Does this sound familiar?
You’re in a relationship, but you don’t really want to be in a relationship, so you’re constantly going out with friends (or telling your significant other that you’re going out with friends). But what you’re really doing is secretly making yourself available so you can look for something better, look for a replacement for the man or woman that you’re with.

You’re recently divorced. After my divorce, I remember my buddy Rich and I went out to a bar. I was standing in that bar drinking a Margarita, and all of a sudden I realized I was “him.” I was that older guy in a bar full of 20-somethings, nursing a drink and looking at women. At that moment I realized that those days were over for me. Do you want to be ‘that guy?’ I never wanted to be that guy standing in a bar. There wasn’t any joy anymore being in a bar. I wanted to meet real women.

I was working out at the gym the other day, and I saw one of the tabloid “rags” sitting out nearby. I figured I might as well do a little bit of reading while I was bouncing around on the Stairmaster. The Stairmaster isn’t the most fun piece of equipment in the world, so I thought I would do something to pass the time.

Do you know a surefire sign that your relationship is on the edge, and is going downhill? It’s when you start masturbating again, and actually start enjoying it. Think about your past relationships at the point they were ending, or at the point when you and your partner were “on the outs.” All of a sudden you get to a point in the relationship where you’re having sex, you’re fighting, and you’re not really connecting.

One thing you notice when you get to the breakup point is that you actually fight less with your partner. You fight less because in your mind and in your heart you start detaching yourself from the other person, and you don’t care as much anymore. You have already made a determination that they don’t understand you, that they will never understand you and that the relationship just won’t work out with them. So, all of a sudden…

Guys send me questions a lot, asking me how I deal with my ex-girlfriends. My answer? It depends. The crazy ones I let go into the Universe. I said goodbye. The ones with whom I had a bond, I absolutely kept the friendship going.

We never really talked about breaking up in the blog. Today is going to be the first of a few blogs in which I will talk more about this. In this blog, I want to discuss something called “the breaking point.”
A lot of you have been in multiple relationships. I would say all of you have probably been in at least one relationship. No matter in how many relationships you’ve been, however, all relationships have what I call a breaking point.

You know, I get emails all the time asking me this: “David, I’m about to break up with somebody. I want to know if it’s possible to stay friends. Even though I know I’m going to want to have sex with her, I really would like to be her friend.” For those of you who…

Do you ever suffer from breathing issues, where you feel like each breath is laboring through your body? Every breath you take hurts. Every step you take hurts. I am not talking about a case of the swine flu. I am talking about heartache. We don’t ever really talk about heartache. Do you ever get into a huge fight with your significant other, and you just feel like it’s the end of the world? How about if your significant other breaks up with you, or you break up with them?

You get in a fight with your partner. They did something that really angered you. You didn’t like their behavior or the way they treated you. Whatever it was that they did, has that ever caused you to basically mirror that behavior back to them? Then you start blaming them for being the way that you are at that moment. You start getting angry at them for making you this way. Sometimes you just…