Are you the shot buyer? That’s my favorite guy to watch when I go to a bar.

You walk into a bar and there he is. You’re standing next to this guy who says to everyone around him, “You guys want a shot?”

He’s always in a group of a few guys who are basically laughing at all of his jokes because he is a fun, jovial guy. He’s the shot buyer. He’s the guy who is buying drinks for people all night long.

So whenever women come around his general direction, he is always buying them a drink. He’ll say things like, “Come on girls, I’ll buy you a drink (or a shot)” or “Do a shot with me.”

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The shot buyer is always a really nice guy. The problem is that getting people drunk usually doesn’t mean you’re going to connect with them.

You’re the fun guy. You’re the mixologist. You’re the party guy.

In reality, though, a lot of women don’t want to hang out with the shot buyer. They don’t want to hang out with the party guy. You’re fun for about ten or fifteen minutes.

When you get to a certain point in your life — when you’re 35 or 40 years old — you don’t really want to be the shot guy anymore. Women aren’t looking at you as the fun guy at this point. They are looking at you and wondering if you’re ever going to outgrow your college years.

Being the shot guy at 22 or 24 years old makes you the fun guy. You are a blast. You are the guy everyone calls and curses the next morning because they are so hungover from all the shots you bought them.

When you’re a bit older and you’re still the shot guy, however, it is probably the reason you are not meeting quality women. Most women can’t and don’t want to be drinking as much as you do.

So look deeper, Mr. Shot Buyer, and tell me if you’re REALLY happy buying everybody another round — or whether this behavior is masking a general disappointment in how you feel about your social life.

When you find that person you are like, take some time and watch ‘yourself.’ See how you act. See how you come off to people. See how people respond to you.

If you are not successful in a bar, then you probably are a lurker. So go ahead and watch ‘yourself’ as the lurker — watch a fellow lurker so you understand why you are not having much success.

Connecting with women is very simple. Make an observation, react, talk about the observation further. Speak with clarity, conviction and confidence. It is no different in a bar than anywhere else.

I don’t write about bars that often, but in reality they are a blast. They are a blast when you understand the dynamics of human communication. If you are a lurker, though, you don’t get it yet.

So look in the mirror. If you are a lurker, admit it and go seek medical help. Okay, you probably don’t need medical help — but you do need to seek my help!

Anyway, there’s a new store that’s opened up on that street called “California Herbal Remedies” where you can get a 20% vanilla cake or even a 30% chocolate brownie that’s guaranteed to make your head spin for the entire day. All this can be yours if you go to a clinic, tell them you hurt your shoulder and say that Advil has stopped working to alleviate the pain.

Let me just say this: I’m all for the legalization of marijuana. I’ve never met someone who was high who acted like an asshole. On the other hand, I’ve met many a person who acted like an asshole when they were drunk. There should be a warning label on alcohol bottles that reads “Warning: Consumption of this fluid may turn you into an asshole.”

So, it was no surprise that the biggest crowd was outside California Herbal Remedies last night. It was, after all, the store with the best munchies. Big shock!

Alright, let’s talk about why people get wasted. They do it with the hopes of getting Lucky in love.

On the topic of luck, can you really get “lucky in love?” Is there a way to get lucky in love? Does getting “lucky in love” really exist?

I’m going to tell you something right now that’s going to blow your mind: You can absolutely be lucky in love! Here are five ways to ensure you will be lucky in love:

1. Hard Work Plus Opportunity Equals Luck: In order to get lucky in love, you need to put the effort into going out there and meeting people. You need to go out and talk to people. You need create the opportunity for luck to happen to you. Luck only happens when hard work meets opportunity. Thomas Jefferson said it perfectly when he said “I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

2. Luck In Love Finds Those Open To Love: The reason why people are lucky in love is because they’re open to love. What I mean by “open to love” is that they are out there talking to people every single day and being okay with letting people know they’re single. If you want to get lucky in love, be open to other people trying to find you love. Open yourself up a little bit, and stop being so closed off to others taking a role in creating luck in your love life. When you meet somebody and they ask you if you’re single, stop looking at it like it’s a plague or disease and say “Yes I am. Do you know of anybody great you think I should meet?” In order to get lucky in love, you need to expand your horizons.

3. Luck In Love Comes To Those Willing To Give A Bit Of The Unknown A Try: In order to get really lucky in love, you should also use the power of your network to help create that luck for you. For instance, you can use online dating in a new way to create luck in your love life. Here is a little trick that I used to use all the time when I was dating online. When I would meet someone online with whom I didn’t end up having a connection but who I thought was a great person, I’d make a suggestion. I’d say “I don’t know about you, but I’m getting sick of all these coffee dates. Why don’t we get a whole group of our friends together and see if any magic (or luck) can happen.” This is yet another way to create luck in your love life . . . and possibly in the life of someone else.

4. Luck In Love Is The Product Of Persistence: If you want to get really lucky in love, you have to realize that luck is the product of persistence. You will have to put consistent effort in and be willing to be persistent in not giving up on the search for love. When you are persistent, you will be rewarded with luck in love. The truth is that you’re not going to find a four-leaf clover or a little leprechaun to help you get lucky in love. It’s really up to you. It’s really all about the power of your network. How strong is your network and how big can you build your network to become? As I said in #3 above, are you trying things that create opportunities to bring people into your life and into your network? When you do, you will be lucky in love.

5. Luck In Love Comes To Those Who Are Already In Love: This probably sounds a bit puzzling at first read, but let me tell you what I mean. In order to really be lucky in love, you need to first love yourself. You need to really believe in yourself. You need to stop letting fears and excuses keep you from being open to love. You need to stop making excuses. You need to stop saying things like “I’m a 47 year old woman and men don’t want women my age” or “I’m 20 pounds overweight and no woman is going to find me attractive.” You have to believe that you are a gift – a gift that’s worth giving and a gift worth receiving.

Hope everyone is having an amazing weekend.

Todays video is a can’t miss, but you need to first read about how to be unique in bars.

Today I want to share with everyone a great question I got from someone in London. I’m sure all of you think about these same things when you go out at night too, so let’s talk about this right now!

Client: First of all, I have to commend you on the Men’s Audio Mastery Series – it’s one of the best audio series I have ever heard.

I also have two questions for you. You said that when you open someone in a bar, you want to ask the women for their opinion on something.

In the field in London, a lot of routine-based games use the opinion opener to open women. If you use the opinion opener and the girl has had many people open them with that previously wouldn’t she think, oh boy, here we go again or might they not think of that at all?

Also another question: if you are conversing with a woman and you find yourself at a lull in the conversation without anything to say, could you go back to a previous thing she said earlier in the conversation to start a new conversation with her?

David: Hey, great to hear from you. I will be in London doing a boot camp in September, which is posted on my website. It’d be great to work with you in person. Let me know if you have any interest.

If not, I’ll be doing some private coaching as well, if you can’t commit to the whole weekend. I’ll be doing some private coaching on the days in London also.

As for your e-mail, there are a lot of different opinion openers. The great thing about what I teach is that everything is not the same.

For instance, when I was in London last time, I was at the Sanderson Hotel, and I was working with a client of mine. This woman was staring at us, so I told my client to walk over and do this: walk right over to her and say, “hey, are you just going to stare at me all night and check me out, or are you going to come over here and talk to me?”

Do this, I told him, and do it with a big smile. Then all of a sudden she’ll start laughing; she’ll say something to excuse herself. Before she explains and babbles, you can look at her and ask, “do you have approach anxiety?”

Say, “I hear there are some great books on the Internet that’ll help you overcome that!” Laugh. Say all this with a smile. She will inevitably start laughing really hard, and then you can tease her a little more.

Ask her, “are you shy?” And she will respond, “well, you know…” and then you can start talking about it a little bit. And you’ll have things to talk about. It will be a fun game to do at night.

When you’re at the bar at night, you need to make it fun. You need to make it interesting. You need to make it different. That’s why I like day game much better than night game. Because night game, you need to play around a little bit more.

Another way to open up a woman in a bar at night is when she bumps into you. You can say to her, “excuse me.” She will ask you, “what?” You can then say, “I need to know your name.” And then she will respond, “my name is Amy.”

“All right, Amy, I just need to know because if tomorrow I wake up all bruised from you bouncing into me all night, I need to be able to tell my buddy that I was in this bar last night and this girl Amy kept bumping into me all night. What, do you play rugby or something?”

So there you go – you’re being fun, playful, and you’re being DIFFERENT!

Now, you know my approach for texting, right? I think I put the texting at night approach on the Mastery Series, but I’m not sure. So I’ll outline it here:

You basically walk up to a woman who has been hanging out with her friends. You have your buddy text you, but make sure his name is not in there. Have him text you this: “last night was great. Maybe another drink later tonight?”

And so you walk over to a woman and you say to her, “look, I just got this text, and I have absolutely no idea what it means. No idea. But before I show you the text on my phone, I need to give you a little bit of a back-story.”

Keep going: “last night I went out with this woman for a drink. We had a glass of wine, hung out for an hour and a half, and that was it. I didn’t think there was any chemistry, and I had no idea what she felt. I didn’t even think much of anything about it, but I just got this text from her right now. What does it mean?”

So then they will pass your phone around, and they will start to laugh. They’ll start to smile. One of them will say, “booty call!” You can then say, “aha, is that what you call a booty call?” And then you get the conversation rolling from there.

There are just a few of new tips for you.

Now, if the conversation starts to get slow, what you have to realize in your mind is that not everyone you talk to you will be able to connect with. The problem with men is that they think that just because they have the guts to approach a woman, every conversation has to work out. Some conversations just don’t work out.

Think about in terms of soccer. The guy has an open shot, right? A penalty shot. He takes ten penalty shots. Does he make every penalty shot? Absolutely not. If the odds were ten for ten, there would be no such thing as a hard penalty shot or an easy penalty shot, right?

So, sometimes the conversation just dies. You have no chemistry with her at all, so it doesn’t matter. If you follow the things that I teach – meaning you listen very carefully to what she is saying – you will be able to tell.
You should use portal words, which means that if she says, “oh this weekend is so fantastic, it’s my grandmother’s birthday,” you can ask, “really, how old will your grandmother be?” She might respond, “my grandmother will be 92.” You can then look at her and say, “congratulations, what’s her secret?”

If you listen very carefully to what a woman says, and you transition using the emotional portal words that I talk about, you will become a much better conversationalist in the long run.

Don’t ever worry about what other people have done going out. Most people are not going out using the things that I have used. I’ve been in London coaching guys for a long time, and let me tell you: my stuff is different, as you know, than most other garbage that is out there. Most of the stuff is pick-up BS and that’s it.

Alright, have a great weekend, and let me know if you want to take the boot camp in London. I have a few spots left. Let me know if you want to do some one-on-one coaching too. It’d be great to work with you when I’m in your neck of the woods. I will talk to you later! Thanks for the questions.

Todays video is a really great one.

I go over the 4 keys to attracting women…….Enjoy and have a great Saturday!