I know, that was a silly question because everyone likes ice cream. One of the things we love about it are all the different flavors there are to choose from. Whatever kind of person you are, sweet or savory, there is a flavor for you.

In dating, like ice cream, there is an abundance of choices available to you. (Do you have an abundance mindset?)

Now watch this video and talk amongst yourselves in the comments below.

Let’s say you work in sales. Every January 1st you always feel like you are broke because you’re “starting over” in a new year. You feel like you need to get that first sale of the year.

You compare yourself constantly to the previous year and you continually want to improve your statistics. You’re competitive. You want to make more money and be more successful than you were in the prior year.

We all do it. I do it too. I’ve done some things I almost don’t want to admit. I’ve held back checks that came in during the month of December and didn’t deposit them until January because I wanted to feel like I made more money in the new year.

You’re still paying the same amount of taxes on that money, but somehow by doing that it feels different mentally. In your head you think, “It’s January 2nd and I have cash in the bank already!”

Here is something that someone very financially successful taught me a long time ago: Don’t ever count what you’ve made this year; Count what you’ve made your entire adult life. If you do this, you will always feel abundance.

Instead of thinking “Wow, I’m having an off year,” think I’ve made $20 Million so far! You feel much more abundant when you do that. You don’t have to count and keep track of every little deal, and you don’t need to compare yourself to others.

This same abundance principle applies to your success in meeting the opposite sex. So many guys will think, “God am I having a bad week!” They could instead think something like “Wow, I’ve gone on 3,000 dates and slept with 250 women!” That is an abundance mentality and it will affect how you interact with people.

So think abundance every day. Walk around and feel that abundance.

Don’t think about how many people you have (or have not) met this month. Think about how many dates you’ve been on in your life.

When you do this, your energy will change and be open. What happens then is that every time you talk to someone of the opposite sex, you will talk to them with a confident open energy and without desperation.

If you have a rough streak where things aren’t happening the way you’d like, which happens to everyone, then you might have a tendency to put more pressure on yourself to change things. If you can concentrate on all the wonderful people you’ve met in your life, then you’ll radiate the power of an abundance mentality instead of radiating an air of desperation.

It’s no different than when a professional baseball player is in a slump. When a baseball player is having a 2-10 slump, the best players pull themselves out of that slump by thinking “Well, I’ve still got a .300 average!” If a player is in a 2-54 slump, you can always tell that he has just been thinking about how badly things have been going for him and he just keeps pressing. That never works.

In terms of meeting someone of the opposite sex, when you start pressing you need to take a “time out” and write down all your successes. Take a day off from chasing, and then go back the next day with a brand new attitude of how successful your entire life has been.

That’s how you do it. It’s all about the mindset. It’s all about having the ultimate abundance mindset.

But there’s something interesting that I want to bring up to everyone on the blog. As many of you know, I’m not really in to New Year’s resolutions – I think that they are a crock of shit. They are just a complete waste of time.

Everyone always makes 10 or 11 New Year’s resolutions – and of course they are going to be broken! You’re trying to do too many things. I bet most of you have already broke most of the resolutions and we are only 12 DAYS into the year!!

I was talking to some clients the other night and I told them that what I like to do is to choose a theme for the year. I know if I concentrate on a theme, I’ll make things happen. I’m going to start believing in that theme.

I remember one year – I think it was 2004 – my theme was patience and trusting the universe. I wanted to put my trust in the universe in everything I did. I wanted to allow things to happen on their own terms. I didn’t want to force anything.

When I was in the business world, when I would lose a client I would be totally bummed out. If I didn’t have a good month, I’d start stressing out, wondering if things would get better.

A wise friend of mine, told me I needed to start trusting the universe. If you trust the universe, everything that you want will manifest. Things will start to happen because you are no longer suffocating the energy. You aren’t putting too much pressure on things and you are allowing them to unfold in their own time.

Trusting the universe means having the abundance principle. If you embody the abundance principle, people will start becoming attracted to you and they will want to meet you or do business with you.

So in 2004 I worked on trusting the universe and being patient. Then, in 2005, after I learned how to be patient, I started working with the theme of abundance. I started working with the theme of abundance in every facet of my life.

And by the end of 2005, everything was abundant for me. Business was great, the people in my life were great – I had no complaints.

So what did I want to work on in 2006? In 2006, my theme of the year was living in the moment. I wanted to embrace and be present in every moment. I didn’t want to think about the future of everything; I just wanted to embrace every little moment of life.

I wanted to learn about the gift of life. I wanted to embrace it. I wanted to be present every moment and I didn’t want to have to think about what I had to do tomorrow or what tomorrow would bring. I didn’t want to think about the past either. I just wanted to be in that moment.

And by doing that, each moment that I was truly present helped create another moment that I could embrace. It’s all about living in the moment. It’s all about staying focused, positive and having abundance.

All of these themes work really well together as well. This is what you need to do: you need to choose themes for your life.

What was the theme I chose for 2007 and 2008? To continue to live the life that I love. I’m really living the life that I love every day. I want to thank myself every day for this amazing life. I want to thank the people that I work with every day for the amazing job that they’ve done. I want to thank all of the people in my life for what they offer.

It’s about being 100% in tune with what is going on in the world so that you are able to put all of these principles and themes together.

By now, the 12th of January 2009, you all know that you’ve totally screwed up your New Year’s resolutions because you chose too many things.

Start concentrating on one thing. Life is a marathon – it’s not a sprint. It is about being able to go the distance. If you can go the distance in life, you’ll be able to accomplish everything you hope to.

The problem is that many people try to master too many things at one time. Rather than concentrating on one thing, they try to learn too many small things at once.

If you are a fast learner, you could concentrate on having a new theme every month or every three months. But you need to do this work in order to have an amazing life and attract great people into it.

What is your them for the year?

Do you know what mine is?

I have a theme just for the day.

I want to break the record we set last week with 300 responses to last Mondays blog.

So start typing folks!!!

I hear comments like this from women almost every day: “David, I saw this guy today and he was so cute. He smiled at me, and I would have loved to have smiled back at him or said hello, but I was all sweaty because I’d just left the gym.” Every part of that statement following the “but” is nothing more than an excuse.

In fact, if you put a blank after the “but” in that sentence then I could fill it in with at least one hundred different excuses just like the “but I was all sweaty” one above. I’ve heard them all, but here are some of the classic ones:

My hair was up in a ponytail.
I didn’t feel sexy that day.
I was having a fat day.
I was wearing an unflattering outfit.
I wasn’t wearing any makeup.
I had coffee breath.
I was chewing and had food in my mouth.
I was on my cell phone.
The list of excuses could go on and on and on . . .

Here is a concept that you must understand, though, and it’s something I’ve been telling women for years: If a man looks at you, then he is attracted to you as you are at that very moment. He doesn’t care (and likely doesn’t know) that you are sweaty, are not wearing makeup, are wearing an old t-shirt that is twelve sizes too big for you, or about anything else.

If a man looks at you when you’re not at your best (or even when you’re at your worst), then he is attracted to you right then and just as you are at that moment. Although he may be imagining (and fantasizing about) what you will look like at your best, he doesn’t really care because all he is thinking about is how he is attracted to you right now.

Think about it. Isn’t this what you really want? Don’t you want a guy who checks you out on a Friday night in Blockbuster when you are dressed in your old sweats, have your hair pulled back in a ponytail and are not wearing any makeup?

It’s what you always claim you want. It’s what women always tell me they want.

You don’t want to have to be made up and perfectly coiffed every minute of your life. You don’t want to have to be dolled up when you’re in the comfort of your own home. You want a guy who is attracted to the real core of who you are as a person.

When you think of it that way, why would you ever make another excuse for why you don’t smile or talk to a guy who is looking at you? You should never let the fact that you are not feeling your best be an excuse for not responding to a guy who is looking at you, because the fact is that they are nothing more than excuses.

So the next time a guy looks at you and you’re not feeling like you’re at your best, you need to remember that he doesn’t know that. The only thing he’s thinking is “Man, I think she’s hot!”

Go and talk to him right now, because there may not be another opportunity with that guy. Why would you waste the opportunity to find out what this guy is all about . . . especially when you already know he is attracted to you?

Life is about taking advantage of opportunities every single day. Stop making excuses, because all the “reasons” you have for not interacting with men are just your excuses.

So the next time you see a potential Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now) staring at you from across the room when you’re still wearing sweatpants from your trip to the gym, smile and talk to him because he couldn’t care less what you’re wearing! He’s attracted to you and, in fact, will likely be talking about you for the rest of the day telling his friends “Man, I saw this girl tonight in Whole Foods. She had on these sweatpants and she looked so cute!”

Stop judging yourself so much, and start accepting that when a man looks at you he finds you attractive exactly as you are at that moment. Stop over analyzing and start feeling beautiful because the guy checked you out.

Though I personally think Apple is a great buy right now….it is at a 52 week low.

But this is not a stock trading site so lets get back to the issue at hand on the first Friday in October.

It’s all about paybacks and dividends.

If you’re home on a Friday or Saturday night, make a list of all of the cool people you’ve met over the course of a year – women that you’ve met at parties, women that you’ve met online, whatever it might be. Make that list.

And when you do that, write down something that you remember specifically about each person and why you liked them.

And then what you do is reconnect with them! Just because you didn’t go out with them or date them the first time doesn’t mean that you can’t reconnect the second time. And it doesn’t mean that they haven’t thought of you.

We’ve all done it. We’ve all gone through our lives and thought about our missed connections – cool people that we just didn’t connect with at the time because our mindset wasn’t in the right place.

When I’ve had relationships split up, I’ve met a lot of cool women but I just wasn’t ready for them. Now I can look back and I think to myself, huh, I wonder what happened to that person?

Instead of not doing anything about it and thinking that you blew it, just go and call or text her. Just say, “hey, how have you been? I was thinking about you. Let’s catch up.” That’s it.

You never know. If you throw ten of those out there, two of them might come back. The women might think to themselves, oh yeah, David – what a good guy!

You have to start thinking in terms of abundance. It’s okay to reapply. I really believe in reapplying.

In fact, I just reapplied a few weeks ago and it has been amazing!

Todays video is all about how to walk up to any woman on the street and start a conversation.

The first step needed before you can reapply!

I first met Craig about eight months ago, at a free seminar I taught. We did a role-play exercise and during the exercise he came up, he was charming, it went well for about 48 seconds and then he crashed. And that was it. He didn’t really take it any further; he didn’t really have the confidence to do so.

Now, all of a sudden, he has changed. The difference in him from eight months ago is just unbelievable.

We’ve been talking about the power of the network, and what the network is all about. I tell people all of the time: some encounters will be good, some encounters won’t be so good, but it’s really all about expanding your social network.

I asked the guys with me now, “how many people did you meet today?” They answered, “oh, a bunch of new people, we had some good conversations.” Well, that’s a great day. And then I’ll ask Craig now: how many people did you meet today?

Craig: Probably four or five – I’m meeting people everywhere I go now. I love this street – I live right down the street from here, and I always bring my friends here. I get a free coffee here, I get a free beer at the bar over there, and I’ll go in there and get 30% off – especially if I keep bringing my friends in.

My friends want to hang out and go shopping or get a coffee or whatever, so we always come here. And when people see you over and over again, and you’re genuinely interested in connecting with them and making the other people around you have a good time by being social, your energy will be contagious.

Somebody behind the counter might be having a bad day. You can say, “hey, how’s it going? Are you having a good day?” “Oh, thanks for asking, it’s going well,” they might respond just because you thought to ask.

We did that flower exercise and I couldn’t give away the flower in Santa Monica – nothing seemed to be right. This girl with a nice smile came up behind me and she was wearing a cute blue shirt – I turned around and said, “you know what? I’ve been waiting all day to give this flower to somebody, and I didn’t think I’d be able to give it away. I wanted to give it to somebody with style and to somebody with a nice smile, and it’s yours.”

And she was like, “oh, great, thanks! What are you guys doing today?” I told her we were just hanging out. Her boyfriend was like, “why did he give you that flower?” But he was cool with it. It’s just about being social and being fun.

David: Let’s talk about this some more. We were just discussing how to keep building up your social exercises and Mark asked a question that was really important: do you journal this?

This is something that I’ve told everybody over and over again – journal this! Journal your progress. Everyday you’re going to have small victories, and it will help to write them down.

Craig, what would you recommend in terms of writing this stuff down? You just went through this whole transformation, so what do you think some of the best tips would be for the guys in terms of journaling?

Craig: I would say it is important to keep a record of what your goals are. If your goal is to expand your social circle, you can write, I’m going to try to talk to three people today, and then you could journal about how that was. Were you nervous? What did you talk about? This will also help you with making and remembering observations – what people do, who people are.

You could journal about your feelings too. This will give you an accurate record of your own emotional progress through this journey. Journal about what you learn too. This is really important. This will make it a macrocosm book of what you are doing. It makes your brain focus on your process as well.

So I would journal about: who you met, what they were about (because as David says, you have to be able to connect with people on the level of who they are and what is going on in their life), your feelings (so that you can accurately track your progress and get a feel for this process, this will also give you an overall picture of your journey.)

If you do this, in six months you will look back at some journal entry where you wrote, oh my god, I saw these really cool guys and I wanted to approach them because they were talking about music and I’m a music producer, and so I walked up there and it was all weird and awkward.

Three months later, you’ll write, I saw this really pretty girl in a sundress and I just walked right up to her and we’re going out on Friday.

Through the journal, you’ll be able to see the progression of your progress.

David: Also, remember to never judge yourself. Don’t be such a hard critic on yourself. Spend the time to look for the win every single day. Don’t look for the negative, look for the positive. In everything you do, there’s a positive.

For example, today we were talking, and I said, “well, maybe you didn’t have a breakthrough in this way, but what situations do you feel comfortable in?” and you told me. So you found your wins.

In terms of dating, we’ve been so negative for so long, so we aren’t used to looking for those little wins. But those little victories are unbelievable.

It’s like a baseball season, guys: it’s fucking long as hell. If you look at the Mets this year, Meyer did 500, Meyer did mediocrity, and Willie Randolph is managing them into the ground. And at the end of the day – it’s now the end of July and they are in first place.

You have to think about it like this. You’re playing every single game – and not like it’s the last game, but like it’s part of a season. The difference between life and sports is that the season just continues on.

So you’re playing first for the present: how many people did you say hello to today? How many great encounters did you have today? How many people did you meet? What do you remember from your conversations?

Not only are you playing for the present, but you’re playing for the future as well. So the present was: today I met six great new people, I had a wonderful time, I didn’t get a phone number but who gives a shit.

Two weeks from now, that girl that you said hello to on the street? You run into her at Whole Foods and say, “oh my god, I saw you a few weeks ago on Abakini, how are you doing?” She’ll say, “I’m great, god, I’m so sorry I didn’t talk to you that day, that was rude!”

This is what happens! You’re building your social network for the present and for the future. Stop grading yourself just on the present. If you go up to somebody on the street, and it didn’t work out well, don’t think to yourself, oh shit, this stuff doesn’t work.

It works. If you follow every thing that we’ve been doing, teaching, and talking about – it has worked for everybody that has followed it. Including myself, including Craig, including Khiem.

Craig: That brings up a really important point. If you’re judging yourself negatively – without getting into the depths of the psychology of it – but you’re actually reinforcing that negative behavior. Every time you come down on yourself and think, I saw this pretty girl, I was too afraid to approach her – god, I’m so stupid! Stupid, stupid, stupid! – you’re just putting that right back into your brain and programming yourself to do the same thing the next time. Instead, you could just be a little bit easier on yourself, thinking, you know what? I’ll get her next time.

David: That’s it. And that “stupid, stupid, stupid” thing is just not true. You’re not stupid! We have just hung out, and we’ve had a great weekend. We’ve all hung out with each other, and not one of us has looked at another person and said, “stupid, stupid, stupid!”

You do it to yourselves because you’re a hard critic. Here’s the point: stop validating yourself through women! I think that every one of you guys is unique, fun and exciting. I was telling Allan earlier – and this is something really important to remember – the women that are attracted to me may not be attracted to you or you or you.

But if I’m hanging out with Craig and I approach a woman who I think is really cool, and I notice that she’s vibing him and not vibing me, cool! That’s alright. It’s about abundance. She likes my friend more than she likes me. That’s fine! That’s her choice.

You can’t twist attraction around, and you can’t use magic tricks – and you have to respect that. A woman that I’m attracted to might not be attractive to you at all. She may be too loud and boisterous. And a woman you’re attracted to might be too mellow for me.

We all have an abundance of women that we could be attracting at every single moment. Your friends don’t steal women from you – the women were attracted to your friends in the first place!

Todays video is all about how to build momentum on a Saturday or Sunday. Do you desire to meet great people this weekend?

If so then watch this video right now and then get out from behind the computer and do it!