Do you suffer from high expectations?

Are you really doing all that you can do to meet the opposite sex?

Be honest with yourself!

Or do you suffer from Matt Leinart disease? (Yes, that’s him on the right… A little drunk you might say)

What’s that? If you haven’t followed the news, Matt was expected to be a starter for the Arizona Cardinals, but has now been released.

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So for this week, here is my list of winners and losers. . .

The Saints will continue on their unbeaten march heading toward the playoffs.

The Packers will put the Bears into hibernation mode.

The Colts will remain unbeaten as they collect a win against the Broncos.

The Bills versus the Chiefs? Who cares! I don’t need to waste time predicting that one.

The Bengals versus the Vikings is a tough one, but I will say the Bengals will prevail.

The Patriots will get their act together and defeat the Panthers.

Even with Mark Sanchez on the sidelines, the Jets can’t be that stupid as to lose to the Buccaneers.

The Dolphins / Jaguars game could be the game of the week. Miami is a lot better than people first thought, and I’m picking Miami to win this one.

Everybody can beat the Lions, so enough said about that game.

The Texans will finally wake up this week and beat the Seahawks, and they will finish the season 8-8.

The Titans will defeat the Rams.

The Raiders seem to be able to beat good teams, and the Redskins seem to be able to beat themselves. So who really cares who wins this one. I don’t.

It’s December, so Tony Romo is thinking about eating ribs and not about playing football. So I pick the Chargers to take that game.

The Eagles versus Giants game is a tough one to call, but I am going to predict that the Giants beat the Eagles today.

The Cardinals will continue their march toward another great season with a win today against the 49ers.

Now that you know what is going to happen in all of today’s NFL games, let’s move on to talk about today’s blog topic . . .

Please follow up with me. It’s amazing. I wrote a blog the other day about how I was recently looking for cars, and about how few people would follow up with me.

Follow up is the key to life. How you follow up is the key to everything in life. It is also the key in dating.

How many of the guys reading this get a phone number from a woman, and then actually sit there and wonder when you should call her? You waste tons of time thinking about the “right” time to call, thinking “Should I wait 72 hours so I don’t look too anxious? Should I wait 24 hours, so I look not too anxious but look interested?”

These questions focus completely on the wrong thing. The reality is that it is not about how long you wait to call someone, it is about what you say (and how you keep the intrigue and attraction going) when you do call.

So many guys spend way too much time thinking and focusing on things like how long to wait to call, instead of spending time understanding how to keep the attraction building. For example, when I was single I would go and meet a woman in the supermarket, ask her based on what was in her cart what she was making for dinner. If she told me she was trying a new recipe, then I’d wish her a great meal and tell her to let me know how it turns out.

I’d tell her, “Give me your number. I want to hear all about it.” I would then call her up, and I would continue the conversation we were having at that moment in the supermarket.

I would stay in that conversation, because I want to bring her back to that moment. I would call up and say something like, “Hey, how was dinner? That sushi looked so good. Was it as good as it looked?”

What you are doing there is showing that you were paying attention to all the details. That is what it’s all about.

It is about paying attention to all the details. People respond to people who remember things about them. That is how you form a connection with someone.

So to all you guys who waste all that time thinking about when to call a woman (instead of what to say to her), it’s time you change you focus and learn how to really connect with women.

That is something I talk about in great detail in my Men’s Mastery Series. I talk about how to remember details about women so you can have powerful connections that can last a long time.

As humans, we always speculate. We always feel the need to know the outcome of things. We always want to think about “what if…”

We speculate on the stock market. We speculate all the time when it comes down to picking a stock.

We speculate on football games. How many times do you watch a football game and say to yourself, “Man, if he only man if he only threw that pass. How could he have NOT thrown that pass?!”

We also do a lot of speculating when it comes to human emotions. The conversation that the two guys I heard talking on the beach were having is a perfect example.

One guy was saying to the other, “I got her off several times. I don’t understand why she didn’t call me back. I don’t get it.” Then he went into speculation mode, in which he speculated about all the possible reasons why she didn’t call him back.

He said, for example, that she probably felt too free sexually with him and that made her uncomfortable because she wasn’t used to feeling that way. He wanted his friend to speculate about this woman’s emotions and agree with him.

Keep in mind that the friend with whom he was doing this speculating had never met this woman. Usually the person who is being asked to speculate on what someone is feeling has never met the person about whom they are being asked to speculate.

The speculators nevertheless will speculate just to make their friend feel good. This is the speculation game. It’s really ridiculous, but yet we do it all the time.

We go to our friends for advice. We break down a situation that’s going on in our dating life, and then our friends speculate on what they think the other person — whom they have never met — is thinking.

Obviously the speculating friend is trying to make their friend feel better by doing this. Sometimes in life, though, you’ve got to just let some things go.

The fact of the matter is that unless you are prepared to go directly to the source, you will never know what someone is really thinking. Never. You will never know what they were really thinking, so why play the speculation game?

If someone doesn’t call you back, and you don’t know the reason why from the source (i.e., the person who didn’t call you), then it’s okay because you already have your answer. The answer is that you don’t know. When that happens, you have to learn to let things go.

You’ll never learn the answer to everything in life, so why play the speculation game? The speculation game can really drive you crazy.

Also, think a little bit about the people you are asking to be the speculators. They were not present for any of the events you are telling them about and they almost always have never met the person about whose feelings and thoughts you are asking them to speculate. So why are you letting these people make you feel better?

In life, you need to learn to just let things go. Successful quarterbacks have to master this in order to be successful.

Here’s a great example of that. A few weeks ago, Kurt Warner threw five interceptions in one game. During the next couple week’s games, he came back and threw six touchdown passes. When asked about this, he basically said ‘I have a short memory.’

It’s time that all of you adopt the same mentality in your dating life. You need to develop a short memory that allows you to no longer play the speculation game.

Doing this can get you “out there” and dating a lot more quickly. You’ll also be a lot happier. So let’s eliminate the speculation game, and start enjoying ourselves more.

If we do that, then maybe the speculators will have to find work doing other things. Who knows, instead of speculating on human emotions they maybe decide to go into the stock trading business and start speculating there. It could be a good move for them, since it’s basically the same guessing game.

This is what I call being completely oblivious to all signals. I wonder how this guy is with women. Watch this video I’m going to call “Training Beyond Belief” and judge for yourself:

This week I predict the Texans will win over the Bills. The Bears will beat the Browns. The Lions will win over the Rams. The Jets will defeat the Dolphins. The Chargers will win over the Raiders. The Cardinals will beat the Panthers.

The Saint and the Colts will remain unbeaten, but the Broncos will fall to the Ravens. As for the two “big games” today, I am predicting the Giants will win over the Eagles and Favre will gome home crying in defeat.

Have a great Sunday, and let’s get to today’s blog!

At a recent Bootcamp, I had a conversation with the guys about what I call window shopping your life. I had a conversation about challenging yourself. (This, by the way, is a great example of what we work on during my Bootcamp weekends!)

Most of us window shop in our own lives. Many of us have had tragedies in our lives. As humans, it’s natural to want to change our lives after we survive a catastrophe, but it’s also human that we rarely stick with that plan to change.

We always sweep things under the rug. We all do this. It’s just the way things work. We get shocked into doing something or making a change, but we can’t help continuing to window shop.

So what do I mean when I say that we window shop our lives? It means that we fail to take action and really lead the kind of life we map out for ourselves. We go back to not being fully alive, and just wishing and wanting for the life we want to live.

The term window shopping is a good description, because it is as if we have a glass barrier between our life and the life we want. We can see it, but there is something in our way from actually living it.

A lot of people see this barrier as something that keeps them from having the life they want. In reality, though, we are capable of having that life right now if we take the steps to get it.

Why do we think we can’t have this life? We buy into false limitations. We don’t want to face that we need to take more action.

I often call people who just wait for things to happen in life “waiters.” They want things to change, and they keep hoping things will change on their own without them having to take any action on their part.

Once you begin to stop window shopping and to stop waiting, you will see how much time you’ve been wasting kicking back that you could have been spending living the life you want.

Life is too short, and you only get one! If you don’t take the opportunities now, when are you going to take them? So stop window shopping. Stop waiting. Take action today and start to really live the life you want.