A lot of you get nervous around the kind of woman who you would like to date. A lot of you are intimidated and afraid of being rejected.

Here’s the email a recent reader sent me:

Hey David,

Anonymous

In today’s podcast I share with you a quick sneak peek into exactly what Shogo and I would have said to him if we were face-to-face.

Today’s message is all about coming to terms with your past. The past you can never change, so you may as well embrace it. If you’re ready for today’s lesson, click the play button!

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Do you know what your body language is telling about you?

When you talk to a woman do you think about what her body language is saying?

Do you wonder what every hand gesture, eyebrow raise and arm cross means?

If so, you are and have been wasting your time over thinking each and every conversation.

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Your friend start talking to some people or to a woman, and there you are in the background. That leaves you hovering ten or fifteen feet away from the conversation.

You don’t join in the conversation because your ego won’t let you do it. You say to yourself, “Well my buddy is talking to first and I didn’t get to talk to her, so I am just going to stand in the background and look like a deaf mute.”

You don’t want to ever be ‘background guy.’ If your buddy walks over and starts talking to one person or to a group, then you go and hang out with him.

Just because you’re not talking or didn’t make the first approach, doesn’t mean that you can’t be actively listening to the conversation. When you actively listen to a conversation, you can join in when something intrigues you.

If you’re in the background, though, you don’t hear any of that conversation. So there is no way for you to easily join in that conversation at any point because you are a ‘background guy.’

Don’t ever be a ‘background guy,’ because background guys are forgotten. You literally are the background, like when you look at a scene in a movie with tons of extras in the background.

Those extras never get to speak. Do you know why? It’s because they are just background people.

There is no need for this to be you. So don’t ever be ‘background guy.’

You either became a total mute paralyzed by fear or you teased her so no one knew about your secret crush.

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In that blog, I gave some advice on how to handle that situation, including leaving the decision of whether to stay talking to you or to leave with Mr. Annoying up to her. A few days after I posted that blog, I got an email from a guy who told me he had tried what I said and that it had worked! This guy said what I recommended in that blog, and (not surprisingly) the woman chose to stay with him instead of leaving with Mr. Annoying.

This guy was not just writing to let me know how well this technique worked though. His email went on to say that after the woman rejected Mr. Annoying, he started to try to pick a fight with this guy right there in the bar.

Here’s a guy who just can’t handle that someone else talked to the girl to whom he wanted to be talking. So what do you do in that situation? Here’s exactly what you do.

You take the girl by the hand, look at her and say, “Let’s go sit down over there with some of my friends. I want to introduce you to my crew.” Then you take her by the hand and sit down with your friends, or grab a table if you’re not there with friends.

In other words, you walk away. Mr. Annoying is a bully. You walk away from bullies.

Mr. Annoying is so sexually frustrated in his life, that all he wants to do is fight. Bullies like that are so pissed off that they don’t get what they want, that they go out at night with aggression and ready to fight. So you walk away.

There is power in walking away, because real men will walk away from Mr. Annoying. Less powerful men will challenge Mr. Annoying. They will engage with him.

A powerful man doesn’t do this. You are not only being a powerful man when you do this, but you are also showing that woman that you are a powerful man who has restraint as part of your personality.

That woman is going to admire the fact that you don’t have a temper. Women don’t want to be with a guy like that, because it reminds her of so many other guys she has known in the past.

Men are very testosterone-laden and women don’t want to see that crazy hot-tempered side of you. Women want men who are very even-keeled and can handle all situations.

Do that, and she’s going to look at you as someone with strength. It’s actually probably going to turn her on. The fact that you walked away from the idiot will turn her on, because a lot of guys would have just gone ahead and engaged with him (and maybe even got into a fight with him).

Let me tell you something, if you get into that fight with Mr. Annoying then neither of you would end up with that woman. Both of you would have gone home alone.

The lesson here guys? Walk away.

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As we’re talking, I turn around and there is a guy standing there wearing a wizard hat. Here is this 30-something year old man standing there wearing a gigantic wizard hat. It’s not even close to Halloween.

I looked at the checkout girl and said, “Have you seen the wizard?” She started laughing. It’s funny when people wear outrageous, over-the-top things.

I am all about individuality. I’m all about being yourself and dressing in a unique way.

This guy, though, was in his own league of unique. He was wearing a t-shirt and a pair of sweatpants along with his wizard hat.

When you see someone being so over-the-top, it makes you wonder what they are trying to get out of dressing that way. What did this guy want from wearing that wizard hat?

Was he seeking attention, or was he someone who just loves being eccentric (and kind of a freak)? Was he someone who just likes to create a reaction in others?
I always wonder these things when I see someone like that guy in Whole Foods.

I truly believe in individuality, as you all know. I talk about this in all my products, and my coaching is all geared toward helping you become the most powerful and confident version of yourself with the opposite sex.

I think, however, that someone who goes out wearing a wizard hat is really starving for attention. I think that person is not only looking for attention, but is also looking to get a rise out of people.

I mean, it’s really not a natural look. You don’t want to look like Harry Potter when you’re 30 years old. You don’t want to wear a wizard hat or walk around holding a broomstick at age 30.

So for all of you who feel the need to dress in outrageous things just to get attention, you need to realize that you can actually get attention in other ways. You can get attention based on what’s inside you — allowing what’s inside you come out and by expressing yourself.

It’s a beautiful thing to express yourself. Saying what you want. Being able to express what you feel. Being true to yourself and who you are as a person.

Those things will get you lots of attention. Trust me, you don’t need a wizard hat to get attention. You just need to allow yourself to be free, and realize what a great person you are deep inside.

Here is my advice on this. Get on your hands and knees, look up at them and beg them. Stare right into their eyes and say, “Please like me more. Please, oh superior being, like me more. Please tell me how to get you to like me more. What do I need to do? How do I need to change? What do I need to do in order for you to like me more? And, if you like me more when I become this person you want me to become, will you love me? Will you love me so much? Will you never abandon me?”

How does all that sound to you? Desperate? Disgusting? Despicable?

Aren’t you good enough as you are? Aren’t you an amazing person right now? Don’t you deserve to have people like you for who you are because you’re a great person?

Also, if that person doesn’t like you then there is nothing you can do to make them like you. Why would you want to make someone like you anyway? Why would you want to beg someone to like you?

Don’t you want somebody to like you for who you are? If they don’t, there is no relationship there. They are basically in a position of power, and you’re in the weak position.

I really hate when I get this email from people. Please like me more. Please love me. No!

You need to love yourself. You need to like yourself. You need to respect yourself.

A person who respects himself will never beg and will never ask how to get someone to like him more. A person who respects himself already knows that he is an amazing person, and if someone doesn’t like him then there will be other people who will like him.

So stop that behavior. Start loving yourself.

None of us are perfect, and that is what makes life so interesting. It’s our imperfections — the way we conduct ourselves and who we are — that make life really interesting.

There is no perfect person in life. There is no perfection person for you in dating.

The person you end up with is not going to be perfect. They are going to have flaws. They are going to do things that irritate you. There are going to be things that you battle about together.

The best way to attract a great person, is to work on yourself first. Fall in love with yourself.

Accept who you are. Accept your flaws.

Accentuate the positive things in your life, and believe in abundance. If you truly believe there are a lot of great people to meet out there, then eventually you will meet that perfect person for you — that perfect person who is imperfect in every way.

It’s all about you first though. What have you done to work on yourself today? What have you done to embrace yourself?

Did you wake up this morning and think about negative things first? Life is about attitude and mindset. The more positive your attitude is, the more positive people you’re going to attract.

Every day is the same to a dog though. It really is. They wake up, their bladder hurts a little bit, and they wonder when the master is going to take them outside so they can pee and poop.

Then they run into the house, stare at their bowl, wag their tail and wonder when the master is going to fill the bowl with food. Then when they’ve eaten, they go lay down and go back to sleep — since they’ve had a really rough first 20 minutes of the day.

They anticipate the next walk. They wait patiently for that next walk to come.

Can you imagine living your life as a dog — spending all day waiting for things to happen? Do you know how many people do spend your life like a dog, waiting for things to happen — waiting for someone to approach them (instead going up and doing the approaching themselves)?

Waiting for someone to approach you is no different than the dog that just sits back with its bladder hurting while it waits for the master to take it outside, instead of going up to the master and nudging him.

I mean, if you want to play with somebody but you’re afraid to pick up the phone and call them, then it’s no different than a dog that’s too afraid to pick up its ball and put it in its owner’s lap.

We really are like dogs. I’ve seen people on dates who are so hesitant to touch one another, so scared. It’s almost like they were abused by someone at one point in their life, so now they are afraid to reach out and kiss or touch someone.

People really are like dogs more than you think. Dogs are always waiting. The smart dogs are always learning how to manipulate their masters.

So isn’t it time that some of you became just a little smarter, and realize that if you want something in your life to change or to happen that you can’t just be a dog sitting back and waiting? You need to put the ball in somebody’s lap, wag your tail a little bit more, and maybe you need to greet people with a little more enthusiasm. Do those things and your dating life will change.

If this didn’t put a smile on your face, then all you really are is an uptight cat. You are an uptight cat perched on a ledge that hisses at everyone who comes in the door and says, “I will never let you pet me no matter how much I need affection!”

Let me ask you a question. How many times have you been talking to a woman and, like magic, other women come over and start talking to you?

Guys always think this phenomenon is the result of women thinking you have a girlfriend and thus must understand how to talk to women. In reality, this phenomenon is totally attributable to an energy thing.

When you’re flirting, smiling and being real with a woman, other women see this energy that you’re putting out and the way the woman you’re talking to is responding to it. Women want emotions. Women can sense emotions. It is called women’s intuition.

Have you ever came home from work, and even though you told your girlfriend that you had a great day, she says, “Something is wrong.” They’re always right about it too. That’s their intuition.

Women read emotions better than men. They’re more in tune with emotions than men are.

So when they see you talking to a waitress in a restaurant, and the waitress is smiling and laughing, you will notice that other women will all of a sudden come and sit down next to you.

Why do they do that? They do that for a few reasons.

For one thing, you will stand out as being different from almost every other guy and how almost every other guy acts. Two, your energy will be very open. Three, they see how other women respond to you.

This is why talking to everyone all day long is equally important to meeting great women as going directly up to the women you want to meet. It’s really as simple as that. It’s an energy thing. Women love to talk to guys who bring good energy to other people.