In that blog, I gave some advice on how to handle that situation, including leaving the decision of whether to stay talking to you or to leave with Mr. Annoying up to her. A few days after I posted that blog, I got an email from a guy who told me he had tried what I said and that it had worked! This guy said what I recommended in that blog, and (not surprisingly) the woman chose to stay with him instead of leaving with Mr. Annoying.

This guy was not just writing to let me know how well this technique worked though. His email went on to say that after the woman rejected Mr. Annoying, he started to try to pick a fight with this guy right there in the bar.

Here’s a guy who just can’t handle that someone else talked to the girl to whom he wanted to be talking. So what do you do in that situation? Here’s exactly what you do.

You take the girl by the hand, look at her and say, “Let’s go sit down over there with some of my friends. I want to introduce you to my crew.” Then you take her by the hand and sit down with your friends, or grab a table if you’re not there with friends.

In other words, you walk away. Mr. Annoying is a bully. You walk away from bullies.

Mr. Annoying is so sexually frustrated in his life, that all he wants to do is fight. Bullies like that are so pissed off that they don’t get what they want, that they go out at night with aggression and ready to fight. So you walk away.

There is power in walking away, because real men will walk away from Mr. Annoying. Less powerful men will challenge Mr. Annoying. They will engage with him.

A powerful man doesn’t do this. You are not only being a powerful man when you do this, but you are also showing that woman that you are a powerful man who has restraint as part of your personality.

That woman is going to admire the fact that you don’t have a temper. Women don’t want to be with a guy like that, because it reminds her of so many other guys she has known in the past.

Men are very testosterone-laden and women don’t want to see that crazy hot-tempered side of you. Women want men who are very even-keeled and can handle all situations.

Do that, and she’s going to look at you as someone with strength. It’s actually probably going to turn her on. The fact that you walked away from the idiot will turn her on, because a lot of guys would have just gone ahead and engaged with him (and maybe even got into a fight with him).

Let me tell you something, if you get into that fight with Mr. Annoying then neither of you would end up with that woman. Both of you would have gone home alone.

The lesson here guys? Walk away.

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As we’re talking, I turn around and there is a guy standing there wearing a wizard hat. Here is this 30-something year old man standing there wearing a gigantic wizard hat. It’s not even close to Halloween.

I looked at the checkout girl and said, “Have you seen the wizard?” She started laughing. It’s funny when people wear outrageous, over-the-top things.

I am all about individuality. I’m all about being yourself and dressing in a unique way.

This guy, though, was in his own league of unique. He was wearing a t-shirt and a pair of sweatpants along with his wizard hat.

When you see someone being so over-the-top, it makes you wonder what they are trying to get out of dressing that way. What did this guy want from wearing that wizard hat?

Was he seeking attention, or was he someone who just loves being eccentric (and kind of a freak)? Was he someone who just likes to create a reaction in others?
I always wonder these things when I see someone like that guy in Whole Foods.

I truly believe in individuality, as you all know. I talk about this in all my products, and my coaching is all geared toward helping you become the most powerful and confident version of yourself with the opposite sex.

I think, however, that someone who goes out wearing a wizard hat is really starving for attention. I think that person is not only looking for attention, but is also looking to get a rise out of people.

I mean, it’s really not a natural look. You don’t want to look like Harry Potter when you’re 30 years old. You don’t want to wear a wizard hat or walk around holding a broomstick at age 30.

So for all of you who feel the need to dress in outrageous things just to get attention, you need to realize that you can actually get attention in other ways. You can get attention based on what’s inside you — allowing what’s inside you come out and by expressing yourself.

It’s a beautiful thing to express yourself. Saying what you want. Being able to express what you feel. Being true to yourself and who you are as a person.

Those things will get you lots of attention. Trust me, you don’t need a wizard hat to get attention. You just need to allow yourself to be free, and realize what a great person you are deep inside.

None of us are perfect, and that is what makes life so interesting. It’s our imperfections — the way we conduct ourselves and who we are — that make life really interesting.

There is no perfect person in life. There is no perfection person for you in dating.

The person you end up with is not going to be perfect. They are going to have flaws. They are going to do things that irritate you. There are going to be things that you battle about together.

The best way to attract a great person, is to work on yourself first. Fall in love with yourself.

Accept who you are. Accept your flaws.

Accentuate the positive things in your life, and believe in abundance. If you truly believe there are a lot of great people to meet out there, then eventually you will meet that perfect person for you — that perfect person who is imperfect in every way.

It’s all about you first though. What have you done to work on yourself today? What have you done to embrace yourself?

Did you wake up this morning and think about negative things first? Life is about attitude and mindset. The more positive your attitude is, the more positive people you’re going to attract.

Let me ask you a question. How many times have you been talking to a woman and, like magic, other women come over and start talking to you?

Guys always think this phenomenon is the result of women thinking you have a girlfriend and thus must understand how to talk to women. In reality, this phenomenon is totally attributable to an energy thing.

When you’re flirting, smiling and being real with a woman, other women see this energy that you’re putting out and the way the woman you’re talking to is responding to it. Women want emotions. Women can sense emotions. It is called women’s intuition.

Have you ever came home from work, and even though you told your girlfriend that you had a great day, she says, “Something is wrong.” They’re always right about it too. That’s their intuition.

Women read emotions better than men. They’re more in tune with emotions than men are.

So when they see you talking to a waitress in a restaurant, and the waitress is smiling and laughing, you will notice that other women will all of a sudden come and sit down next to you.

Why do they do that? They do that for a few reasons.

For one thing, you will stand out as being different from almost every other guy and how almost every other guy acts. Two, your energy will be very open. Three, they see how other women respond to you.

This is why talking to everyone all day long is equally important to meeting great women as going directly up to the women you want to meet. It’s really as simple as that. It’s an energy thing. Women love to talk to guys who bring good energy to other people.

How would you feel if you were the president of your local coffee shop or of your local Whole Foods?

Imagine being able to walk into any bar or being able to go into any party, and you are the person that everybody wants to get to know . . . all before you even utter a word.

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We will show you how to command attention wherever you go.

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This woman is beautiful. She is everything you think you want.

You see her take a sip of her drink, play with the straw, look at her watch and check her cell phone. She looks around the room and, for just a split second, your eyes meet and you have a moment. Then she quickly looks down, and looks back at her phone again.

There you are, standing there alone at the bar with your hands in your pocket waiting for you friends. Apparently she is also waiting for her friends.

Your mind starts racing. You start thinking to yourself, “What can I say? What can I do?”

There are so many clues in this situation! She checked her watch. She checked her phone. Obviously she is waiting for her friends.

It is very easy to walk over there, look at her and say, “Obviously you are waiting for your friends. My friends are late too.” You could start chatting with her.

The problem is that your mind starts messing with you. You don’t see the obvious or, even if you did, you start to freak out the second she looks at you.

You start to ask all those questions in your head like “What can I say” and “How can I get this amazing woman’s attention?” Listen, though, to what you are saying.

You already have her attention. She already looked over at you.

It is because you are afraid and overcomplicate things so much that you don’t see the obvious signs in life. You don’t even see the wonder of this moment. You don’t even realize what a powerful moment this can be because you over-analyze things so much.

You have such a fear of embracing the unknown, that this is what is going to happen to you in this scenario: You are going to stay standing where you are and another guy is going to walk up and start talking to her.

Then her friends are going to arrive, and you are going to watch she and her friends get into a great conversation with him and his friends. When you go home, you are going to wonder what you could have done.

The truth is that you already know what you could have done. It is just your fear of the unknown that doesn’t allow you to do it.

Every day you need to face the unknown. Every day you need to push yourself to do something of which you are afraid.

Otherwise, the unknown will continue to scare you and you will end up dating women who don’t intrigue you and to whom you are not attracted. There is nothing worse than having sex with a woman who doesn’t intrigue you.

You also don’t want to ever end up in a relationship with a woman who doesn’t intrigue you. Fear of the unknown is what drives us to loneliness.

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This is something we often go through at the Bootcamps. A lot of guys will say to me, “David, how do you remain so razor sharp? How do you focus? I can’t focus when I go and talk to a woman. My mind is all over the place.”

Guys will also say to me, “You always tell us to go out there and talk to people all day long, but I lose focus. I can only do it for ten minutes before I lose focus.” Here are some of my best tips to address these questions.

If you can only do it for ten minutes, then do the best job you possibly can doing it for those ten minutes. Always give people your best when you’re with them.

Let’s say that your goals are to meet women and to become a better communicator. Then what you should do is focus on one thing at a time each day. Get good at one thing at a time.

Let’s say your goal is to work on your social skills, and you wonder how to keep your energy up all day long. Here is another thing I tell guys all the time.

When I am driving in the car, I relax, listen to some music and have a good time. So then when I go to the market or the coffee house or a party, I’m ready. I’m amped up because I realize that life is a gift.

You never have a second chance to make a first impression, so why not get your energy up when you’re in public? When you’re in private, you can relax — take a cat nap or do some deep-breathing exercises. That way, when you are around people you can be razor sharp and your energy will be fantastic.

You observe what she’s doing, and you find an opener. She’s holding an AC/DC t-shirt, so you know you can walk over to her and say something simple like “Do you like AC/DC?”

So you start to walk over to her. Your heart starts beating faster. Your lip starts quivering. You start sweating, and you feel your face getting flushed.

When you get over to her, you ask her your “Do you like AC/DC” question. She responds, “Yes I do. They are one of my favorite bands.” So, now, what do you say next?

If you get stuck at this point in your approaches, then you are getting stuck in the opener zone. If you weren’t wondering what to say next, and stayed present, you would know there are any number of things you could say next.

You could say something like, “Really? It’s one of your favorite bands? That’s great. How long have you liked them for? That is a very cool t-shirt.” Then you would continue to talk about the t-shirt for the next minute or so.

She was attracted to you instantly because you walked over and actually had the guts to approach her. She told you with enthusiasm that she loves AC/DC, but you did not listen because you got stuck in the opener zone.

Getting past the opener is as simple as listening. When you talk to friends, do talk about the same thing over and over again — the t-shirt they’re wearing or how cool their car is or how much you like the song that’s playing? No, you listen to what they say and you continue the conversation.

Men tend to get stuck in the opener zone with women all the time. The key to avoiding this is to develop your listening skills. Here is a great exercise to do that.

Bring a digital recorder around with you. Record your conversations when you talk to women. Then when you play the conversations back, listen carefully to what the women say in response to your opener and write down what you could have said next based on what she said.

Work on this every single day, and you will start to become a master communicator. Become a person with whom people really enjoy talking, and you’ll be able to get past the opener very quickly.

He said, “I was hanging out with Khiem and his girlfriend, and there was this girl we ran into who was one of those loud girls. Everything she said was just over-the-top — amplified and loud. How do I deal with that? I mean, she was pretty. I thought she was hot, but how do I relate to her?”

Here was my answer: You don’t.

It’s so funny. As a man, we are so visual. We get so caught up with “the hot girl” that we tend to really never think about what it would like to hang out with her.

Can you imagine having a woman like the one Will met over for Thanksgiving dinner? She gets asked what she’d like on her plate, and she screams “drumstick!!” at the top of her lungs.

This person does not match who you are. This is not your personality style at all. This is not a person with whom you would get along.

So forget the fact that your penis is attracted to her, because that’s really all that is happening. Your eyes are attracted to her. Your penis felt some movement because it was attracted to her. That is all there is to it though.

It’s called penile attraction. Thank God it’s not fatal, because if it was a fatal attraction then other things would happen.

It is just penile attraction. That is all it is, so walk away from it.

You don’t vibe with her. You don’t relate to her. You two have totally different personalities. So walk away.

It’s the day after Christmas,
and all through the mall,
everyone is stirring
because everything is half off…

It’s a great time to buy next year’s decorations, because everything is half off. You can store them in the attic where you won’t be able to find them next year.

Today really is a great day to go out there and meet people.

There is one thing you can say to everyone today. Isn’t that what people are looking for – the one thing you can say to everyone that will work every time? Well, today is the only day of the year you can use this.

So here is your “magic line” of the day. Make sure you say this with a smile. Now you know how I feel about using “lines” when you talk to people, so I’ll call this a “magic opener” (or a “magic conversation starter” would be even better).

So whenever you see anyone today, you can say “Did Santa get you everything you wanted, or do you need to rely on the American Express card today?”

That’s it. That’s all you need to say.

Everyone can use this, and you can say it to everyone — men, women, children, dogs, cats, hedgehogs, cartoon characters, muppets. It’s by far the best thing you can say to people today.

It’s a great conversation starter. It’s your “day after Christmas conversation starter” that allows you to talk to people everywhere.

Say it with a smile, have fun and enjoy the day. I’ll meet you at the mall.