So for tomorrow, I like the Ravens and the Giants not only to win — but to crush their opponents. Tomorrow will also be the day that the Lions finally win a game. The Redskins have shown nothing so far, and the Lions are due.

On to today’s blog, and it’s a good one . . .

This blog today comes right from my heart. The wisest person in life is not the one who knows everything. Sure, that person is pretty damn wise, but only if that person has actually experienced everything he or she knows.

There are a lot of “Mr. Humble” people out there. You know who that person is, don’t you? He’s that guy who who is NEVER humble?

He is the one who always has something to say about everything. He thinks he knows about everything even though he’s never experienced half of the things about which he talks.

The wisest people are those who can shut the hell up when something new and unknown comes into their life. “Mr. Humble,” on the other hand, is always feeling like he needs to contribute something to the conversation even if he knows nothing about it.

I know when something comes up in a conversation with which I’m not familiar, that I sit back and listen. I don’t let my ego get in the way. If the conversation is going in a direction that I’m unfamiliar with and I can’t control, I just kick back and listen. As I listen, I’m learning.

Life is a series of repeated experiences. Two weeks after that conversation where I kicked back and listened, I might find myself in another conversation about that same topic about which I previously knew nothing.

Because I sat back and listened the first time, I’m now able to contribute. By contributing to this new conversation, I earn respect and I learn even more about the topic.

People often over-talk because they think that people will respect them more if they have a lot to say. People, however, actually respect you less if you over-talk. If you don’t know what you’re talking about, it’s okay to sit back and listen.

The quiet, silent types are the ones who are always listening and learning. We all know people who will always contribute to the conversation, regardless of if they know about the topic or not.

It’s their ego talking. Their ego wants them to be the wisest person in the conversation. In reality, though, the wisest people I know talk half of the time, and listen the rest.

By creating an amazing lifestyle and being passionate about the things you do, you will start attracting the opposite sex instead of spending your life chasing them and hoping you’ll connect with them. People are attracted to positive, fun, interesting and well-rounded individuals. If you’re miserable or doing things that you don’t enjoy, you are not going to to meet someone no matter what approach or methodology you use to do it. The reason is that no one wants to meet someone who is miserable or spending their life doing things they don’t like.

So before you go out and try to meet somebody, you need to first figure out how to create a passionate lifestyle for yourself. Think for a second about the kind of people to whom you are attracted. Most people are attracted to people who are positive, energetic and interesting. Now think about what type of person you are right now. Are you that positive, energetic and interesting person I just described, or are you someone who is miserable and angry because you can’t meet someone?

It all starts with creating an amazing lifestyle for yourself, so that you feel great and will attract amazing people into your life. So to give you a little incentive to get started creating your own amazing lifestyle, here are 5 ways that doing so will make you instantly more attractive to the opposite sex:

1. Reevaluate Your Work Environment: One of the first (and most important) things you need to do to create an amazing lifestyle is to take a very critical eye to your current work environment. Because work is something most of us HAVE to do, we sometimes don’t expect that it is also something we can want to do (or at least not hate doing). Think about your current work environment. Do you have a boss who is consistently demeaning? Do you dislike most of your co-workers? Do you dread going into work every day? If your work environment is toxic and causing you to be miserable, then it’s time to reevaluate whether it’s time for a change. If you are working in a toxic environment, consider whether you are staying there because you are comfortable and don’t want to have to push your own boundaries. If you stay in a work environment that makes you miserable and angry, then understand that miserable and angry is what you are going to project to everyone around you (whether you intend to or not), including to the people you have been trying to attract.

2. Do The Things You Love: So many people go to places they believe they “should” go or “have to” go in order to meet somebody, but which are places they don’t enjoy being at all. Is it really any wonder they have trouble meeting people in these places? Instead of going to places where you’re not happy to try and meet somebody, pick five things YOU really love to do. Think about what your five favorite things are to do. Then ask yourself whether there are members of the opposite sex present at each of those five things. If not, then go deeper and find five things you’re either already interested in or about which you would like to learn. Then go to any of these places to meet people. When you go to places that interest you, you’ll already have things to talk about and will naturally bond with people. The reason you have trouble making conversation with people in a bar (or other places you may not enjoy being), is because when you’re someplace you really don’t like you have to manufacture conversations instead of just talking about what’s already interesting to you.

3. Be Open: Positive people are open to new experiences. So instead of expecting to meet someone when you go out and getting totally disappointed if you don’t, be open to what the day or night might present to you. Being open means talking to everyone with which you come into contact, and not only being friendly to someone you find attractive. Just because you are not attracted to the person you’re talking to doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be open and friendly. You never know if that person may have a friend they’re meeting later with whom you might end up totally connecting. So be open to anything and everything, because people who are open to whatever presents itself to them always meet people. Remember that every connection you make with someone leads to another, and you never know what (or who) that next connection might bring into your life.

4. Find Your Inner Child: A big part of being attractive to the opposite sex is being approachable. That means when you go anywhere, don’t just “show up.” You need to embrace the moment and approach everything with a child-like enthusiasm. Smile, talk to people, ask questions and enjoy yourself. During a recent coaching weekend with several male clients, instead of just “taking them out to meet women” I took them to the beach and had them build sand castles. The reason I did this was to teach them how to have fun again and not to be so serious. If you’re serious when you try to meet someone, then you’re not having fun and that is not attractive. Life is about having fun just like you did when you were a kid. So what happened with the guys on the beach? They ALL ended up meeting great women who joined in to help them build the sand castles.

5. Use The Law Of Attraction: This is part of why how you behave in public will affect how successful you will be at attracting member of the opposite sex. It’s called attraction for a reason. When you walk into a place and you start talking to a bunch of different people, other people will line up and want to talk to you (including those members of the opposite sex you’ve been trying so hard to meet). If you’re angry, you are going to attract angry people and you will spend your day in constant confrontations. If you walk around in life having fun, having casual conversations and enjoying every step of the journey – even if you’re just running an errand to the market – you are going to attract great people into your life. People are attracted to people having a good time and who are enjoying their life. No one wants to hang out with a person who is pouting, folding their arms and looking miserable. That’s why it’s so important if you want to attract the opposite sex that you create a lifestyle.

Creating a lifestyle is all about learning to genuinely enjoy your life every day. Do things that you love and enjoy them. Embrace every single moment. By doing these things, you will naturally start attracting people. By being more open, not only will you start talking to more people but more people will notice your openness and start talking to you. Being more open also makes you more memorable.
So why continue to chase after people you want to meet when you can start attracting them? Create an amazing lifestyle and be passionate about the things you do, and you WILL start attracting the opposite sex.

There is not a good seat in the house, and it’s the most poorly run place I’ve ever seen. It took an hour to get the car out of the parking lot. An hour! I pulled out of the parking space and could see the exit, but we just couldn’t get to it. They just had no clue how to move traffic.

The show itself was great! There was the Internet rumor that they were doing a fifteen minute cover of Michael Jackson’s “Billy Jean” at all of their shows. You’ve got to love the Internet. The song “Billy Jean” is three minutes long . . . and so was the cover version that Coldplay did last night.

I love how rumors start. So let’s start our own rumor today. I don’t know what I want to start, but there’s got to be something we can start. Give me some time, I’ll come up with something during the day (and maybe I’ll post it in the comments).

Otherwise, let’s get into today’s truth . . .

In a recent blog, I discussed how women can know if a man is attracted to them on a date. Now let’s talk about how a woman can keep that attraction going.

Men love to be teased. If a man touches your arm during the course of a date, touch him a few times back. That will drive him crazy. When you go to the bathroom, get up and on the way to the bathroom touch his shoulder and whisper “I’ll be right back” in his ear. That will really drive him crazy!

When he’s talking and leaning into you, lean into him so he can feel your closeness. When he goes to kiss you on the cheek, give him a quick kiss on the lips, a quick smile, and then walk away. As you’re walking away, turn around and give him another smile.

Also, compliment a man during a date. Tell him you’re having a good time. Laugh at his silly jokes. This will keep him intrigued.

These are some simple techniques that you can use to flirt and let a man know that you’re interested

Great weekend here with 7 guys for the LA bootcamp!!!

How was everyone’s weekend?

Today I was thinking.

Do you enjoy the people who you hang out with?

Do you have a good time with your friends?

Or are you just hanging out with them because they are the people that go to the right places on Friday night? Or are they people that make it easier to meet women?

Life is about attraction. It’s about attracting people into your life in every way.

So really: who are your closest friends? Are they people that you really love? Are they people who you really enjoy being around? And are they people who you have a really great time with?

Or are you just hanging out with people that only serve your needs? Because if you hang out with them, you can get invited to the right parties?

If you’ve listened to my products, read the blog regularly, or met me in person, you understand that I’m not about chasing; I’m about attracting. If you’re with people who don’t make you feel good or aren’t fun to be with – the woman or man who you’re hoping to attract will look at you and wonder about your own character.

Are you someone who doesn’t drink, but you go out a lot with a friend who can’t handle his alcohol? Do you end up spending the entire night taking care of him? Do you know that people look at you and wonder why you’re hanging out with that person?

They don’t see you taking care of that person – they don’t see the nurturing side of you. They’re just wondering about your character – why you’re with that obnoxious person.

I remember Rey was out one time with a friend of his who thought it was funny if he peed outside waiting in line at a club. I remember Rey telling me this story. Everyone looked at HIM, not at his ass of a friend. They were wondering about Rey’s character: why would he go out with somebody who would pee outside in public?

I’m not making this stuff up. You’re perceived through your friends. When women meet you, they are looking at your friends. When men meet you, they are thinking, “Hmm, let me find out something about her (or his) character.” That’s how people judge and evaluate you.

So really, who are your friends? And do they truly represent who you are as a person?

Enjoy your day!!!

We all want something. We want the end result.

You’re dating a woman, and you want to get her to fall in love with you. Or maybe you’re dating somebody, and you want him or her to move in with you. Or you see her two days a week, but you really want to see her four days a week.

So instead of being present and enjoying that moment, you’re thinking about what you want to get out of it. And you’re not really there.

My favorite times are with my girlfriend – and every single day with her is amazing because I’m always learning something new – but one of the best times we had together was in the beginning of our relationship when we stayed on the phone all night long. We’d get on the phone at 11 p.m. intending to talk for a few minutes, but we’d still be on the phone together five or six hours later.

That was amazing. I cherish that every single day. I embrace that. I am so grateful for those moments. Those moments are what created how we feel about each other now. The way we act with each other now is based on the foundation of those moments.

But people are so caught up in not enjoying those moments and moving on to something better. Those moments are precious, and they are never going to happen again. I’m probably never going to get on the phone with her again and talk to her for five hours.

That is what makes life so intense and so amazing. You have to really think about those moments and really enjoy them. They are not going to happen again.

Accept those moments as they come up because they are truly powerful!!!

It’s time to declare your outcome independence! Here are ways to lose your outcome dependence and attract more women by connecting with them:

1. Stop Being A Predator: You can’t possibly meet every woman you see. Virtually every guy I’ve ever coached have asked me how they can meet women who are walking toward them on the street. Think about this though. You’re walking down the street. You see a woman you find attractive who is also walking down the street. You’re both in a hurry. You all of a sudden become very outcome dependent – you want to meet her right now and get her phone number right now. Let me try to put it into perspective: When you’re in a rush walking down the street, do you like to be bothered? You can’t bother every single woman as she walks down the street by stopping her to ask her for her phone number. You need to realize that you can’t have every single woman you see simply because you find them attractive, because women will not be attracted to you unless you know how to also connect with them. So stop being a predator who chases women, and start attracting them by engaging them in conversations.

2. Good Mechanics Don’t Ensure Success: Just because you walked over to a woman and opened her with some amazing words of wisdom does not mean that she will want to go out with you. When you speak with a woman you need to listen very carefully to what she has to say, because it takes more than a clever opener to really get a woman to be interested in you. You need to pay really close attention to everything a woman says so you can initiate conversation topics about what’s already in her mind. You need to be able to not only engage her in conversation, but also to be able to take the conversation deeper. So just because you arrived on the scene and delivered a perfect opener does not mean that you’re going to get the phone number. It takes a lot more than just showing up in life to get that phone number from a woman.

3. Stay In The Moment: One of the most important things to do to stop being outcome dependent is to make a significant mindset shift. What this means is that when you are talking to a woman, you need to stop focusing on getting women’s phone numbers and start focusing more on staying present in the moment. A lot of men will ask a woman for her phone number and to go out on a date with him mere seconds after they approach and start talking to her. That is the very embodiment of being outcome dependent. Remember once again that in order to get a woman’s phone number you must first connect with her emotionally and in a way that will make her want to give you her phone number. One thing you’ll need to do to connect with women is to be willing to share something about yourself.

Think about this from a woman’s perspective. You’re a complete stranger who has approached her and asked her out … all in fifteen seconds or less. She will first wonder why you are asking her out, but since you know nothing else about her she will assume that you are only asking her out because you are physically attracted to her. Plus since she knows nothing about you, she is unlikely to agree to give you her phone number. So if you want to connect with women when you meet them, you are going to have to spend some time being in the moment with them. Putting in this time also allows both of you to see if you even like each other. Plus, if you’ve been in the moment and connected with a woman when you meet her, if she does give you her phone number she will be excited to get your call (instead of feeling about you like she does about most telemarketers).

4. There Is No Call Back Guarantee: Just because you were able to get a woman’s phone number does not mean that she will call you back after you’ve called her. It is a simple fact of life that there are some women who will give out their phone number just because a man asks for it and regardless of whether she actually is interested in having him call her. There are other women who may genuinely be interested in you when they give you their phone number, but may decide later (due to changing their mind or meeting someone else) that they are not so interested in talking to you, and thus may not return your call when you call them. So to increase your odds of getting a call back, make sure you connect with a woman emotionally before you ask for her phone number. That will greatly increase the chances she will call you back. If a woman for whatever reason does not call you back, don’t take it personally. That happens to everyone. Just move on to meeting someone else. There’s always another woman to meet.

So are you a guy who believes that if you get a woman’s phone number that she is going to be your next girlfriend (or might even be “the one”)? Are you also a guy who believes that if that same woman doesn’t call you back that you must not have said the right thing when you approached her? If so, then you like so many men are very outcome dependent.

So many men perceive approaching a woman like a rite of passage which entitles them to favorable responses from the women they’ve approached. This is the outcome dependent mentality. It’s time to declare your outcome independence!

Understand that you may have to approach a lot of women before you find one who really relates to you. Also, the next time you walk up to a woman, don’t think about how badly you want to go out with her. Instead, get to know her first to see if you really do want to go out with her.

Do you know how to turn a woman on?

You turn her on by the way you walk, by the way you talk, and by the way you listen to her. You turn her on in the way that you are animated.

Every guy has one successful approach and then they think, oh man, next time I want to be able to escalate sexually. How do I do that?

It’s so ridiculous. You can’t do it! You’re not there yet. If you understood the true nature of sexuality, you would know that the way to really turn a woman on is through her mind.

When I first started doing this, there was no way in the world that I would touch women I don’t know like I do now. I was terrified – if I even got close to a woman I was freaked out.

You have to stop thinking about that sexual escalation – all you have to do is connect to her, talk to her, get her phone number – and you’ll have sex! You really will.

Women will start sleeping with you much more than you ever imagined – because you’re one of the few guys that has ever really listened.

So, you want to escalate? Find an escalator!

Client: So you’re saying that if you take the sex out of the equation, the sex will come?

David: Yeah. I never think about sex, ever. I even tell the guys that work for me that I could care less if I ever get laid again. And then they ask me what I did the night before, and I tell them, “well I just hung out with that girl and we had sex.” I just don’t think about it.

For women, sex starts in the mind. They don’t have a dick that gets hard every time the wind blows. They don’t get hard looking at pictures. They don’t think, “oh wow, a naked guy!” Pictures alone don’t turn them on.

They do get turned on by your mind and by your presence. Your confidence turns them on. That’s what it takes – confidence. It’s the way you walk, it’s the way you talk, and it’s the way you move.

If you approach a woman and touch her randomly just to “escalate,” she’s going to look at you like you’re a fucking creep. If you’re all nervous and your hands are shaking towards her, she’s going to think, oh my god, a human vibrator!

You just can’t think that way. I see guys doing this all the time. It’s like a robot – you can see the exact awkward point where they decide to escalate sexually. They think, okay, we’ve been talking for 30 seconds, now I’m going to go touch her to escalate sexually.

And these men are so stiff and uncomfortable. How does that turn her on?

Today i had lunch with a friend and sat right next to Jude Law….I must say he was a pretty cool guy.

Tonight we start the bootcamp and I am sure I will have a ton of stories to share from London.

Lets talk about Strip Clubs

Rich is an intern that works for me. He grew up in a nice, protected, suburban household in Naples, Florida. Since coming to my office, Rich has been learning the ways of the world.

The other night, Rich made the cardinal mistake that most young men have made before: he went to a strip club and thought that the women flirting with him actually liked him.

He came into the office this morning and said, “oh my god, you wouldn’t believe it! I met the coolest strippers last night!”

Let’s face it: strip clubs are a joke. Guys, come on. I said this before in my Men’s Mastery Series – the only time it’s okay to go to a strip club is at 3:30 in the afternoon when the women are bored out of their minds.

This is when they have nothing going on and they are not in hustling mode. The women are just waiting for the Happy Hour guys to come in, and you can use this time to work on your conversation skills.

When you go to a strip club at night, you spend $80 and you think you’ve become a better flirt – but I’ll tell you that the second you opened up your wallet was the second you became interesting to those girls.

The women at strip clubs are amazing at flirting. They know exactly how to do it. They will just take the money out of your pocket every single time. It’s only an illusion. Trust me, it’s not your skills.

You didn’t walk into that strip club and immediately become a great conversationalist. You didn’t lose your approach anxiety the second you walked in the door. These women know exactly how to pull money out of your pocket.

I hate strip clubs. If I am ever dragged to a strip club, I will sit there quietly. When a woman approaches me and asks if I want a private dance, I’ll respond, “no, I’m not here for that. My friend wanted to come here. I’m just here to hang out. If you’d like a stimulating and interesting conversation and to take a break from hustling all the other men in here, come sit next to me. If not, go make some money and enjoy your night!”

And they will always come over and start talking to me. I’m totally the opposite of every other guy in there.

But the second you open your wallet and allow them to jump up and down on your penis and grind all up on you – they know that they can get you for more money. All they see in you is an endless supply of twenty-dollar bills.

If you’re at a strip club and you think that all of a sudden women are attracted to you, think again! If you haven’t taken a penny out of your pocket and there are women still coming over to talk to you, then you are right. You are becoming a good conversationalist.

But the second that money comes out – come on now, they are hustlers! It’s no different than the beggars on the street. If a beggar on the street is talking to you and you hand them a dollar, they will become chattier and complimentary. They know they can get more money out of you.

People aren’t stupid: they’re hustlers.

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Many guys pay too much attention to body language – if she’s holding her arms this way… Many guys are looking for signs from her body language, but they aren’t leading with their own bodies.

You have to lead with your body. For instance, let’s say you’re out on a date with a woman and you’re talking. If you lean back in your chair, she’s going to lean back into hers – usually people mimic each other’s body languages.

So how do you know that she’s not just mimicking you – how do you know if she is actually interested?

You want to be the leader in the body language game. You want to be the guy that gets her to do what you are doing.

What I’ll sometimes do on a date is mix it up. I’ll lean back in my chair, and then when she says something particularly interesting, I’ll lean forward. I’ll get her to follow me. If she’s interested in me, she’ll also lean forward toward me.

Another thing that I will do is put my hands on the table as I’m leaning forward. I’ll then watch to see if she puts her hands up there too. Sometimes she’ll move her hands closer to my hands so that literally the center of the table is the dividing line between our almost touching fingers.

If she leans forward and her hands are almost touching mine, then I will move back and pull away. Why? It has to do with that teasing aspect. Life is all about teasing.

So then I’ll lean back just like this, and I’ll see where she’s at. If she leans back too, then I know that she’s following my lead and mimicking me. I’m leading and she’s following – that’s what you want!

Maybe five or six minutes later, I’ll do the same thing and lean forward towards her. This time I will put my hands over the dividing line and I’ll see how close she’ll move her hands to mine.

She might put her hands over the dividing line as well, onto my side of the table. This means that we’ve broken each other’s personal space boundaries.

These are some of the little clues that you can read into when it comes down to body language. You want to play with it a little bit.

Don’t worry if she folds her arms. If she folds her arms, she might just be cold – it doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad.

Do you see the difference? It’s all about playing; leading and following, leading and following.

Now that we covered some thoughts on how to know if she is attracted to you.

How about the one way never to act after a night of drinking to turn her off every time!!

Enjoy Labor Day!!

She said, “alright, you have my attention. Tell me a little bit more.” I said, “well first, what type of guy are you attracted to?” She said, “well, I’m attracted to a guy that is alert,” which I thought was very funny, and I asked her to describe “alert” a little bit more. I knew what she was getting at – she wants a guy that listens.

So then she described her perfect guy: a guy that listens, a guy that is connected to who he is, a guy that is confident, a guy that actually follows through, and the list went on.

I looked at her and asked her, “what type of guy do you think I teach?” She didn’t really know about me, she had just heard about what I do. She answered, “well, don’t you teach guys how to pick up?” I said, “the only thing they will pick up is takeout food for you!”

I continued, “I don’t teach pick up. I teach men how to be everything you just listed, plus plenty more. I teach men how to connect with women on so many different levels – from the second that they meet you. I teach guys the inner workings of your mind, which means that when one of my men approach you, they approach you based on emotions that you are already feeling.

If one of my men approaches you in a supermarket or a coffee shop, he’s looking at your face. He’s looking at your body language. He’s figuring out what type of day you had and he will start the conversation based on something you’re already thinking about.

These are guys that are very connected to who they are. These are guys that are very passionate about themselves, and these are men who are looking to connect with you on a higher level.”

So she looked at me and said, “wow, that’s amazing. I can’t believe that there is a guy out there that teaches men how to really connect with women!” I responded, “yeah, I’m not about pick up. If they want to learn how to pick up, they can go to one of those pick up companies and learn lines.”

I continued, “I’ll never teach men a line. But I will teach a man that the second he approaches you is the start of your relationship. I understand that you want to tell the story ‘how David and I met.’ You want to say, ‘you wouldn’t believe it: six months ago, he worked directly over me at Whole Foods and we had a fight over the last peach. So we had the produce guy cut it in half, and we split it. And ever since then, we’ve been sharing everything!’

I know what you’re about! You’re about living in a romantic comedy. And all of the men that I coach are players in your romantic comedy. They are guys that you not only want to date; but they are guys that you can bring home to Mom. They are guys that have a life. They aren’t needy and they aren’t clingy. They are real men. And real men is what you are attracted to.”

So you know what? Here is a message to all of the women out there: you know you’ve met a David Wygant man when he walks over and you feel like he totally understands what you are going through.

You know you’ve met one of those sleazy pick up company men when he walks over and says, “excuse me. Could I ask your opinion on something? Who cheats more, men or women?” You know you’ve met a sleazy pick up guy because he’s staring at your breasts and not into your eyes.

There is a big difference between what I teach and what those other dime-a-dozen companies out there are teaching.

If you want to meet a David Wygant man – or if you want to BE one – email me.

If you want to be a pick up artist, email me too, and I’ll tell you exactly which company to go to!

Fridays video is a great exercise that will teach any man how to be a natural.

And all the women need to watch this one as well.

It will teach you a thing or 2.

Have a great Friday!