As some of you know, this was going to be my last year personally coaching Bootcamps. I have an amazing team of coaches who would have carried on for me brilliantly, and they will continue to do an amazing job coaching for me.

As for my decision to stop coaching Bootcamps myself at the end of this year, though, and as the NFL field judges say, upon further review I have changed my mind. No, not about how fantastic my coaches are, but about coaching the Bootcamps myself after the end of 2009.

It’s what I love to do. Not only that, I personally believe my Bootcamps are superior to all the garbage ones that are out there being taught by pretend wannabe experts.

So no retirement from coaching Bootcamps for me. The Bootcamps will move forward with me (and my team of coaches) coaching them in 2010, 2011, 2012 and beyond. It’s going to take a serious ACL injury to get me out of the Bootcamp coaching game.

For those of you who thought I was walking away from everything, I have just one question for you. Are you crazy? I’m not going anywhere (except maybe on a few trips next year).

There are, however, some great new things I’ll be coming out with next year and in the near future. We’re already kicking off some great new ideas.

Adam (my head instructor in London) and I have come up with an amazing seminar that will be taking place in London in a few weeks which is FREE. Click here to check it out.

For the women, we’re doing a killer seminar in Los Angeles this Sunday (November 8th). Click here to learn more about it.

For anyone who don’t know my team, I’ve hand-selected and personally trained every person who works with me. Not only have I personally trained them, but they all stand alone as amazing coaches. Your experience with any one of them would be just as satisfying as your experience would be with me.

My team and I plan on doing a lot of new programs next year. One of them is going to be an incredible inner mindset seminar. Details, of course, to follow next year…

We will also be launching a new live at home coaching program. That’s right — one of us will be spending two to seven nights on your sofa in the near future!

I’ve been doing this for 14 years. Brett Favre has been playing for 18 years. As long as he keeps throwing touchdown passes, I’m going to keep changing and affecting the lives of people who attend our workshops, seminars and Bootcamps.

Of course we’ll be coming out with a slew of new products, because as the dating world changes we are always ready to show you how to change with it!

So, mandatory retirement used to be at age 65. I plan on teaching a bunch of shuffle boarders in Florida the art of meeting hot sexy 80 year olds when I’m 80.

I will have the first and only geriatric pickup bootcamp in the history of the world.
I can see it now — my pants hiked up high to my chest leading around a bunch of guys who are all on arthritis medication who want to chase after some hot, sexy, experienced older women.

Thirty years from now, everyone who attends my geriatric Bootcamp will get a week’s worth of Cialis and Celebrex. Not only that, most of the people in my Bootcamp will have enlarged prostates, so I’ll have to give out something for that too. I can already see my Bootcamps in thirty years being sponsored by the pharmaceutical companies.

In the meantime, I’m young and healthy and ready to walk the next group of guys around at the the next Bootcamp. So this is the big announcement!

For those of you who were thinking to yourself, “Where’s my dating tip of the day?”, don’t worry. Here are a few tips for you. . .

1. PUT THE TIP IN FIRST: You don’t ever want to go in backwards.

2. USE THE DAVID WYGANT/BRETT FAVRE APPROACH: For those of you who may not be having sex today (and, hence, can’t make use of tip #1), you may need an approach tip of the day. So here it is: Say to the first person you see, “Did you hear that David Wygant just pulled a Brett Favre?” You want to talk about a great opening line! You meet the right woman, and she won’t know who David Wygant OR Brett Favre are.

3. 55 DAYS TO GO: For those of you who want a date tip, here it is. It’s November 5, 2009. There are approximately 55 days left in the year and before you will hopefully be staring at someone you’re about to kiss when the clock counts down 5-4-3-2-1 to midnight on New Year’s Eve. So the time to take real action on changing your dating life is now.

For those of you who want to see a very teary-eyed video, then check out the video I recorded yesterday. It will make you feel very warm and fuzzy…

Also, for any of you who are not yet on my subscriber list, I suggest you get on there quickly, because otherwise you’re missing a lot of special offers, private seminars, and FREE videos and podcasts that I give out just to my subscribers. You can sign up now in the box in the upper right hand corner of the page.

I saw a 3D movie, and let me tell you something. It was nothing like the days of the plastic glasses.

We saw the movie “Up,” and it was really cute. I have to say that 3D effects have come a LONG way since the days of the plastic dinosaur and the plastic glasses. They’ve come a long way since the era of “Jaws 3 – 3D” where you have very unreal body parts floating off the screen toward you.

I’m off to the Bootcamp. It’s another sunny day here in La La Land.

In today’s blog I want to raise something about which I was thinking the other day that I thought was really interesting: Where do most people masturbate?

Do most people masturbate in bed? Do people masturbate at the office (a topic on which I have done a blog by the way)?

Where is the most interesting place that you’ve ever masturbated?

Do you realize that most men masturbate in the shower, because it’s quick, easy, and clean? A lot of women also masturbate in the shower. Well, actually, a lot of them masturbate in the bathtub (because they have the pressure of the running water).

So I want to hear from you today. What is the most interesting place you’ve ever masturbated? Were you alone? Were you with a lover?

Was it perhaps even in front of a group of people? Have you ever been cheered on by thousands of people as you stroked or played with your clit?

I’m curious to know what the most fascinating way is that you’ve ever masturbated? Also, what do you think about when you masturbate?

Share with everyone today — I want to hear from you.

Have a great Saturday!!

I grew up in a family of suppressors; a family that would sweep everything under the carpet instead of talking about it. When you’d walk into the Wygant household, you’d trip on everything that was under the doormat. I realized yesterday through one of our powerful conversations, that in my own personal life I do some suppressing of things when something bothers me.

When something bothers me, I’ll either make a joke or be sarcastic about it. Then I’ll hide it in the bowels of my subconscious, and walk around with a feeling of irritability inside me for several days. Now I know the warning signs and have to take action so I no longer sweep things under the Wygant rug.

We all are constantly working on ourselves. We all are constantly challenging ourselves. If you ever think the job is done, you’re so wrong. If you feel you’re done everything you need to do, then your life is full of people who do not challenge you to be a better, stronger and more dynamic person.

A nice, quiet and really amazing Indian man named Ajay is in the Bootcamp this weekend. He said to me “It’s nice to see David Wygant real, and that you actually have problems too.”

We all have problems. What makes me able to teach, coach and write about all this is that I’m still working through things in my own life as well. Everyone is. We’re all flawed.

So enjoy a nice little flawed Sunday (See, a little sarcastic remark has to come out!)

Oh…and one last thing. Daphne is flawed as well. She has low self-esteem issues at times. If you want to know more about Daphne’s occasional self-esteem issues, however, we’ll have to do a whole other blog on that!

I’m there just picking up apricots, peaches and spinach. I used to walk around there picking up blonds and brunettes. Now the only thing blond I’m picking up in here is an apricot. Either I’ve really growing up or I’m really in love.

For those of you who really do want to pick up blonds and brunettes at Whole Foods instead of peaches and apricots, then I’m posting this blog which is much more relevant to you than to me. If you want to learn how to meet blonds and not peaches in whole foods check out how to do this from last weekend’s bootcamp, we showed how important it is to engage others in conversation and to remember details. Below is an excerpt about how these build an instant friendship.

Think about what we’ve accomplished just walking around for two hours today. We’ve been gathering momentum.

We stood there and talked to the Greenpeace person, and I pretended I was French. You weren’t that passionate about the conversation about Greenpeace.

Not two minutes before, you were saying, “Damn, how can I talk passionately? Nobody wants to hear about the stock market!” and then the Greenpeace person showed up.

So then we went into Blue Mercury, and the woman we met there was so boring! You saw how low energy she was, and you saw yourself in the same way, and you perked right up after that!

You don’t want to hang out with that – you’ll put yourself to sleep. And you’re really NOT low energy; you’re just more reserved.

So then we walked into Levi’s and we carried that same energy and momentum with us. We walked in and started talking to that girl behind the register, and then the other girl wanted to talk to us too, and we basically were controlling the whole tone of the entire store for about an hour!

Then the girl said to us, “You guys are fun! Stop back again!” And we became friends with her. It’s like an instant friendship.

And think about the type of person that she is; she’s a merchandiser. She does the windows at all the stores – she’s probably got a cool circle of friends. She’s someone you could go meet up with for a drink and meet her friends – you know her friends are probably outrageous!

This is about owning every place that you go into. The more places you own, the more people that you’ll relate to.

Every time you go out – I don’t care where it is – you need to learn three things about the people you talk to. Life is about flattering people and networking.

So the next time you see that Levi’s merchandiser, you can ask her, “So are you still swimming?” or “How’s mom’s business in Bethesda? Is it still kicking ass?” or “What other windows do you do? I’d really love to see them.”

Bingo. Three things right there. She’ll look at you and think, oh my god – I cannot believe that he remembered all that! She’ll immediately look at you and just think the world of you.

Most guys won’t do that. Most guys, when they are attracted to a woman, will walk in all nervous, walking back and forth and rocking, and then they’ll all of a sudden gasp, “Hey! Do you want to get together?” They won’t even remember why they wanted to get together with her; they will just try to ask her out.

You, however, have those three things about her, and those three things are the keys to asking her out. If you can remember three things about somebody, she’ll go out with you every single time.

I don’t care if you’re a man or a woman, but one of the best Sunday exercises is going to a museum or an art gallery and hanging out there.

Hang out there for two or three hours and have conversations with every single person you see. Everyone.

Walk over to them and say, “excuse me, what do you think of this painting?” or “how does this painting make you feel?” You will get into great conversations all day long.

This teaches you a few things. For one, it shows you that people don’t bite – nothing bad is going to happen to you if you talk to people.

Secondly, it’s great practice. It teaches you how to listen. You have to listen to be able to talk about the subject that you’re discussing.

Specifically in terms of artwork, there is so much going on in front of you. We’re in a museum right now, and a client just told me how easy it is in here, because there are so many things to talk about – the things on the wall, the collections, etc.

But life itself is like a museum! After you go to a museum, you can walk around your life and find anything to talk about. You find things to discuss and things to ask questions about.

Today, during a bootcamp, we started at a food market, and all of the conversations started with talking about brownies and pastries. And all of those people we talked to came back to talk to us later.

This is why observations are so powerful. In a grocery store, in a museum, in an art gallery – you have all of these opportunities to talk about the things that are going on.

So to help make everything crystal clear, here are 10 truths behind my HUGE announcement:

1.I will be coaching Bootcamps through December 31, 2009. After that, my coaches will run my Bootcamps starting January 1, 2010.

2.My coaches are fantastic! My Bootcamps will still be the best in the world, and I will be overseeing all of them.

3.Some of you thought the website and the blog were going somewhere. Not true! Just because I won’t be coaching Bootcamps in 2010 doesn’t mean I still won’t be sitting here all day long creating great blogs, product and content for you.

4.I’m not retiring and moving to Florida to play shuffleboard and lawn bowling all day long. I am just going to be concentrating on getting my message to the masses. By not working weekends in 2010, I will be able to work on exciting new ideas that I haven’t had time to develop including three new products that have never been released in the marketplace (which I’ll more about with you later in 2009).

5.For those of you who thought I was announcing that I was getting married, let me be clear that I am not getting married. If and when I do, and as with all things in my personal life, you will be the last to know . That’s why it’s called a personal life.

6.For those of you who think Daphne will also not be coaching Bootcamps in 2010, you’re wrong. Coach Khiem and Coach Kimberly can’t do Bootcamps without her. Daphne won’t be retiring until 2012, and she still has three years remaining on a very lucrative contract. That is, unless the coaching union finds out she is taking anabolic steroids . . . although I don’t think the coaching union has yet ruled that steroid use is illegal at Bootcamps. Plus if you’ve ever seen Daphne’s activity level, the only substance that could even possibly be running through her veins is Valium.

7.I still love what I do every single day. I enjoy every single Bootcamp I coach. When I told you in the video yesterday that slots for my remaining Bootcamps would be very limited, I meant it. Some of you have emailed me asking if it is really true that the spots are going to be limited. The answer is yes – it’s 100% true. I want each and every one of my final Bootcamps to be a once in a lifetime experience for each person who takes one. So if you want to see exactly how many slots are available, next week I will be posting my final Bootcamp schedule through June 2009.

8.Even though I will not be coaching Bootcamps beginning in 2010, I will still be available to do phone and email coaching. I am not disappearing off the face of the planet, that it unless I move to New Mexico and my body gets abducted by aliens.

9.There will be a very special coaching week this summer during which eight lucky people will have a chance to live in a house and be coached by me for a week. If this is something in which you would be interested, I’d suggest you get on my newsletter list ASAP.

10.Starting in 2010, weekends are made for Michelob (and for those of you who know me, the taste of beer repulses me). So I want all of you to come up with a slogan for me . . . come up with what I should do with my weekends beginning in 2010. Keep in mind that my drug-induced days are long past, I’m not a big drinker and Daphne is lazy.

I truly appreciate all of the comments I’ve been getting – it’s great to be missed before you even gone. I feel like Brett Favre. Wouldn’t it be great if a tv station interviewed me when I’m in my Bootcamp uniform of jeans and a t-shirt and I was covered with mud because we’d just come from hiking . . . then three months later we found out that Daphne traded me to the New York Jets? Now THAT truly would make me cry!

So for those of you who have been confused about my announcement yesterday, look at today’s video.

After eleven years of coaching, I’ve made a very BIG decision: This is going to be the LAST year I will be coaching Bootcamps and my last year doing one-on-one coaching in person.

This doesn’t mean that I will not have Bootcamps after this year. It means that after this year my Bootcamps will be coached entirely by my team of coaches. It means is that 2009 will the last year I am going to personally coach any Bootcamp.

My life has changed a lot over the last eleven years. I am now in a relationship, and there’s something about going out meeting women every weekend that just doesn’t resonate with me anymore. This is, therefore, going to be my last year personally coaching Bootcamps.

Now don’t get me wrong . . . I’m not getting married and moving to Canada for some free healthcare or anything. It’s just that my goal now is to reach as many people as possible, which I feel I can best do through the Internet, via phone/email coaching and through my Community Site.

I’m going to post my entire year’s schedule on the website. Be aware, though, that I am keeping all of my remaining Bootcamps very small and intimate, so slots will be very limited.

Once these slots are sold out, that’s it. I won’t be adding any additional Bootcamps or slots to the schedule.

So if you want to learn from me in person and have me personally teach you the skills I teach, then I’d contact me at david@davidwygant.com as soon as possible and secure a spot for yourself in one of these Bootcamps.

If you want to learn more about why i made this tough decision take a look at this very personal message from me.

The point of life is realizing every single day that life itself is actually a miracle.

To get really Zen in your thinking, you need to accept everything that comes into your life and learn from the lessons you are presented with. You need to embrace those lessons and move forward.

It’s important to realize that when you receive coaching of any kind – whether it is a dating bootcamp or coaching on a physical sport – you have to practice.

Think about yoga. Yoga is practice, right? Why is yoga called practice? Because you’ll never be good at it unless you practice. And there is always room for improvement; there is always something new to learn.

I’ve been doing yoga for three years, and while I’m much better now than I was when I started, I’m still not as good as I’m going to be. Even when I get to the point where I’m really good, I’m still going to have to improve and get somewhere else.

That’s what life is about: a constant evolution, trying to get somewhere. And more important than this evolution is your acceptance of it. The more you accept, the more you will evolve. This is where that Zen-like feeling comes in, which we all want to feel, right?

So if you are able to have total acceptance of everything that goes on in your life, you’ll be able to enjoy the gift. You will be able to enjoy what is happening each and every day. You’ll be able to extract the value of whatever is going on in your life.

Coaching is just the start – the tip of the iceberg. My interns could tell you, whenever I go out; I’m constantly being coached. I’m constantly talking to people, I’m always learning, and I’m constantly writing things down.

I’m always communicating with my girlfriend and learning ways to be a better man. I’m constantly investing in myself.

I’ve referred to this before, and the movie Defending Your Life goes into this: the worst thing in the world is to be cheap with yourself. If you’re cheap with yourself, then you will die cheating yourself.

So even though some people decide to make that initial investment in themselves and take a bootcamp, they still have to continue to make that personal investment and continue to learn.

I’m investing something in myself every single day. When I threw my back out, I invested in my healing – a lot of money! Was it a waste of money? No way. I learned how to heal my body, and I learned to listen better to how my body communicates with me.

This is your one body, and your one chance. I don’t know about you, but I want to get it right. I don’t know what your religious beliefs are, but I believe that your soul passes on to a better place, and I think that if you haven’t learned all of your lessons then your soul comes back as another tortured individual. That’s my belief system.

So I really want to get all of my lessons in this lifetime. I want to make this life as fulfilling as possible. Whenever I pass, I want to make sure that I really embraced the ride. That’s really all you can do for yourself.

It really is about investing in yourself every single day. It’s very powerful, and it’s fun!

Eagles and the Chargers in the Super Bowl.

Client: So are you opposed to the idea of the first contact being through texting?

David: Yeah.

Client: Sometimes I feel like on the phone I can’t ever get my rap together. And nowadays, no one ever answers their phone!

Khiem: David’s a bit different from me. I don’t mind a quick text once in a while. I don’t mind the first contact to be via text but there needs to be a phone call very quickly after that.

David: I do like texting. Khiem, you just like to talk on the phone longer than I do. The other day Khiem got on the phone at 5:30 and rumor has it he wasn’t off of it until 11:30 or 12:00! When he wants to have a phone conversation, you might as well make plans for yourself for lunch, dinner, and a snack! It will be a while!

Khiem: With the girl that I’m seeing, I made a rule that I wasn’t going to talk to her every day. So then every time we talk, she wants more. I try to give her enough to last her a couple of days. I don’t want to talk to her every day!

Client: When you’re seeing somebody, how much do you think that they want to hear from you?

Khiem: I set a rule about what I want. Do you remember how I said earlier that you should make sure that you tell people how much you expect from them? Let them know what you want so that they know what to expect from you.

I tell women up front that I like my independence and that calling every day is too much for me. I tell her that I want her to grow and have her own life. I don’t like clingy girls, and I tell women that straight up. If you like clingy girls, that’s cool, but that’s not who I am, and I won’t do it.

And because I’ve laid that out to her, she accepts it. You have to tell them up front. For me, we can talk every two or three days – no more than that.

Client: But when you do talk to her, you have meaningful conversations, right?

Khiem: Oh yeah, it’s always meaningful, and many times it’s arousing as well. Not every phone call would include dirty talk, but many of them do.

Client: Do you think that there are special considerations when you are dating younger women?

David: How young are they? (laughter)

Client: Not like students, I’d say around 30. That’s the absolute youngest I would ever go.

Khiem: You have to understand their world.

David: Yeah.

Khiem: Try to understand their world, because each woman at different ages has different expectations in life. Based on their expectations and lifestyle, you can work from that angle.

You don’t want to try to accommodate yourself entirely to her. But if you’re dating a woman who is a lawyer or does something corporate, then you know that she has a busy schedule. You know that you have to set up a date at least three or four days in advance – if not a week.

But if you know that she’s more active and spontaneous, you can call her more often and be more spur-of-the-moment with your dates. That’s how you tailor your communication style to the woman that you are interested in.

At a younger age, she has a higher level of distractions. Women in their twenties have a high level of distractions, particularly around 23, 24, 25.

Client: 23 is like insane.

David: At 23, it’s like a Labrador Retriever on the beach! “Should I play? Should I sniff ass? Should I go? Should I get the ball? Oh my god, nobody wants to play with me? I’m going to go lie down and look sad for 20 minutes.”

Khiem: Yeah, at 28 you start to get settled. 28-year-olds still haven’t fully matured yet, but around that age they start to settle down. But again, what is she doing? What kind of life does she live? Is she working? Is she still in party-mode?

You can meet women in their thirties that are still in party-mode.

David: Oh yeah!

Khiem: But you can also meet 24-year-olds who are out of that, done with partying and looking for something more.

David: Let’s take it a bit deeper. I speak to all women in the same way, because I know that I attract a certain type of woman. I’m very careful about who I attract into my life. I like a certain type of woman.

Sometimes someone might slip through the cracks – because the sex is great or whatever. There are certain women you’ll put up with more shit from because you’re just in the mood for that type of sexual relationship or something.

But most of the time, if you like a certain type of woman, you’re used to dealing with that type of woman. Maybe you don’t like the hard, ball-busting, lawyer type of woman, so you avoid them. Maybe you prefer the creative types – or whatever it might be. You’re used to that type of woman, and that’s what you attract.

But I always tell a guy that if you’re looking for a woman a lot younger than you, you’re going to encounter a whole other language.

Client 1: I feel like on some of these online dating sites, the girls my age are always looking for men aged 28 to 45. What does that mean?

Client 2: What’s wrong with that? What site is that again? (laughter)

Client 1: But what does that really mean? Does that mean that they just want someone that is mature and confident?

Khiem: Probably. Usually what they mean by older is not so much age, but someone who is comfortable with themself.

A lot of younger girls who are looking for older men are tired of the guys their age who have no clue. They are looking for a guy who is really secure in his own identity. He might be established as well, but that’s usually coming from the maturity of being secure in yourself. Generally that’s what they mean when they are looking for older guys.

Client 1: Okay, I just didn’t know if I should take it at literal value, like, okay they are just looking for someone that is older.

David: It means that they are pretty much open. They are looking for somebody who knows himself. They are tired of meeting man-boys. They’ve dated them. They are sick and tired of guys that are indecisive.

But they don’t really realize that the older guys are often just as indecisive! We have more life experience to share with them, which they like, but age doesn’t necessarily mean you’re secure with yourself.

When I talk to any other person, I’m not trying to get anything out of it. I don’t walk up to some woman and think, man, I want to get her phone number. Or, man, I want to sleep with her.

Why would I want to sleep with her? She’s a total stranger! I hate sleeping with total strangers! Why? You don’t know if they hog the bed or not, you have no clue. They could rob you in the middle of the night – she could be a convicted felon. You’re going to invite her into your bed tonight? Absolutely not.

So stop trying to get something out of everyone. Just walk up to a person and give them you. The ultimate gift is to give yourself to other people.

Deepak Chopra says this: walk up to one person every single day and give them a random compliment from your heart.

Like the woman trying on boots I walked up to today in Harvey Nichols in London during a bootcamp – I told her, “those boots look great.” I didn’t actually see the boots on her, but she was beautiful – anything on her would have looked great!

She asked, “which ones?” I said, “those,” and she asked, “aren’t they too shiny?” And I said, “no way,” and I shared a story with her about my own shiny shoes. She was really happy, and then I helped her daughter put these mittens on her teddy bear.

I didn’t do this because I wanted to go out with her mom, I didn’t do that because I wanted a relationship – I did it because I saw her confusion when she was trying to decide which shoes to buy. I really wanted to basically tell her, “you’re hot! Any pair is going to look good on you!”

And that is true! She had a great smile. And I didn’t “try” anything. I didn’t ask her for her phone number, I didn’t creepily slip her my hotel room number – I didn’t get anything out of it.

But you have to be nice to every single person and expect nothing in return. When you expect nothing, you actually get the greatest gift: the genuine gift of themselves.

When someone gives you the gift of themselves, you’re getting that which you wanted the whole time: a true connection with someone else. It’s not something that was forced or creepy – it’s the real, true essence of someone.

So the next time you see a woman, don’t think about how bad you want her. Think about getting to know her and think about giving to her.

Don’t expect anything from anyone, ever – and you’ll get the best gift back.