Christmas is right around the corner, there are a lot of Holiday parties going on right now, and a lot of you younger guys are home for the holidays going out to the bars and seeing old friends…

So you’re out at night doing exactly what I always tell you to do.  You’re enjoying yourself, making your rounds talking to everyone, working the room, never trying to chase or pick up women and letting the ones you’re attracted to come to you.

You’re talking to everyone, having a good time, and pretty soon great things start happening, just like I said they would.  And just like that, you start talking to a REALLY hot woman.

But then the worst thing happens…She’s a total raging bitch.

You know the kind.  She kind of looks at you, raises an eyebrow, and says something really obnoxious, like:

“Um, why are you talking to me?”

“My boyfriend is in the bathroom you know…”

“Yeah whatever, that’s nice… BYE little man!”

What Are You Going To Say To Me?

So in your own head, you’re furious.  What a bitch, you think.  I mean, who does she think she is?  I was just talking and having a good time.  It’s not like I was hitting on her!  Does she really think she’s that great?  She’s not the prize, I’m the prize, you think to yourself.

You want to say something.  Really show her up and give her a piece of your mind.  But now she’s talking to someone else so you can’t just go up and interrupt them.  So you walk away feeling rejected.

And you can’t get that one interaction out of your head, and it’s just ruined your night.

If this is you, you need to change your mindset.  Mindset really is the most important thing.  Because while it is true that you are the prize, you are only the prize if you really believe it.

So here’s what I would do in that situation.

If she comes at me with a really ridiculous statement, I like to be a little immature myself at times, so I’ll play along and be equally ridiculous back.

If she asks me why I’m talking to her, I’ll be honest.  If I thought she was really hot and I wanted to get to know her to see what she was like as a person, that’s exactly what I’ll say.  And I’ll say it with a big grin and a twinkle in my eye.

If she tells me she has a boyfriend, I’ll say something like, “Congratulations, that’s quite the accomplishment.”  Or if she says her boyfriend is in the bathroom, I’ll ask her, “Number 1 or Number 2?  I just want to know how much time I have to flirt with you!”  (I think that’s from a movie somewhere.)

I don’t censor myself and I like to have fun talking to everyone. That’s just my personality. But I also believe that life is all about the people you surround yourself with, and I don’t surround myself with stuck-up, arrogant people.

And after a quick exchange I’ll just walk away.  I’ll smile and say, “Well that was an ‘interesting’ conversation, have a nice night,” and I’m on to the next person.

And that’s it.  A woman who is blatantly rude to me has just selected herself right out of the pool of people I want to spend my time talking to.

And that’s the most important thing you can learn.  You can come up with all the comebacks and cocky little lines you want (it works on some immature girls because, to be honest, only an immature girl would say something like that), but the bottom line is that you need to learn how to dismiss her.  You need to learn how to walk away feeling great about being the better person, and forget about that interaction immediately.

If a woman says something to you that makes you upset, ask yourself why you’re getting so upset.  It’s not your problem that she treats perfect strangers like shit.  No need to try to overcome that attitude.  The last thing you need in your life is a person with a negative attitude who has decided it’s ok to treat people like that.

The way I think is like this: I don’t need to win every time.  I don’t need to teach her a lesson.  There are tons and tons of women out there for me to meet who are both attractive and friendly.  I don’t need to say, “Ha!  You were wrong about me, in your face bitch!”  That’s all ego talking.  I don’t need to change her opinion about me, because I don’t really have anything to prove to her.

It’s all about practicing abundance in every aspect of your life.  An abundant mindset is crucial to developing an attractive personality.  You don’t have anything to prove to anybody, so start acting that way.

It’s one of those days where the mail comes and you receive a huge medical bill for treatment you got three years ago (about which you thought they forgot). You think to yourself, “Wow, am I ever having a crappy day!”

In reality, though, you are not having a crappy day. You are having a crappy moment.

The whole day isn’t ruined, just that moment is ruined. That’s it. It’s just a bad moment in the day.

So you need to be able to look at that bad moment as just that — a bad moment. Nothing more and nothing less. A lot of us think too much about the bad day we’re having.

You need to realize that it’s just a bad moment, and be able to say “Who Cares?” to yourself about it. It’s about having an abundance mindset (which so many people don’t have).

So many people’s mindset is the very definition of a scarcity mindset. I hear people tell me all the time, “David, I just can’t find someone to date.” The truth is that you can go online anytime and find an abundance of people to date.

I mean, really, pick any website — ANY one — and there’s a ton of people you can meet and date. A ton. It’s about having the right mindset.

It’s understanding what online dating is all about. It’s understanding who you are so you can find the right people to date. It’s being able to write a good profile.

It’s knowing that you can go online at any time of the day and there are people to date. It’s having an abundance mentality.

Whenever you get online, it’s like a being in a giant bar in the sky. There’s just so many people you can meet.

To meet them, however, requires an understanding of how to work the online world. You have to understand how to meet people online. You have to understand the hot buttons and how to flirt.

It’s generally no different than meeting people in the real world. The one big perk, though, is that you can do it from the comfort of your own home. Have a bad interaction with someone online? You can just go to another website and meet someone else.

It’s actually quite fun . . . IF you know what you’re doing. So I’m really proud to have just launched my first video product, which is an online dating guide for men. If you want to learn more about it, then click here. (There’s great video preview clips on here too!)

Today’s podcast is all about how to deal with the mindset of a crappy day. Are you really having a crappy day . . . or is it really just a crappy moment you are letting affect your whole day? I will tell you exactly how to deal with these kind of days, and how to adjust your mindset so you will never again let a crappy moment become a crappy day.

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So, last night I was able to go to the Coldplay concert, which was just phenomenal. Yeah, yeah, I know what they said about Coldplay in “The 40 Year Old Virgin,” but I like Coldplay for a few different reasons.

I like Coldplay because they play with such passion, which made their concert last night a really great experience. You know, right in the middle of the show, Chris Martin of Coldplay said ‘Nothing is better than going out, standing there in front of all these people, creating great energy and playing with all of your best friends.’ That is what life is all about!

Life is about enjoying yourself. Life is about experiencing things. Life is about having fun with your friends. Life is not about chasing people you want to come into your life; life is about attracting people into your life.

It was an amazing thing to be in The Forum last night, which is saying a lot. For those of you who are unfamiliar with The Forum in Los Angeles, it is just an absolutely awful and outdated arena. It was cool, though, being there last night with about 20,000 people who were laid back and just having a good time.

No, this blog is not about giving you a wake-up call to buy Coldplay concert tickets (although I certainly would recommend their show). This wake-up call was inspired by the combination of the realizations I experienced at the concert and some other realizations I’ve made in the last few days.

Some things have happened to me in recent days that really rocked my world. I’ve been doing a lot of traveling, enjoying myself a little bit and, of course, working. I was in Santa Fe last weekend and was in Hawaii before that. While I was in Hawaii, the woman who sits for my six year-old English Lab Daphne noticed a lump on her belly. Although the lump was not new, it had been small and had not previously changed in size.

When I returned home, I saw that the lump had indeed gotten bigger so I took Daphne to the vet. The vet looked at it and didn’t want to do anything, but I made her aspirate it anyway. During my Santa Fe trip, the lab report came back which showed that there were mast cells in the cyst that was aspirated.

Now, mast cells in a dog can be either malignant or non-malignant. I actually have been learning all about them over the last several days. Although there seem to be conflicting medical viewpoints on what Daphne’s lab results mean and although I really didn’t think there was anything wrong with her, at this point I thought it would be better to just take the lump out anyway.

I am figuring she will be okay. My fingers are crossed. What all of this makes you realize, though, is that life is very precious.

Life can be taken away from you at any moment. Everything that you love or have ever built – whether it’s relationships, animals or friends – can be lost in an instant. You don’t know what fate has in store for you.

You have no idea what’s going to happen to you on any single day. So why do so many people choose not to live life to the fullest every single day? Why do so many people go through life like they’re in a coma?

It always amazes me how so many of us go through life like we’re here forever and like we have an unlimited amount of time to experience life. We live our lives as if no matter what we do and no matter what happens, we’re going to be here forever . . . but we’re not.

Not only are we not here forever, we could be here a much shorter time than we anticipate. Life is a gift, and it’s a gift that you need to embrace every single day.

I mean, this last week has been really tough for me – I had to go and research (and see pictures of ) this thing called a mast cell tumor, I had to talk to all sorts of people and doctors and vets trying to figure out whether my dog is sick. I wanted to make sure that Daphne gets the best attention, because I really don’t want to lose her.

What I’ve realized over these last days is that everything that is precious to me can be taken away in a second. So with that realization in mind, why don’t you enjoy everything you do to the max? Enjoy life! Enjoy the gift that is your life.

People spend so much time trying to chase members of the opposite sex and worrying about what to say or do when they see someone they want to meet. Just walk up to those people. Stop wasting your time with worry, and start experiencing.

Surrender yourself to the experience. That’s how you will live without regret.

I wrote a blog like this awhile back based on the movie “The Bucket List.” Well in this blog I’m going to talk about making other kinds of lists.

What if you made a list of all the things you are afraid of doing? How about a list of all the things you’ve been wanting to do “someday” but have never done? Why not start doing the things on these lists, because you never know when you’ll no longer be here.

As I’m walking Daphne right now and noticing how happy and content she is just sniffing the warm night air, I realize that this beautiful gift of this English Labrador may not be here forever. Although I am going to do everything in my power to make sure she is, I am also going to make sure that every moment she does have here is amazing. I am going to appreciate every moment I have with her.

It’s time for all of you get out of your comas and start looking at life as the gift that it is. Here’s your wake-up call!

Ok that was a heavy blog so todays video is all about being goofy and having fun!