It is the month of May, and I also declare it Extreme Honesty Month.

You’re all going to participate, hopefully.

We’re all going to participate in extreme honesty month.

Here is what it is all about:

For the next 31 days and 31 nights, you’re going to be extremely honest with everybody you come into contact with.

You’re no longer going to worry about what to say. You’re not going to be stuck inside your head. You’re going to speak your mind—no filter.

You’re also going to realize that the world is going to respond to you in an entirely different way. They’re going to respond to you in ways that you never have before.

For the next 31 days, you’re going to be fully authentic, real, and loving. You’re going to live your life every single day full of love—remember that. The two virtues necessary to be an honest person, are courage and love.

It takes courage to be completely you and say what you really feel. It also takes love to be able to do it without being a dick.

I don’t want you to attack people. Tell people how you feel but do it from a place of love. Don’t call people out from a place of anger or resentment—that will make this month very difficult for you. Be honest from a place of love.

You can come from a loving place, and explain why you’re hurt, why you’re sad, why you’re angry, why you’re upset. You’re more likely to honestly express yourself if you can control your emotions while you do it. Coming from genuine, positive emotions like respect, courage, and love will give you greater control.

This will be your most challenging and empowering month ever.

But imagine being able to walk up to a woman who you think is absolutely beautiful, and actually say it because you mean it, not because you want something from her.

Imagine being able to walk into your boss’ office, and explain to them why things are not working out for you at work, and your ideas on how things can be better so the work environment can be a more powerful, creative environment for everybody to flourish.

Imagine being able to tell your parents things you’ve always wanted to say. Imagine having a sit down with your best friend, who has been real selfish with your time and explaining how you feel.

Imagine being able to say all the things that have been dominating your thoughts for the longest time. Imagine being able to let them out and discuss them, so you can live a free, clear life.

That is what it is all about.

Extreme honesty month, it is time for all of you to join in.

I will be blogging (and tweeting #extremehonestymonth) every single day, sometimes more than once.

I will post videos.

I will post podcasts.

It is all going to be about being real, and I’m going to share with you what’s going on in my life, some of the conflicts, and some of the things I’m working on. Sharing with you is going to help me become more honest, and more real, and more open about my personal life.

I look forward to every day of this month, I hope you do too.

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And if you want to officially join me for a month of total honesty, and you want to do it in a very public way, click to tweet the following:

I am celebrating extreme honesty month. I vow to speak nothing but the whole truth for the next 31 days. Join me. – Click to Tweet.

What is is about men screaming at women to get their attention? Has this ever worked? Do guys actually think women will respond to this . . . or at least women who they would WANT to respond would respond to this? Are these guys as drunk and stupid as they appear to be?

For more about this ridiculous approach, check out today’s video at the end of the blog that I just posted on YouTube. Also, for those of you who want to really learn the right way to approach women, then you’ll really appreciate today’s blog . . .

You know, a lot of you think you know me and a lot of you want to know more about my personal journey to become who I am today. You want to know about fear and how I overcame it.

You read the blogs, you read my newsletters, you watch my videos, and you think you know who I am. In reality, though, you only know what I’m telling you.

In life, you only know what people are telling you. You only know what people are sharing with you. You only know whatever story they’re telling you.

What is your story? People always hide behind stories. Our stories are things we create in our minds and what we share with others.

Every story that I have been sharing with you is my story. You have filled in the blanks. You have decided that I must be a certain way based on the facts I have provided you.

That’s what we do in life. It’s so interesting.

People ask me all the time, “David, Why did you get involved in this business?” Do you know why I got involved in this business? It was because everything I teach is something I once needed to work on myself.

A few months ago I read some of my old journals to my girlfriend. Some of them were over ten years old, and others were over twenty years old. What I found out by reliving my past in those journals is that my own personal experience and personal journey is no different than yours.

I wanted to go out and find love just like many of you. In some of the journals, all I talked about was finding love, believing in love, wanting love . . . and asking why I couldn’t seem to find it.

In one journal I talked about a woman I was with at the time whom I ended up marrying. After I married her, I realized she was not the one for me and I was so frustrated by that. At that moment in my life, I wasn’t sure I would ever find love.

I even become very soured on the idea of love for a while. In one journal entry, I mentioned thinking a friend of mine who was going to propose to his girlfriend was crazy to want to get married.

I was new in the business at that time and, although I was teaching guys how to meet women every day, I was soured on the idea of romance.

I had to work on myself from the inside, just like all of you are doing. So I understand the journey so many of you are on right now.

The reason that I never wanted to teach “pickup” was because I always wanted to be authentic. I want all of you to be authentic.

The only way to find love and a great relationship is to be authentic. The only way to be authentic is to keep working on yourself.

I also learned from my journals that I really struggled for a time with the old “monkey chatter” issue that I talk to all of you about all the time. In some of those old journals I had entries all about what I wished I could say, what I wanted to say, and what I didn’t say to so many different people. My head was so full of monkey chatter, it was ridiculous.

I spent a long time working on myself and getting rid of all that monkey chatter in my head just like you are working on doing. The reason I now have such an amazing relationship is that I can actually tell my girlfriend how I feel.

It is really hard for me still at times to completely share how I feel, but if you are going to be authentic in life (and in dating) then you have got to communicate how you feel without worrying what the response will be. If someone truly loves you, they will process whatever you say to them and give you an honest, real and authentic answer.

The power of self-love and working through all your issues will really allow you to attract the person you want. As I’ve said so many times before (but it’s so true), you attract what you are in life. After doing all this work on myself, I attracted the woman who surpassed all my dreams.

The following is a talk I gave to a client at a weekend bootcamp. This is a great example of my direct one-on-one coaching during bootcamps.

Whenever you try too hard in life to get people to like you, you push everybody away.

When you do this, you’re too over the top and you’re generally not listening to people. You’re actually overwhelming them.

It’s like a Golden Retriever: have you ever gone over to someone’s house and they have a Golden Retriever, and you’ve never met this dog before, but the dog will just not leave you alone? It just keeps running over to you, bringing you its ball, and all of its toys and everything?

In a dog, this is a great quality. In a human – well, you don’t want to be a human Golden Retriever.

Both men and women do it. When people try too hard, it’s just too much. You get in somebody’s face, and they automatically want to back down. I watch when a guy will go out there and be a human Golden Retriever – and I watch the way women react. At first, they will find him attractive, because he has great energy, but then after two minutes, she’ll just try to shoo him away.

She hasn’t gotten to know the guy in those two minutes, because generally the human Golden Retriever is just spitting out hyperactive words the whole time instead of connecting.

By tuning yourself down a little bit, and by listening and being intriguing, you’re no longer going to be a human Golden Retriever – you’ll be a person. And that’s all that it is about. It’s about connecting with people in a genuine way.

After this weekend, some of you guys will keep in touch with some of the guys here a little bit longer than you might keep in touch with some of the other guys – that’s just life. That’s chemistry.

So stop trying so hard. You’re such a deep and genuine soul. You’re a good person all around. You don’t need to try so hard to prove yourself to other people. So stop overtrying

Todays video dives even deeper into life and how to present yourself to a total stranger with confidence.

You do not want to be the human golden retriever.