Are you newly single or is the ink still wet on your divorce papers as this Valentine’s Day approaches? If so, is this making you wonder what to do on Valentine’s Day?

You feel lonely. You think about maybe getting the kids together and having a party. You even think for a second about calling your ex to see what they are up to.

Here’s a better idea. Embrace the fact that you are alone. Embrace the fact that you know you have a choice to go out and meet anybody you want. Embrace the fact that you can be proactive about doing that.

To help you to get a start on embracing this, here are five ideas to help you make this Valentine’s Day better than any one you’ve ever had:

1. Have A Group Dinner: Invite all of your divorced friends and have each of them bring a member of the opposite sex with them who is single. You can even extend your social circle in a way that is easy, comfortable and fun. It doesn’t even have to be just divorced people, it could just be anybody who is single. The only requirement is that they have to bring one new person with them. You’ll have a great evening, and give yourself a chance to meet a whole new group of friends at the same time.

2. Do An Online Dating Site Impromptu Invite: Another thing to do is put your online profile up on one of the big dating sites (e.g., match.com). Be sure to put your picture up on there. On your profile, say “I am only here for a week. That’s it. After that week is done, my profile is being taken down. Here’s the deal — I am getting strangers together for a Valentine’s Day Party. So if you are interested in coming, shoot me an email!” You will get a ton of men responding to you. A ton. Then you can weed through and figure out which ones you want to invite and which ones you don’t. Then invite your friends to come, and have a great and fun evening out somewhere where you can meet a lot of great new people.

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3. Have A Girls Night: Round up all your single girlfriends, and plan a great night out together. Call them up and say, “Let’s make Valentine’s Day a girls night!” You don’t need men to have a great Valentine’s Day. You may not be ready to meet someone yet, and still may be going through the process of figuring out why the relationship went where it went and why it ended. So if that’s where you are, allow yourself to embrace that, and just enjoy yourself with your friends on Valentine’s Day.

4. Keep Hallmark In The Holiday: Just because you are single doesn’t mean that you can’t still show love on Valentine’s Day. How about showing some love to your family or your friends? Why not get together with family and exchange Valentine’s Day cards with them. Have some fun with it. Remember that Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be all about meeting someone.

5. Treat Yourself: Something I tell everyone who is newly off of a breakup or a divorce is to be sure to reconnect with yourself before going out to meet someone new. You need time to process everything that happened, and more importantly to reconnect with yourself and who you are as a person. So on this Valentine’s Day, you could take the day and treat yourself — to a massage, a great pedicure or even just a great bubble bath by candlelight at home. Show yourself some love.

So, those are five good things to do this Valentine’s Day if you are single (and especially if you’re newly single). These are things you can do whether you want to meet new people or you just want to reflect or enjoy your family. Either way is fine.

If you’re having trouble with being single on Valentine’s Day, just remember that it is just one day out of the whole year. There are 364 other days that are all about you and trying to enjoy your newfound singlehood.

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Today lets dive into the world of men and how to attract men.

The other day I was asked this question that I felt I needed to address:

“David, If I stare at a man, won’t he think I’m coming on to him?”

You know what my answer was to this? So what!! Men are not wired like women. We don’t think about every little, tiny thing.

If our ass itches, we itch it. If you we have to blow our nose, we blow it.

We don’t wonder why our ass itches. If a woman’s ass itches, she wonders “Why does my ass itch? Did I do something to make my ass itch? Did I eat something that made my ass itch?”

Women have to find out why for everything they do. “Why does this guy like me? What does this mean?” It doesn’t mean anything!!

You have to think like a man! If you like a man, stare at him. Speak man! Be obvious.

We need you to be obvious. If you’re obvious, we’ll walk over like a puppy dog.

We don’t want to sit there and think all night long and wonder what you’re casual glance means. We want you to smile at us, talk to us.

We’re not thinking if you look at us that you’re easy. All we’re thinking is that you’re looking at us. We almost want to high-five you!

So women – if you want to meet men, get your head out of your ass! Start staring and be obvious!! You’ll have more men coming over than you’ll ever want to date.

If you want to be coy, you won’t get the boy. If you’re tired of going home alone every night, nothing is going to change until you change your energy.

If you want to meet men, what I suggest is start thinking like a man! Start listening to the advice that I give to men. Start listening to some of my podcasts. Listen to how I teach men to overcome their fears, and you’ll learn so much about overcoming your fears.

Last question: When’s the last time you saw a man you’re attracted to, you took a risk, smiled at him, and made him come over with the powers of your sexuality? If it’s been longer than a week, then you’re not doing it right.

It’s time to stop listening to your mother’s crappy advice, and the even crappier advice of some of those horrific books. If a man doesn’t come over and talk to you, it’s because you did not know how to bring the man over. Start taking responsibility for your own dating life, and you’ll start improving it immediately.

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Here is my advice on this. Get on your hands and knees, look up at them and beg them. Stare right into their eyes and say, “Please like me more. Please, oh superior being, like me more. Please tell me how to get you to like me more. What do I need to do? How do I need to change? What do I need to do in order for you to like me more? And, if you like me more when I become this person you want me to become, will you love me? Will you love me so much? Will you never abandon me?”

How does all that sound to you? Desperate? Disgusting? Despicable?

Aren’t you good enough as you are? Aren’t you an amazing person right now? Don’t you deserve to have people like you for who you are because you’re a great person?

Also, if that person doesn’t like you then there is nothing you can do to make them like you. Why would you want to make someone like you anyway? Why would you want to beg someone to like you?

Don’t you want somebody to like you for who you are? If they don’t, there is no relationship there. They are basically in a position of power, and you’re in the weak position.

I really hate when I get this email from people. Please like me more. Please love me. No!

You need to love yourself. You need to like yourself. You need to respect yourself.

A person who respects himself will never beg and will never ask how to get someone to like him more. A person who respects himself already knows that he is an amazing person, and if someone doesn’t like him then there will be other people who will like him.

So stop that behavior. Start loving yourself.

None of us are perfect, and that is what makes life so interesting. It’s our imperfections — the way we conduct ourselves and who we are — that make life really interesting.

There is no perfect person in life. There is no perfection person for you in dating.

The person you end up with is not going to be perfect. They are going to have flaws. They are going to do things that irritate you. There are going to be things that you battle about together.

The best way to attract a great person, is to work on yourself first. Fall in love with yourself.

Accept who you are. Accept your flaws.

Accentuate the positive things in your life, and believe in abundance. If you truly believe there are a lot of great people to meet out there, then eventually you will meet that perfect person for you — that perfect person who is imperfect in every way.

It’s all about you first though. What have you done to work on yourself today? What have you done to embrace yourself?

Did you wake up this morning and think about negative things first? Life is about attitude and mindset. The more positive your attitude is, the more positive people you’re going to attract.

Every day is the same to a dog though. It really is. They wake up, their bladder hurts a little bit, and they wonder when the master is going to take them outside so they can pee and poop.

Then they run into the house, stare at their bowl, wag their tail and wonder when the master is going to fill the bowl with food. Then when they’ve eaten, they go lay down and go back to sleep — since they’ve had a really rough first 20 minutes of the day.

They anticipate the next walk. They wait patiently for that next walk to come.

Can you imagine living your life as a dog — spending all day waiting for things to happen? Do you know how many people do spend your life like a dog, waiting for things to happen — waiting for someone to approach them (instead going up and doing the approaching themselves)?

Waiting for someone to approach you is no different than the dog that just sits back with its bladder hurting while it waits for the master to take it outside, instead of going up to the master and nudging him.

I mean, if you want to play with somebody but you’re afraid to pick up the phone and call them, then it’s no different than a dog that’s too afraid to pick up its ball and put it in its owner’s lap.

We really are like dogs. I’ve seen people on dates who are so hesitant to touch one another, so scared. It’s almost like they were abused by someone at one point in their life, so now they are afraid to reach out and kiss or touch someone.

People really are like dogs more than you think. Dogs are always waiting. The smart dogs are always learning how to manipulate their masters.

So isn’t it time that some of you became just a little smarter, and realize that if you want something in your life to change or to happen that you can’t just be a dog sitting back and waiting? You need to put the ball in somebody’s lap, wag your tail a little bit more, and maybe you need to greet people with a little more enthusiasm. Do those things and your dating life will change.

If this didn’t put a smile on your face, then all you really are is an uptight cat. You are an uptight cat perched on a ledge that hisses at everyone who comes in the door and says, “I will never let you pet me no matter how much I need affection!”

Women who have a lot of masculine energy need to dress more sexy. They need to put themselves out there a little bit more.

Do you know what masculine energy is?

Masculine energy in a woman can be a woman who is very successful in her career. She competes with men all day long, so she’s basically masculine. She’s battling men all day long in the business world, so she’s masculine.

She’s looking for a raise. She has to fight her boss, so she’s masculine.

When she goes on a date, she takes that same masculine with her, and takes the guy’s balls and chops them into a million little pieces. When a man is trying to flirt with a woman on a date who has a lot of masculine energy, she basically ends up going into interrogation mode.

She will talk to him the same way she would talk when she’s trying to negotiate a business deal. She doesn’t bring out her feminine energy.

So what is feminine energy and what does it look like on a date? Feminine energy is dressing sexy, flirting with the guy, leaning in when he talks and looking directly in his eyes. Those are one part of it.

Another part of it is learning how to throw a bone to a guy every so often, and then making sure he jumps on it. Learn how to give a man clues, and give him the opportunity pick up on them and take the lead.

That’s how a woman should act around a man. Throw a bone then allow him to lead. You want him to take action.

You don’t want to be the one taking the action all the time. Every time you take action, you emasculate him.

I mean, most guys may not initially see it like that, but eventually it will deteriorate the type of relationship you have. If you want a “guy’s guy,” you have to give him a bone every so often and make sure he picks up on it.

Now I know there are some people reading this right now who are mistakenly thinking that I am telling women to be passive and submissive to men. I am actually saying the opposite.

A big part of feminine energy is being open. It is also being the decision-maker in terms of choosing men with whom you want to be willing at times to be led. It’s allowing yourself to surrender at appropriate moments.

So how do you develop your feminine energy, and feel amazing and sexy in your own skin? Take a look at your body type.  Take a look at the type of woman you are.  

Start looking through magazines which contain pictures of women with your body type. If you’re a little heavier, look at magazines that have heavier women in there so you can see how they dress sexy.  

Go to a store and get a makeover.  Find a way that you can express your sexuality.  

Men are attracted to all body types. The key thing here, though, is that men are attracted to sexy women of all body types.  

So women really need to explore that a little bit more, so that they can use their feminine energy when they start flirting with men. Doing that will get you noticed so much more — and you, as a woman, will also start to have a lot more fun in your dating life.

Being visual does not refer to what men find attractive, but rather how they become attracted to women. It means that you need to use your sexuality and your femininity to attract men.

A man will look at a woman many times — five, six, seven, ten, twelve times — and will not stop looking until a woman acknowledges him. A woman who knows and understands this, can easily get a man to approach by acknowledging him. It’s really very simple.

Say you see a man to whom you are attracted. You need to look directly at him and smile. If he notices you, then go back and smile at him again.

When you do this, the man will become very curious and wonder why you’re smiling at him over and over again. You need to encourage him to come over to you.

Understand that men are basically Scooby Doos on steroids. You’re the Scooby Snack, and you need to lay the crumbs down for men.

The crumbs are your smiles. The crumbs are a casual hello. Once a man spots a woman to whom he is attracted, you are able to go and lead him with your femininity and your smile to come over to you.

In order to really learn and understand this at a deeper level, though, you need to be observant about all your surroundings. You have to be able to look around at all your surroundings and know that men are looking at you all the time.

Most women are not observant. Most women walk into a place with their head in the clouds — on their BlackBerry or thinking about what’s on their “to do” list — and never notice men noticing them.

So one of the best things to do to learn how to be more observant is to go out in the field with a friend for a day. Have your friend be your “wing girl” for the day, with her job all day long being just to observe you and to notice all the men who are checking you out.

By doing that, and by having her point all these men out to you, you will see all the opportunities you are missing to meet men every single day. Most women have opportunities to meet men that present themselves all day long, but unfortunately they are almost never looking!

Women have been taught not to look. Men, on the other hand, are looking at women nonstop.

Men never stop looking for women. Men are always looking for women, talking about women and obsessing about women. That is how men are visual. So in order for you to become better at this, you need to learn to be more aware of your surroundings.

When I talk about using your femininity and your sexuality, I am not talking about being “slutty” or overtly coming on to men all day long. I am talking about sexuality and femininity that exudes from within.

For example, women who have a lot of masculine energy need to dress more sexy. Many women end up having very masculine energy about them due their careers. You need to feel sexy as a woman. You need to put yourself out there more. You need to really explore your feminine side.

Take a look at your body type. Take a look at the type of woman you are. Start looking through magazines that have women with similar body types to you in them. See how those women dress sexy. Go to a store and get a makeover. Find a way to express your sexuality and to feel sexy from within yourself.

Men are attracted to all body types and to all types of women. The key thing here, though, is that men are attracted to sexy women of all body types.

So women really need to explore that side of themselves more. Women need to learn to use their feminine energy and start flirting. The Scooby Doos out there will respond when you do.

The first thing (and one of the most important things) you need to do, is to evaluate your work environment. You need to be in a healthy work environment, one you love and one that has people in it with whom you enjoy spending time.

Of course there are going to be times at work you don’t enjoy. There’s going to be things you have to do that you don’t like. There are going to be people you need to interact with whom you don’t particularly like. In the grand scheme of things, though, you have to decide which compromises you’re willing to make with yourself.

You may be in a job that doesn’t stimulate you like it used to, but it pays you well enough to allow you to maintain the lifestyle you really enjoy. So you make an agreement with yourself that you’re going to stick with this job because it allows you to do the things you like to do outside of work.

If that job is something you just don’t like anymore then you could move to another company, except you’re afraid to move. If you can make a lateral move where you don’t lose money or seniority, then I suggest you spend some time and energy to do that. It will really improve your life overall.

Lifestyle is something a lot of people don’t fully understand. Lifestyle means doing the things that you love. If you do the things you love to do, you will always have something to talk about with people.

If you’re somebody who does not enjoy going to a bar, then you’re really not going to have things to talk about there. You’re just going to be standing there punching the time clock. You’re basically going to be walking in, handing your time card to the bartender to punch, spending a few hours there, paying your bill and then punching out before you leave. Sounds like fun, doesn’t it?

So, do things that you love. If you like exploring new neighborhoods, explore new neighborhoods. It doesn’t matter what it is, it’s only important that the “it” is something you love.

One of the reasons why creating a lifestyle like this is so important, is that creating a lifestyle makes you more open. You want to be open all the time.

Don’t go places and just “show up.” When you go to places, you want to show up and embrace everything.

You need to smile. You need to talk to people. You need to have random conversations with strangers all day long. That way, when you find someone to whom you are attracted you will have an open energy that will attract them (and get them to come over and approach you!).

The reason why a lot of women don’t get approached and a lot of men aren’t approachable, is because they’ve got a look on their face that says ‘don’t talk to me’ to people. People have that look on their face because they’re not really having fun.

They are not enjoying things. Everything you do, you should do with a child-like enthusiasm.

Go to the supermarket and act like you’ve never before been in there. Look through everything, have a good time and ask questions.

Ask questions of other people in the store. If you see someone getting a brand of yogurt you’ve never tried say, “I’m curious. I’ve never had that. Is it good?” Use those kind of approaches to talk to people everywhere.

Let’s say you’re in a brand new coffee shop and it’s your first time there. Don’t just order a cup of coffee. Ask the person standing in line next to you, “What do you recommend?” Even if you’re the only one in line, ask the guy behind the counter, “Hey, What’s good here?”

Get into a conversation, because people notice open energy. People notice people who are having fun. People notice people to whom other people are talking. It’s called attraction.

The law of attraction works. When you walk into a place and you start talking to a bunch of different people, other people will line up and want to talk to you.

I teach this at my Bootcamps all the time, and the guys see firsthand that it works every time. I remember one time at a Bootcamp we went into Neiman Marcus and started to talk to a woman.

All of a sudden, everyone was watching us and watching this interaction. Everyone was watching her smile. Everyone was watching us smile. When we went into another department, I had the guys do the exact same thing.

So when we came back through again for the second time, people literally started walking up to us and started conversations with us. One woman said, “Wow, you guys are so much fun!”

That is the kind of energy to which people are attracted. People are attracted to people having a good time. No one wants to hang out with a person who’s pouting, folding their arms and looking miserable.

So it’s about creating a lifestyle and being open. Do things that you love, and enjoy and embrace every moment.

By doing that, you will naturally start attracting people. You’ll be more open, so people will start talking to you. Being open will also get you to start talking to more people.

The key here is that when you are more open, people will notice you and will want to be around you. If they want to be around you, they’ll start talking to you.

So, why chase when you can attract?

Here’s an open letter to every single woman out there: Go ahead and explore yourself sexually!

I love being with women who know who they are sexually. I love women who know how to please a man. I love women who are in touch with themselves, and know how to please themselves.

So many women don’t know who they are sexually. So many women don’t know how to please a man. So many women are not in touch with themselves, and don’t know how to please themselves.

So many women are afraid to explore themselves sexually in these ways because they believe if they do they will not be “marriage material” for somebody. The truth is, though, that those days have long passed.

If you’re an independent, free-thinking, sexual woman, then you need to go out and explore your sexuality in every way. You need to do that because by exploring your sexuality, you are really going to start opening up and will blossom like a little flower.

Start learning what things you like. Take time out of your life to learn how to sexually express yourself. Learn how to please a man.

Think about all of your lovers, and use them as a drawing board. Figure out what the men liked and figure out what you like. When it comes down to it, the reason why so many relationships don’t work out is that the sex becomes dry and boring … and you know if there’s a limit to what you can teach each other.

So learn all of the great tricks, and bring them into your new relationships. I guarantee you will never get bored.

Todays video is all about how to embrace your body so you can feel sexy around men.

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Are they saying that women are unfriendly people as a gender? Of course not. Guys complain most often to me that when they ask women questions when they first meet them – whether it be a woman they approach for the first time or a woman with whom they are out on a first date – that women tend to be very negative in how they answer them.

For example, a guy during a first date may ask a woman about her past relationships, and she will bash her ex-boyfriend by saying something like “Oh, my ex-boyfriend was such an idiot. He cheated on me, and he was a complete jerk.” Then she will go on to tell the guy about all the stuff that her ex-boyfriend did that were bad.

Even if all of that is true, women need to understand how this is perceived by the men who are hearing it. In particular, women need to understand how it is perceived by men who are just meeting you or are just newly getting to know you.

When you speak negatively about a past relationship, a guy hearing that will think that if he gets involved with you that at some point down the road you will be bashing him to someone else. Don’t be so negative about your past experiences.

Don’t also be negative about what is going on in your life currently. Don’t talk negatively about your friends. Men don’t care about the turmoil that is going on in your life and with your friends.

Men don’t care that your friend did not show up at your other friend’s birthday party and didn’t even a send a present. The only thing a guy will notice is that they are on a first date with you and you are speaking negatively about your friend.

Men want to see you be positive on a first date. We don’t want to hear about all of that other negative stuff when we haven’t gotten to know you yet.

I can’t tell you how many times when I’ve walked up to a woman and started talking to her by asking how her day is, that she will begin her answer with some version of “My day is lousy…” Then when I ask her why, she will elaborate with a list of one negative thing after another.

Don’t be so negative. When men first meet you, they want to see the positive and cheery side of you.

Men of course understand that life is not all positive and cheery. In the beginning, though, show men your good side.

We all have a negative side. We all have things about which to complain. We all have things that don’t go our way. That’s perfectly fine, just don’t bring all of that up on a first date.

Don’t bash your friends and don’t be negative about past relationships. Be positive on a first date, because you need to think positive things in order to attract a great new relationship.

I remember a woman with whom I had a first date who illustrates this point perfectly. I asked her on that date whether she dated a lot, and she answered “no.” When I asked her why, her answer was “Because men suck.” She then proceeded for the next ten minutes to tell me all the reasons why men ‘suck.’

The thing was, I didn’t want to hear about why she believes men ‘suck.’ It didn’t matter. I could have said “women suck too” to try and be nice and agree with her, but they don’t. I don’t judge women as a gender based on what certain women in my past may or may not have done.

When I’m on a first date, I am open to finding out who that particular woman is and what she is all about. You should have that same attitude when you meet a new guy.

The fact is that if you’re having a bad run in life, only you can change it. So if you’re negative and you complain when you meet someone new, then you are just perpetuating that bad run and it will simply continue. So stop being negative, and start giving your future a better chance to be positive.