Years ago, I was vacationing in Boulder, Colorado. One day, after a two-hour massage, I went to Whole Foods for some dinner. As I was walking out, I passed by a gorgeous woman and we had one of those moments. (You know those moments that happen when a woman stares at you and you stare at her at the same time and an extreme sexual chemistry builds up that you can feel? It was one of those.) I smiled at her, she smiled at me, and I continued to my car, ready to leave.

I remember that night like it was yesterday. I got into my car. I started my engine. I backed out, collected myself, and then pulled back into the spot. I looked at my golden retriever Jessie and I said to her, “Be a good girl. I’ll be back in a little while.”

I walked into that market and I walked directly over to that woman and I looked at her and I said, “Excuse me, I must be the biggest fool in the entire world. But I was about to leave just now, and you know what? How many times have I looked and smiled at somebody and continued on and didn’t stop to experience them as a person, or what could have happened between us. I’m not going to do that again.”

We talked for what seemed like ever; we were honest with one another; we went out for coffee until 4:00 in the morning; we had some breakfast; we talked some more. We had unbelievable chemistry.

A couple nights later, she came to my house and we made a barbecue. We got undressed—basically in our little underwear, just like little kids—and we snuggled all night long. All night long we were cozy in bed, spooning, holding on to one another. I never slept with this woman at all, and I was never meant to sleep with her.

What this lesson taught me was that something feels so out of the ordinary, that’s when you go for it. Because what we do, and as people, we constantly go for what we’re accustomed to. That’s why we end up dating the same people over and over again. That’s why we have the same relationships over and over again.

So the next time you feel this intense attraction, you immediately go for it. You speak it. You say you could be on a date and you can look at somebody and just say, “God, you’re hot.” And that’s something you would never say. But say it anyway and see what happens.

Watch how your world changes when you say the things that you never said before, and do the things you haven’t done. Watch how your relationships change and watch your experience change.

And watch how you blossom as a person.

Well, when it comes down to dating, we don’t trust our guts at all. All of the sudden we see someone who we’re attracted to, we want to talk to them and we come up with something clever or relevant to say. But then we don’t trust our guts. We don’t act upon it, we don’t pull the trigger.

Are you dating somebody right now, but it doesn’t feel right so you have to ask all your friends and get their opinions on it first? We don’t listen to our own gut to tell us what to do. We can’t make our own decision. We have to listen to 10 other people’s opinions and get advice from all over the place. Even from the internet.

It’s funny. With all of our basic and primal needs, we trust our gut because we have to. And guess what? It always seems to work out every day. For those of you with irregular bowel movements, sometimes you can only trust your gut on Metamucil. But you get the point. It’s really time you started trusting your gut. There are a lot of areas where advice and second opinion helps. But a lot of things you can actually figure out for yourself, you just have to dig deep.

It’s time that you actually started acting upon what you want for yourself, and it’s time that you stopped asking all of these different people what they want for you.

We all have a friend like that. We all have those types of friends that are constantly bitching and complaining about their life bitching and complaining about their situation, but they never really listen to you.

The question I always ask everybody is why do we remain friends with that person? Because those types of people come to you for advice but never listen to it anyways. They solicit your advice non-stop and yet they talk about the same thing over and over again. Maybe it’s a relationship, maybe it’s work, whatever it might be, and you tell them the same things over and over again.

I’ve got a friend who constantly tells me that he’s in bad shape. He’s been doing it for 20 years. I constantly tell him the same thing — you need to start working out, you’ll feel better about yourself. He says I know, I know, I know. The next time I see him he says the same thing, but yet he never takes the advice.

What Is A Bitch

The problem in life is a lot of people look for advice, they seek advice, they love it. They’re all about seeking advice, seeking help, but what happens is they never act upon it. They’re talkers not doers, they just want to vent, but yet they never want the solution.

Do any of you know people like this, and what do you say to those friends? Do you keep offering the same advice over and over again? Or do you tell them, I’ve been giving you the same advice for 20 years, you never listen? How much can we put up with in life? I want you guys to think about that one today.

By creating an amazing lifestyle and being passionate about the things you do, you will start attracting the opposite sex instead of spending your life chasing them and hoping you’ll connect with them. People are attracted to positive, fun, interesting and well-rounded individuals. If you’re miserable or doing things that you don’t enjoy, you are not going to to meet anyone, no matter what approach or methodology you use to do it. No one wants to meet someone who is miserable or spending their life doing things they don’t like.

So before you go out and try to meet somebody, you need to first figure out how to create a passionate lifestyle for yourself. Think for a second about the kind of people to whom you are attracted. Most people are attracted to people who are positive, energetic and interesting. Now think about what type of person you are right now. Are you that positive, energetic and interesting person I just described, or are you someone who is miserable and angry because you can’t meet someone?

It all starts with creating an amazing lifestyle for yourself, so that you feel great and will attract amazing people into your life. So to give you a little incentive to get started creating your own amazing lifestyle, here are 5 ways to create your lifestyle so you are instantly more attractive to the opposite sex:

1. Reevaluate Your Work Environment: One of the first (and most important) things you need to do to create an amazing lifestyle is to take a very critical eye to your current work environment. Because work is something most of us HAVE to do, we sometimes don’t expect that it is also something we can want to do (or at least not hate doing). Think about your current work environment. Do you have a boss who is consistently demeaning? Do you dislike most of your co-workers? Do you dread going into work every day? If your work environment is toxic and causing you to be miserable, then it’s time to evaluate whether it’s time for a change. If you are working in a toxic environment, consider whether you are staying there because you are comfortable and don’t want to have to push your own boundaries. If you stay in a work environment that makes you miserable and angry, then understand that miserable and angry is what you are going to project to everyone around you (whether you intend to or not), including to the people you have been trying to attract.

2. Do The Things You Love: So many people go to places they believe they “should” go or “have to” go in order to meet somebody, but which are places they don’t enjoy being at all. Is it really any wonder they have trouble meeting people in these places? Instead of going to places where you’re not happy to try and meet somebody, pick five things YOU really love to do. Think about what your five favorite things are to do. Then ask yourself whether there are members of the opposite sex present at each of those five things. If not, then go deeper and find five things you’re either already interested in or about which you would like to learn. Then go to any of these places to meet people. When you go to places that interest you, you’ll already have things to talk about and will naturally bond with people. The reason you have trouble making conversation with people in a bar (or other places you may not enjoy being), is when you’re someplace you really don’t like you have to manufacture conversations instead of just talking about what’s already interesting to you.

3. Be Open: Positive people are open to new experiences. So instead of expecting to meet someone when you go out and getting totally disappointed if you don’t, be open to what the day or night might present to you. Being open means talking to everyone with which you come into contact, and not only being friendly to someone you find attractive. Just because you are not attracted to the person you’re talking to doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be open and friendly. You never know if that person may have a friend they’re meeting later with whom you might end up totally connecting. So be open to anything and everything, because people who are open to whatever presents itself to them always meet people. Remember that every connection you make with someone leads to another, and you never know what (or who) that next connection might bring into your life.

4. Find Your Inner Child: A big part of being attractive to the opposite sex is being approachable. That means when you go anywhere, don’t just “show up.” You need to embrace the moment and approach everything with a child-like enthusiasm. Smile, talk to people, ask questions and enjoy yourself. During a recent coaching weekend with several male clients, instead of just “taking them out to meet women” I took them to the beach and had them build sand castles. The reason I did this was to teach them how to have fun again and not to be so serious. If you’re serious when you try to meet someone, then you’re not having fun and that is not attractive. Life is about having fun just like you did when you were a kid. So what happened with the guys on the beach? They ALL ended up meeting great women who joined in to help them build the sand castles.

5. Use The Law Of Attraction: This is part of why how you behave in public will affect how successful you will be at attracting member of the opposite sex. It’s called attraction for a reason. When you walk into a place and you start talking to a bunch of different people, other people will line up and want to talk to you (including those members of the opposite sex you’ve been trying so hard to meet). If you’re angry, you are going to attract angry people and you will spend your day in constant confrontations. If you walk around in life having fun, having casual conversations and enjoying every step of the journey – even if you’re just running an errand to the market – you are going to attract great people into your life. People are attracted to people having a good time and who are enjoying their life. No one wants to hang out with a person who is pouting, folding their arms, and looking miserable. That’s why it’s so important that you create a lifestyle you enjoy, which will in turn attract the opposite sex.

Creating a lifestyle is all about learning to genuinely enjoy your life every day. Do things that you love and enjoy them. Embrace every single moment. By doing these things, you will naturally start attracting people. By being more open, not only will you start talking to more people, but more people will notice your openness and start talking to you. Being more open also makes you more memorable.

So why continue to chase after people you want to meet when you can start attracting them? Create an amazing lifestyle and be passionate about the things you do, and you WILL start attracting the opposite sex.

NFL draft 3 full days of choices.

The J E T S made a few choices that are questionable but that is the J E T S for you!

Today you have a choice and which choice will you make.

Picking up women is an action.

Attraction is a state of mind that defines who you are. It is a state of being.

Which one would you prefer to be?

Can all my women readers chime in and tell the boys which type of man you prefer to meet.

So for tomorrow, I like the Ravens and the Giants not only to win — but to crush their opponents. Tomorrow will also be the day that the Lions finally win a game. The Redskins have shown nothing so far, and the Lions are due.

On to today’s blog, and it’s a good one . . .

This blog today comes right from my heart. The wisest person in life is not the one who knows everything. Sure, that person is pretty damn wise, but only if that person has actually experienced everything he or she knows.

There are a lot of “Mr. Humble” people out there. You know who that person is, don’t you? He’s that guy who who is NEVER humble?

He is the one who always has something to say about everything. He thinks he knows about everything even though he’s never experienced half of the things about which he talks.

The wisest people are those who can shut the hell up when something new and unknown comes into their life. “Mr. Humble,” on the other hand, is always feeling like he needs to contribute something to the conversation even if he knows nothing about it.

I know when something comes up in a conversation with which I’m not familiar, that I sit back and listen. I don’t let my ego get in the way. If the conversation is going in a direction that I’m unfamiliar with and I can’t control, I just kick back and listen. As I listen, I’m learning.

Life is a series of repeated experiences. Two weeks after that conversation where I kicked back and listened, I might find myself in another conversation about that same topic about which I previously knew nothing.

Because I sat back and listened the first time, I’m now able to contribute. By contributing to this new conversation, I earn respect and I learn even more about the topic.

People often over-talk because they think that people will respect them more if they have a lot to say. People, however, actually respect you less if you over-talk. If you don’t know what you’re talking about, it’s okay to sit back and listen.

The quiet, silent types are the ones who are always listening and learning. We all know people who will always contribute to the conversation, regardless of if they know about the topic or not.

It’s their ego talking. Their ego wants them to be the wisest person in the conversation. In reality, though, the wisest people I know talk half of the time, and listen the rest.

By creating an amazing lifestyle and being passionate about the things you do, you will start attracting the opposite sex instead of spending your life chasing them and hoping you’ll connect with them. People are attracted to positive, fun, interesting and well-rounded individuals. If you’re miserable or doing things that you don’t enjoy, you are not going to to meet anyone, no matter what approach or methodology you use to do it. No one wants to meet someone who is miserable or spending their life doing things they don’t like.

So before you go out and try to meet somebody, you need to first figure out how to create a passionate lifestyle for yourself. Think for a second about the kind of people to whom you are attracted. Most people are attracted to people who are positive, energetic and interesting. Now think about what type of person you are right now. Are you that positive, energetic and interesting person I just described, or are you someone who is miserable and angry because you can’t meet someone?

It all starts with creating an amazing lifestyle for yourself, so that you feel great and will attract amazing people into your life. So to give you a little incentive to get started creating your own amazing lifestyle, here are 5 ways to create your lifestyle so you are instantly more attractive to the opposite sex:

1. Reevaluate Your Work Environment: One of the first (and most important) things you need to do to create an amazing lifestyle is to take a very critical eye to your current work environment. Because work is something most of us HAVE to do, we sometimes don’t expect that it is also something we can want to do (or at least not hate doing). Think about your current work environment. Do you have a boss who is consistently demeaning? Do you dislike most of your co-workers? Do you dread going into work every day? If your work environment is toxic and causing you to be miserable, then it’s time to evaluate whether it’s time for a change. If you are working in a toxic environment, consider whether you are staying there because you are comfortable and don’t want to have to push your own boundaries. If you stay in a work environment that makes you miserable and angry, then understand that miserable and angry is what you are going to project to everyone around you (whether you intend to or not), including to the people you have been trying to attract.

2. Do The Things You Love: So many people go to places they believe they “should” go or “have to” go in order to meet somebody, but which are places they don’t enjoy being at all. Is it really any wonder they have trouble meeting people in these places? Instead of going to places where you’re not happy to try and meet somebody, pick five things YOU really love to do. Think about what your five favorite things are to do. Then ask yourself whether there are members of the opposite sex present at each of those five things. If not, then go deeper and find five things you’re either already interested in or about which you would like to learn. Then go to any of these places to meet people. When you go to places that interest you, you’ll already have things to talk about and will naturally bond with people. The reason you have trouble making conversation with people in a bar (or other places you may not enjoy being), is when you’re someplace you really don’t like you have to manufacture conversations instead of just talking about what’s already interesting to you.

3. Be Open: Positive people are open to new experiences. So instead of expecting to meet someone when you go out and getting totally disappointed if you don’t, be open to what the day or night might present to you. Being open means talking to everyone with which you come into contact, and not only being friendly to someone you find attractive. Just because you are not attracted to the person you’re talking to doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be open and friendly. You never know if that person may have a friend they’re meeting later with whom you might end up totally connecting. So be open to anything and everything, because people who are open to whatever presents itself to them always meet people. Remember that every connection you make with someone leads to another, and you never know what (or who) that next connection might bring into your life.

4. Find Your Inner Child: A big part of being attractive to the opposite sex is being approachable. That means when you go anywhere, don’t just “show up.” You need to embrace the moment and approach everything with a child-like enthusiasm. Smile, talk to people, ask questions and enjoy yourself. During a recent coaching weekend with several male clients, instead of just “taking them out to meet women” I took them to the beach and had them build sand castles. The reason I did this was to teach them how to have fun again and not to be so serious. If you’re serious when you try to meet someone, then you’re not having fun and that is not attractive. Life is about having fun just like you did when you were a kid. So what happened with the guys on the beach? They ALL ended up meeting great women who joined in to help them build the sand castles.

5. Use The Law Of Attraction: This is part of why how you behave in public will affect how successful you will be at attracting member of the opposite sex. It’s called attraction for a reason. When you walk into a place and you start talking to a bunch of different people, other people will line up and want to talk to you (including those members of the opposite sex you’ve been trying so hard to meet). If you’re angry, you are going to attract angry people and you will spend your day in constant confrontations. If you walk around in life having fun, having casual conversations and enjoying every step of the journey – even if you’re just running an errand to the market – you are going to attract great people into your life. People are attracted to people having a good time and who are enjoying their life. No one wants to hang out with a person who is pouting, folding their arms, and looking miserable. That’s why it’s so important that you create a lifestyle you enjoy, which will in turn attract the opposite sex.

Creating a lifestyle is all about learning to genuinely enjoy your life every day. Do things that you love and enjoy them. Embrace every single moment. By doing these things, you will naturally start attracting people. By being more open, not only will you start talking to more people, but more people will notice your openness and start talking to you. Being more open also makes you more memorable.

So why continue to chase after people you want to meet when you can start attracting them? Create an amazing lifestyle and be passionate about the things you do, and you WILL start attracting the opposite sex.

There is not a good seat in the house, and it’s the most poorly run place I’ve ever seen. It took an hour to get the car out of the parking lot. An hour! I pulled out of the parking space and could see the exit, but we just couldn’t get to it. They just had no clue how to move traffic.

The show itself was great! There was the Internet rumor that they were doing a fifteen minute cover of Michael Jackson’s “Billy Jean” at all of their shows. You’ve got to love the Internet. The song “Billy Jean” is three minutes long . . . and so was the cover version that Coldplay did last night.

I love how rumors start. So let’s start our own rumor today. I don’t know what I want to start, but there’s got to be something we can start. Give me some time, I’ll come up with something during the day (and maybe I’ll post it in the comments).

Otherwise, let’s get into today’s truth . . .

In a recent blog, I discussed how women can know if a man is attracted to them on a date. Now let’s talk about how a woman can keep that attraction going.

Men love to be teased. If a man touches your arm during the course of a date, touch him a few times back. That will drive him crazy. When you go to the bathroom, get up and on the way to the bathroom touch his shoulder and whisper “I’ll be right back” in his ear. That will really drive him crazy!

When he’s talking and leaning into you, lean into him so he can feel your closeness. When he goes to kiss you on the cheek, give him a quick kiss on the lips, a quick smile, and then walk away. As you’re walking away, turn around and give him another smile.

Also, compliment a man during a date. Tell him you’re having a good time. Laugh at his silly jokes. This will keep him intrigued.

These are some simple techniques that you can use to flirt and let a man know that you’re interested

Great weekend here with 7 guys for the LA bootcamp!!!

How was everyone’s weekend?

Today I was thinking.

Do you enjoy the people who you hang out with?

Do you have a good time with your friends?

Or are you just hanging out with them because they are the people that go to the right places on Friday night? Or are they people that make it easier to meet women?

Life is about attraction. It’s about attracting people into your life in every way.

So really: who are your closest friends? Are they people that you really love? Are they people who you really enjoy being around? And are they people who you have a really great time with?

Or are you just hanging out with people that only serve your needs? Because if you hang out with them, you can get invited to the right parties?

If you’ve listened to my products, read the blog regularly, or met me in person, you understand that I’m not about chasing; I’m about attracting. If you’re with people who don’t make you feel good or aren’t fun to be with – the woman or man who you’re hoping to attract will look at you and wonder about your own character.

Are you someone who doesn’t drink, but you go out a lot with a friend who can’t handle his alcohol? Do you end up spending the entire night taking care of him? Do you know that people look at you and wonder why you’re hanging out with that person?

They don’t see you taking care of that person – they don’t see the nurturing side of you. They’re just wondering about your character – why you’re with that obnoxious person.

I remember Rey was out one time with a friend of his who thought it was funny if he peed outside waiting in line at a club. I remember Rey telling me this story. Everyone looked at HIM, not at his ass of a friend. They were wondering about Rey’s character: why would he go out with somebody who would pee outside in public?

I’m not making this stuff up. You’re perceived through your friends. When women meet you, they are looking at your friends. When men meet you, they are thinking, “Hmm, let me find out something about her (or his) character.” That’s how people judge and evaluate you.

So really, who are your friends? And do they truly represent who you are as a person?

Enjoy your day!!!

We all want something. We want the end result.

You’re dating a woman, and you want to get her to fall in love with you. Or maybe you’re dating somebody, and you want him or her to move in with you. Or you see her two days a week, but you really want to see her four days a week.

So instead of being present and enjoying that moment, you’re thinking about what you want to get out of it. And you’re not really there.

My favorite times are with my girlfriend – and every single day with her is amazing because I’m always learning something new – but one of the best times we had together was in the beginning of our relationship when we stayed on the phone all night long. We’d get on the phone at 11 p.m. intending to talk for a few minutes, but we’d still be on the phone together five or six hours later.

That was amazing. I cherish that every single day. I embrace that. I am so grateful for those moments. Those moments are what created how we feel about each other now. The way we act with each other now is based on the foundation of those moments.

But people are so caught up in not enjoying those moments and moving on to something better. Those moments are precious, and they are never going to happen again. I’m probably never going to get on the phone with her again and talk to her for five hours.

That is what makes life so intense and so amazing. You have to really think about those moments and really enjoy them. They are not going to happen again.

Accept those moments as they come up because they are truly powerful!!!