You’ve been dreaming of this night for most of your adult life. It seems like it’s every man’s ultimate sexual fantasy: meeting the woman cool enough to want to invite a friend over for a three-way.

You’ve heard rumors about the three-way. You’ve had friends who have experienced it, and they all tell you it’s like living your own private porn.

What people fail to talk about when it comes to a three-way, however, is the emotional repercussions that occur the day after a three-way. Welcome to a really tough time in your adult adolescence.

In order to make a three-way successful and make it work, you need to realize that this “ultimate male fantasy” has to be only about her. Let’s say your girlfriend comes to you and says, “I really want to do this because I think it will really turn me on to see you and I with my best friend.”

In that situation, you need to ask her some questions and talk to her more about it before you even consider doing it. You need to talk to her ahead of time about what the parameters will be, because if you overstep certain boundaries she has you might ruin the relationship (not only with her but also between her and her friend).

A three-way always sounds good ‘on paper.’ Three-ways in fantasy land are always amazing.

Three-ways in the real world are very emotionally confusing, especially if you get so turned on that can’t keep your hands off the friend (and end up ignoring your girlfriend). That does happen.

It happens because as men, we are wired to always want the new. Take a man to a car dealership for two hours, and watch him test-drive four different cars for two straight hours. The man will leave with a car. Why? Because we always want bigger, better and more fun.

Put a hot woman that your girlfriend brings over in front of you, and no matter what the boundaries are — whether it’s no penetration or not — and you are going to spend more time on the friend (because she is the “new one”). You’ve already had the old one plenty of times. That toy is getting old for you now.

A three-way is a male fantasy, but be sure to realize that it has to be all about her and be done according to her rules and parameters. So whatever your girlfriend says, you need to respect.

It’s fun to have a wild and crazy woman in bed. It’s a lot of fun to be with a woman who likes a lot of sexual exploration. You don’t want to ruin that just because you think the three-way is supposed to be a certain way.

Allow it to be however it’s going to be, and remember one thing which is the most important advice I can give you: Make it about her and her pleasure, and it’s amazing how far you can stretch those boundaries.

If you are looking to relax when you are in NYC do not stay at the Hudson Hotel. The rooms are shoebox small, the halls are dark and make you feel like you are staying in a mental facility!

But the worst part is you have to walk through all the drunken people to get to the elevator and your room which leads me to my next highlight. As we were walking through the lobby we had to avoid a guy who thought having a 3 way would be a great idea that night.

No kidding here, my girlfriend and I had to run away from him after he he tried to dance with us in the bar.

Quite a funny scene and we spent the weekend laughing about our new found friend.

Guys when a man and his girl are nice to you that is not an invitation to play in the bedroom.

Some men really need to read this blog more and learn that when a woman is nice it does not mean SEX!!

The rest of the weekend was quite relaxing walking around the city and enjoying the sights and sounds of NYC.

So lets talk about how to really connect with people.

Everyone you talk to – I don’t care if it’s a man, a woman, a child, or a dog – take away three things about them.

If you find out three things about someone, and you have emotionally connected with them and they’ve shared these things with you – the next time you see them, you can say, “so how’s your mom doing in her real estate business?” Or, “hey, look, it’s Fluffy the Golden Retriever! Is he still chewing on his foot?”

Most men are, in my opinion, walking penises. They’re just walking around with their groin leading them, and their penis says, “Oh look, hot woman” and directs their attention there.

So then when they walk over to her, their penis is the one doing the talking: “Um, hi… I’m just killing 30 seconds here because I really want to get your phone number…” And guess what? The hot woman can tell!

But if you go up to her, find three things out about her, and then leave, you can say, “It was so amazing talking to you about Italian roast coffee. See you later, Coffee Girl!”

All of a sudden, the woman is so connected to you – because you’re using your mind, and not your dick.

Men don’t realize that women do want your penis, but they want your mind first. They go for the big head first, and the little head second! And once they get your big head, they’ll adore the little one!