I have a confession as a man that I need to make to all the women: We men are clueless about anything subtle that you do. We really are. You need to be obvious to get our attention.

If you’re familiar with what I teach to women, you know that I tell women over and over again that they need to give men “buying signals” if they want men to approach them. “Buying signals” are things that tell men that you are receptive to their approach, including things like smiling, looking at men, and saying hello to men.