking to yourself that you never want to be “that guy” across the bar, you need to take advantage of the freedom and the options you have right now in your adult adolescence. The key to taking advantage of your adult adolescence is to have the right mindset about it.

From the time you get out of college at age 22 to about age 35, you are going to learn so much about yourself — about who you are, what your place is in the world, what type of job you want, how you are as a businessman and what kind of relationship you want. As you’re dating during your adult adolescence, you might sample different kinds of relationships. You might try living with someone. You might decide to just date a lot of different women while you are figuring out who you are. You do this so that you do not end up being that lonely guy at age 47.

You don’t want to beat yourself up during this time. So many guys during this period of their life tend to beat themselves up because they feel like they should get everything right on the first try, or that they should be achieving certain things by a certain age. They will think (about every part of their life), “When am I going to get this?!”

The wonderful thing about your adult adolescence is that you ARE getting it. Every day you are learning something. Every day you are embracing a new lesson. You are developing a complete picture of how you want your life to be.

Approach Rejection As A Learning Experience

It is true that one part of your adult adolescence will be experiencing your fair share of rejection. Do you know what I say to this? Get rejected over and over.

Approach rejection as a learning experience, because really there is no such thing as rejection. Say you see a woman you find incredibly attractive. You want to meet her, so you walk over to her. You say the exact “right thing” and she does nothing but walk away. You need to look at that as a learning experience, not as a rejection.

There is no such thing as rejection. Rejection is really all about a fear inside your own mind. Think about it. That woman doesn’t know you or what you’re all about. She doesn’t know what a great person you are. So really, when you feel rejected in that situation what you are doing is rejecting yourself. You did nothing wrong.

I remember when Kurt Warner threw an unprecedented five interceptions in one game against the Panthers, and then in the following couple week he went out and threw 4 touchdown passes. When a reporter asked him how he did it, he told the reporter that he has a short-term memory.

You need to be like Kurt Warner when it comes to rejection, and you need to have a short-term memory. The quicker you forget about it, the quicker you move forward.

Acknowledge That A Date Is Just A Date

Another part of enjoying your adult adolescence is embracing the idea that a date is just a date. It’s a chance for you to get to know somebody, and for someone to get to know you.

So don’t over-think your dates. Don’t go into dates with the mindset that a woman is hot and you need to make her your girlfriend.

Instead, your mindset on every date should be this: I am a strong, powerful, amazing person. I am going to be open. I am going to be honest. I am going to be myself. If this woman likes me, that is fantastic. It doesn’t matter though, because I might not even like her.

Don’t try to sell yourself. A date is just a chance to get to know someone. If you like her, then ask her out again. That’s really all there is to it. It really is that simple.

It’s all about your mindset. This woman with whom you are going out on a date is not a fantasy girl – at all. A fantasy girl is just an imaginary person you build up in your mind.

A date is really nothing more than an opportunity for you to spend time with someone to see whether you have mutual chemistry. That needs to be your mindset about your dates from now on.

Cast A Wide Net

During your adult adolescence, you need to cast a wide net. This applies to both your work and your personal life.

If you’re having trouble meeting women right now and the only place you’re going to meet them is bars and clubs, then you need to start thinking about trying to meet women in other places. Make a list of five places you really like to go. Places where you already like to go are great places to meet women, because it will be easy for you to have a conversation about something in which you’re genuinely interested.

Also, start thinking about going out with different people. Start expanding your social network a bit. If you don’t like your job, for example, then start talking to new people and going to events where you can build up your network.

Cast a wide net, because your life is only as powerful as your network. The more people you contact every day, the greater chance you have of succeeding every day.

Stop Looking At Your Friends’ Successes

One thing so many guys do in their adult adolescence, is to compare their lives to the lives of their friends. Stop this immediately! Stop looking at your friends’ successes. Don’t compare yourself to them – in terms of work or your personal life.

Don’t compare yourself to the friend who is dating three women right now. Don’t compare yourself to the friend who is making a lot more money than you are right now. They are on a totally different path.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Do not compare yourself to other people. At this moment, you may have friends who are dating more women or making more money than you. Be happy for them! The important thing is that you are embracing YOUR wins every single day.

Let’s say you have trouble approaching women, then start by approaching five women a day to overcome your approach anxiety. If you’re looking for career success, start thinking about what you want to do and how to meet the people so you’re able to get the job that you want. Every day take a step forward, and never compare yourself to anybody else’s success.

When I look back at my 20′s and early 30′s, I realize that some of the greatest times of my life happened during my adult adolescence. Unfortunately, I always wanted to be someone else during my adult adolescence. There were so many times when I just wanted to learn a lesson once and for all, and not have to keep trying to learn it over and over again.

As I look back now, though, I wouldn’t change anything that I experienced in my adult adolescence because they were some of the most carefree, amazing times of my life. They were also some of the most important times of my life for what I learned.

Whether it was the times I had to search my couch cushions for quarters so I could afford to buy a box of pasta for dinner, or that “most amazing” woman who never called me back, those experiences made sure I would never be “that guy”.
Some of those experiences felt like the end of the world when they were happening, but in reality they were just part of a growing process. They taught me a lot about myself, and they were some of the best times of my life.

So enjoy your adult adolescence. Don’t beat yourself up or compare yourself to anybody else, because this is your journey and that is what makes it magical.

A lot of men have soft voices. They get nervous and their voice becomes soft. The problem is that if your voice is soft, women will not be turned on by that.

People are always turned on by whatever they’re not. So if you’re soft spoken or if people say “What?” a lot when you speak, it means that your voice is too soft spoken. If your voice is too soft-spoken, then you are not going to create that powerful attraction you want to create with women.

That is the kind of powerful attraction you want to create right away when you meet a woman. When you have a really strong voice, you create that powerful attraction immediately when you meet a woman because you have a commanding energy.

So if you are currently too soft-spoken, how do you change that? One thing you need to do is record your voice and listen to it. When you hear, ask yourself whether you would stop if someone spoke to you in that tone of voice.

Listen to your voice and to the way it sounds. Does it sound strong? Does it sound commanding? Does it sound clear? Are you able to hear and understand every word?

If people say “What?” to you a lot when you’re talking, then chances are that the answer to these questions is no. If the answer to any of these questions is no, then you need to work on your voice.

Take a speech class to work on creating a powerful and commanding voice tone, or just practice until you can do that. However you get there, it’s time that you tap into the power of your voice.

My answer to that is that it would create just a ridiculous amount of traffic. If you actually burned a bridge, then the traffic would be clogged up for days. Another thing about burning a bridge is that you can actually get arrested for it.

Or if you don’t want to talk about bridges, then let’s talk about tunnels. Never bury yourself in a tunnel because you wouldn’t be able to get out.

I’m sure you know where I’m really going with this. Let’s talk about burning bridges in life.

I truly believe that you should never burn any bridges in life. You need to end every relationship you have — whether it’s a friendship, a romantic relationship or a work relationship — on good terms.

So if you’re going to break up with somebody, you need to end the relationship on good terms. If you no longer want to be friends with somebody, you need to sit them down and explain that to them. If you no longer want to do business with somebody, you need to not leave them hanging and explain that to them.

You never want to burn bridges in life, because it will just come back to haunt you. I experienced this a lot in my 20′s.

When I was in my 20′s, I was going around having sex with women and not really calling them back. Then I would inevitably run into them six months later when they were with one of their hot friends. I always wanted to meet the hot friend, but never could because I was the asshole who burned that bridge.

So learn from me. Don’t burn bridges.

If you no longer want to be with someone, whether you’re dating them for a week or a year, you need to sit down face-to-face with them and tell them why. Closure is great, and they will respect you as a person for doing that.

When it comes down to work, you need to do the exact same thing. If you don’t want to do work anymore with somebody or do business with someone anymore, then you need to sit down with them and tell them why.

Do not burn bridges. Not only do they create traffic jams, but they can create embarrassing moments for you in the future.

On the internet, the majority of people are ‘athletic and toned,’ yet we live in a country where most people don’t work out.

It seems like the internet is always bucking all trends. There’s a ton of women on the internet that are 39 years old but yet there are no women that are 40 or 41. It seems like everyone wants to remain 39, 29, 49 – no one wants to cross over to the 4-0, 3-0, or 5-0!

Internet dating is really interesting because to succeed there, you should really put up an array of photos of yourself. The fact is that you look exactly the way you do. There’s no denying that. You can’t just check a box that says ‘athletic and toned’ when you’re not, because eventually you’ll have to show up on the date and the other person is going to see that you’ve never worked out.

You’re not going to be able to convince them – you won’t become a date salesman who sits there and convinces someone to like the body type they don’t like, or to become attracted to you when they aren’t.

So the best thing to do is to put up five pictures of yourself: three body shots (I’m not talking naked ones, or bikini shots, or muscle shots for guys) but three shots where you are standing head to toe. Three current shots that show exactly what you look like today, so there are no surprises.

The reason that most dates don’t work out is because the person was afraid to put up a picture because they didn’t like the way their body looked. They then go on the date, the other person isn’t attracted to them, and they don’t call them back. You can eliminate that step – why go out on so many first dates when you are misrepresenting yourself?

The fact is that you should be proud of who you are. Your body is your body. It’s exactly what it’s going to be, and you shouldn’t compare it to anybody else. You need to embrace it. So put yourself up there on the net, be who you are, and don’t try to sell yourself like a used car!

It’s funny, when I look for used cars, I’m always weary of the car that only has one picture up of it. Doesn’t she want to seduce me? Doesn’t she want me to take her for a test drive? Shouldn’t I see the wheels and the shiny inside? Shouldn’t I see the leather interior? I hate looking at a used car that the owner says is in absolutely perfect condition, and there are rips on the leather seats. You don’t want to be the car that has the rips on the leather seats.

You want to show everyone who you are. Get a friend, take a few pictures, smile, and be proud of who you are.

You know what? In the long run, you’re going to attract a lot more people doing it this way, and you won’t have to worry about what body type box you need to check off. If they see you, they’ll know what type of body you have!

Are you ready for the twist? Here are 8 of the most irritating online behaviors committed by men:

1. Athletic & Fit?: It’s time that all men realized that they are not Peyton Manning or Marvin Harrison. They’re not an Olympic gold medal-winning swimmer. Your body type is exactly what it is. So you really need to look in the mirror and make a determination of how you really look, because when you say “athletic and fit” in your online profile and only put up dazzling head shots of yourself, a woman is expecting a swimmer’s body to accompany that dazzling face. When what shows up instead is a dazzling face with a middle-aged body, the expression on a woman’s face is usually one of discomfort. When you post an accurate full-body photograph of yourself, you’ve already been exposed. Then you just let women make the choice if they are interested or not. It’s that simple. Lying about your body type never produces good results.

2. Stop Being A Salesman: When you contact a woman online, do not send her a cut and paste email telling her all the reasons why she should want to have a relationship with you, why you’re a gift to mankind and why she is a fool if she doesn’t answer your email. She can read your profile if she chooses. Your profile is intended to intrigue her. It’s not a sales brochure of all the reasons she needs to be in a relationship with someone she hasn’t even met yet. When you send a woman a message online, say something intriguing that will make her want to go and read your profile. Women do not want to read a cut and past email telling her how amazing you think you are. Let her find that out for herself.

3. Respect Her Age Range: If you’re a 50 year old man looking at a 25 year old woman’s profile that says she is looking for a man between the ages of 25 and 35, then you should not contact this woman. Period. You need to respect a woman’s stated age range for the men she’s looking to meet (give or take no more than five years). Nothing turns a woman off more than having her Father’s friends chasing her online. If a woman says she wants to date someone who is no more than five years older or younger than she, then she does not want to date someone twice her age. Men get visually impaired when they see pictures of beautiful women. Some men somehow think they have the right to date hot younger women half their age. Now there are some men can do this . . . but online is not the right place to try and do that. In online dating, you don’t stand a chance of dating women if you are outside their stated age range. Even if you would be able to completely dazzle a woman in person, online you’ll just be viewed as an old guy chasing younger women. If you want to meet younger women, get out of the house and dazzle them with your charm and wit – you’ll stand a much better chance.

4. Read Her Profile!: I’ve lost count of the number of women who email me saying “David, what is up with all these men who don’t read our profiles? I get so many men who wink at me when my profile clearly says ‘NO WINKS!’” Nothing turns a woman off more than a man who does not read her profile. Women are all about an emotional connection. So when you contact them, pick out something interesting in their profile and respond to it. By cutting and pasting a form letter to women without having read their profile, you are simply wasting your time. Online dating works, but you have to put a little effort into it by doing things like reading a woman’s profile so she knows you made some effort.

5. Nix The “Possession Pictures”: Before some of you get angry about this one, understand that I’ve ripped women on this same picture issue for putting up certain kinds of pictures with their friends or pictures of them from a distance. Men tend to put up pictures of their possessions – everything from their car to their Super Bowl tickets. The fact is that women don’t care about your possessions when they’re looking at an online profile. Now, granted, some women are looking for men to take care of them, but women still want to be able to see who you are when they look at your online profile. So put pictures up of you in different situations. Just be sure any picture you post is clear, up close, and current! If you have no hair, don’t put pictures up of yourself with a full head of hair. It’s just not going to work. Once again, you are who you are. There’s no need to go into salesman mode to get to meet women. There are plenty of women to meet out there – so represent yourself accurately and you’ll find them.

6. No Email Stalking: You contacted her once, and she didn’t respond. Why? Well perhaps she didn’t like what you wrote to her. Perhaps she’s busy. Perhaps there’s no reason at all. It doesn’t matter. If a woman doesn’t respond to your first email to her, email her again a week or ten days later just in case there was some snafu the first time (and so you won’t have to wonder if there was some snafu the first time). Doing this is perfectly fine. To send a woman a barrage of increasingly nasty emails for four or five days asking why she isn’t responding to your emails (or something similarly nasty), however, is behavior guaranteed to get a woman to NEVER want to communicate with you or see you. It’s frankly tantamount to email stalking. Two emails with no response equals you needing to move on to someone else.

7. Lose The One-Liner: I can’t tell you how many women have forwarded me emails they’ve received from men online whose first contact with them is something akin to a “hello” subject line with a one-line email body containing his phone number and an invitation to call him. It’s usually something like “Sally, give me a call sometime – my number is 301-555-5555.” How do men expect women to respond to this – by calling them? If a total stranger on the Internet sent you their phone number and asked you to call them sometime, you wouldn’t call them either. Women like to be intrigued and pursued a little bit. By sending this one-liner email, you did nothing to intrigue them. Get creative in your first email to women you meet online, and they’ll be offering their phone numbers to you.

8. Don’t Be An IM Stalker: Some online dating sites allow you to instant message with people you meet. This can be great! If you’ve emailed a woman several times and she’s never responded, however, do not start instant messaging that woman every time she gets online. You’re going to freak her out! Allow someone to answer you (or not answer you), but don’t become so obsessed over one person. Take a look at Yahoo! Personals. There’s TONS of people to date on there. TONS! So don’t start stalking one person with instant messages, and making them wish they would have never tried online dating in the first place. Respect when someone is not attracted to you or interested in you.

Online dating is fun. It also may be challenging at times. The best thing to do is to think of it as a party on the Internet, and don’t engage in behaviors online that you would never engage in at a real-life party.

If you want more online dating tips and/or a way to make your profile and contacts better, send me an email. I’ve told you here what to avoid doing . . . but there’s plenty you can do to make yourself a more successful online dater.

David: Everything in life is about stating the obvious.

Once again, I believe that men tend to over think, and they are always trying to think for themselves – this is a continual theme that I want to go through. Men spend so much time trying to be so clever – trying to find the ultimate opener – and if you ask women what they really want, they want you to just walk over and talk to them based on the obvious method.

I think a lot of guys just refuse to talk about things that are obvious because they feel that it is not “special” enough. But the most obvious things are the things that women find special. If you walk over to a woman and remark about something obvious, this is something that she’s already thinking about and you’re not breaking her train of thought.

It’s a problem that most guys walk over to women with made-up routines or some clever opener that totally breaks her train of thought. If you break her train of thought, you’ve ruined that moment inside her head.

So, in the gym, if you’re stressed out because you’re thinking, oh god, what should I say, what should I say? It’s really easy! Don’t walk over there as Mr. Fix It – “hey, I can show you a better way to do that exercise,” because then you’ll come off as the gym asshole.

Instead, walk over and say, “hey, can I work in? You look like you might need a break right now.” Just do it with a smile. And then you can just start talking to her. You could ask, “hey, how long have you been working out here? I haven’t seen you before.” Just be open and friendly.

By just being open and friendly at the gym you can find out how long she’s worked out there, you can find out what days she comes to workout… do you see where I’m getting at with this?

So talk to her a minute, get to know her a bit, and then you use the power of the walk away. Now you’ve gathered information correctly. In your mind, you know what days she goes to work out. You know that you will see her again.

So just walk away, saying, “hey, have a great workout!” Then you become the guy that was confident enough not to hover; you weren’t looking to close her right away. You’re just building a relationship and allowing her to go back to her friends and say, “I was in the gym today and I met the nicest guy…”

Client: What if she’s not struggling at all? What if she’s having a great workout, and she has her iPod headphones on?

David: I would do it like this: I would make a motion with my hands for her to take her headphones off, and then say, “I’ve got to ask you something. You look like you’re having an amazing workout. What are you listening to?”

So she answers, “oh, I’m listening to the new Death Cab for Cutie album.” You respond, “oh my god, I love Death Cab. Which track are you on? Which song is motivating you?”

Client: And what if you haven’t heard of them?

David: Then you say, “oh man, I’ve never heard of them. What type of music do they play?” Have some enthusiasm.

And then make sure that you don’t become the lingering, annoying guy – so many men are. If you know she’s having a great workout, you can acknowledge that she’s having a great workout and you walk away, saying, “hey, thanks for the music tip and have a great workout.”

And then the next time you see her, you can say, “hey, Death Cab for Cutie girl, what’s going on?”

But speaking of mixtures, life is a mixture. It’s really funny, because we all have this ideal. If you think about it, men have been masturbating to Maxim magazine models, Playboy centerfolds, Penthouse centerfolds since they were little boys and realized that something neat and fun actually comes out of their own dick and makes them feel good!

So if you think about it, men have been fantasizing about these women for most of their lives. Now what have women been doing? They don’t have a dick, but they do masturbate, as we all know. Women have been fantasizing about that 6’2” guy – the one from the Bride magazines, Sean Connery playing leading man roles, George Clooney, Brad Pitt.

That’s who they fantasize about – they fantasize about that tall, dark, and handsome man – how many times have you heard that? Tall, dark, and handsome.

Sex and the City even had an episode of tall, dark, and handsome. Mr. Big was what? Tall, dark, and handsome.

If you go on the internet, everybody has their ideal person there. Every woman wants a guy over 6’ tall, and every guy wants a woman who is fit and athletic.

The problem is that the world is not 6” tall and in great shape. And most women are not skinny and petite!

So you need to embrace your body – you need to look at your body, and you need to look at who you are, and you need to become the most powerful you within your own body. The fact is that if you’re a guy that’s 5’6”, and if you project your attitude, you project your voice, and you project confidence, a woman is going to see you as 6’ tall.

Maybe you’re not the ideal guy. But you are the ideal man. Think about it: she’s got some fantasy guy in her head, and you walk over to her, and what happens is that most women spend their entire lives wanting to get swept off of their feet. Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome hasn’t swept them off of their feet yet, but if Mr. 5’6” with a killer personality and great confidence walks over and claims her – claims her like the woman she is, makes her feel sexy, makes her feel wanted and desired – all of a sudden she can be yours.

If you look at all of the women in the world, not every woman is dating tall, dark, and handsome men. Most of them are dating just average guys who had the confidence and the balls to approach her, and the confidence and balls to really go over there and talk.

When it comes down to men, all of us are not going to be dating Maxim magazine models. It’s just not going to happen. It sounds great in theory. If there was a factory somewhere abroad that FedEx shipped them over by the dozens – absolutely gorgeous women all of the time – that’d be great.

But the fact is that you have to embrace who you are every single day, and become the most powerful version of yourself. If you’re not the most powerful version of yourself, you won’t be able to sweep anybody off of their feet.

Forget about the fantasy. All of the women on the internet – all of you that are so narrow minded and you bitch and complain that men are narrow minded – women are so narrow minded on the internet it’s incredible. All they talk about is wanting this perfect guy.

Just the other day I was reading this internet profile from a woman who was 39 years old. 39! She wants three kids, and the guy has to be aged 36 to 39. Hello? Can we say, fantasy?

Now let’s talk about reality. Reality in this situation is the she’s probably not going to get that. She’s probably going to get something else, and you have to realize that what you’re about, and what you project is what you will attract.

So if you are narrow minded in your search, and you’re not open to things, you will never be able to meet somebody who will blow you away.

Lets talk about how to get out of your head. Do you worry about every little thing and what others think of you?

Todays video will break you out of your fears forever.