On the internet, the majority of people are ‘athletic and toned,’ yet we live in a country where most people don’t work out.

It seems like the internet is always bucking all trends. There’s a ton of women on the internet that are 39 years old but yet there are no women that are 40 or 41. It seems like everyone wants to remain 39, 29, 49 – no one wants to cross over to the 4-0, 3-0, or 5-0!

Internet dating is really interesting because to succeed there, you should really put up an array of photos of yourself. The fact is that you look exactly the way you do. There’s no denying that. You can’t just check a box that says ‘athletic and toned’ when you’re not, because eventually you’ll have to show up on the date and the other person is going to see that you’ve never worked out.

You’re not going to be able to convince them – you won’t become a date salesman who sits there and convinces someone to like the body type they don’t like, or to become attracted to you when they aren’t.

So the best thing to do is to put up five pictures of yourself: three body shots (I’m not talking naked ones, or bikini shots, or muscle shots for guys) but three shots where you are standing head to toe. Three current shots that show exactly what you look like today, so there are no surprises.

The reason that most dates don’t work out is because the person was afraid to put up a picture because they didn’t like the way their body looked. They then go on the date, the other person isn’t attracted to them, and they don’t call them back. You can eliminate that step – why go out on so many first dates when you are misrepresenting yourself?

The fact is that you should be proud of who you are. Your body is your body. It’s exactly what it’s going to be, and you shouldn’t compare it to anybody else. You need to embrace it. So put yourself up there on the net, be who you are, and don’t try to sell yourself like a used car!

It’s funny, when I look for used cars, I’m always weary of the car that only has one picture up of it. Doesn’t she want to seduce me? Doesn’t she want me to take her for a test drive? Shouldn’t I see the wheels and the shiny inside? Shouldn’t I see the leather interior? I hate looking at a used car that the owner says is in absolutely perfect condition, and there are rips on the leather seats. You don’t want to be the car that has the rips on the leather seats.

You want to show everyone who you are. Get a friend, take a few pictures, smile, and be proud of who you are.

You know what? In the long run, you’re going to attract a lot more people doing it this way, and you won’t have to worry about what body type box you need to check off. If they see you, they’ll know what type of body you have!

When you’re hanging out with friends on a Sunday, do you have a good time?

Do you go to places you enjoy? Or do you go to places you hate, just because you think you might meet somebody – for example, standing in a bar, bored out of your mind, hands in your pockets playing pocket pool?

Remember pocket pool? It was something that all young boys used to play all the time during the age when the random boner would pop up out of nowhere.

I remember that random boner stage so well – I remember Lisa Rutman in my 9th grade Spanish class, and how I got a D one semester because I sat next to Lisa Rutman and just stared at those perky breasts the entire semester.

Breasts were quite a fascination to me for quite sometime during my teenage years. I remember one time Mr. McBride called me up and said, “Davíd,” (because we were in Spanish), and he told me to go up to the board and write down an answer from last night’s homework.

I had done my homework the night before (one of the rare occasions) but because of the perky breasts and the random boner phase I was in, I was not eager to go up to the front of the classroom right then. He looked at me and said, “Davíd, you never want to come up to the board, but this time you have to!”

So I had this huge erection that I had no idea what the hell to do with, but luckily I had learned the ‘upward tuck’ move at a very young age. So I quickly put my hand in my pocket and I took my boner and tucked it up near my belt loop area – the upward tuck.

The problem with the upward tuck is that the boner always starts to do the sideways dance and then you’re in trouble. You look like you have a young bulge in your pants.

Luckily that day I was able to keep my boner in the upward tuck while I was up at the board by focusing on my stimulus (Lisa Rutman’s breasts.) I limped back to my seat and back into my fantasy world.

But this blog is not about 14-year-old’s spontaneous erections. Thank god we no longer have those! Can you imagine sitting in your office cubicle?

Back to the blog: do you have fun in your life? Do you do things that are fun? At the end of the week, do you judge the week based on the amount of phone numbers you got or the number of women you met? Or do you judge it on the amount of great times you had?

We were just walking down Main Street in Santa Monica – something I’ve done thousands of times. I really enjoy it; I like the shops, I like the people that run the shops.

I hate the drivers around here though. Here is an open note to anyone who drives 31 miles per hour in the left hand lane: if people are honking at you all the time, it’s about you! It’s not about them! You didn’t just happen to drive near all of the assholes on the road, YOU are the asshole! So wake up, use your rearview mirror and check out how many angry drivers are behind you!

So now that we’ve discussed spontaneous erections and bad drivers let’s get back to the matter at hand. So we were on Main Street and just enjoying ourselves. We walked into this one furniture store that I’ve been into before, and I always seem to take bootcamp guys into – there are a couple of really cute girls that work there!

I went in there, and I looked at a couch, and I said, “that looks really comfortable, do you mind if I sit down and take a nap?” She replied, “sure! No problem,” and then she said, “you’ve been in here before, what’s your name?” I told her my name, and she told me hers (which of course I’ve already forgotten, which is very typical of me) and then we started talking.

Soon another salesgirl and the other guys sat down and then we had a group of people sitting down and talking on the couches while other customers came in that they ignored!

Bottom line: do you have fun? If you have fun, people are going to be attracted to you and your energy.

People aren’t going to be attracted to you because you drive 31 in the left lane when the speed limit is 50, and they are definitely not going to be attracted to you if walk around with a random boner in the upward tuck position, but they will be attracted to you if you’re having fun!

Todays video goes even deeper into how to create this powerful attraction.

David: Everything in life is about stating the obvious.

Once again, I believe that men tend to over think, and they are always trying to think for themselves – this is a continual theme that I want to go through. Men spend so much time trying to be so clever – trying to find the ultimate opener – and if you ask women what they really want, they want you to just walk over and talk to them based on the obvious method.

I think a lot of guys just refuse to talk about things that are obvious because they feel that it is not “special” enough. But the most obvious things are the things that women find special. If you walk over to a woman and remark about something obvious, this is something that she’s already thinking about and you’re not breaking her train of thought.

It’s a problem that most guys walk over to women with made-up routines or some clever opener that totally breaks her train of thought. If you break her train of thought, you’ve ruined that moment inside her head.

So, in the gym, if you’re stressed out because you’re thinking, oh god, what should I say, what should I say? It’s really easy! Don’t walk over there as Mr. Fix It – “hey, I can show you a better way to do that exercise,” because then you’ll come off as the gym asshole.

Instead, walk over and say, “hey, can I work in? You look like you might need a break right now.” Just do it with a smile. And then you can just start talking to her. You could ask, “hey, how long have you been working out here? I haven’t seen you before.” Just be open and friendly.

By just being open and friendly at the gym you can find out how long she’s worked out there, you can find out what days she comes to workout… do you see where I’m getting at with this?

So talk to her a minute, get to know her a bit, and then you use the power of the walk away. Now you’ve gathered information correctly. In your mind, you know what days she goes to work out. You know that you will see her again.

So just walk away, saying, “hey, have a great workout!” Then you become the guy that was confident enough not to hover; you weren’t looking to close her right away. You’re just building a relationship and allowing her to go back to her friends and say, “I was in the gym today and I met the nicest guy…”

Client: What if she’s not struggling at all? What if she’s having a great workout, and she has her iPod headphones on?

David: I would do it like this: I would make a motion with my hands for her to take her headphones off, and then say, “I’ve got to ask you something. You look like you’re having an amazing workout. What are you listening to?”

So she answers, “oh, I’m listening to the new Death Cab for Cutie album.” You respond, “oh my god, I love Death Cab. Which track are you on? Which song is motivating you?”

Client: And what if you haven’t heard of them?

David: Then you say, “oh man, I’ve never heard of them. What type of music do they play?” Have some enthusiasm.

And then make sure that you don’t become the lingering, annoying guy – so many men are. If you know she’s having a great workout, you can acknowledge that she’s having a great workout and you walk away, saying, “hey, thanks for the music tip and have a great workout.”

And then the next time you see her, you can say, “hey, Death Cab for Cutie girl, what’s going on?”