You know that type of attitude. Why is it happening to me right now?
Regardless of what the situation is, events or whatever, the best
thing that can happen to you at the time is what is actually happening
to you at the present time. The lesson you need to learn is an
experience you need to have. It’s an emotion that you need to feel.
Everything that happens to you happens to you for a reason. It makes
you a stronger person.

Not only that: The most successful people in
this world, the most powerful people in this world, the most
well-rounded people in this world are the ones that look at each thing
that happens to them, they learn from it, and they may move forward a
stronger and happier person. They don’t wallow in it.

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They don’t go on a cycle of depression from it. They don’t keep thinking about why, why
is this happening to me now? They tackle it head-on. They look at the
problem head-on. They feel the experience head-on, and they process it
and move forward. It might take you some time sometimes to process and
move forward, but as long as you move forward, you’ll get rid of that
stuck feeling that you have—that feeling of being overwhelmed, that
feeling of “Why me?” Look at everything that happens to your life in a
different light. Look at it as an experience, as a lesson, as
something you needed to grow on. If something happens over and over
again, look at that pattern, and realize and maybe you need to change
something about yourself and the way you handle things. Maybe you
didn’t process something. Maybe you didn’t experience something. Life
repeats itself when we don’t face the issues the very first time. So
the next time life throws you a curveball, look at it, embrace it,
love it, and process it so that you can move forward and grow as a
person.

How many of you walk around every day with the “don’t want to lose” attitude? I’m going to tell you the real truth about this attitude and what it’s doing to your dating life.

Do you know what the “don’t want to lose” attitude is? Usually it means that you are totally caught up in the outcome with everything you do.

So when you go and approach and talk to someone, you don’t approach them as yourself. You approach them as the “I don’t want to lose” person, and the “I want this person to like me” person.

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To begin with, you don’t have this person. They are a total stranger. So how do you even have this attitude in the first place?

Do you know what happens to a sports team that has a “don’t want to lose” attitude? They usually end up 4-12 at the end of the season. They play all of their games tight because they’re not relaxed and laid back, and they are really just a mess when it comes down to executing anything.

Do you think Aaron Rodgers had that attitude last Sunday?

So what you need to do is to go into every approach and every meeting with an attitude that you are going to have fun. You need to not care so much about the outcome, because the outcome is rarely what you expect it to be. Start having carefree moments in life, and lose the “don’t want to lose” attitude!

Self Perception is everything.

How does that relate to the way you conduct your life everyday?

Are you even aware of what your energy, attitude and the way you feel about yourself convey to others.

It really is everything that determines whether you are going to be successful in whatever you are doing at this present moment.

This weekend is all about chasing the 4th of July festivities. Are you really in tune with yourself and when you arrive at your destination what do you think people see?

I want you all to think about this today.

Think about football. Think about the quarterbacks who are successful. The ones that are successful have that attitude – “Fuck you. You picked my pass off? I don’t care. I’m coming back at you again in ten minutes anyway, and I’ll keep doing it.”

Brett Favre is notorious for that. Love him or hate him, he’ll throw so many games away that he plays. He’s 39, and look at his attitude. He’ll throw five interceptions in a game, and he’ll go fade back to pass and just do it again. He doesn’t care.

And all the fans are sitting there, saying, “Oh no! He’s doing it again…” but he just doesn’t care.

You are caring too much, so when you walk over you approach her with an expectation of rejection. You’re like that quarterback that’s fading back to pass and all you’re looking at are the defenders. You might as well just pick the one that you’re going to throw directly to right off the bat.

I don’t feel like I’m bothering anybody when I go over to someone to talk. And no one ever walks away from me.

But I used to feel that same way – that I was bothering someone when I approached them. You’re not bothering them at all.

But when you walk over to them with that concern, you’re bringing that energy with you. Women are feelers. Doesn’t that drive you crazy? They are always feeling and describing those feelings. “I feel this…”

You sit there and you just want to fix everything. “Okay, you’re feeling this way, and here’s the solution…”

So the fact is that women feel your energy. She feels every little bit of your energy as you walk over. She senses your fear.

Animals smell fear, and so do women! We’re basically all just animals, anyway. Think about the noises that people make when they fuck… we’re animals! Just because we’re standing upright doesn’t mean that we’re any better than Daphne. We may not smell each other’s asses, but we’re just like dogs.

So if you walk up to a woman with fear and the expectation of rejection, she’ll know it and you’re done. When you walk over like you don’t give a shit how she reacts, she’ll be responsive. She’ll wonder, who is this guy?

It’s a quantum switch inside your head. And once you make that switch, it’s like a paradigm shift. It’s an amazing shift in what you’ll begin to receive from other people. You’ll get what you want.