Here’s an open letter to every single woman out there: Go ahead and explore yourself sexually!

I love being with women who know who they are sexually. I love women who know how to please a man. I love women who are in touch with themselves, and know how to please themselves.

So many women don’t know who they are sexually. So many women don’t know how to please a man. So many women are not in touch with themselves, and don’t know how to please themselves.

So many women are afraid to explore themselves sexually in these ways because they believe if they do they will not be “marriage material” for somebody. The truth is, though, that those days have long passed.

If you’re an independent, free-thinking, sexual woman, then you need to go out and explore your sexuality in every way. You need to do that because by exploring your sexuality, you are really going to start opening up and will blossom like a little flower.

Start learning what things you like. Take time out of your life to learn how to sexually express yourself. Learn how to please a man.

Think about all of your lovers, and use them as a drawing board. Figure out what the men liked and figure out what you like. When it comes down to it, the reason why so many relationships don’t work out is that the sex becomes dry and boring … and you know if there’s a limit to what you can teach each other.

So learn all of the great tricks, and bring them into your new relationships. I guarantee you will never get bored.

Todays video is all about how to embrace your body so you can feel sexy around men.

I go over all of this in depth and what men really want out of a woman in my womens mastery series.

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If you’re familiar with what I teach to women, you know that I tell women over and over again that they need to give men “buying signals” if they want men to approach them. “Buying signals” are things that tell men that you are receptive to their approach, including things like smiling, looking at men, and saying hello to men.

In response to this advice, I have countless women tell me “David, I look at men and smile at men but they still don’t approach me. I don’t think these “buying signals” work.” When I delve deeper into exactly what these women are doing that they are perceiving to be “buying signals,” though, nine times out of ten what they are doing I can guarantee are not being noticed by men at all because what they are doing is not obvious enough.

It comes down to an issue of women not understanding how men are wired. In this article I am going to give some insight on how men are wired and give you ladies four reasons why it’s not only okay for you to show interest to men, but indeed why you need to do so.

1. Men Don’t Pay Attention To Small Details: For any of you who have lived with a man (whether it was a boyfriend, a husband or a brother), this will probably sound familiar. As you leave the house one day, you ask a man to clean up or straighten up a bit while you’re gone. So what does he do? He goes to the sink, puts a few things in the dishwasher . . . and that’s it. Meanwhile there are still dog hair tumbleweeds traveling across the living room floor and laundry piles up to the ceiling. When questioned about those, he inevitably says “I didn’t notice those.”

Men don’t notice small details. They have no idea about the little clues. Men need the obvious. Women need to really understand this, especially when it comes to communicating their interest in men.

2. Understand How Men Interpret Your Subtlety: Women need to realize that it is not only okay, but necessary, that they show men they are interested. So many women I’ve coached will tell me they flirt with men all the time but never get any response. When I ask them what they did that they are calling “flirting,” virtually every one will tell me they “glanced over at him a couple times” or they “smiled at him a couple times quickly” or something similar.

These two second glances and quick smiles simply do not constitute flirting in the eyes of a man. They are simply not obvious enough. When many women go to flirt with a man, they do something they believe to be flirting but which is in reality is something too subtle for that man to notice it. So despite that woman’s interest, the man will leave that situation thinking she didn’t like him.

3. Men Need Women To Be Obvious: When I say that you need to show interest that is obvious, I am not talking about you grabbing a man and sticking your tongue down his throat as you grind up against him. What I mean by showing obvious interest are things like smiling a bit more or touching his arm a little bit when you talk to him. I mean that you need to use your body language to express your interest. Lean in a little when you talk to him. Flirt with him. Laugh at his jokes. Engage him in some deeper conversation.

If you’re interested in a man you meet, don’t wait for him to ask you out or just hope it happens. Say something to him like “I really enjoyed this great conversation. Hopefully we’ll run into each other again someday.” Let him know you’re interested. Not only is it okay to show a man you’re interested, but you should show men you’re interested because you want to be in control of your dating life. If you think about it there are really only two choices: you can either start to show your interest or you can continue to do nothing (or to use subtle gestures which convey the same message as nothing to men).

4. Men Don’t Interpret Obvious Gestures The Way You Think They Do: Every time I address this issue, I get tons of emails from women saying some version of this: “David, I can’t do these things. If I do, men are going to think I’m coming onto them and will just think I want to sleep with them.” Let me address this misperception so we can clear it up once and for all. If you are making out with a guy in his living room, he is going to assume that the two of you are just going to have a make out session in the living room all night long. The only way we men know you want to sleep with us, even in that situation, is if you say “Let’s get naked and go in the bedroom.” Once again, men don’t pick up on subtlety and even on the semi-obvious.

So the fact is that if you like us, it’s okay to show some interest. We are not going to over-think or assume more about it than what it is. If you smile, lean in and touch our arm when you’re talking to us, we’re not going to think we’re going to get to hook-up with you right there and then or that you want to drag us off to bed. All we think is that you like us, that we can ask you out . . . and this could potentially be a relationship. You need to remember this the next time your head is telling you that we’re reading all these other things into everything you do.

So ladies, take control of your dating lives by showing us when you’re interested. Not only is it okay to do that . . . but we men could not be happier when you do.

One of the absolute best things you can do to make a guy want you more on a date, is at the end of the date to lean in toward him letting your lips touch his ear as you whisper “I had a great time tonight.” Then you walk away.

Let his eyes follow you as you leave. He will follow the shape of your body as you walk away, and you will leave him wanting more.

You didn’t kiss him on the lips. You didn’t kiss him on the cheek. You didn’t give him a hug or a handshake. You didn’t do anything except whisper in his ear.

Do you know why this works? It works because it clearly and unambiguously communicates exactly what you want to him, i.e., that you are interested in him (and in him wanting you) but in a way that doesn’t seem at all desperate.

Think about the alternatives. None of them achieve both these objectives. If you kiss him on the cheek, then he will immediately think you are putting him in the friend zone. If you kiss him just on the lips (and don’t involve at least a little bit of tongue), then is going to be wondering if you might just be friendly.

If you whisper in his ear, however, he will get so turned on that from that moment forward he will be just like a puppy dog coming after you. What happens when someone whispers in your ear – even if it’s to say “I’ll be right back” or “It’s so great to see you” or whatever it may be – it immediately makes you remember some great sex you had with someone who whispered certain things in your ear.

So this is one little trick you can use to not only fill a guy with desire for you, but which will get that guy to call you right away. Doing this will not in any way make a guy think you are going to sleep with him right at that moment. The only thing you will lead a guy to think when you do this is that you are one cool woman.

Are you wondering how I know this? I know this because every time a woman has ever done it to me, I couldn’t get my head out of the clouds for hours.

Last night I saw the Movie Sex and The City and had so much to say about the dynamics between men and women that i had to create a free podcast today.

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Do you report in with nothing to say?

Reporting In By David Wygant

So here you are: you’re spending a weekend with a friend. Let’s say you live in Austria and you’re visiting a friend in Amsterdam, and there are a couple of other guys that you’re going to hang out with too.

Really, the whole weekend is just a fun weekend of doing things that you like to do. It doesn’t really matter what it is – you could be taking a bootcamp, or you could be just hanging out with a friend going shopping watching some games whatever…..

But, you’re dating somebody. And you tell them, “look, I really can’t speak with you much this weekend. You can text me, it’s fine – but don’t call me, because my mobile phone is roaming and it costs a lot of money to talk to you. I’m going to be honest with you – I just kind of want to hang out with some friends this weekend, but you can check in with a text every once in awhile, that’s great.”

How come, in so many instances – and I think men are just as guilty of this as women are – that the needy person starts coming out? You tell them this on a Thursday morning before you leave, and by Thursday night, they’ve already called you twice!

Yet when you told them this on Thursday morning, they told you that they totally understood and that they wouldn’t call! They said they would just text you, and to have a good weekend.

Yet every time they call, they say, “I just really wanted to talk to you, and to hear your voice,” but then they have absolutely nothing to say! And they will say something stupid and crazy like, “have you met anybody else?” or “are you flirting with other people?”

This is what a needy, jealous person does. What happens is that this pushes the opposite sex away. If a woman does this to me – it drives me up the wall! I can’t take it. When I go off to do my thing, I’m doing my thing. I’m hanging with friends, I’m coaching people, I’m friends with a lot of the guys I coach – I’m enjoying myself.

Yes – I’m flirting with women! I’m not going home with other women, but I’m flirting with them. We’re all flirting with women. But I’m also talking to men, I’m also talking to children, I’m also talking to dogs.

And to have to explain yourself to someone is crazy. I’m sitting here with my friend, and he picked up the phone, and said to her, “I really can’t talk right now, I’ll talk to you later on Skype,” and she says okay. Then, he literally hangs up the phone and 30 seconds later, there’s a text! “I miss you – you don’t miss me as much as I miss you.”

That just makes me want to vomit. You should see the expression on his face – it’s just like GET AWAY. If you want to push us away, keep doing that annoying, nit-picking behavior! It doesn’t work.

If you like a guy that is independent, allow him to be independent! Be cool. I wrote a blog awhile back about being cool. You need to be cool with it. We’re not out there cheating. Let me tell you what we did that day in Amsterdam, so if this woman reads the blog, here is what we did all day:

We went to the gym, and got all pumped up. We walked around the city. We had an amazing breakfast-lunch, and then we went shopping around the city. We tried on jeans, and we tried on shirts. I found some great shirts, he found some great shirts. We figured out how to get the VAT back for me in creative fun ways. We looked at some great buildings. We walked we talked we ate we drank.

This is what we did. Did we flirt with women? Yeah, of course we did! We played with some women, we had a good time. Did we sleep with some women? No, that’s not what this is all about. I don’t teach seduction. I don’t teach how to meet a woman in a square in Amsterdam at 12:30 on a Friday, and have sex with her by 1:00 in the afternoon! That’s not what we’re about – that’s not the type of client or the types of friends that I hang out with.

This is an open letter to all women. If you want cool, amazing, confident guys: stop being so damn needy and annoying! If we tell you we’re going to hang out with our buddy, trust us!

I can feel all the women’s hairs just prickling on their necks right now, but the same goes for men: if your girl wants to go out and have some fun with her friends – maybe you can write a standard little text saying, “have a great time.”

Be supportive of her weekend. Don’t start texting with these annoying messages like “I bet you don’t miss me as much as I miss you.” Vomit – we are going to vomit that up. It just doesn’t work.

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