Years ago, I was vacationing in Boulder, Colorado. One day, after a two-hour massage, I went to Whole Foods for some dinner. As I was walking out, I passed by a gorgeous woman and we had one of those moments. (You know those moments that happen when a woman stares at you and you stare at her at the same time and an extreme sexual chemistry builds up that you can feel? It was one of those.) I smiled at her, she smiled at me, and I continued to my car, ready to leave.

I remember that night like it was yesterday. I got into my car. I started my engine. I backed out, collected myself, and then pulled back into the spot. I looked at my golden retriever Jessie and I said to her, “Be a good girl. I’ll be back in a little while.”

I walked into that market and I walked directly over to that woman and I looked at her and I said, “Excuse me, I must be the biggest fool in the entire world. But I was about to leave just now, and you know what? How many times have I looked and smiled at somebody and continued on and didn’t stop to experience them as a person, or what could have happened between us. I’m not going to do that again.”

We talked for what seemed like ever; we were honest with one another; we went out for coffee until 4:00 in the morning; we had some breakfast; we talked some more. We had unbelievable chemistry.

A couple nights later, she came to my house and we made a barbecue. We got undressed—basically in our little underwear, just like little kids—and we snuggled all night long. All night long we were cozy in bed, spooning, holding on to one another. I never slept with this woman at all, and I was never meant to sleep with her.

What this lesson taught me was that something feels so out of the ordinary, that’s when you go for it. Because what we do, and as people, we constantly go for what we’re accustomed to. That’s why we end up dating the same people over and over again. That’s why we have the same relationships over and over again.

So the next time you feel this intense attraction, you immediately go for it. You speak it. You say you could be on a date and you can look at somebody and just say, “God, you’re hot.” And that’s something you would never say. But say it anyway and see what happens.

Watch how your world changes when you say the things that you never said before, and do the things you haven’t done. Watch how your relationships change and watch your experience change.

And watch how you blossom as a person.

My answer? It’s really easy.

For one thing, walk into every place you enter as if you own the place. Don’t run or rush into the room. Don’t immediately go to the part of the room that is your “destination.”

Look around. Start acknowledging people.

Have you ever watched someone who is running for President? As they walk through any room, they look at every single person. They shake people’s hands.

So when you walk in a room, you need to walk up to all the people you know first, shake their hands with a hello or give them a big hug, and then talk to them and bond with them. What happens when you do this is that other people (especially women) will look at you and wonder who you are. They will wonder who this person is who is commanding so much attention from other people.

They will wonder about you because everyone is attracted to that person who commands attention from everyone else. You can do this anywhere; it’s not just for when you’re walking into a bar or a party.

You can do this at the supermarket by getting to know the person who chops the meet, by getting to know the person who runs produce, and by getting to know the person behind the cash register. Right there you have three people now that you can basically smile at, talk to and with whom you can laugh. You have three people with whom you can lead that attractive lifestyle.

So the next time you’re heading to the supermarket and you’re dreading going there and talking to people, you can go there and just talk to those people there you already know. When you do that, then all of a sudden other people notice it and will immediately wonder who you are.

They will wonder who this person is who is commanding so much respect and attention from everyone else? People will then start walking toward you and smiling at you. If you decide to converse with them, then they have already noticed you and are looking forward to their five minutes with you.

Something I tell people all the time is to always give everyone the best 30 seconds to one minute of you that you possible can before you walk away. Ask someone how they are doing. Listen intently and really take them in. Then the next time they see you, you will be able to have a longer conversation.

Having an attractive lifestyle also means going out and doing things that you like to do. What do you enjoy doing? If you don’t enjoy being in a bar, you’re never going to be attractive in a bar.

If you enjoy going to a market and shopping, though, you are always going to know how to talk to someone there. You’re going to have an interest in things about that place and you will have things in common with people who go there.

Do you like film? Go to movie premieres. Talk to people about the movie — the theme or about the actors.

So make a list of the five things you most love to do, and do them with a passion. When you do that, you will be very attractive and create passion in others.

Think about this. There are 52 weeks and 365 days in a year. Think if you went out and met people every single day with the goal of getting one date per week. I’m not just talking about a date with anyone you can find, but with someone with whom you share a real chemistry connection.

That’s 52 quality dates a year. You don’t think that out of those 52 dates that you’re going to find at least one person with whom you really connect and with whom you will form a relationship?

It’s funny how many times people say to me, “David, I’d like to go on two to three dates per week.” Why?

It’s really all about going out every single day and meeting people. You can do it for ten or twenty minutes one day or a half hour another day depending on your schedule. It doesn’t really matter.

By doing that, don’t you think you can meet one person per week with whom you share a great connection? Don’t you think you’ll find that great and amazing person with whom you love to hang.

Don’t you think you’d find people along the way that would be great sexual partners? Don’t you think you’d find people who will teach you things and people with whom you can share things? Don’t you think you might find people you want to date for a week, a month or maybe forever?

So, really, keep your goals realistic. Go out there and look for that one great date every week. No need to worry about how many dates you’re getting. Try this for a week!

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Say you are looking at a sushi bar and you say to her, “Man, there’s a lot of different colors here” and she ignores you. What do you do next?

A lot of guys run. They play the “oops I spoke and you didn’t respond right away so I’m going to run and hide” game. The guys who run in this situation do so without realizing a lot of things.

They do so without realizing that the person they talked to might be shy. In fact, that person might even be shyer than you.

You might have taken her off guard, and she wasn’t ready for a conversation. She might have been thinking about something else. You have no idea because you are not inside her head.

So let’s go back to the sushi scenario. In that situation, here is how I would handle it.

If when I say the observation about the colors the woman looks taken aback, then I would say to her, “What are you getting? What’s good here?” I would give her the opportunity to respond.

Think about yourself and how many times you are out somewhere — at the market, a coffee house, a clothing store or wherever — and you are trapped in your own thoughts. You might be thinking about your day, about work, about what you have to do when you get home or even about your underwear. Who knows?

Just think about how many times you are stuck in your own thought process. So, with that in mind, give someone another shot to respond to you before you bail in these situations thinking someone blew you off.

You may not be getting blown off at all. You might have just caught her stuck in her own thoughts and shocked her for a moment.

That is all it takes. Give it another whirl. If she still ignores you, then maybe she isn’t interested.

If that is the case, then you move on and say “no chemistry” to yourself. Then you think, “They weren’t interested. Who cares? Next!”

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There’s an instant chemistry you feel with her, like you’ve known each other forever. There’s an immediate feeling of comfort. As the date progresses, that feeling of comfort grows even more.

You feel so comfortable, in fact, that you stop thinking about trying to sleep with her and start realizing that you can sleep with her. You are not obsessed anymore with trying to get her in bed, because you know it’s just going to happen naturally.

You have that amazing feeling where you just know you are going to be able to connect with her in so many different ways. That’s what true chemistry is all about.

On the other hand, how many times has that beautiful woman walked in on a date and you realize that you have no chemistry with her? Maybe you met her on match.com or Yahoo! Personals or something like that.

How many times have you had a woman walk in and your first thought when you see her is, “Oh man, I can’t wait to get the hell out of here. Where is the eject button? Why aren’t there any of those James Bond gadgets underneath this chair?”

In that situation, you just know from the second that she walks in the room that you have nothing in common with her. It’s a feeling that we all get.

The funniest thing about these two scenarios, is that both of these women could look exactly the same. They could both be stunningly beautiful, or the first one could even be less physically attractive than the second one.

The key here is that it doesn’t matter what the other person look like. It’s totally about the chemistry that the two of you have with each other.

That is the thing about dating that is really interesting — especially online dating. You can have the “Oh Wow” moment or the “Oh No” reaction at any time. We’ve all experienced both of these feelings.

I remember one time when I was single, walking in to meet a woman and having that “Oh No” moment big time. We just had zero chemistry with each other. We could have been lab partners in high school chemistry class and we would have been unable to create anything together.

Being the gentleman that I am, though, I spent the next hour and a half talking to her. The conversation was dead after the first five minutes, so I had to manufacture a conversation for the remainder of the date.

That’s the worst part of being on a date with someone about whom you have that “Oh No” feeling. You always have to manufacture a conversation. That’s the worst feeling.

That is why you want to keep meeting and keep going on dates with people. Although you’re going to have to live through your fair share of “Oh No” moments, it is all worth it when you walk in and experience the “Oh Wow” instant chemistry feeling.

Let’s say the new boyfriend is meeting the group of friends for the first time. Everyone has been introduced politely, and then all of a sudden one of the friends will ask, “so how did you guys meet? Tell us the story!”

They have probably heard the story a thousand times – but they want to keep hearing it, because they want it to happen to them. They want this romance to happen to them. Women are all about this great romance.

So the woman starts this long story: “oh, I was in Borough Market waiting in line at Monmouth Coffee Company like I do every single Saturday. All of a sudden this cute guy and I ordered a latte at the very same time. I looked at him and he said to me, ‘jinx!’ I laughed, and then we both got our coffees and…”

It’s a story that they tell a million times. “Oh my god, I was in the market buying my usual tea, and I dropped the box. This guy picked it up for me and told me I was a klutz, and he hasn’t stopped calling me that since!”

It’s about the story. They want to have that story to tell their friends all the time.

So when you meet them out and about, be ready to tell that story. You will be a legend. If you meet her in line at Monmouth Coffee Company, she will text her friends all day long: “you won’t believe what happened to me at the market today! I met this guy…” and the story begins.

For women, a romance starts from the second that you meet. I went out with someone the other night and she can remember exactly where we met. She remembers where we met, what day it was, what was going on around town that day, everything. Women remember details like that.

We don’t remember shit: “I don’t know, we just kind of met.” But you have to remember that you are creating this romantic moment for her right from the start.

Its all about creating an emotion when you first meet a woman. The way you walk, the way you talk and the first words that come out of your mouth is what she always remember.
But the key here is not what you say its how you say it!!

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One of the absolute best things you can do to make a guy want you more on a date, is at the end of the date to lean in toward him letting your lips touch his ear as you whisper “I had a great time tonight.” Then you walk away.

Let his eyes follow you as you leave. He will follow the shape of your body as you walk away, and you will leave him wanting more.

You didn’t kiss him on the lips. You didn’t kiss him on the cheek. You didn’t give him a hug or a handshake. You didn’t do anything except whisper in his ear.

Do you know why this works? It works because it clearly and unambiguously communicates exactly what you want to him, i.e., that you are interested in him (and in him wanting you) but in a way that doesn’t seem at all desperate.

Think about the alternatives. None of them achieve both these objectives. If you kiss him on the cheek, then he will immediately think you are putting him in the friend zone. If you kiss him just on the lips (and don’t involve at least a little bit of tongue), then is going to be wondering if you might just be friendly.

If you whisper in his ear, however, he will get so turned on that from that moment forward he will be just like a puppy dog coming after you. What happens when someone whispers in your ear – even if it’s to say “I’ll be right back” or “It’s so great to see you” or whatever it may be – it immediately makes you remember some great sex you had with someone who whispered certain things in your ear.

So this is one little trick you can use to not only fill a guy with desire for you, but which will get that guy to call you right away. Doing this will not in any way make a guy think you are going to sleep with him right at that moment. The only thing you will lead a guy to think when you do this is that you are one cool woman.

Are you wondering how I know this? I know this because every time a woman has ever done it to me, I couldn’t get my head out of the clouds for hours.

You know when you’re out on a date, sitting across from them in a restaurant, and there are all those crazy things running through your mind – are you going to kiss them? Are they going to kiss you? What are they thinking? What are they feeling?

And then at the end of the date, you’re not sure whether or not to go in for the kiss – you don’t know if they want to go in for the kiss or not – and then you do that stupid hug where both of your asses are protruding out like you’re at a high school dance.

You remember those dances, don’t you? You don’t want to have any body contact, so you just kind of lean into them – your chests might touch, but your asses are really far back. You had no idea how flexible you were until you get to this point!

So this woman I’ve been hanging out with brought back a memory of mine from when I was 17 years old. This happened probably from when I was about 17 until I was around 21.

Whenever I would bring a girl back to my house (as a high school student) or bring her back to my dorm or apartment (in college) I would always play the “just the tip” game.

We’d be fooling around, doing some serious dry humping, and after all of that dry humping, you’re wanting to have some decent sex, right? Or at least you’re HOPING to have some decent sex – you didn’t really know how to close a woman back then.

So you’d look at her and say, “man, we should make love!” or “we should have sex,” or whatever terminology you’d use. She’d respond, “oh, no, no, no!” with all of the Catholic and other guilt comes flying in.

And then you’d look at her and you’d say, “just the tip.”

“Just the tip! Let’s just put the tip in and see how it feels.” That’s it, just put the tip in. That’s it. “Don’t you want to feel how the tip feels?”

Then you’d go into tip-salesman mode, where you start selling the tip: “come on, let’s try it! The tip will feel good! I promise I won’t push it in any further. I promise I won’t cum. Just the tip!”

You want her to say yes, because you want to put the tip in and have it feel so good that she jams all of you in there – and you get to have sex.

But rarely did that ever work out.

What usually happened, if you were a good salesman and able to convince her to let you put the tip in, is that she’d push you away and start crying – the guilt had resurfaced.

Then you’d have to go into beggar mode again, and say, “oh come on, we don’t have to try that again – let’s just go back to dry humping!”

But unfortunately the rest of the night was out. There would be no more dry humping. You were done for the night.

This would then lead you to the next problem: after all of this dry humping, begging, pleading, and “just the tip” episodes, you end up with the worst case of blue balls you’ve ever had.

So not only did your plan not work, but now you have an incredibly severe case of blue balls. If you remember blue balls correctly, sometimes you can’t even jerk off it hurts so bad.

For women who don’t understand, Google ‘blue balls’ – they aren’t really blue! It just seems like all of the blood in the world goes there and your balls become the size of watermelons. You literally can’t go and beat off.

Not only that, but the girl you’ve been with who has been crying in bed after the “just the tip” episode – you have to stay there and cuddle with her all night long. And as you’re cuddling, the whole night you are thinking, “down, boy! Stop getting hard!” Every time it gets hard, the blue balls get even worse.

So you’re hoping that she’ll leave first thing in the morning, but it’s college and it happens to be a Saturday and she wants to go out for breakfast!

You limp your way to breakfast. Since she didn’t shower, you can’t use the shower as an excuse to beat off and you both go out grungy.

You spend the entire day with blue balls, and then when you finally do get to beat off, it hurts so bad that you have to find a whole new way to do it.

The “just the tip” game often turns into the worst case of blue balls in the entire world!

Hopefully I brought back some great memories for everyone today. The next time you want to have sex with a woman, why don’t you just start by dry humping the night away and then reintroduce the “just the tip” game!

Todays video is all about how to to use a human prop to get her attention.
Even a man covered in marijuana leaves…..wait till you see this guy!!

The following is a talk I gave to a client at a weekend bootcamp. This is a great example of my direct one-on-one coaching during bootcamps.

Whenever you try too hard in life to get people to like you, you push everybody away.

When you do this, you’re too over the top and you’re generally not listening to people. You’re actually overwhelming them.

It’s like a Golden Retriever: have you ever gone over to someone’s house and they have a Golden Retriever, and you’ve never met this dog before, but the dog will just not leave you alone? It just keeps running over to you, bringing you its ball, and all of its toys and everything?

In a dog, this is a great quality. In a human – well, you don’t want to be a human Golden Retriever.

Both men and women do it. When people try too hard, it’s just too much. You get in somebody’s face, and they automatically want to back down. I watch when a guy will go out there and be a human Golden Retriever – and I watch the way women react. At first, they will find him attractive, because he has great energy, but then after two minutes, she’ll just try to shoo him away.

She hasn’t gotten to know the guy in those two minutes, because generally the human Golden Retriever is just spitting out hyperactive words the whole time instead of connecting.

By tuning yourself down a little bit, and by listening and being intriguing, you’re no longer going to be a human Golden Retriever – you’ll be a person. And that’s all that it is about. It’s about connecting with people in a genuine way.

After this weekend, some of you guys will keep in touch with some of the guys here a little bit longer than you might keep in touch with some of the other guys – that’s just life. That’s chemistry.

So stop trying so hard. You’re such a deep and genuine soul. You’re a good person all around. You don’t need to try so hard to prove yourself to other people. So stop overtrying

Todays video dives even deeper into life and how to present yourself to a total stranger with confidence.

You do not want to be the human golden retriever.

When is the right time to have sex and how do I know if I am doing it at the right time?

I am going to answer this in a way that you may not expect. The right time to have sex is when you feel that it is right.

No one in the field of dating should ever tell you when to have sex. There are several people in my industry who give advice to females that is totally manipulative and wrong.

There is one author, a newbie, or what I would call a ‘Wanna-Be Expert’ with no credentials that actually tells women that they should not have sex until they are dating a man for six months! That is ridiculous and manipulative.

Anyone who gives advice that is manipulative should find a new line of work. Here’s why . . .

Say you wait six months to have sex with a man or woman, and develop a great friendship and fall in love. Sounds great right?

But what if you have sex and find out that they you have no sexual chemistry with that person. You just don’t move well together and you find out that you have different ways of liking sex.

Look, you may have foreplay for six months but still until your bodies move together you will never know what the sex is like. People can tell you all day long that they love sex but until you get them naked and in the bedroom you will never know the truth!

If you want to have sex with someone than go for it. If you sleep with someone on the first date, just make sure that the two of you are mature about it and can talk about other things besides how much you want to bone each other.

There are no statistics that will back up the idea that waiting for sex will lead to a long lasting relationship. I know plenty of couples that have been together for years that had sex on the first date.

It is all about knowing with what you feel comfortable. Sex is a very important part of a relationship and the chemistry has to be there in order to sustain the relationship.

So, there are no rules when it comes to sex. Enjoy it and let it happen naturally.

One last thing:

Stop buying manipulative books that teach you ways to manipulated people into a relationship or bed! There are no shortcuts to dating.

If you want to date and meet great people you need to learn the art of conversation and listening. There is no magic pill.

I teach the art of conversation and listening, the only two things you need to meet all the men and women you desire to date! If you use manipulative techniques, you will be exposed!!!

If you are curious on who this author is above email me, I do not bash people in this blog but will share her website when you email me.

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